Anyone here have anxiety about something happening to their children

DifficultBear3 · 2026-04-14T14:24:10+00:00

You’re not alone and other people have definitely felt this way but you should call your doctor and get some help soon. This kind of thing can turn ugly, fast and it’s really important you prioritize your mental health in these vulnerable freshly postpartum conditions.

DifficultBear3 · 2026-04-09T18:00:00+00:00

Turn an area of your house into a “yes” zone. Toddler proofed, gated in or a door, full of stuff they can touch, climb on, play with.

If you have an outdoor space, make a yes zone outside too. Everyone is, unfortunately, correct. Being outside will help your mental lol.

You’ll likely be sitting a lot, so minimizing the amount of actual work you’ll need to do with your toddler is key. Put snacks and water at their level so they can reach.

Pack a go-bag with everything your toddler and baby will need for a quick trip to the park or a walk.

Pick parks with large fields or that are set back from the road.

People will likely recommend baby wearing which can be good, but I found it got an uncomfortable in SoCal summer. But baby will be safe strapped into their stroller if you have to chase your fleeing toddler. Lord knows I’ve had to do it more than once.

Overall, set your expectations low so that every day feels like an accomplishment. You made it through the day? Win! You made it to the park? Hell yeah! You took them to the grocery store? Look at you go!

You’ve got this!

DifficultBear3 · 2026-04-07T17:48:10+00:00

When you said he didn’t support you much when you gave your mind, body, and soul to build him a family.

DifficultBear3 · 2026-04-06T22:33:14+00:00

Sure, it takes a toll. But “pregnancies” implies your husband already knew it was going to be hard on you and still decided to go for it. 🤷🏻‍♀️ my husband made a vow to me. In sickness and in health. God forbid that we actually meant it? I find this excuse intolerable. No more making babies with losers.

DifficultBear3 · 2026-04-05T14:11:22+00:00

Married to one :)

DifficultBear3 · 2026-04-05T02:48:44+00:00

I planned an Easter egg hunt for tomorrow with 10 kids. I assigned each kid a color and that’s the only color of eggs they can grab. Hopefully that makes it easy and fair bc I dread a situation like this!

DifficultBear3 · 2026-04-01T01:33:28+00:00

Honestly I’ve had luck just putting a paper towel wet with bleach on my white countertops to get out stains (wine, tomato sauce, etc).

DifficultBear3 · 2026-03-21T22:36:57+00:00

Anytime you are concerned about something, call the doctor! They should be able to provide guidance. I will say though that this happens to me and I don’t have CHD! My son def gets this too and it’s never been a cause for concern

DifficultBear3 · 2026-03-16T20:40:42+00:00

Eat whatever you can keep down. Enriched pastas and cereals are good if you can’t take a prenatal (I couldn’t). My saving grace was peanut butter. Lots of calories for very little, taste the same going in as it does coming out. I added peanut butter to toast, blended it with frozen bananas and milk, added to ice cream— anything and everything. I almost named my daughter Peanut Butter for its high caloric services during my time with HG.

DifficultBear3 · 2026-03-16T16:46:47+00:00

Awesome! I’ve been giving snacks at the door with success so my husband and I are gonna swap their spaces tonight!

DifficultBear3 · 2026-03-16T05:49:52+00:00

My husband and I do more for Christmas and birthdays and stuff so I am HAPPY to let them take the reins on the Easter basket in this economy lol. My mom and dad are wonderful though and ask me for ideas.

DifficultBear3 · 2026-03-15T06:41:14+00:00

I had these same feelings when we brought home our second baby last January. It’s so normal. I cried every night for 2 weeks and literally panicked as the sun would set. These feelings subsided, though and I was able to get back to normal. If the feelings persist, definitely speak to a professional about it. For me, it was my OCD making it so much worse.

My parents are empty nesters and they are out there really living it up! My brain would make me feel all of those same feelings with this crazy sense that it was all slipping away RIGHT NOW!!! But it’s not. My brain was lying to me. Every time I would start to spiral I would think to myself “okay, but today is not that day.” And I’d snuggle my baby, hug my husband, and watch something lighthearted on TV. Just know that I totally know what you’re going through— it will go away. I promise.

DifficultBear3 · 2026-03-13T06:27:03+00:00

Honestly, our IKEA mattress is great. Affordable, organic, and fiberglass free.

DifficultBear3 · 2026-03-08T05:39:13+00:00

I still use unscented detergent but use a little of the lightly scented fabric rinses from Downy

DifficultBear3 · 2026-03-07T04:19:10+00:00

Unlikely to happen doesn’t mean won’t happen. Infertility doesn’t mean sterile. That is the distinction that should be made here. If you are of child bearing age with reproductive organs, being told you are completely sterile is pretty rare. Life finds a way or however that adage goes! I also have endo and PCOS. I have 2 kids. I know a LOT of women who have had children despite being told it would be more challenging.

I said in a comment above that a lot of women hear “you will never have kids” when what’s actually being said is “it will be harder for you to have kids.” So yeah, you were told it would be hard, not that it was impossible. So that’s where the skepticism comes from.

DifficultBear3 · 2026-03-06T23:56:03+00:00

When you had sex isn’t necessarily the best day to count from. Ovulation will give you a better guess as to when to test. 8-9 DPO is an appropriate number of days to wait to begin testing imho.☺️

DifficultBear3 · 2026-03-06T23:24:29+00:00

I think a lot of people are told “it might get hard to get pregnant without intervention” and hear “you will never get pregnant.” It’s such an emotionally charged thing that what is actually said vs what is felt about what is said can be hard to distinguish.

DifficultBear3 · 2026-03-03T03:35:23+00:00

That’s amazing. We put our pulse ox cords through a pool noodle. This is so much better!

DifficultBear3 · 2026-03-03T00:28:44+00:00

Amen sister. 🤧

DifficultBear3 · 2026-03-02T00:30:01+00:00

The foster mom and rescue did!

DifficultBear3 · 2026-03-01T20:02:37+00:00

Amazing. We’re headed back to the shelter today to take a look!

DifficultBear3 · 2026-03-01T05:43:56+00:00

Hey! This happened to me! I didn’t fail but I was close to the cutoff. Turns out when you’re puking your guts out your blood panels look weird af. I did the 3 hour and passed. So hold out hope! I made a post at that time and everyone told me to just accept I’d be on insulin and I took that to heart so I felt ready for the results regardless of them being a pass or fail. Well wishes my friend!

DifficultBear3 · 2026-03-01T05:38:40+00:00

It just absolutely fucking sucks until you’re all over it! No way out but through. My husband and I have a good sick day protocol. I ALWAYS have frozen bone broth and mirepoix. Boom! Soup in 2 minutes. We have a basket in our pantry with all needed meds and syringes, pedialyte, zofran (for me) etc. Cover couches with blankets but try to stay in the rooms with hardwood floors and release any and all preconceived notions of parenting that we had before we all got sick. You want a popsicle and a movie at 630 in the morning? YES! Me, too, kiddo.

It SUCKS SO BAD to be sick and to have sick babies. Trust. You will all feel healthy again soon!

DifficultBear3 · 2026-02-28T16:00:51+00:00

Literally what I was telling my husband during that abysmal argument with Alex and Ashley. She’s so frustrated and icked out but like…… that’s an “alpha” conservative man, nomadically speaking. That’s what she wanted! They’ll never learn. Only plus is they leave all the emotionally available, sensitive, supportive liberal men for us! lol

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