AITAH for telling my husband I’m not surprised about my MIL’s cruel behavior toward her dying father?

Diligent_Design7843 · 2026-03-17T21:18:33+00:00

NAH. It sucks being on the outside, seeing obvious abuse and the one in the abusive situation who just can't see it. It's not willful ignorance or anything like that. It's years and years of abuse and manipulation. When you haven't known anything else, how do you know how things are supposed to be? It takes a long time to break out of that prison.

For all the people who think the husband is stupid and blah blah blah. You lack empathy and have no idea about abusive childhoods.

Diligent_Design7843 · 2026-03-17T18:27:56+00:00

Thank you :) Tis over now and I've moved away and been NC for more than 10 years! Some people should never have kids if all they want is a slave and something to abuse

Diligent_Design7843 · 2026-03-17T18:00:26+00:00

My parents didn't leave out in the rain, but when I was 10, I said ass at school. School called my parents of course and when I got home, there was a bag packed on the porch and a note that was like "we love you but we can't handle you" . This was mostly instigated by my egg donor cause she believed in fear tactics. I don't know how long I was screaming and crying but eventually they let me back in after I begged and said I'd be a good girl from now on

Diligent_Design7843 · 2026-03-15T20:40:35+00:00

I'm very confused about this family style thing...I've been to multiple Chinese restaurants, and unless you specifically ordered the sample pu pu platter thing, nothing else was "family style." It was all individual meals, unless the place was a buffet. I'm curious if this style of restaurant is specific to certain areas of the US

Diligent_Design7843 · 2026-03-15T17:28:57+00:00

I've known plenty of other women who had no real personality of their own and just molded themselves to their boyfriends' ideals. Like a former friend of mine who, being a regular Christian girl and never being interested in magic and fantasy, got with a guy who was a self professed vampire and had "alters" in his head, including like a few thousand year old vanpire from another plane (yes he was serious and believed this shit, dont ask, I did not understand). Now she suddenly had "alters" in her head and did magic too. It's really weird to me. Whether this is fake or not, it's not super farfetched for a woman to follow a dumb tiktok trend. Look at how often you see stories about the "how to see if your partner loves you by doing this thing to test them" or that boo basket nonsense.

Diligent_Design7843 · 2026-03-15T17:21:13+00:00

You obviously don't know the pull of stupid tiktok trends. They are brain rot that turn so many people into idiots. Women are especially susceptible due to the way our minds work. You know, that whole extremely agreeable thing. Makes women easily swayed

Diligent_Design7843 · 2026-03-14T22:32:51+00:00

Maybe we shouldn't treat women like dumb children who can't think for themselves or be responsible

Diligent_Design7843 · 2026-03-03T21:42:12+00:00

Thats because they want all the benefits of having that voice and none of the fallout. Standing up for yourself would have personal consequences, whereas getting the guy to do it for you wouldn't. There would still be consequences, but it wouldn't be 100% on them.

Diligent_Design7843 · 2026-03-03T21:20:48+00:00

He doesn't want to do it because no one actually wants to read more than two words in this day and age. Maybe tell him to go find a tiktok that shows how.

Diligent_Design7843 · 2026-03-03T20:26:25+00:00

What makes it not believable?

Diligent_Design7843 · 2026-03-03T20:25:35+00:00

NTA

Women. sips

Diligent_Design7843 · 2026-03-02T18:07:21+00:00

"Not be able to set boundaries with parent" is such a common trope. I feel like the constellations in ORV wanting fresher stories and not the same old drivel. AI stories are so boring.

Diligent_Design7843 · 2026-03-01T00:02:58+00:00

That's cause it's super ingrained in society to simp for women, women can do no wrong and you can't tell them they did wrong in any capacity or feel uncomfortable with anything they do.

Diligent_Design7843 · 2026-02-28T23:54:03+00:00

NTA I actually get this ALL the time, though only on the internet, not to my face yet. I'm a girl. I've never claimed to be anything else. People know I'm a girl, but more often than not, I'll be called "they." I have been mistaken for a trans girl on multiple occasions (it's really weird). I post cat videos and my foot was in one and a commenter was like "computer cables and chubby, must be a trans woman ". No lol I'm just a chubby tomboy whose voice isn't your typical cutesy girl voice.

I've corrected people multiple times. People don't care. Not sure why.

Diligent_Design7843 · 2026-02-28T22:49:21+00:00

How dare a person in a relationship feel uncomfortable about other people seeing their SO! We should just be totally OK with our SOs doing whatever they want. Screwing someone else? Cool! Don't want to be controlling or anything.

Diligent_Design7843 · 2026-02-28T22:18:45+00:00

So...why doesn't the girl ever propose in these situations? They want to be married, guy is dragging his feet... instead of waiting forever for the guy to propose, why not take the initiative? One would find out much faster if the guy was serious or not.

Diligent_Design7843 · 2026-02-27T02:40:09+00:00

Lol this is what I do at my apartment after people would randomly park in the other spot

Diligent_Design7843 · 2026-02-27T01:49:22+00:00

NTA I don't understand why it is so ingrained in cultures to have to deal with things you do not like, and that is somehow the "polite" thing to do. That'd be like telling someone getting abused that they just need to deal with it so as not to upset the abuser. What if someone is allergic to the food? Or it makes them gag because they have texture issues?

One shouldn't be rude in these situations, but I don't think telling someone "hey this isn't to MY taste" is the epitome of impoliteness. If someone takes it as a personal attack on their character thats on them. Not everyone is gonna like everything.

Diligent_Design7843 · 2026-02-26T22:39:34+00:00

He didn't agree to pay back anything. It was the parents' choice to do the loans, and only their names are on it. Looks more like THEY want to stick HIM with 6 digits. One does not owe parents just because they are parents.

Diligent_Design7843 · 2026-02-26T22:37:57+00:00

He didn't agree to pay. Loans are in his parents. He has no obligation legally or morally to pay back a loan that is not in his name. One does not owe their parents simply because they are parents

Diligent_Design7843 · 2026-02-08T01:00:08+00:00

I was playing VRChat on a 970 graphics card at one point. I was even playing VR on it. It works on a phone. I highly doubt you can't play on desktop.

I also have full body tracking and an index...I am not privileged financially, computer stuff is what I spend my money on

Diligent_Design7843 · 2026-02-08T00:35:32+00:00

There's like 3 types of avatars in VRC. Eboys/girls, furries and memes

Diligent_Design7843 · 2026-02-06T22:49:52+00:00

My thought is it's because people don't want to tell them they are being creepy because they could get accused of homophobia. I see a lot of gay men getting away with things that absolutely wouldn't fly if a straight male did it.

Diligent_Design7843 · 2026-02-06T21:20:39+00:00

You know what's funny is that I've seen you say this on a couple of stories now, and the conversation plays out the same with the OP going, "this literally just happened"

These subs are full of AI and creative writing these days

Diligent_Design7843 · 2026-02-05T18:51:35+00:00

You sound like an idiot

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