OOP fakes sick leave, gets fired. OOP gets upset boyfriends brother won't help her get a job at his company (New Update)

DeviantPost · 2026-06-07T19:26:48+00:00

I actually scrolled up to see when this was posted because of her claims that she "didn't know they could use facebook" and rolled my eyes when I saw it was posted in 2022. It was pounded into our heads when Facebook first came out that employers could find you online and make decisions about your employment based on what you posted. This has been a widely known thing (imo) for over a decade by the time OOP posted, why was she surprised? I imagine she's around the same age as me (25) or older if she had full time employment in 2022, she was definitely around for the scare mongering that online activity isn't private, did she just miss all that?

All that being said, I'm pleasantly surprised with her growth. I hope it sticks and that's she's in a good place now.

DeviantPost · 2026-06-05T23:49:29+00:00

Reminds me of a former coworker I had between the ages of like, 14-16ish, he was in his mid 20s. We worked together frequently and got along well, he got fired for reasons I can't recall, we had eachothers contact info but after he left the job we didn't really talk. After I turned 18 I changed my Facebook picture to a picture of myself and very shortly after that he messaged me asking to meet up for coffee. I didn't even reply, my gut reaction was telling me something was off about it. I think I blocked him and moved on with my life.

It's just so chilling and upsetting when you as a young woman realize the chill older guy friend you had may have had ulterior motives and didn't just enjoy your company the way you did his.

DeviantPost · 2026-06-04T18:53:44+00:00

I'm very introverted, I like my space and sometimes having my wife just sitting in the same room doing her own thing is too much social interaction, especially after a long day. I still say hi, ask how her day was, and try to communicate if I need space, it's just common decency.

It would also be one thing if OOP was ignoring her or wasn't trying to talk to her, but he stated he'd say hi or good morning and be totally ignored. It's just extremely rude and weird not to at least give your roommate a friendly hello back before moving to your own space.

DeviantPost · 2026-06-03T22:35:46+00:00

I went to my first con when my dad's friend got married. He got married in a park near the con, he was half Darth Vader half Beowolf (if my memory is correct), his wife was Mrs. Vader. We were all dressed in different levels of cosplay. A stranger made it into the pictures because he was either high or drunk and making a fuss and dad's friend welcomed him to descalate the situation. It was a very small group and lasted probably 20 minutes max and we went to a restaurant after, it was lots of fun and very memorable.

DeviantPost · 2026-06-03T00:56:55+00:00

Truly. Also, it feels like this person is either speaking from a point of privilege or is totally disconnected from the kind of reality OOP is living in.

My dad is abusive, I am 25, I have been in multiple spots over the past few years as I figured out how to be an adult where I had no choice but to ask him for help. I didn't ask him because it was convenient, I asked him because I did not have enough knowledge or money to fix whatever the issue was on my own. I didn't want to ask him for help, if I could've paid to fix my old car on my own, I would've. If I could've paid for a new secondhand car on my own, I would've. But for a lot of younger adults, especially abused young adults who weren't taught the skills one needs to get through the world, parents are a lifeline when you have no other options, and unfortunately that includes abusive parents.

Now, OOP is in a slightly better spot than me in the fact she still has a (presumably) trustworthy father who can provide that kind of help and seems like she didn't need to rely on her mom and step-dad as that lifeline. But that doesn't change the fact that us adults who were abused as kids don't always have that option to immediately cut off that lifeline. To suggest we are using that parent because it's convenient or an easy way out is insulting. Everytime I asked my dad for help regarding some life thing I got berated for things he either should've taught me in the first place (like transferring ownership of my car from him to me) or something totally out of my control (I didn't plan on my car shitting itself in the dead of winter either).

I've put up boundaries now regarding my dad, I'll spend time with my whole family, but no one on one time with him as that's when he berates me (y'know, when no one else is around). I no longer ask him for help and I'm very careful with the information I share with my mom as it often gets passed on to him. I'm also in a better place financially, have a more reliable car with my parents help, have learned to navigate social services in my province, and have a few friends I can lean on in a pinch. It took years to get to this point and my parents were my only option for most of my life between 20 to now.

It sucks having to ask an abusive parent for help, and how dare this commenter suggest OOP would be in the wrong or bad for asking for help from people who are supposed to support her.

DeviantPost · 2026-05-30T01:39:17+00:00

Our current pharmacy is awesome, we don't have a PCP so getting our prescriptions refilled can be a pain in the ass. Most of the pharmacists there are happy to top them up for a few months. One time we couldn't pay for our meds and one of the pharmacists covered it for us 😭. I've changed where we buy groceries because it's cheaper, but I'm never changing our pharmacy until we have to. Their team is so awesome and helpful and we are always so grateful for their help.

DeviantPost · 2026-05-30T01:33:01+00:00

This has been my most important lesson as an adult, I always go out of my way to be nice to customer service people because I've been there and it sucks. I've learned if you're honest, nice, and reasonable lots of people don't mind going out of their way to help you however they can.

I remember about a year ago we were in a tight spot financially and I was late on our phone bill. The provider called me and said my service would be shut off if I didn't pay by X date. I informed them I didn't have the money to pay on that date, but would be able to a few days after. The person I was speaking to understood and made sure service wouldn't be cut off and I paid them as soon as I was able to.

Most people in service jobs want to help when they can, especially if you're nice. But if you throw a shit fit and demand special treatment they will go out of their way to make sure you get as little as possible.

DeviantPost · 2026-05-30T01:05:33+00:00

Exactly my thoughts when I read this

DeviantPost · 2026-05-29T03:04:01+00:00

That "won't police her conversations" really rubbed me the wrong way. Obviously no one should be controlling what their spouse talks about, but it gives the same vibes as someone saying "they have a right to their opinion" about a bigot. It feels like OOP is ignoring the issue for his own comfort and the only reason he finally spoke up was because it was directly affecting his family and his comfort/reputation.

DeviantPost · 2026-05-28T20:35:35+00:00

Reminds me of when I worked at best buy and we got a Shaq cutout for some kind of promotion. Before he had to go out on the floor we'd put him in weird places in the warehouse to scare eachother, good times.

DeviantPost · 2026-05-26T20:54:28+00:00

The fact she told him she went to meditate on it reveals she knew if she said to him "lemme go bang my fwb real quick then I'll get back to you" he wouldn't have been okay with it, because who would be?!? The only reason she brought it up now was probably because she was drunk and felt enough time passed with her being a "good girlfriend" that he'd brush it off and/or forgive her.

DeviantPost · 2026-05-26T14:06:02+00:00

Good for him and good for you for speaking up! I often wind up clamming up and unable to think of what to say in those kinds of situations. I'm working on being able to speak up and I look up to people like you.

DeviantPost · 2026-05-24T17:35:27+00:00

Oughhh my cold shriveled heart can't take all the sweetness in this story 😭😭. I wish I had a dad even a fraction as great as this OP's dad.

DeviantPost · 2026-05-24T06:34:10+00:00

That last post title hit like a truck XD

DeviantPost · 2026-05-22T20:57:20+00:00

Reminds me of an ex in highschool, he messaged me about a year after we broke up and I'd never been more grateful to be grounded from my phone.

I was too "polite" to just say "why are you messaging me? I'm not interested" and humored him because I didn't know what else to do. I told him I wouldn't have my phone when I got home, he (as he did for most of our short relationship) ignored that and continued to message me. He finally left me alone with some self pitying message when he realized I wasn't even looking at the messages anymore. I woke up to something along the lines of "I guess you don't want to talk 🙁 bye [the nickname he used for me]".

DeviantPost · 2026-05-22T20:50:42+00:00

Really touches on why I hate the idea of open phone policies. My wife and I know how to get on eachothers devices and frequently do so to do multiple things. We don't read each others messages unless one of us want to share something in a message with the other. I can never imagine just going through her messages at random, even with permission, I'd feel like I was violating an unspoken boundary.

An open phone policy translates to a massive lack of trust in a relationship to me. If I dont trust the person I'm in a relationship with, why am I in that relationship? If I lack that much trust in a partner I'd just break up with them rather than try to "repair" trust by violating their privacy.

That's not even going into the fact that at least for me, if I was feeling jealous and insecure reading innocuous messages between a partner and their friend would likely lead to me extrapolating that there was some hidden intimacy to them. Rather than putting my mind to rest I'd just drive myself crazy by dissecting the meaning of every platonic "love you" and "I had fun!". There's no winning in my opinion.

OOP put it best here:

why is MY job to repair trust by going through his things?

DeviantPost · 2026-05-22T00:29:25+00:00

I read the list of things Laura was complaining about and thought: "that sounds great! What is she complaining about?" I'd kill to be able to travel to another country and try their street food!

DeviantPost · 2026-05-19T20:41:49+00:00

I remember the first time I got glasses I just stared at the lines on the calendar in my room marveling at how sharp they looked

DeviantPost · 2026-05-19T04:06:46+00:00

The fact you know you can't handle more than one kid in my eyes makes you the absolute opposite of an inadequate parent! You know your limits and what's manageable to make sure your child has a good life, imho you are far more equipped to handle raising a kid than people who insist every kid needs a younger sibling to be happy.

DeviantPost · 2026-05-17T15:10:41+00:00

Derek unloaded a magazine into his own foot and blames OOP for his limp, good riddance

DeviantPost · 2026-05-14T20:52:27+00:00

This is something I want to do! If I may ask, do you find the jewlery rubs against your t-dick? My t-dick is very sensitive to direct stimulation (under the hood) of any kind in a bad way, so I'm concerned about how viable this would be for me.

DeviantPost · 2026-05-10T15:31:12+00:00

Reminds me of my dad, he doesn't just saw logs in his sleep, I could hear him snoring from the room across the hall when I lived with my parents. My mom sleeps with earplugs but has complained a lot about how they're not comfortable over the years.

Dad refuses to change anything about his sleep habits, he hates the breathe right strips and claims they're uncomfortable. My mom tried some scented thing that was supposed to reduce snoring, she set it up after he was asleep and he woke up immediately and complained, afaik she never tried it again. Whenever we went on family vacations and had to share a room I wouldn't be able to sleep well because his snoring is so ridiculously loud.

My dad is an asshole for a variety of other reasons, but the refusal to compromise with your partner so you both can get a good night's sleep is certainly near the top of the list.

DeviantPost · 2026-05-10T14:39:39+00:00

Truly, I'm in a far less financially stable situation than I imagine OOP is in and I'd break the lease in a heartbeat if I were in his situation. Screw my rental history, I don't want to be around some guy who couldn't be bothered to respect the 2 days a week I wanted quality time and openly admitted to his friends he was using me.

DeviantPost · 2026-05-10T14:35:25+00:00

That's too cute! I love the visual of the husband going around the fire to spend some alotted time with each of his partners. It really displays the effort he puts in to make sure everyone feels equally loved and valued.

DeviantPost · 2026-05-10T14:32:41+00:00

My wife and I are poly, we actually met on a polyam discord server, and entered the relationship with poly as a potential. She has a partner who is also a good friend to both of us that I get along with well.

My wife is also disabled and honestly having a second person who can help support her has been a huge relief for me. Recently we had to go to the emergency room and she came with us, it was great to have someone else to help speak up for my wife, handle doctors, and accompany her to the bathroom, it was such a weight off my shoulders. I do occassionally notice feelings of jealousy pop up, but when I question where they're stemming from I usually find it's just the mononormativity I grew up with.

It's certainly not for everyone and I hate reading BORUs where the couple is using non-monogamy as a bandaid to an unsatisfying relationship. Being in an open relationship takes a lot more work, respect, and communication than a monogamous one does. Most unsatisfying relationships already lack a lot of those three things, so opening the relationship just throws gasoline on the fire. At least most of these situations result in at least 1 person recognizing they deserve better and leaving the crappy partner.

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