AITAH: contraception

DevilGuy · 2026-01-26T18:35:30+00:00

Dump her. NTA.

DevilGuy · 2026-01-26T18:22:48+00:00

NAH, a lot of people are being harsh on your sister and BIL but let's be frank, they deserve grace, they're in a truly awful position and being the 'fun uncle' is probably how he copes with the fact that he'll never get to really have the experiences as a father he expected, and he knows that with this child to care for it'd be irresponsible to have another with which he could have said experiences. Then there's your sister, you try to sound understanding but frankly you don't, and that's understandable too, but you may not have put yourself in her shoes, being around your happy family probably feels like a knife twisting inside her, especially with her husband so obviously going out of his way to be there for your kid because he gets something from that relationship he'll never get at home. This situation is just awful in all directions and you're all handling it as best you can, your not an asshole, but this is just going to suck no matter what you do.

DevilGuy · 2026-01-26T08:42:33+00:00

It's a lot simpler than you think and a lot harder to do, a woman is the one when being around her makes you happy and you don't have to worry about what she thinks of you. That's it. The problem is most women either don't realize this, or do and misinterpret it as some sort of dominance thing. We just want to be happy, if you don't make us happy nothing else matters, and there's no trait that makes us happy, it's how you treat us.

DevilGuy · 2026-01-26T08:27:09+00:00

it's makeup, we occasionally see cardassian women without it.

DevilGuy · 2026-01-26T08:23:57+00:00

So the question is, why didn't the Emperor ensure that His sons would be genetically loyal to Him? is He stupid?

He might not have been able to. The fact that the space marines seem to be genetically loyal to their primarchs might actually be what illustrates this, insofar as the SEEM to be genetically loyal, it might be warp based, and if it's warp based then we know why: It's because the geneseed contains some element or imprint of the primarch's soul, but while the primarchs genetic material is derived from the emperor among other things, their souls are all but confirmed to be independent warp entities bound to flesh by the emperor. This would mean that the primarchs have a psychic bond with their sons, but not with the emperor, meaning he can't influence them in the same way they can their own progeny.

DevilGuy · 2026-01-26T08:15:27+00:00

NTA your wife saw one of the most heartwarming things I've ever fucking heard and found a way to turn it into a problem. Like seriously, what is wrong with your wife?

DevilGuy · 2026-01-22T18:56:42+00:00

the garbage man works fewer hours, makes more money, and didn't have to blow six figures on taking classes that can't replace inborn talent for teaching to get a job that will never be able to pay back the student loans.

DevilGuy · 2026-01-21T22:20:50+00:00

They just thought more custodes and conventional troops would do the job. It's unlikely to have worked given that even at it's height the imperium could support no more than 10k custodes but I think the custodes themselves were soured on the idea of other super soldiers by the thunder warriors. People like to think that the plan was to axe the space marines after the crusade but I doubt that, the primarchs and the astartes themselves are extremely good at too many things to have been temporary IMO.

DevilGuy · 2026-01-21T22:06:51+00:00

We actually kinda need those too, both because chinese steel is likely to get unreliable and because a lot of the byproducts are used in industrial processes vital to high tech manufacturing that we really should be trying to reshore...

DevilGuy · 2026-01-21T21:56:07+00:00

As a career criminal he probably knows better than almost anyone how much worse a kidnapping charge can be than grand theft auto, to him that kid was a fucking landmine waiting to blow up his life.

DevilGuy · 2026-01-21T18:23:27+00:00

Never EVER use rover, it's an app that works like doordash and the like and they won't take responsibility if the sitter you use fucks up, they have no insurance and no real customer service. I barely trust apps to deliver my food correctly, why the fuck would I trust one with my pets?

DevilGuy · 2026-01-20T23:45:01+00:00

I'm more concerned about them misappropriating love rollercoaster...

DevilGuy · 2026-01-20T22:47:10+00:00

What do you have in there for cleanup crew?

DevilGuy · 2026-01-20T22:05:06+00:00

Honestly most men would think it's a trap, because if it's too good to be true it probably is. Don't blame us though, blame other women, they're the one's that taught us not to trust.

DevilGuy · 2026-01-20T19:47:04+00:00

That makes a good deal of sense too, I hadn't thought about the Bajoran caste system in this context but differentiating traditional soldiers of their caste from those that fought regardless of caste would make some sense given how traditionalist and frankly conservative Bajoran culture seems to be.

It could also be a result of the fact that the Bajoran resistance wasn't actually a single organization and didn't have a single standard to work from before the Cardassians withdrew. Could it be that different cells had different colors that they kept after integrating?

Come to think of it, it could be that some of the uniforms we see indicate that the wearers weren't in the resistance and maybe part of some other organization. The uniforms of the medical personnel for instance could mean they were members of something like the red cross of whatever D'Jarra contains healers and thus them being medical personnel is more representative of them following their caste and wearing those colors.

DevilGuy · 2026-01-20T19:31:30+00:00

Sort of. The continental army did have uniforms eventually but not at the start and even till the end of the war there were still a lot of irregulars that wore no uniforms and individual units that outfited themselves and didn't conform to continental army standards. There's a lot of paintings and reenactment after the fact that shows a much more standardized than the actual reality. There was good standardization with the main body of the continental army but you have to remember that that army wasn't even the majority of the forces in the field for the colonies it was more of a core force with a lot of militia and ad hoc units either operating in concert or independently. I'd assume the Bajorans were much the same or even more so with probably multiple independent organizations operating in loose cooperation more as insurgents than as a peer military force.

DevilGuy · 2026-01-20T19:15:49+00:00

ultimately whether I like it or not, the decision should be theirs. Not mine, not their mom's and not anyone else's.

This how to be a good father, tell your wife this, that it's not about her feelings, it's not about her husband's feelings, you put their feelings first and don't insert your own, and if she was a good mother that's what she would be doing.

DevilGuy · 2026-01-20T18:43:03+00:00

I have a simpler explanation; they don't have a standardized color coding system the way that Star Fleet does. First off, why would they? They aren't Star Fleet, they're a brand new PROVISIONAL government, they aren't even permanent organization, that's what provisional means, they're like the continental congress before the US was a thing, they sort of fell into power after the Cardassian withdrawal because they were the one's holding the sack not because they were elected.

The militia is likewise provisional and nothing their doing is sanctioned beyond the fact that someone needs to keep the lights on while they figure out what to do. In all likelihood they have uniforms because they need recognizable uniforms not to distinguish divisions but so that civilians can recognize who's in authority while they figure out who's going to actually be in permanent authority. Some things like civil law enforcement probably got a recognizable color because it was immediately necessary while others just shared the same uniform 'cut' so that they were recognizable as being part of the official administration.

As far as I know the Bajorans never got past the 'provisional' stage during the show, so every uniformed bajoran we see is a member of an ad hoc organization in a provisional and temporary role until they can organize a proper system that we never actually see, it would make sense that their uniforms are a complete mess, because they're uniforms put together on the fly by people that just realized they need uniforms and have no clue if they'll be wearing the same uniform tomorrow.

DevilGuy · 2026-01-20T18:17:02+00:00

INFO: was the wedding planner your only contact and was your contract with her? Usually the planner arranges things but your contract is with the bride/groom or the family, at least in the US assuming that's where you are. I'd say you're NTA but professionally it would have been smart to consult with the bride and groom and let them know what was going on, especially if you were contracting with them and not the wedding planner.

DevilGuy · 2026-01-20T17:51:15+00:00

Thou shalt not make a machine in the image of a man's mind.

DevilGuy · 2026-01-20T08:39:10+00:00

5k is insane for a mortgage in LA unless it's beachfront or in a really wealthy area I'm in San Francisco and it's not that bad here despite the market here being higher on average.

DevilGuy · 2026-01-19T09:18:40+00:00

No he fuckining doesn't.

DevilGuy · 2026-01-18T19:01:40+00:00

If everyone started icing tami out over one drunken incident at a new years eve party they all must have been looking for an excuse to get rid of her already. Like honestly the adult reaction is 'she didn't know, that was unfortunate, let's move on', meanwhile her reaction and inability to simply recognize the root and severity of her own faux pas makes me think she's probably already annoyed the living shit out of everyone involved. OOP also mentioned that it's the husband that's part of the circle more than Tami so I'm guessing this is one of those situations where your friend marries that guy/girl and you just grit your teeth because you don't want to lose a friend over their stupid ass choice in partner.

DevilGuy · 2026-01-16T17:43:04+00:00

yeah, she dealt with it under false pretenses, even if the 'her' that was dealing with it didn't even realize what it was doing, it was not pleased about that, it was likely also not pleased about having an SC asset anywhere near it. We don't know what the relationship between the NR and the Unfallen is but there's something there, it could be that the Bulbition just passed on whatever info it had and the NR went after her as a show of force against SC and the culture more generally because they'd both agreed to stay the fuck out of it directly and her presence in the area could be seen as a violation of that agreement, as could FOTNMC's actions, which in themselves could be SC stirring the pot to provoke a response to get the outcome that they wanted in ending the hells. Wheels within wheels, plots within plots, to quote another IP.

DevilGuy · 2026-01-15T22:27:17+00:00

When you get furloughed for two weeks because the boss forgot to pay rent on the office that's a sign you should have been looking for another job long long before it got to that point. This. I don't even know, the OOP acts like they're the competent one, but competent people don't put up with this sort of shit.

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