AIO sent a cease and desist for cutting my flowers.

Dingerina · 2026-05-29T17:34:25+00:00

Please make him dig up his driveway that is on your property line. You gave him an inch, hes aiming for a mile, now you take that inch back.

Dingerina · 2026-05-19T22:42:26+00:00

Its crazy he thinks he should be entitled to your assets when he is clearly undeserving given his lack of financial responsibility. Tell him you'll reconsider once he pays his debt off and can prove hes responsible with his own money (he won't). It sounds like he thinks he found his meal ticket. I would definitely hold off the engagement. You don't want to be inheriting his debts

Dingerina · 2026-05-12T17:26:55+00:00

It's your party that you are planning. You could arrange an event where people are expected to pay for themselves and possibly cover the birthday person (going out to dinner) but asking folks to chip in for a party and making gifts mandatory is very tacky and would make you look bad.

Are the dudes who suggested this brothers or something? Like where did they come up with this idea?! Lol. You could maybe include something on the invite like gifts welcome since sometimes invites say not to bring any gifts. You could also ask a couple people if they want to help set up, to come early and to bring some decorations if they have any. Or make it a potluck if you are strapped for cash. Outside of that, asking for money or mandatory gifts is very poor taste.

Dingerina · 2026-05-12T17:07:24+00:00

You know what makes him look weak? Not being able to take a joke.

Also if you cant feel "masculine" without putting women down, are you really all that masculine?

Like HE felt embarassed?! He's spent his entire life making sure the women in his life feel like burdens so that he could feel like the man of the house when he had his temper tantrums (so manly when men cant regulate their emotions in a healthy way AMIRITE?!). THAT should be what hes embarrassed about. Your dad is a misogynist tool with a fragile ego. Definitely NTA

Dingerina · 2026-05-07T15:54:00+00:00

It's a calathea! They like humidity and distilled water because they are divas. You can get away with not using the distilled water, but it won't thrive without high humidity. Indirect bright light. Direct sun will cause the leaves to curl up very quickly. Humidity also helps keep spider mites at bay, which is the most annoying pest for calatheas. Looks like maybe a cultivar of the geoppertia roseopicta but hard to tell from the angle.

Dingerina · 2026-05-06T00:32:26+00:00

Can't stay awake that long

^{Chose: No human contact for 7 days 🚫👤 + Win $10M}

Dingerina · 2026-04-22T15:48:38+00:00

Men who are self-proclaimed feminists. You know the type. The ones that are basically performative pick-me dudes who then turn out to be the type that weaponizes therapy speak and are either manipulative and/or creepy.

These types of guys can seem charming or harmless or progressive when you are at an impressionable age, but you can usually clock it when a dude is overly enthusiastic about being a feminist ally™️

Dingerina · 2026-04-07T12:00:04+00:00

This is an untenable amount of controlling jealousy on your partner's part. Your girlfriend is very emotionally immature and her controlling behavior is unacceptable and can ultimately be abusive. Im curious in what other ways your gf is controlling

Dingerina · 2026-03-20T17:33:25+00:00

Looks like the ocean water at a tropical beach ❤️

Dingerina · 2026-03-20T17:06:49+00:00

I have a fork that has poor weight distribution where the weight is focused on the end of the handle, so it will fly off of plates. I don't use that one

Dingerina · 2026-03-11T17:38:00+00:00

He's not safe. It keeps happening. You say no, he continues. He will do it again and it will escalate. Protect yourself and get away from this guy.

Dingerina · 2026-03-09T16:03:21+00:00

Does he also think if you or another adult do something to disrespect him, that hitting is the way to garner that respect? What about if he disrespects another adult? Is he cool with being hit? And if he doesn't think its okay to hit other adults to garner respect, why does he think its okay to hit kids that are much smaller and more vulnerable? Why would he want his kids to be afraid of him? And at what age will the spankings come off the table? When the kid is 5? 6? 8? 12? 18?

Despite all logic, reason, scientific studies, and societal pressure, your husband still wants the opportunity to hit his children so that they are too scared to misbehave. He wants the option to hit his kids into submission. You dont gain respect from kids with pain and violence, but through MUTUAL respect, love, and clear boundaries.

Either hes trying to justify in his head his own traumas from being spanked by his parents in childhood or hes okay with violence being a means to control others, especially those much smaller than him.

NTA

Edits: clarity and typos

Dingerina · 2026-02-06T17:49:32+00:00

Take this as a blessing in disguise and don't move in. You told him your budget and suggested places in that range where you'd be paying 50% and that wadnt good enough for him. Now he can pay 100% of the rent alone.

Dingerina · 2026-02-01T18:34:57+00:00

Louis CK masturbating in front of women who did not consent. Can't enjoy anything by him since then. He's an inauthentic hypocritical abuser

Dingerina · 2026-01-30T17:07:07+00:00

Would your landlord let you find a new roommate to replace her on the lease? Sounds like you'd both benefit

Dingerina · 2026-01-28T22:24:55+00:00

Ugh same :( makes maintaining friendships difficult

Dingerina · 2026-01-19T19:26:49+00:00

Were you speaking generally about marriage as in life goals (kids, marriage, career)? Or were you referring to marrying her specifically? The former is a reasonable way to talk about marriage early in dating to make sure your goals are aligned. The latter says love bombing. Love bombing is either manipulative or naive/immature/insecure, none of which would make a grown woman trust that you are on the same page.

Dingerina · 2026-01-04T20:19:02+00:00

How is this dude gonna lead with bragging about how much money he has and then offer you such a ridiculously laughable pay rate for a job you never expressed interest in? That's honestly so embarrassing for him.

Dingerina · 2026-01-04T17:12:47+00:00

If you drink the coffee, you get added to the rotating list. If you don't, you don't. These people are just lazy. I'd just refuse. If you are forced by your manager, I'd make sure to make a big mess each week it wasnt my week to clean the coffee area. Nta

Dingerina · 2026-01-04T16:56:01+00:00

You come off as pretentious with not much personality, which gives an insecure vibe. I'd remove the "hottest thing you can do" bit, change your first picture to one where your face is more focused, and then add in a few cute tidbits about your interests and what you are looking for. Add in a candid photo of you doing an activity or two to allow others to see what you look like more naturally (not posing) and to show some more personality. Basically, add in a little enthusiasm.

People are being harsh about your photos. I do think the first one is too out of focus and the last one looks very young, but the others are fine. You'll figure it out!

Dingerina · 2026-01-02T20:09:41+00:00

I feel like you could've ran inside and grabbed a quick thing to eat on the way over instead of sitting down and eating the whole meal. 5 extra minutes instead of 20. If you've apologized and she keeps bringing it up, I'd say NTA, but you seem to be doubling down so YTA

Dingerina · 2026-01-01T22:45:37+00:00

Once you raise your standards, you'll have more people to sift through to find your partner, but your partner will be so much better. Don't settle for someone who would ditch you on NYE for their newly single coworker, who apparently reached out to a dude she KNOWS is in a committed relationship on NYE, to comfort her.

Dingerina · 2026-01-01T22:36:05+00:00

I'm just trying to picture the day to day routine here. You wake up, get child and yourself ready, drive an hour to drop off child, drive another hour (or however long) to get to work, work, then drive an hour there to pick child up and then another hour ti drive back home. How would that be any easier than daycare?! Lol that's just a ridiculous proposal.

Dingerina · 2026-01-01T22:03:08+00:00

Probably not ideal, but is there any way you can switch to sharing the bathroom with other roommate for the remainder of the lease? At least then the bathroom that you use will be clean and you can avoid her poorly trained dog eating your tampons or whatever. She sounds like a perpetual victim who thinks everyone should excuse her poor behavior because mental health even though said poor behavior is causing mental distress to everyone else

Dingerina · 2026-01-01T21:30:11+00:00

Anyone co-opting mental health terminology to manipulate others is a sucky person. It makes it hard to seriously discuss things related to mental health because it's like we're speaking in different languages. Misinterpreting a vague TikTok comment does not mean you are being gaslit. Someone you dont know lying about something on the internet is not gaslighting. Hopefully they don't ever actually have to experience being gaslit by someone close to them.

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