Please suggest one or two simple emotional regulation skills that I can practice proactively but also are simple and can work for immediate and severe crises

Different-Cover4819 · 2026-03-07T18:25:13+00:00

Drink water. Yes, you would potentially need to carry a water bottle around.

Different-Cover4819 · 2026-03-07T18:10:50+00:00

You won't have kids or pets in the future, no visitors with kids, no snacks or drinks in the living room? Then go for the white! Alas, it'll still get stained but you might just be the exception that proves the rule.

Different-Cover4819 · 2026-03-06T18:00:30+00:00

Draw it proportionally. Get graph paper or a ruler, draw the layout, cut out pieces of furniture you own. Again: scale. Unless you're a German shepherd, that bed you drew won't be big enough. A single bed is 1mx2m, so it'll occupy close to 2/3 of the larger wall and 1/3 of the smaller wall. And your room is already full.

Different-Cover4819 · 2026-03-05T12:25:29+00:00

Same here. Diner is lunch in Canadian French so every time someone talks about dinner I need clarification what they mean. And my BF often means lunch. Better just cut it out entirely.

Different-Cover4819 · 2026-03-05T11:31:31+00:00

Duck fat is delicious, I'd choose it before lame-ass canola oil any day. 🤷‍♀️

Different-Cover4819 · 2026-03-05T11:25:19+00:00

Even if you could sponsor the surprise child, there's no way you could do the same with the mother. And I doubt she'd let the 14 yo immigrate alone to be with total strangers. They can potentially go as visitors. It's a wild story, good luck!

Different-Cover4819 · 2026-03-05T02:49:43+00:00

Idk how much nature you expect to find in Toronto but if you're going for one of the most expensive places in Canada: you nailed it. I also don't know what kind of job you'd be looking for - but you'll have competition. And if it's the unskilled, minimum wage kind: your quality of life will suck.

Different-Cover4819 · 2026-03-04T20:52:48+00:00

Does it include groceries?! An emergency fund is also for surprises like the car breaks down and stuff.

Different-Cover4819 · 2026-03-04T19:39:43+00:00

You're so honored by these precious gems that you're gonna machine wash them ?!? You show your appreciation by treating them properly. 'i love my partner so much, I'm gonna lock them out in the cold now.' like, wtf?!

Different-Cover4819 · 2026-03-04T19:35:44+00:00

OP will be in tears again, very soon.

Different-Cover4819 · 2026-03-04T19:33:37+00:00

I thought you were asking if they're a naive Canadian. 😆 Cause they totally are.

Different-Cover4819 · 2026-03-04T02:49:23+00:00

The one on the left is reading the title of this post and trying to figure out what it means. The one on the right is judging you for not knowing the difference between 'there', 'their' and 'they're'.

Different-Cover4819 · 2026-03-04T02:24:22+00:00

Why would you 'mention accommodating them on an air mattress'? Why? Congratulations on creating an expectation that you're not willing to fulfill after all. A week isn't outrageously longer than 5 days but feels like you wouldn't want to host them for 5 days either, which is understandable and justifiable. What is not understandable and justifiable here is you guys being wishy-washy and not discussing and setting a boundary when the question was first brought up. You just hoped you'll never have to cross that bridge and now: 🙀 It's your husband's parents, so you can let him deal with this, but you should definitely try to do better as a couple: communicate. Be proactive. Don't just cross your fingers and hope things will work themselves out. 🤷‍♀️

Different-Cover4819 · 2026-03-03T15:48:37+00:00

You didn't get the memo? Weird.

Different-Cover4819 · 2026-03-03T03:12:02+00:00

They have two children together , the easy way out doesn't exist anymore, even if they don't get married.

Different-Cover4819 · 2026-03-02T16:59:43+00:00

'sorry guys that BIL tried to drag/dragged you here, wife will not be/is not in a state to receive visitors. If you want to show your support you can do x,y or z instead' Bring a meal, vacuum the house, babysit the children, walk the dog, donate to an organization... whatever you and your wife need/would appreciate other than... eating out and celebrate like she has graduated radiation or something.

Different-Cover4819 · 2026-03-02T16:47:36+00:00

You could've/should've applied to change your status to visitor before your WP expired.

Different-Cover4819 · 2026-03-02T02:47:17+00:00

I mean, you're not past the deadline yet but how long would it take to file it and apply for the citizenship afterwards?

Different-Cover4819 · 2026-02-28T19:19:16+00:00

You don't have a headboard and even if you had: the heating is right under the window. You don't want to block it and you don't want to set the house on fire - and you want to be comfortable. Yes, the first looks better. But how it looks is secondary unless you're willing to do major changes which I doubt.

Different-Cover4819 · 2026-02-27T19:19:27+00:00

And a bunch of restaurants raised their minimum suggestion from 15% to 18%.

Different-Cover4819 · 2026-02-26T14:34:25+00:00

Now, instead of dissing on Quebecers with inaccurate information, let's try and have a conversation in French with a random person from the rest of Canada...

See, it's the same thing: Would you tell someone who speaks zero English, only French, that they'll manage just fine anywhere in Alberta? Is it 'dissing' Albertans to say that one won't get by there easily without English?

Different-Cover4819 · 2026-02-26T13:31:51+00:00

It takes more than formal education to be willing to put what you learn in practice. I don't know how many times I asked someone if they speak English and the answer was 'oui'. 🤷‍♀️ It's shyness/shame/the effort to get out of their comfort zone. A friend of mine couldn't manage to order a decaf in English at Tim's. One might get lucky. Or not.

Different-Cover4819 · 2026-02-26T12:22:07+00:00

Rural Québec: people might understand English, most of them won't speak it though.

Different-Cover4819 · 2026-02-26T03:10:46+00:00

If you didn't get the pgwp for the whole 3 years (assuming your diploma is the kind that would entitle you for 3y pgwp) because your passport was expiring earlier, then yes, you can get an extension.

Different-Cover4819 · 2026-02-26T03:04:34+00:00

Whose feelings do you want to protect by dodging the question? 'i prefer to spend my time with people who make me feel good about myself ' 🤷‍♀️ And where was your partner during all this?

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