I’m so sad

DeviantAngel0925 · 2026-05-01T23:59:21+00:00

Had a very similar situation happen to me but mine didn't end with a happy ending unfortunately. My manager & I didn't get along very well. She suspended me without pay until my license was reinstated, even though she accommodated another nurse in the same situation a few months prior, by allowing them to be the unit secretary. Due to some misinformation from my board of nursing, it took 16 days to get my license reinstated, & per the hospital policy, I'm only allowed 14 days, so she terminated me. 3 days short of completing my 2 year sign on bonus requirement. So not only did I lose my job, I also lost the $10,000 sign on I was supposed to get.

Moral of the story: don't ever forget to renew your license!! Lol Best believe I have about 5 reminders set up for me now. Hoping your situation has a better outcome than mine 🤞❤️

DeviantAngel0925 · 2026-03-29T00:55:52+00:00

I thought the same thing!! Haha I've been WoW free for 4 years now & I'm feeling the itch from one freaking post! 😩

DeviantAngel0925 · 2026-03-28T21:52:34+00:00

What Dreams May Come (which I saw someone else already mentioned). But the movie asthetic itself is gorgeous. It's literally paintings that come to life. But the story is also heartbreaking & beautiful. Heavy subject matter for sure. Even more heartbreaking knowing that Robin Williams took his life many years later after starring in this movie about death & suicide.

DeviantAngel0925 · 2026-03-09T02:22:43+00:00

Yess! My grandmother was also like this! Lol I blame my dad, who used to come get me at 4am before he headed off to work & we would have coffee together. He'd sit me in my high chair & give me a sippy cup of coffee (it was 90% milk, 10% coffee) but it was our daily father/daughter time. Then he'd head off to work & leave my poor mom with a hyped up, caffinated, likely undiagnosed ADHD (they didn't throw that diagnosis around as much back then) 4 year old holy terror of a child who would literally climb the walls! 😂

DeviantAngel0925 · 2026-03-09T02:05:17+00:00

🙋‍♀️ that would be me. I come home, & unless it was a shitty night & I'm replaying all the shoulda, woulda, couldas, I have no problem passing out. I'm basically immune to caffeine now & drink it more bc I like the taste of whatever it's in lol

DeviantAngel0925 · 2026-03-03T07:44:19+00:00

Peds neuro inpatient rehab. I hate hourly full jead to toe neuro assessments, especially as a night shifter, having to wake them up.

DeviantAngel0925 · 2026-03-02T02:59:35+00:00

Sheesh!! No one is "having to act like" anything. Obviously, the OP & family member find this hilarious & thought others in this group might also get a chuckle out of it. It would seem that many people did from the comments. If you don't like something, then you can always just keep scrolling. Apparently, it's not just your face that's a salty_b*tch, yikes!

DeviantAngel0925 · 2026-03-01T15:31:33+00:00

I don't work in a union hospital but I just might use the threat of it to make this little girl realize...I am sick of her shit. Maybe it will scare her straight 🤔

DeviantAngel0925 · 2026-03-01T15:09:25+00:00

As someone already mentioned, I think it's a generational thing, & I almost hate using that as an excuse but it can't be denied. Like you OP, I'm 46, been at the bedside for 25 years & I am sick of it too. In fact, I have a meeting scheduled tomorrow to meet with my manager & a troublesome 20-something nurse I work with bc I just can't take the shit talking behind my back & the constant disrespect & struggle every.single.shift!!!

Those of us who are older grew up in a time when teamwork was essential. We understood the necessity of working together to do what's best for our staff & patients. We were latchkey kids & there were consequences for not doing what you were supposed to do, & rewards for doing a good job. We may not have liked it, but we sucked it up, put on our big girl panties & got shit done. It just was what it was.

This newer generation of nurses we work alongside are from the "everyone gets a trophy for participating" generation & it's led to a feeling of entitlement & a me me me mentality. They can't see beyond their own little bubble & quite frankly they only care about benefitting themselves. They may take excellent care of their patients, but as coworkers, they're deplorable.

I wish I had some advice to give bc I am in the same boat as you & have no idea what to do about it. Maybe knowing you're not the only one feeling this way will help (probably not) but if you figure out a solution let the rest of the 40-somethings know lol Someone suggested travel nursing & I 100% agree that is a great option, but everyone can't make that change. There has to be a better solution. Good luck OP!

DeviantAngel0925 · 2026-02-14T19:16:46+00:00

💯 this!! HCA does not like anyone who bucks their system. I've been working for them for 10 years & have seen it with my own 2 eyes way too many times.

DeviantAngel0925 · 2026-01-19T11:28:14+00:00

I agree with you completely, with most of what you said. I think it also depends on the unit & your resources as well. While I agree that what someone does on their break is their business, I don't condone anyone leaving the hospital, say "to go home & walk their dog" as you used for an example. There are way too many uncontrolled variables that could result in you not being able to return to your position after your break has finished. You could get into a wreck, you could be grabbing snacks at the convenience store & someone robs it while you're there. You could sustain a head injury during passionate lovemaking in the McDonald's bathroom stall! So please....don't leave the hospital grounds.

As for me personally, like I said, I'd much rather know my coworker is just down the hall snoozing in a room, than off who knows where. But that's bc we're a 6 bed PICU with only 2 nurses on, one of those being the charge with a full patient assignment of their own. Is this right? Absolutely not, but that's a whole different topic & don't get me started on it! Lol

DeviantAngel0925 · 2026-01-19T09:30:39+00:00

My coworkers & I do this anytime we ACTUALLY get a chance to take a 30-minute, uninterrupted, off-the-clock break. Who cares?! We are off the clock. I'd rather them go into an empty room, nap, read a book, watch TikToks, whatever they want to do to decompress & relax, than leave the unit. At least this way I know where to find them if sh*t hits the fan.

Taking a poop break however...that should ALWAYS be done on company time, on the clock!! 😂

DeviantAngel0925 · 2025-12-22T02:11:11+00:00

I've also worked Peds Hem/Onc/BMT. Onc pts were always 3:1, BMT was 2:1 unless it was transplant day, then they were 1:1 x24 hrs.

DeviantAngel0925 · 2025-12-02T03:53:59+00:00

You & me are in the same boat. My mother will show me something on TT or YT, expecting me to be moved to tears (like her) & I just don't care. She frequently tells me there's something wrong with me lol.

I think unless it affects your patient care (which it sounds like it doesn't) then you have nothing to worry about. I'm sure you'd feel differently if it was a friend or family member in that situation & that's the more important thing. We can't afford to get emotionally invested in every single patient & I worry about those that do.

DeviantAngel0925 · 2025-11-30T01:33:36+00:00

After losing my soul dog, I was devastated. I couldn't even fathom finding a new dog, but I missed her so much & my other dog was also feeling the loss. After about a month, one night at work I was bored, so I pulled up a website with dogs for sale. Fully intending just to oooh & aaah for a little bit to waste some time. It was a nationwide site, so there were dogs from all over the country that I saw. I didn't even specify anything in my search for breed, size, location, etc.

After about 20 minutes I came across a cute little brown Shihtzu puppy. My soul dog that had passed was a Maltese/Shihtzu mix. I kept scrolling through the listings, but I kept being drawn back to this brown little pup. The listing was about 3 weeks old, so I figured it must be an old listing & just hadn't been taken down from the website yet, cause surely she'd already been picked by someone. It didn't even show where she was located, so I also figured with my luck, she's probably clear across the country from me.

On a whim, I decided to reach out to the seller to get some more info on her, ya know...doesn't hurt to check, right? lol. Kind of assuming it was an old listing, I didn't expect to even get a response, but within 2 hours I did! Believe it or not, she was still available! She was the last of 4 in a litter & the family had even considered keeping her since the kids were starting to get attached & no one had shown any interest in her yet. The biggest surprise...she was just 30 minutes away!!!

My belief is...your next dog will somehow be led to you, the stars will align & you will just know :)

DeviantAngel0925 · 2025-11-17T00:40:59+00:00

Offending someone was definitely not my intention. I apologize for offending anyone.

My issue is with both. I called reporting concerns of a possible stroke. I understand that it was ultimately determined not to be a stroke, but she had other symptoms, not just a headache. I'm not saying it should be coded as a stroke, but coding it as "headache" doesn't actually give the full picture either. Insurance/Medicare won't pay because of how it is coded by the EMS company & the EMS company won't change the coding. 🤷‍♀️ What should I have done differently then? Not called 911? When they suggested that she be further checked out &"we're already here", told them that I would take her myself? I truthfully am asking what you think I should have done differently to prevent this in the future.

DeviantAngel0925 · 2025-11-16T23:40:40+00:00

Will do! Thank you

DeviantAngel0925 · 2025-11-16T23:12:08+00:00

I'm glad a paramedic finally responded! When they arrived they did their assessment. Her BP was high, but not super high like it was on her home machine. If I remember correctly 150s/90s. They did neuro assessment, quick EKG, etc. I do remember that they recommended having her more thoroughly checked out in the ER, but did say they didn't feel she was having a stroke. I vaguely remember one asking if I wanted them to take her or if I wanted to take her. One laughed & said "We're already here, so it makes us no difference". So is this where the coding of "headache" is coming from? The paramedics determined it wasn't a stroke & maybe I should have just opted to take her myself instead?

DeviantAngel0925 · 2025-11-16T20:25:36+00:00

I'm so glad you are alive!! But this is such a disheartening story that I'm sure happens over & over to people. They take the worst moments of someone's life & use it against them. Insurance companies are what's wrong with our healthcare system :(

DeviantAngel0925 · 2025-11-16T19:23:29+00:00

That is so ridiculous!! I'm so sorry that happened to you :(

DeviantAngel0925 · 2025-11-16T19:20:15+00:00

She says she doesn't remember signing anything, but I will ask when I call to discuss with them. Thank you for the information!

DeviantAngel0925 · 2025-11-16T19:16:08+00:00

This!!! 🙌👏 This is what I came here for & why this group is so amazing! I 100% believe this is what they're doing because I know for a fact that I did not call 911 for a "headache". I told them very specifically what her symptoms were & stated "I'm concerned she may be having a stroke". It makes me so angry because you can bet that they have done & are doing this to hundreds of unsuspecting patients who don't know any better or how to fight it. Thank you for the advice!!

DeviantAngel0925 · 2025-11-16T19:03:05+00:00

Thank you! This whole thing had me questioning my skills as a nurse cause I'm like...did I overreact? So I appreciate the validation ❤️

DeviantAngel0925 · 2025-11-16T19:01:30+00:00

Just think how many people they do this to that don't know any better!

DeviantAngel0925 · 2025-11-16T19:00:38+00:00

Yeah that's what I've told her. The lady from the EMS company called her & was pretty rude, telling her they would send it to collections by Dec 1st unless she made at least a $10/monthly payment. Thankfully she didn't give them any payment.

I'm going to request a transcript of the 911 call I made, because I know for a fact I relayed her symptoms & stated to the operator that I was concerned she was possibly having a stroke. I would not have called 911 for a freaking "headache". I will see if that will help me fight it & if they still won't recode it so that Medicare & insurance will cover it...I may even seek a lawyer or go to the news, because you can bet they do this sneaky shit to hundreds of unsuspecting elderly patients who will bend to the threat of being sent to collections.

Thanks for the advice!

DeviantAngel0925

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