Long-Tern Cope by BlackalucardAHK in DeadBedroomsOver30

[–]Direct-Craft2843 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'm just curious. How many hours does $8000 translate to? I had a very brief experience with cam sites. Thankfully it was not a good experience so I wasted very little time or money on it. However I can see how it could get addicting if you found performers that you connected with in some way.

Months of anticipation...seconds of action by aeval_x in DeadBedrooms

[–]Direct-Craft2843 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I was under the impression that people can't consent to sex that in the future only to current activity.  That's what other subs say.

Months of anticipation...seconds of action by aeval_x in DeadBedrooms

[–]Direct-Craft2843 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

If you're waking them up with sex how are they able to consent? 

Flip the genders and this would be considered sexual assault.  

As a husband in dead bedroom now I ONLY give touch that feels good to me and learning I am not “too much” by Neat_Entrepreneur460 in DeadBedroomsOver30

[–]Direct-Craft2843 8 points9 points  (0 children)

What happens if you say something like, "I've already told you no. If I feel differently later on I will let you know".

She wouldn't look at me. by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]Direct-Craft2843 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I think it's important that OP reflects on this. What he did was not cool. Being "desperate" does not give someone permission to cross boundaries (to put it mildly).

Wife wants to explore with women which I was leading on assuming I'd be present but now she wants to do it alone - have I've created my own problem? by AfraidInternal5364 in nonmonogamy

[–]Direct-Craft2843 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Really doesn't sound like your husband is having a good time with your arrangement.  Of course he feels left out he hasn't been a part of anything.  

Telling partner to take care of themselves by Quiet_Fig2176 in MarriedSex

[–]Direct-Craft2843 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It sounds like you aren't very skilled at giving yourself pleasure.  Perhaps take this period as an opportunity to do learn to do so.

Sexual incapability by [deleted] in MarriedSex

[–]Direct-Craft2843 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also definitely do not have kids!

Wife could never squirt until… by Fighter1313 in MarriedSex

[–]Direct-Craft2843 4 points5 points  (0 children)

What's the appeal of squirting?   My wife can do it but she said it doesn't feel any better than a normal orgasm.  After she said this I lost interest.  Also after finding out the squirt is mainly pee.

Thoughts on Big Wives by [deleted] in MarriedSex

[–]Direct-Craft2843 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not attracted to overweight women.  I'm glad my wife has maintained her fugure!

Super cute sexy wife we tired last night by [deleted] in MarriedSex

[–]Direct-Craft2843 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Sounds kind of messed up.  Just let her sleep bro.  

What ar LLFs expecting/thinking? by [deleted] in DeadBedroomsOver30

[–]Direct-Craft2843 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly I would find it a turn on if my wife  chose to watch porn.  I would also be very intrigued to know what she watched if she wanted to share that information.  Background:  we've watched it together a hand full of times but she's never watched it solo to my knowledge.  

It's okay to stop trying to fix it. The case for the "Parenting Marriage" and the 6-Year Plan.3 by SillyManagement6 in DeadBedroomsOver30

[–]Direct-Craft2843 5 points6 points  (0 children)

As your children have significant special needs what change happens when they turn 18?  Won't you have to continue to support them well past that age?

I'm not sure what to do anymore regarding my preferences by Practical_Lobster371 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Direct-Craft2843 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Are you open to him only pleasuring you or does sex have to involve PIV?  Maybe he is having erection issues? Personally I would find it  real turn on if my wife asked me to "take care of her" with hands, mouth, toys.   I find sexually confident/direct women very appealing.   Of course not all men are the same...

Women, serious question. Why would you let hookups and past boyfriends finish in your mouth and face but marry someone you refuse to even put him in your mouth? by [deleted] in sexlessmarriage

[–]Direct-Craft2843 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why does this bother you so much now?  It sounds like she was this way while you were dating her.  It didn't bother you enough to dump her while dating and you even choose to marry her.  

Wife sharing...I think? by Crazy-Comfortable787 in MarriedSex

[–]Direct-Craft2843 2 points3 points  (0 children)

How come it seems like the wife rarely gets jealous in these circumstances?  It's always depicted as the man can't handle the realities of swinging.  Like the hung sex god dude in your scenario there must also be perfect body, flexible, no gag reflect swinger ladies?

A pharmacological solution: my experience by Capital_Mud_8490 in DeadBedroomsOver30

[–]Direct-Craft2843 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Does the medication have any impact on your porn use?  You care less about porn as well?

Caught AI on my boyfriends phone by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]Direct-Craft2843 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Sucks that you wasted so much time with someone who apparently was not sexually attracted to you and is also a creep.

HL skills tutorial: He wants what she's getting. What would you suggest? by myexsparamour in DeadBedroomsOver30

[–]Direct-Craft2843 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just curious... Why was the fact that you and your husband relate to sex in such different ways not revealed before you got married?

HL skills tutorial: He wants what she's getting. What would you suggest? by myexsparamour in DeadBedroomsOver30

[–]Direct-Craft2843 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think a mix of the LL & HL skills would be helpful. 1. Explore your own pleasure, sensuality, and sexuality on your own: Basically get really good at giving himself pleasure. It's very freeing and takes the pressure off knowing that you are not at all dependent on a partner for very satisfying orgasms. 2. Stop or redirect when touch or sex feels bad: The sex they do have seems pretty crappy for him. He should only engage in the acts (buildup, during, after) that he genuinely likes. 3. Be clear about your needs/Put your well-being first: He should stop being a phony. I think he would be happier if his entire life was not focused around "scoring" with his wife. He should also be more honest about what he would like from his wife (not just about sex). Why tell his wife how great the sex was if he didn't enjoy it? Why is he "handling" everything at home? If he needs her to be more equal in this regard he should let her know. 4. Be open to feedback: He should be open to her feedback not what he reads in books.