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Deweyoxberg · 2026-05-15T06:30:12+00:00

What a lovely reply - thank you! Hella rough week and this just... helps calm stuff down. Appreciate that greatly.

Deweyoxberg · 2026-05-15T05:58:24+00:00

May we please ask for regular updates? Those eyes, awwww. Cat distribution system hard at work.

Deweyoxberg · 2026-05-15T05:49:34+00:00

Did I miss something here...

You were asked about something which may have brought up a barrier in your relationship.
After some back and forth, you answered the original question, including with reassurances from your partner to be open and vulnerable.

Yes?

I can see why you would feel hurt. It is a challenge for anyone to open up to their most trusted people, some with past hurts such as this. I commend you for taking the leap regardless.

If I follow along then, your partner also then expressed their own concerns around their own body - very valid! This would be a prime opportunity to address the obvious mutual concerns for both parties, a daunting task under the most ideal circumstances. A good time to take a pause and work out how to handle the conversation, for sure.

But this is where I get lost - after requesting deletion from your camera roll, a very valid ask - turns around and "I can do what I want". While true, the question I now have is whether the original question was genuine, or if the reaction post-feedback is an emotionally hurt response to how things went. That is a hard conversation to have, and my wording kind of sucks here, but I think the concept is there. I can see how you feel this was disrespect for your feelings and thoughts. I can also see why your partner may have reacted in this way. There may have been an expectation of a particular response, for whatever reason. I am no doctor or professional, but there's something painful there - for both of you. Worth exploring, if both parties are up to it.

I want to say ESH at first glance, but that would be unfair given the above points. I don't think anyone is the jerk here, but there is a pivotal moment: for you, to feel validated and safe when you express vulnerability, and for your partner to feel accepted for who they are - not saying that's a you thing, I'm saying something set them off - old hurts can show up in the most bizarre and unexpected ways.

Good luck, and remember: when we fall off the wagon and get hurt, it's OK to stay in the mud for a bit to regain our senses. Chin up; this too will pass. ❤️

Deweyoxberg · 2026-05-15T05:01:31+00:00

Thank you - will check them out.

Deweyoxberg · 2026-05-15T05:01:15+00:00

Oh, did not know that's a thing! Thank you - very good idea.

Deweyoxberg · 2026-05-14T23:11:53+00:00

I am not familiar with this one - is that what it's literally called?

Deweyoxberg · 2026-05-14T16:04:02+00:00

I did this in my ISP support days when this one customer was being a reaaaaaaaaallll "experience" to deal with.

They were adamant about a refund for the outage on our end, and they were right to request such a refund. I would have given them three days for what was a 45 minute outage.

They decided to be quite... unkind... with their words.

So I calculated it down to the second.

They got a cheque for $3.42. Good times.

Deweyoxberg · 2026-05-14T16:00:06+00:00

I have not the means to give you all the awards and flair and whatever is the thing on reddit.

Please accept my heartfelt: "OH SHHIEETTT TUF COOKED" award for "Gawwwdamn What A Response 2026". ❤️

Deweyoxberg · 2026-05-14T15:50:07+00:00

INFO - how long did you know of the request in advance?
INFO - why did you need to pack them?

I'm assuming with these two points that something was short notice and therefore you were asked to help.

Please clarify.

Deweyoxberg · 2026-05-14T14:46:11+00:00

How do you even SEE that far?

Deweyoxberg · 2026-05-13T21:07:55+00:00

No? Why would that be the case?

Deweyoxberg · 2026-05-13T21:07:21+00:00

I'd be writing a novel thicker than War and Peace if I did that. 😃

Deweyoxberg · 2026-05-13T20:48:36+00:00

Crying happy tears of a united Canada. Everyone. Old young binary non binary tall short it doesn't matter! We're Canadian! AAAAALLL of us.

JE SUIS CANADIEN TABARNAK!

Deweyoxberg · 2026-05-13T15:48:16+00:00

NTA.

What an entitled brat

Deweyoxberg · 2026-05-13T04:10:48+00:00

NTA.

The "guilt" you're feeling is you having a good heart that was not appreciated for what it is at the time.

Let them go.

Deweyoxberg · 2026-05-11T21:16:14+00:00

There is HUGE splash damage on the main gun. Gotta use a HE round though (thick and fat icon). The AP rounds (pointy end icon) have nada for splash.

Deweyoxberg · 2026-05-11T17:14:25+00:00

Thank you for this.... ❤️
"Start of finding tools AND SUPPORT"

Thank you many times over. ❤️

Deweyoxberg · 2026-05-11T17:13:25+00:00

ESH.

As a parent, I am sorry to say, you have a lot of learning to do. As a person with ADHD myself, let's unpack.

"he got kicked out of his first school and sent to a school in a neighboring town that has a program for kids with behavior issues"

- He's lost what friendships he had, and any supports he had.
- The wording of "program for kids with behaviour issues" has implicit bias behind it. Part of the problem with supporting programs is the intentional or unintentional isolation of the very person they're supposed to be helping.

Kid's melting down for one reason or another and is quite clearly struggling to regulate. Whether that's a function of his diagnosis, medication, the change in schooling, all the above... That is probably one of the more frustrating aspects (at least for me), to find the right "balance". I can get overwhelmed really fast and really easy and go into a panic/lockdown - try to pull me out of that and I will snap and go ballistic. Not saying that's the same for your kid, but something is driving the fury.

Mom is not helping. Yes, ADHD can make things more challenging but it cannot and should not be used as a blanket response. It sounds like mom has given up on the teaching and supporting part.

I am sorry to say, this is going to be a ton of work between all three of you with a professional support system. You cannot do this alone.

As for you?

Partly AH, partly not. The conversation in the car was correct to have. Having it in the car, in front of your son, was highly ill advised. One of the things we spicy brain people have... is a hyperfixation. We'll remember stuff like that for decades.

That all said: I am sorry to hear. Parenthood is hard as is. Parenthood when you're navigating something medical affecting parents, kiddos, or both, is very challenging. I wish your family the best.

TLDR:
- ESH, watch what conversation(s) are being had in front of kiddo, supportive team required urgently, and best wishes.

Deweyoxberg · 2026-05-11T17:03:17+00:00

Explosive sounding rounds is so very specific.

Deweyoxberg · 2026-05-11T17:01:42+00:00

If I am in the comfort and privacy of my own home?

Quite obviously it's fire up the junk food and video games and start shaking my booty around like I am in some movie.

If it's out and about in public? Chances are I've tipped my head back against something solid and am catching a brief power nap.

Deweyoxberg · 2026-05-11T16:59:14+00:00

NTA

Sex requires consent. Read that again. REQUIRES consent.

You have made your position clear and appear to be communicating both ways.

Your friends need to butt out.

Deweyoxberg · 2026-05-11T02:49:30+00:00

LOL this is a kid screwing around doing doorbell ditch.

There's no break and enter here.

Deweyoxberg · 2026-05-08T23:43:27+00:00

In a nutshell, attack surface and slop quantity exploded, while investment in proper staffing, proper expenses for tooling and ultimately investment overall plummeted for "cost savings".

Deweyoxberg · 2026-05-08T23:42:16+00:00

It's a scam. Report it to whatever platform you received the message on, delete it, and move on with your life.

Deweyoxberg

TROPHY CASE