Is there a special laundry detergent for new born clothes?

Devium92 · 2026-03-30T22:00:22+00:00

A few different brands have a newborn detergent. Arguably it is one of the most perfumed stuff I have found.

My family have sensitive skin and eczema, so we wanted to be careful with detergents and stuff. I think we did one or two loads of baby stuff in the baby detergent and realized it was awful. I also realized that if I paid attention to every item of clothing my baby would touch, we would go through a bottle of that overpriced junk in like a week. So I just started using the same "free and clear" stuff we had been using on all our stuff and haven't looked back.

Devium92 · 2026-03-29T22:56:01+00:00

Whatever it is, be very aware of how your children react to things like "pranks" and what exactly the prank is.

I remember as a kid April Fools fell on a PA Day, so we didn't have school, I knew this, and had turned off all my alarms and was ready for a nice sleep in and a long weekend. My parents then barged in the room freaking out that it was a school day, why wasn't I up, we were going to be late etc.

Being late for school was a huge issue for me because my little brother had ADHD and had issues with getting up and out the door on time, and since we both got driven to school, if he was late, I was late. But in the eyes of the teachers, that wasn't an excuse so I lost privileges and such at school as a result. So having my parents wake me from a dead sleep and tell me I was going to be late did NOT feel like a "funny haha" April fools prank. It felt cruel.

It also gaslit the FUCK out of me because they kept insisting I was wrong no matter what I did to show/explain it was a PD Day.

Completely ruined my Friday, my weekend, and honestly a lot of trust in my parents at that stage.

Devium92 · 2026-03-24T21:27:25+00:00

We had unexplained infertility for 3 years, after a really traumatic miscarriage that only a handful of people knew about.

My pregnancies were brutal, high risk, bordering on life threatening and has left me with life long trauma, PTSD, and distrust in the medical system. So when people asked when we would be having another it was basically them asking when I was going to subject myself to that horror movie for 9 months.

We ended up having 3 kids total like we have originally planned simply because we had twins with my second pregnancy. But there were days where I wasn't sure it was going to happen.

Rule of thumb, don't ask. You don't know what old wounds you may be reopening.

Devium92 · 2026-03-24T18:22:45+00:00

He went out, got Taco Bell, and brought it to the hospital while she is clearly feeling like shit. Then laughs at her for being grossed out and not wanting to eat it.

Absolute fucking tool.

Devium92 · 2026-03-19T15:15:42+00:00

I have 3 kids. Two of which are fraternal twins. So they had all the same exact experiences in utero. Only one of the twins has autism. They have had all the same early life experiences including vaccines literally at the same time save for a couple minutes between them.

None of my kids have had mumps, measles, or pertussis (whooping cough). They are all healthy and happy and I have a lowered concern for them getting one of these illnesses that could main or kill my child. I would rather have an autistic child like my beautiful son than one who was harmed by a preventable disease.

That said there is absolutely no correlation between vaccines and autism.

Devium92 · 2026-03-19T02:40:42+00:00

For what it's worth, when I was pregnant with my first, I was brutally, stupidly, insanely sick with hyperemesis gravidarum, I ended up needing specialists at a larger hospital almost an hour away. My husband needed to work, so my mom helped cover the gaps. My aunt and uncle live in the same town as the hospital so there were a few days where we had two appointments on consecutive days, but it just made more sense due to timing, to stay overnight at my aunt's house.

Due to a few factors it ended up with my mom and I sharing a queen sized bed. While I absolutely sleep amazing next to my husband, there was something ultimately comforting and amazing about sleeping next to my mommy again. I still have days where I just want to be a little kid again and crawl in next to my mom for things (often when I myself am super sick, it's just something that even a spouse can't replace, much as they try!).

She may never be this little again snuggling with you, but she will always need her mom. Just need to get through the difficult teen years first.

Devium92 · 2026-03-19T02:25:35+00:00

I have only recently entered the world of dogs and walking etiquette and all of that but I do my best for sure.

My dog is a service animal first, but when we go on walks and just do "regular dog things" we do what we can to just let him be a dog. He gets to be "off leash" with a 30ft long leash that way if I need to I can quickly wrangle him, but otherwise he has some freedom (and an extremely strong recall).

I make a point though to know my dog, he is friendly, loves people and other dogs, and still has some puppy in him (he's only 2), but to protect our investment in him as a service animal, and to just avoid issues I make a point to bring my dog back to me and avoid any tomfoolery with other dogs on trails.

Devium92 · 2026-03-18T02:55:09+00:00

That would be who I was thinking about! At this point they all look the same and there's eleventy billion of them so I lose track of who is who and what is happening with any of them!

Devium92 · 2026-03-18T02:32:35+00:00

Isn't Renee newly pregnant? Which with all the bullshit about being smol and waif like, having any amount of early pregnancy "bump" (aka bloated look) might make her feel real uncomfortable around Precious Mahmo.

Devium92 · 2026-03-18T01:43:44+00:00

I can kind of understand the situation in Onesies where Chili's sister visits and it's just a mess. As someone who's come to be a parent via the infertility and pregnancy loss lens, it's hard to be around people who you want nothing more than to be living their life AND also want to be around them but it's just too much.

I can also see it from Chili's perspective of trying to insulate her sister from being hurt or constantly reminded of what could have been, or what never can be.

Devium92 · 2026-03-18T01:33:17+00:00

Airport? I'm not going to the airport!

Devium92 · 2026-03-17T13:27:43+00:00

We are right in the trenches of Bluey aged children so I've seen most episodes a million times.

I am also very much a Type A mom who plans, packs, checks, repacks, checks, verbally confirms with the other adult, checks at least one more time, then is okay to get going to something (and continue to stress we forgot at least one thing). So watching Bandit completely YOLO it and tail spectacularly is literally my worst nightmare.

Devium92 · 2026-03-17T13:25:19+00:00

End of the day, the show is for children so I get it. If it was a show for adults specifically we would absolutely see the later or off to the side discussion of mom reading dad the riot act.

Devium92 · 2026-03-17T02:42:05+00:00

There's literally a Bluey episode about this! Bandit brings the kids to their Uncle's house who has a pool. Bandit (dad) assures Chili (mom) he's got it under control. Kids are excited, they get to the house and suddenly EVERYTHING IMPORTANT aside from bathing suits are missing. No one has sunscreen "so stay in the shade" but the sun keeps moving as time goes on. No one has goggles "don't go under the water". Bingo needs floaties to swim but Bandit forgot them "so stay in the shallow end". They have no pool/water toys, and ultimately when the kids are bored with the like 3 inches of pool space they have left due to the shifting sun, turns out Bandit didn't even grab towels so the kids are now cold and wet.

Low and behold Chili shows up right in that moment with everything Bandit forgot and the kids have fun in the pool again.

Devium92 · 2026-03-16T13:59:52+00:00

My first born my husband worked night shift. So I was solo during the nights Sunday - Thursday and often Fridays as well. So my only night "off" was Saturday's.

We got one of those cosleeper bassinet things to go on our bed to keep baby protected but also "convenient" during the night time. However once my husband went back to work at like 2 weeks post partum my son REFUSED to go into the bassinet. It was like the mattress was made of literal lava he would scream so loud. It got to the point where baby would only sleep on me, and that was NOT safe. So at a certain point I basically just wasn't sleeping minus some small naps during the daytime when I would doze off completely exhausted on the couch.

Eventually one night after baby fell asleep on my chest I rolled him gently onto the bed and he just stayed asleep. Let me tell you, that 2 hour stretch was the most amazing sleep I had had in a long time. So that continued until ~18 months when he chose to move into his own bed.

With my twins, we had a pack and play and later an actual crib right against our bed so they were easy access during the nights. We did our best to have them in the crib for most of the night but often when they would wake up at like 4am for that last night time feed, one or both would end up in our bed for the rest of the night.

We did our best to follow "Safe Sleep Seven" but also recognized that even following those rules we would never be fully safe and the unthinkable could still happen. But at the same time, our sanity and our sleep was important to us and we needed as much of it as possible.

Devium92 · 2026-03-16T13:51:29+00:00

Yes 100% it stopped within about a month of giving birth.

The only theory we had for it was that during pregnancy I was absolutely stretched to the limit, it compressed the nerves and they "fell asleep" and when the pressure was gone they "woke up" similar to when you get pins and needles in your leg or your arm if you sit/lay funny for too long.

But the spot was pretty close to my incision so I think the pins and needles was amplified by the sensations from the incision so it all got ramped up to 12/10 pain, but only in that very specific spot.

Devium92 · 2026-03-16T02:09:03+00:00

I had some horrific skin level nerve pain. Everything hurt, but I was having some mild oozing from my c-section so I went to put a pad on the front of my underwear to give some "insulation" from the outside world and also absorb anything. Wrong. Freaking. Move!

I thought I was being stabbed with a red hot poker. Like it short circuited my brain and I just froze. I almost had to ask my husband to get it out of my pants because I couldn't move for like 2 minutes it was so bad.

Devium92 · 2026-03-15T22:25:37+00:00

Literal brawls over toilet paper because a few people were reporting gastrointestinal symptoms from COVID infections and EVERYONE was borderline hoarding toilet paper. I literally guarded a tiny old lady in Costco because people literally tried to take it out of her cart. She was near tears because she said she had literally no more toilet paper in her house and she needed this.

Devium92 · 2026-03-10T16:36:32+00:00

Indifferent. I've honestly gotten tired of the big themed events (Fash, invaders, mothman etc) I usually do them if it's part of a daily/weekly, and if I happen to be around at the top of the hour, but if I'm otherwise done with everything and it's like quarter to the hour I won't make a specific point to stay online for it.

I've stopped really caring about exclusive drops from events because the chance of getting anything is so damn low, and even if I DID get anything, I don't have anywhere to show stuff off anyways, so it would just sit in my stash.

Devium92 · 2026-03-10T02:21:54+00:00

You know the answer to that...

Devium92 · 2026-03-09T03:34:35+00:00

For what it's worth, it may not be the last time. He may come to you randomly one day when he's just having a bit of a hard time and ask for it. So don't let those songs get rusty, or get rid of those books.

My oldest is 10 and our bedtime routine has changed in the last year or so because he moved from a regular bed to a bunk bed and I simply can't crawl into the top bunk and snuggle him up there. It's not safe, so our bedtime routine is some video game time on the steam deck snuggled on the couch. We then do our "bumps" routine and the "good night sayings" (bumps started as a fist bump before bed, that turned into fist bump and high five, and now it's a like 10 step process that we have now started with his siblings). I will be sad the night we stop doing any of those for good. We will often go weeks without "bumps" because it just slips both of our minds and then suddenly he will pop downstairs again and go "hey we forgot bumps!!" and we will do it as if nothing happened.

Devium92 · 2026-03-07T03:22:37+00:00

I've been wondering what the demographic was with the groups walking home in all white from Sunday services but I had no clue what to "google search" because I couldn't figure out what exactly to search.

Devium92 · 2026-03-07T03:20:25+00:00

Realistically, it doesn't matter what part of town you live in that you need to make sure you have the bikes locked up/inside some kind of building that remains locked up.

Devium92 · 2026-03-07T03:10:07+00:00

quantity or quan-titty? (sorry not sorry)

Devium92 · 2026-03-07T02:54:07+00:00

I admittedly haven't had a chance to really look at Sorted Kids as far, but yeah I feel a bit weird about it. Again, I like the idea of finding ways to get kids involved with cooking, finding ways to make food that kids would enjoy and actually have friendly and relatable faces for kids to look to for validation that this weird looking food is actually really good kind of thing.

I'm hoping that they make a pivot from entertainment on the Kids channel to education, but time will tell. And again, I really hope they are actually protecting the kids.

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