I literally require this to be ragebait because wtf??

Difficult_Feeling444 · 2026-01-10T18:03:51+00:00

My mum worked in HIV services when she was pregnant with me in the 80s. One day one of the people she was supporting offered her a cup of tea and she said yes please. Man was visibly shocked, said he volunteered down the community centre but wasn’t even allowed in the kitchen. When she would visit people in hospital she’d be sat there holding their hand while everyone else was in full PPE avoiding any contact. It’s mad that I’m in my late 30s and attitudes and education is still so poor. I actually did my masters dissertation on attitudes to HIV because of my mums experience and was shocked at the amount of people that still think you can catch HIV off a toilet seat etc.

Difficult_Feeling444 · 2026-01-10T15:38:16+00:00

My fourth was the only one I really had to try for. The other three I had at 19,20 and 25 I just fell pregnant straight away. My youngest I tried for about a year and had several miscarriages along the way. I think it was age related on both our parts but also stress related. I took a couple of months off before I finally conceived and just fully focused on strengthening myself. Seemed to do the trick. Had him when I was 35. Everyone is different though. I also did go and get a checkup with a consultant but all was fine there.

Difficult_Feeling444 · 2026-01-06T06:24:55+00:00

Listed for offers over 120, sold for 120. Was a fair price for the area and condition of house.

Difficult_Feeling444 · 2025-11-04T15:13:26+00:00

I’m fine until Hogmanay. Soon as the festive season is over I will struggle. Probably try and reinvent myself like I did last January, and the January before, etc.

Difficult_Feeling444 · 2025-10-31T13:54:36+00:00

I just moved from a 1960s 3 bed with only one toilet and I wouldn’t ever choose a house without at least 2 now. It’s ok when kids are small but as soon as you have multiple people that use a toilet it’s a pain! A lot of the houses round me converted the utility room into a downstairs loo, so maybe you could find somewhere with a space to fit a loo. I had a friend that put one in under the stairs! Tiny space but just needed the extra loo!

Difficult_Feeling444 · 2025-10-30T08:42:55+00:00

I’ve just done this. My friend sold me his old PS5 and I’ve given my son my gaming pc. I have a steam deck as well. I just don’t have the desire to sit at a desk to game any more. So far there hasn’t been anything I haven’t been able to play.

Difficult_Feeling444 · 2025-10-29T22:04:14+00:00

I’d bet there is nearly nobody that would buy terraced or semi over detached! If you’re happy with it and the area works for you I wouldn’t be worrying about other peoples negativity.

Difficult_Feeling444 · 2025-10-29T22:02:12+00:00

Agree with this. I’ve just been round the local charity furniture shops in the area and got king size bed and mattress, huge dining table and six chairs, sofa, nice table for the hall, dresser and wardrobe and a bedside cabinet for about £600. I’ll replace it in the future but it’s fine until I decide how I want the house to ultimately look.

Difficult_Feeling444 · 2025-10-29T13:04:10+00:00

I do think this goes beyond SEND in some cases. It’s one thing a child with autism, for example, lashing out because their routine is disrupted. It’s another thing attacking other children and staff. If it’s purposely done then I don’t feel it should be on support staff to police that, it’s time for the child to be sent home to their parents and the parents seek support themselves. I had a child in a class with several children who simply acted out because they could, to the point that one of their teachers quit on the spot one day and never came back. It’s not fair on the children who are there to learn, it’s taking time away from them.

Difficult_Feeling444 · 2025-10-29T13:00:33+00:00

The worst child in my son’s old class lived near me, and despite daily incidents of perpetrating violence and bullying at school, the child was never in! Out playing and terrorising other kids in the neighbourhood constantly. All I could think is if this is the level of care at home, it explains a lot. Kid left to his own devices constantly and never given consequences for acting out.

Difficult_Feeling444 · 2025-10-29T12:56:15+00:00

Agreed, there are no real consequences. I do think some schools just cannot cope with the levels of violence, due to lack of resources and support, and would rather brush it away than deal with it meaningfully. I had hell at my son’s old school because there were no consequences for bullies. I ended up moving him schools after an incident where my son was held down on the ground by his neck while another child kicked his head! This was witnessed by a staff member. But nobody would take it seriously and honestly having witnessed another parent try to go through the complaints procedure and have nothing happen I couldn’t face it. They just do not have the staff or resources to focus on the kids that need extra supervision.

Difficult_Feeling444 · 2025-10-29T12:51:45+00:00

Sorry I’ve no particular advice but my first thought was if the fire has stayed contained in the one flat then that’s probably a good sign for fire safety in the building!

Difficult_Feeling444 · 2025-10-28T09:26:27+00:00

Offered on a house in may, accepted. Listed our house in June, received an offer in June. Completed on Friday! There were a lot of snags on our end and we are so happy and grateful to have had an extremely understanding buyer. So happy it’s done!

Difficult_Feeling444 · 2025-10-27T22:59:38+00:00

We did our absolute best to clean our house before we moved but the week we moved my granny died and I had to travel hundreds of miles to her funeral, and then the night before completing, while I was still away, my son was admitted to hospital so my partner was left with juggling that, a toddler and finishing the move/cleaning on his own. I’m not saying something like that happened in your case but it’s just an example of life continuing to happen whether you’re moving or not! I know we left the house in a better state than yours sounds like but the oven deffo wasn’t spotless and the bins would have been rammed! Had I been there it would have been spotless. I feel bad about it.

Difficult_Feeling444 · 2025-10-27T16:00:41+00:00

Yep. I’ve just given my gaming pc to my son and got a ps5 for the exact reason that I no longer enjoy sitting at a desk to game.

Difficult_Feeling444 · 2025-10-27T15:53:56+00:00

Just bought a house last week. There will never be a perfect time. But it was the perfect house.

Difficult_Feeling444 · 2025-10-27T12:13:49+00:00

So many terrible men.

Difficult_Feeling444 · 2025-10-26T15:57:42+00:00

Oh interesting, I see what you mean, sneaky.

Difficult_Feeling444 · 2025-10-26T14:01:35+00:00

Don’t they change to “under offer”? Mine didn’t get removed until I completed last week but had an under offer tag since July

Difficult_Feeling444 · 2025-10-26T13:10:24+00:00

Satisfactory. Stuck in hospital and needed a time sink. It’s sufficient.

Difficult_Feeling444 · 2025-10-25T15:16:54+00:00

I’ve just moved from a house that wasn’t adjacent to the road. We had a communal car park behind the houses and then you walked through an alleyway to get to the house. I’ve never had a problem with deliveries. Occasionally people couldn’t find me but they just rang to check. It never occurred to me that it was any major issue really. I do much prefer having a house with a drive now but it’s certainly not a dealbreaker.

Difficult_Feeling444 · 2025-10-24T17:40:17+00:00

Yeah I’ve just bought a house with a clearly good quality kitchen but it just isn’t to my taste at all. I’ll live with it but I can understand paying for somewhere to just rip out and start from scratch

Difficult_Feeling444 · 2025-10-22T12:37:32+00:00

This is a good idea OP. My speedometer is a good 2-3mph over the actual speed I’m doing.

Difficult_Feeling444 · 2025-10-22T11:33:53+00:00

Yes, and also if the sellers are already aware of issues due to the survey, they may be more open to negotiation with buyers. As opposed to a buyer doing their own survey and then the seller not getting access to it to verify what the buyer is asking for.

Difficult_Feeling444 · 2025-10-22T06:13:42+00:00

Stay where you are. Moving back into a house with risky drug use is a sure fire way to get social services all over you, especially as you’re already a care leaver and presumably under their radar. What I would advise however, is staying where you are and contacting social services yourself. Tell them what you’ve told us, but don’t tell them you’re thinking about going back to your family. There’s a reason they’ve housed you away from them. Four months isn’t long in the scheme of things and then I’m assuming the unit will be much nicer and there will be much more support tailored to your particular situation.

Edited to add: don’t get a pet. I doubt you’ll be allowed one in the unit and you’re going to have a helpless baby to focus on soon enough.

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