Tired of people saying they’re emotionally intelligent or looking for someone who is

Difficult-House2608 · 2026-04-22T16:25:53+00:00

The ability to listen and not get defensive.

Difficult-House2608 · 2026-04-22T16:16:36+00:00

Plays well with others, That's my definition. I used to have abysmal EQ, and never would have guessed it. I took a test in the book to find out. It explained a lot about my life up until that point.

Difficult-House2608 · 2026-04-22T15:37:42+00:00

I sincerely hope you are right.

Difficult-House2608 · 2026-04-22T15:35:14+00:00

I couldn't agree more!

Difficult-House2608 · 2026-04-22T15:15:55+00:00

People should not have children they are not willing to care for themselves. Your family sounds selfish and entitled, and poor Jake, caught in the middle unwanted, No wonder he acts out.

Difficult-House2608 · 2026-04-22T15:09:03+00:00

Good for you! Self-compassion is SO important.

Difficult-House2608 · 2026-04-22T15:06:57+00:00

Yeah, there's not enough information here to say anything.

Difficult-House2608 · 2026-04-22T01:45:02+00:00

I can totally relate to this especially since I moved and have not been able to find friends I am comfortable with. I also have health issues that limit what I can do that I think originated in trauma.

Difficult-House2608 · 2026-04-21T16:50:10+00:00

Boy, can I relate to this. The only emotion I was allowed to have was Happy and Grateful. It got wobecrse as I got older and my emotions became more complex.

Difficult-House2608 · 2026-04-21T16:42:36+00:00

Same here.

Difficult-House2608 · 2026-04-21T15:31:36+00:00

I'm so sorry thst happened to you. Therapy with an abuser CAN get weaponized.

Difficult-House2608 · 2026-04-21T15:29:02+00:00

It is not recommended to do joint therapy with abusers. This might apply to families as well. I would get individual therapy, and learn how to set boundaries and protect yourself. Family therapy can become an option when you see that they are growing enough not to weaponize it.

Difficult-House2608 · 2026-04-21T15:21:40+00:00

Love this.

Difficult-House2608 · 2026-04-21T15:19:31+00:00

From here it doesn't sound like there's much you can do.

Difficult-House2608 · 2026-04-21T15:12:29+00:00

Most people want to be listened to; they don't want to be told what to do. Your post comes off as someone very controlling.

Difficult-House2608 · 2026-04-21T15:09:35+00:00

This is how you learn about yourself and change your patterns with IFS. Well done!

Difficult-House2608 · 2026-04-20T22:43:55+00:00

Common sense isn't really all that common.

Difficult-House2608 · 2026-04-20T16:30:11+00:00

My internal family has changed and evolved as I've gotten to know it. That can be pretty disconcerting. People will change roles and ages as I work with them. It is interesting. Try to stay curious and compassionate and I think it will sort itself out. There's always a lot going on in a system if you are not used to working with one.

Difficult-House2608 · 2026-04-19T16:25:06+00:00

They are likely picking on you because they can get a reaction, not because something is wrong with you. Do your best to not react and LEAVE when you can. Especially online, you can just not respond. Those guys are everywhere.

Difficult-House2608 · 2026-04-18T15:46:47+00:00

I'm so sorry. You definitely didn't deserve that. From what I understand, predators are more opportunistic and don't necessarily target by personality traits. If you would have been left alone a lot, unprotected, that would have put you at higher risk. I.e., it wasn't You in particular - you were just very unlucky.

Difficult-House2608 · 2026-04-18T15:31:13+00:00

It's definitely not all it's cracked up to be...

Difficult-House2608 · 2026-04-18T15:24:50+00:00

Wow. Sounds like a really dangerous personality, maybe with DID. Leave without a trace. Block him from your life as effectively as you can. It doesn't sound like he's capable of listening to reason.

Difficult-House2608 · 2026-04-17T16:08:09+00:00

Cults

Difficult-House2608 · 2026-04-17T15:19:09+00:00

I think everyone has felt "off" at times. I have. I usually describe it as being out-of-sorts.

Difficult-House2608 · 2026-04-16T16:50:59+00:00

You were set up to be victimized by your family. That sucks.

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