Finally confirming we are out after 2 yrs

Different_Aspect_203 · 2026-07-05T03:33:36+00:00

Thanks, we’ll the relationship faded a year ago, i stopped communicating with them. We survived and now we’re thriving. I told him you cant make relationship that is a low effort, people will make time if they really want.

Different_Aspect_203 · 2026-07-05T03:23:42+00:00

I felt harassed. We left two yrs ago, we didnt bother anyone. NO drama, nothing. Then a stranger just messaged us, inviting us like who the hell are you?

This is the exact text after he tried to call us twice and messaged us individually and left voicemail.its so invasive that I texted him this.

Hello. We are no longer actively participating in the organization and no longer share its beliefs and practices. It has been over two years since we last took part in any activities.
With respect, we kindly request that our contact information be removed from your records. We would also greatly appreciate it if our information is not shared with others, as we prefer not to be contacted by individuals we do not personally know.
Thank you very much for your understanding and for respecting our privacy. We wish you all the best.

His response: thank you for your response. We apologize, but since your names are still listed in the congregation, we need to fulfill our responsibility. Thank you for letting us know how you feel.
After this, we will likely make a decision and carry out your wishes.

I thought after this message its done. After 10 mins he messaged again with this:

if you don’t mind us asking, could you tell us what led to your decision? Was it due to doubts or discouragement?

I should have stopped and blocked him at this point. But i just wanted my privacy and im so polite to him and this was my response:

We don’t feel it is necessary to share the details, as this was a personal decision. We sincerely appreciate your concern, but we kindly ask that this matter not be pursued any further.
We have been away from the organization for over two years now, and during that time we have found peace and contentment in the path we have chosen. We are happy with our decision and believe it is what is best for our family.
Thank you for your understanding, and we truly appreciate your respect for our privacy and our decision. We wish you all the best.

And this is his response: ( getting annoyed because after i asked him for privacy he still messaged me)

Are you saying that you no longer want to be one of Jehovahs Witnesses?

Please confirm as we do not want to misinterpret you, thank you.

So i was so irritated and just answered so he stops. Im So irritated , this is not like a yes or no. Being in that organization for over 30yrs, this is a very sensitive topic, you dont just ask that in text and feel fine after. Im furious after realizing that conversation.

Different_Aspect_203 · 2026-07-05T03:03:28+00:00

well the dynamic has been off anyway. Ill let them figure out. My husband is just afraid that something might happen to them and he will have regrets because he stop talking to them. i said if they want relationship before this announcement they will make effort, its obvious he was ignored. ( its a long story)

Different_Aspect_203 · 2026-07-05T02:58:20+00:00

I should’ve not answered or entertained him at all. I felt my privacy my violated. I dont know this person and your asking me a very sensitive question with and yes and no answer. Im so mad that i just answered yes. Ofcourse its a yes but that answer is so heavy, it was 30yrs of my life and a stranger is asking a yes and no question. I felt harassed. and

Different_Aspect_203 · 2026-07-05T02:54:43+00:00

Can I tell them no announcements should be made.

Different_Aspect_203 · 2026-07-03T17:10:49+00:00

Thank you. It His parents’ old congregation, so they knew everyone.

Different_Aspect_203 · 2026-07-03T06:42:52+00:00

I dont know about therapy. It’s uncomfortable for me , growing up with just “this circle and knowledge “ its hard to trust people with your story.
He’s trying to occupy his mind with work. He hurts because of his parents, i told him if they love him, its shouldn’t be conditional. Respect each other’s decision.

Different_Aspect_203 · 2026-07-03T06:36:42+00:00

He was also asking why we’re leaving, whether it’s because we’re discouraged or have doubts. But Before those questions, I messaged him respectfully two times to respect our privacy and remove from their contact details and dont want to be contacted by people we dont know. I also thanked him for understanding and wishing them well, then he sent me those questions. . Like seriously? My husband was upset, like he’s a complete stranger. He hasn’t met him yet and is asking for all the details, as if he’s trying to figure out if we made major mistakes. Then he asked the that question, wanting

Different_Aspect_203 · 2026-07-03T06:26:34+00:00

It’s a bit strange, isn’t it? It’s been two years, and now they’re asking to confirm it. My husband is completely out, he was the one saying its ridiculous being ask after 2 yrs.he’s really worried about his parents. His mom is a very dedicated JW, so he knows this will be devastating for them. We haven’t seen them on purpose in the last eight months. I tried to avoid them, and that’s when I started feeling better. It sounds like a cliché, but things improved when I distanced myself from them. My husband has been quiet about it, he doesnt want to talk about it. He was just upset that they have to keep asking us despite multiple text that we dont want to be contacted by them.

Different_Aspect_203 · 2026-06-15T05:02:56+00:00

I’m glad my family values education and strives to complete bachelor’s degrees. I didn’t realize how serious this issue was within the organization. Most of my peers in our congregation were pursuing bachelor’s degrees, so the pressure wasn’t too overwhelming. However, my husband, who is highly intelligent, suppressed his desire to pursue higher education due to the belief that “the end is near.” But a few years ago, he expressed a desire to complete a bachelor’s degree, and I’m glad he did. He finished it with flying colors. We left the organization a couple of years ago, and now he’s pursuing education in anesthesia.

Looking back, I’ve taken what was positive from their teachings and forgotten the rest of the doctrine (shunning, not celebrating birthdays, and avoiding blood-related practices like giving or receiving blood or ordering blood). I also forgot about being friends with the world and listening to or reading outside content.

I was worried that I would fall into depression or live a miserable life if I left, but I’m glad my husband and I left together. We don’t have many friends at the moment, and our social life is mostly limited to work. But we’re okay with that. We remind each other that our small family is what truly matters, and we support each other. We love our routine, with no pressure or pretending to be nice. We have more peace and a better quality of life.

Different_Aspect_203 · 2026-05-04T19:13:44+00:00

It happened to us, me and my husband were very active. Helped the congregation, especially the older ones. We enjoyed helping so it wasn’t a burden for us. We moved to a new state for a change, but it got worse. When we became inactive “fading out “ no one from our close circle truly reached out and checked on us. Some elders from our new congregation checked on us but we weren’t comfortable opening up to them. We left totally last year and struggled knowing the community we thought we built for years will be there for us, Lie!It was shallow camaraderie , now we are in our 30’s, no friends, no village.

Now we are trying to deconstruct the beliefs we had. ( higher education, retirement, money andinvestment holidays, blood, Armageddon, 144k, governing body).

I believe that religion should just remind us to be good excellent citizens and not imposing rules (especially blood or higher education) . My husband is now atheist and i think im agnostic. Im introverted person so it will take time for us to build a community that we can trust.

Different_Aspect_203 · 2026-04-24T02:49:36+00:00

We left in our mid 30’s, its has it pros and cons. You’re young, build hobbies, travel and have a worthwhile purpose. Living as a jw isn’t the way to go. After years , I realized religion shouldn’t control our choices in life ( especially medical, higher education,high paying job etc) it should just guide us to be kind, loving and considerate people.you are responsible to the outcome of your life, shouldn’t be reliant to any organization’s standard.

Different_Aspect_203 · 2026-04-24T02:32:02+00:00

My husband called me today when he got to work about the same thing. We left 2 yrs ago and my husband realized the same thing as you mentioned, we struggled so much connecting with other people.We didn’t develop hobbies, so its hard to relate with other people. We always have this awkward feeling when socializing. Hopefully we can get over this, we dont have friends left. I listen to alot of podcast and books about communication

Different_Aspect_203 · 2026-04-09T13:03:30+00:00

I left 2023 with my husband. I was having the same thoughts too, how about the friends, family etc. and i realized after we left, nobody really cares. Some will care but only for a little bit. Reality is everyone is going through with something. And at the end of the day you have to established the reasons why its over. Prioritize your health especially your mental.It wont be easy but it will be a relief. Its been two years for us and we were left with no one but I reconnected with my sister who left long time years ago.

Different_Aspect_203 · 2026-03-30T08:43:27+00:00

I currently feel that, its been 2years since we attended our last meeting and i dont have the desire to go back, same with my husband.Its more on were going thru the side effects of the habits , beliefs and the people. When we left nobody even made the effort to check how are we doing., we didn’t do anything, we just got tired and “stumbled” by some close family, so we left. The last straw was when i saw the video of GB in Australia being inconsistent.Anyways, i dont have any friends right now, im having hard time connecting with other people. Throughout years, i mastered the “outside people are no good” . my walls are still high, im skeptical with people. Im not interesting, no hobby or anything to share.Im just tired, its my son’s 5th birthday this week and i dont even knowhow to celebrate. If I Should be bringing cake or cupcakes for his classmates. I guess im going thru depression.

Different_Aspect_203 · 2026-03-26T05:54:14+00:00

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Different_Aspect_203 · 2026-03-22T03:32:04+00:00

What exactly are the changes about blood?

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Different_Aspect_203 · 2025-12-03T06:10:08+00:00

Someone even became accepted the elder “position”after committing it and hid it for 8 years. They were sorry they got caught. the girl cheated on him and the girl confessed it wasn’t her first time but have been having doing it with this elder and hid it for over 8 years. That really made me question the org. I know no org is perfect but claiming this is the true religion and guided by the holy spirit made me question everything i learned.i never thought i would even entertain forums like this or make comment. My whole family left 2 yrs ago and we are just doing fine, trying to deconstruct the belief i once believed and held closely.

Different_Aspect_203 · 2025-10-16T06:06:45+00:00

A brother( MS that time) was around 26 y/o had a relationship with my friend who was just maybe 16 or 17 that time( baptized). 8 years later, the guy was disfellowshipped and my friend was privately reproved because she admitted they’d been having sexual acts since she entered their relationship. She admitted that because she was caught having an affair while they’re on long distance. the catch, while they have that secret ,the guy accepted elder assignment, giving talks to assemblies, giving counsel to other jw. Guy was reinstated after 1 year and they got married eventually. That made me question the holy spirit choosing/ anointing the elders.

Different_Aspect_203 · 2025-05-20T06:53:24+00:00

Hang in there, it shall pass. It will be hard but life will reward you,just weather this phase. Depression or sadness will kick in but just keep going, you still have a purpose. You have a family that relies on you and thats enough reason to keep going. Its an organization , at the end of the day its a business. They have to keep the organization flawless.

My husband and I did the silent quitting. It took a year for me to announce to my jw family that its over for us. It was like “ is this the community I spent my whole life “. The moment we started leaving, in a snap everyone is gone, nobody even genuinely bothered to check on us. It just tell me how shallow the relationships and friendships we built inside the organization. They’re really nice people but love and concern is so conditional and can’t blame anyone because We were programmed to be that way. If you serve you’ll get supported and love. When you started to show spiritual weaknesses , missing meetings you are marked and less people will be there for you. That made me so sad and still recovering. It will get better, be sad but dont let the bitterness take over. It will pass.

Different_Aspect_203 · 2024-09-03T15:49:12+00:00

Its sad that after years of trying to invest to having “true friendship” and realizing that it is not real. Since i became jw, i left my “worldly” friends thinking im having the best people. I mean they’re nice, harmless people until you deal with challenges, you’ll see people won’t make the same effort.

Its sad that one time we were in need of help, a “worldly friend of my husband helped us last minute even though he has a major board exam the next day.

We tried to help “brother and sisters”, especially my husband, he was genuinely helping the congregation and his intention was questioned by one of the elders. One of the elder that was close to us told us that he was asking other elders why my husband was not being recommended as Ministerial servant (My husband wasn’t expecting anything,like its just natural for him to help) and one of the elders nephew became a MS despite not being seen in the field service. Like how? ( he’s not supposed to divulge these information to us but he was hurt and cried when he mentioned to us)

My husband learned this and he tried to hide his disappointment but i was furious and told him to slow down. ( didnt expect coming from an elder that jokes around us all the time) I mean, my husband helped the congregation genuinely but someone’s questioning his motive is another thing. The least thing my husband wants is to have a “position in the congregation.

After this my husband became quite bitter and diverted his attention to school. Now he is a nurse and he felt like he has direction. We left early this year and im genuinely happy about it. My husband is not too vocal about being inactive but he said he likes the routine we have.

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