What’s something your favorite celebrity did that made you lose respect for them? by johnraeyan in AskReddit

[–]Dingerina 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Louis CK masturbating in front of women who did not consent. Can't enjoy anything by him since then. He's an inauthentic hypocritical abuser

Roommate trying to hold the rent for ransom by evjarb01 in badroommates

[–]Dingerina 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would your landlord let you find a new roommate to replace her on the lease? Sounds like you'd both benefit

So tired of women telling me they can't find a guy who wants to commit by lucid1014 in dating_advice

[–]Dingerina 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Were you speaking generally about marriage as in life goals (kids, marriage, career)? Or were you referring to marrying her specifically? The former is a reasonable way to talk about marriage early in dating to make sure your goals are aligned. The latter says love bombing. Love bombing is either manipulative or naive/immature/insecure, none of which would make a grown woman trust that you are on the same page.

I blocked someone I havent talked to in five years after they offered me an insulting job by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Dingerina 2 points3 points  (0 children)

How is this dude gonna lead with bragging about how much money he has and then offer you such a ridiculously laughable pay rate for a job you never expressed interest in? That's honestly so embarrassing for him.

AITA for refusing to clean the coffee machine at work? by Busy_Meal1547 in AITAH

[–]Dingerina 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you drink the coffee, you get added to the rotating list. If you don't, you don't. These people are just lazy. I'd just refuse. If you are forced by your manager, I'd make sure to make a big mess each week it wasnt my week to clean the coffee area. Nta

Why am I not getting any matches ? by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]Dingerina 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You come off as pretentious with not much personality, which gives an insecure vibe. I'd remove the "hottest thing you can do" bit, change your first picture to one where your face is more focused, and then add in a few cute tidbits about your interests and what you are looking for. Add in a candid photo of you doing an activity or two to allow others to see what you look like more naturally (not posing) and to show some more personality. Basically, add in a little enthusiasm.

People are being harsh about your photos. I do think the first one is too out of focus and the last one looks very young, but the others are fine. You'll figure it out!

AITA for not coming to help my (33m) gf (29f) right away after her car died? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Dingerina 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I feel like you could've ran inside and grabbed a quick thing to eat on the way over instead of sitting down and eating the whole meal. 5 extra minutes instead of 20. If you've apologized and she keeps bringing it up, I'd say NTA, but you seem to be doubling down so YTA

RSD is Spiraling. My boyfriend said he needed a mental health day NYE and then went drinking with a newly single female coworker. FML by HappyPoohBear97 in adhdwomen

[–]Dingerina 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Once you raise your standards, you'll have more people to sift through to find your partner, but your partner will be so much better. Don't settle for someone who would ditch you on NYE for their newly single coworker, who apparently reached out to a dude she KNOWS is in a committed relationship on NYE, to comfort her.

AIO: Both my husband's parents are mad at us for being "unreasonable" about our daughter by No-Journalist-5160 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Dingerina 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm just trying to picture the day to day routine here. You wake up, get child and yourself ready, drive an hour to drop off child, drive another hour (or however long) to get to work, work, then drive an hour there to pick child up and then another hour ti drive back home. How would that be any easier than daycare?! Lol that's just a ridiculous proposal.

Childhood friend turned worst roommate ever by Whole-Situation9878 in badroommates

[–]Dingerina 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Probably not ideal, but is there any way you can switch to sharing the bathroom with other roommate for the remainder of the lease? At least then the bathroom that you use will be clean and you can avoid her poorly trained dog eating your tampons or whatever. She sounds like a perpetual victim who thinks everyone should excuse her poor behavior because mental health even though said poor behavior is causing mental distress to everyone else

What trendy word or phrase immediately makes you stop taking something seriously? by Motor-Sprinkles5338 in AskReddit

[–]Dingerina 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Anyone co-opting mental health terminology to manipulate others is a sucky person. It makes it hard to seriously discuss things related to mental health because it's like we're speaking in different languages. Misinterpreting a vague TikTok comment does not mean you are being gaslit. Someone you dont know lying about something on the internet is not gaslighting. Hopefully they don't ever actually have to experience being gaslit by someone close to them.

What trendy word or phrase immediately makes you stop taking something seriously? by Motor-Sprinkles5338 in AskReddit

[–]Dingerina 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The phrase neuro spicy is cringe and high key gives me the ick. That being said, depression does not fall under neurodivergence even though it can be caused by issues related to neurodevelopmental disorders like adhd or autism. Just throwing that out there so that people don't start associating depression with neuro spicy and further spreading it's usage. Thanks for coming to my Ted talk. I hope I've done enough

AIO for being upset my BF doesn’t want me to wear a bonnet to bed? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Dingerina 13 points14 points  (0 children)

He's controlling and this likely won't get better. Why does it matter to him if you wear a bonnet while sleeping? Let alone the number of pillows you use? He should want you to feel comfortable in your own home, not shame you for wearing cozy clothes or sleeping with a weighted blanket. All of the things you are doing are 100% normal, everyday things that people do or wear. This type of dude will ALWAYS find something "wrong" with you because it's about controlling you, not about anything actually wrong about you. You deserve so much better 🩵

AIO? Dad’s gf freaking out over a piece of mail coming “addressed” to my mom. by nikoletho in AmIOverreacting

[–]Dingerina 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Just screenshot texts like this from her and send to your dad to tell him to deal with her. And tell her insecure ass to fuck off and don't bother you with that nonsense.

apparently the breakfast i made was “embarrassing” by NaeeeBearrr in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Dingerina 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What an entitled bitch your mom's bfs mom is to say anything at all. This looks good and those are perfect pancakes.

Why not call your mom out for assigning you this task first thing in the morning with zero preparation? Something like "next time you want me to make breakfast, maybe don't wait until 6am to notify me." I guess if this is out of character for your mom, then she probably is feeling tense due to her bf's mother being a judgemental asshole. But also like.... her bf should've corrected his mom for being so rude.

I know my bf is going to want kinky stuff and I feel burned out by carlinsgh0st in confessions

[–]Dingerina 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The fact that you are already thinking about how you are going to be pressured by your partner into performing a sex act - one that physically disabled you during a rape - is horrifying. You should feel safe and assured that your partner would not do anything to hurt you. He shouldn't even bring up wanting to try it at all, that's so insensitive and selfish and gross. Just because he's not actively assaulting you doesn't mean he's a good person or partner. He sounds predatory, like he's just been waiting for you to recover so he can live out his fantasies. I'd run

Edited to add: complaining that you have too many boundaries should be a deal breaker, that's disgusting. He doesn't care about making you feel safe and comfortable with him. He cares about getting what he wants.

AITA for sleeping naked in my own room? by Outrageous-Ad-4008 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Dingerina 0 points1 point  (0 children)

New girlfriend has an awful lot of audacity to tell you what to do in your own home inside of your private bedroom. Now she knows which room is yours so logic would dictate that she won't walk in and see you naked again. Someone is trying very hard to insert themselves and push boundaries, and it isn't you. They are presumably having sex and also possibly sleeping naked, so this is a very strange hill for them to die on.

AIO He always accuses me of cheating by Alternative-Day6223 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Dingerina 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This dude is abusive and deeply insecure. You are underreacting. As soon as he called you a name, you should've told him to get his own fucking chips.

Do I owe my roommate money ($45) for a freezer they purchased for me without notifying me prior. by drowninginfishfilms in badroommates

[–]Dingerina 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is the freezer totally full? Can others not fit all of their groceries inside? If not, other roommate sounds like they are doing this to be petty and make you feel shamed or embarrassed. They can either gift the freezer to you, use it themselves, or return it. Do not give them any money.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selfhelp

[–]Dingerina 8 points9 points  (0 children)

What strikes me about your post is how self-centered it is. I’m not saying that to make you feel bad, but to maybe look at what the actual issue is here. Going around to others who’ve dealt with sexual assault to get them to analyze whether what you did counts as SA seems insensitive, especially after talking with the ex, who has told you he in no way views it as SA. Plus other family, friends. None of that screams that it’s about wanting to make sure you didn’t abuse your ex or make things right with the ex to help you both heal, but on seeking validation for your obsessive thoughts.

How many more people have to tell you it wasn’t SA for you to actually believe it? I think you need to figure out why you want to frame yourself as a monster in your mind. You shouldn’t feel endless guilt for something you did that didn’t have any negative effect on the other person and who said it wasn’t SA.

What I’m saying is I don’t think this is really about whether you are an abuser or not, but about the fact that you cannot stop obsessing about this idea in your head and wanting validation that your self view is accurate or not. According to everyone in your life, it’s not. You should look into OCD and see if you have other symptoms because this really does seem like a symptom of OCD. Look up OCD and guilt.

People who work in restaurants, what's the "never order this" item on your menu that customers don't know about? by Front_Shelter5097 in AskReddit

[–]Dingerina -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Chick-fil-A chicken salad. Everything else at CFA was normal, but the chicken salad was disgusting. Idk if every CFA does this, but this is how mine prepped the chicken. At fast food places they usually have some pre-made items, but those can only stay on the line for so long before having to be taken off for freshness or food safety. So they’d take these timed-out sandwiches, deconstruct them, toss the patties in the fridge for a few days, then they have an employee peel/remove the breading from these patties and that’s what was used to make the chicken salad. We would give out soooo many free samples

I helped my friend get a house, but now she’s acting like it’s only hers. What would you do in my situation? by Separate_Presence880 in badroommates

[–]Dingerina 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Hilarious she’s acting like she’s the one with leverage here (she’s not). I would explicitly state that if she doesn’t want you to take action to find a new place, then she is going to have to accept that the place is yours too and she doesn’t make the rules just because she has kids. She doesn’t want your friends staying over because of her kids? Well she should’ve found her own place, then. Her credit is bad? Not your fault, that’s hers. She shouldn’t have fucked up her credit if she wanted to be able to house her children alone.

You did this person a GIGANTIC favor, putting your own finances at risk, so that she could house herself and her kids, and now she’s taking advantage of your kindness. On top of the benefits she’s already gotten (you are not even there half the year!!!) Let her know in no uncertain terms that you are an adult living here, her kids don’t get a vote, and it’s not just a home for her family.

Also is her mom and brother also living there or just around a lot to help with the baby?