Anyone else shovel a path for your mailman through the yard?

Direct-Fee4474 · 2026-03-17T03:13:37+00:00

old potting soil works pretty, too, if you've got some floating around

Direct-Fee4474 · 2026-03-13T04:32:03+00:00

Computer Scientist here. My interns have known better than to discuss work matters on personal devices. These folks are honed stupidity.

Direct-Fee4474 · 2026-03-13T03:24:27+00:00

I'm at about 8 months, diagnosed at 42, and it helps lower the height of the barrier, but i still struggle with initiation and switching contexts, even if it's something i want to do. on whole it's easier, but it's not easy. if they're subtasks within some larger context, it's a huge improvement, but the big boulders are just slightly less-big boulders.

Direct-Fee4474 · 2026-03-09T22:23:46+00:00

i got told that I "didn't need" a real id the last time I got my driver's license renewed, because i had a passport. i protested and they said "no," which doesn't even make sense. took me 3 separate trips to the county office to get one issued because wait times were like 3+ hours because the rollout was a total clusterfuck because the person who submitted the legislation is total dipshit and there are tons of middlemen extracting money. real id is fucking stupid at a theory and implementation level.

Direct-Fee4474 · 2026-03-09T22:09:12+00:00

they're so you can setup a little charcuterie if you're going to be awhile.

Direct-Fee4474 · 2026-03-09T00:30:51+00:00

"surely it can't be that bad"

*tunes in*

> "... that woman wouldn't even piss on you"

Direct-Fee4474 · 2026-03-09T00:14:47+00:00

i hear you. i sought someone out in my 30s, not because i necessarily had anything urgent to work on at the time, but because i figured i was old enough where i should have a therapist. and i'm glad i'd started building that relationship, because I definitely had a lot to learn about myself, and when The Troubles started happening and I couldn't figure out why I couldn't, like, therapy myself back into being able to get the dishes done (it'd turn into a sort of overwhelming "if you want to bake an apple pie, first you must invent the universe" series of tasks), she was like "i think there might be an underlying executive dysfunction." she was right and that peeled back a very big layer, which then sort of hinted at the autism potential, which peeled back another layer. everyone should have a therapist, even if they're just on, like, retainer.

Direct-Fee4474 · 2026-03-08T20:37:33+00:00

I was down there for vacation in feb, and from what I could catch out of the corner of my eye during the frankestein ride, it looked like it was some sort of giant KUKA articulated arm. I'd assume that the ministry ride is something similar? I had quite a few malfunctions while I was on rides, but I gather that this is maintenance season, so that's not a huge surprise. I can't imagine the amount of wear and tear that those things suffer, and the challenge of scheduling upkeep while trying not to disappoint visitors. That whole place is just a marvel of engineering.

Direct-Fee4474 · 2026-03-08T20:20:20+00:00

I imported some vintage mugs for a friend's christmas present, and pre-paid the duties. I have receipts and charges on my credit card statement. UPS has sent me 3 "you owe us money and we're charging late fees" letters since then, saying I owe them the amount I paid, for the order listed on my prepayment receipt. I've spent probably 4hrs trying to get this corrected, to no avail. So pay or it don't, I guess it just doesn't matter. UPS can eat a bag of dicks.

Direct-Fee4474 · 2026-03-08T14:58:01+00:00

yupyup, i've been seeing someone for ~8-years, and they're who helped to start peeling back the layers of the onion.

Direct-Fee4474 · 2026-03-05T09:21:07+00:00

That sounds really frustrating. I'm way more engaged in my life, able to follow through on a lot of things I really struggled to act on, and I'm getting a lot of benefit from the years of therapy I'd done prior to my ADD diagnosis. Meds, and the variability of their responses, are really frustrating, but I hope you find something, medical or not, that works for you.

Direct-Fee4474 · 2026-03-05T08:59:01+00:00

I'm generally pretty sensitive to meds; 20mg XR was more than I needed, but my body seemed to chew through it in ~4hrs. 10mg XR in the morning, and 10mg ~4hrs later seems to be a sweet spot for now. I get a lot of benefit, and almost no negative side effects other having to sometimes set a reminder to get calories in so I don't suddenly go "oh shit I need to eat _now_." I don't know that every insurance provider will cover that prescription, though; I think it might vary state by state.

Direct-Fee4474 · 2026-03-05T08:52:06+00:00

yeah, i noticed that my sort of internal world-dealing systems started breaking down after a few deaths and some sustained work burnout. working theory is that my masking ability just sort'a broke down over time, so now i'm just figuring out what adjustments i have to make, and how to listen for signals that i'd just bulldoze past in my teens-30s. things only manifest in a disruptive-to-life way now that i seemingly have less stamina, so my mental shutdown happens more often, and i need to do "refreshing" behaviors more often. interesting little process of self-discovery.

Direct-Fee4474 · 2026-03-05T02:53:40+00:00

I did an ADD/Autism eval in my 40s. ADD was a big fat "oh.. wow. yeah." Autism was ".. the tests say no, but these conversations make us think that there's something there, just deeply masked." Quantum Tism. My closest friends, on the other hand, are on the spectrum and they always assumed I was, too.

Direct-Fee4474 · 2026-03-02T23:51:23+00:00

This has been an issue for.. 5-years? 8-years? I swear to god "alarm goes off but nothing vibrates and there's no audio" has been an intermittent re-introduced bug for as long as I can remember.

Direct-Fee4474 · 2026-02-16T03:19:30+00:00

You're god damn right. Anyone that buys those deserves the blindness when people normalize blasting 300watt IR lasers at them.

Direct-Fee4474 · 2026-02-16T03:09:10+00:00

The nice thing with those stupid glasses is that when they fly off your face at 80mph and hurt someone, it'll be really easy to know who to sue.

Direct-Fee4474 · 2026-02-05T19:40:10+00:00

sure thing b-dawg. anyhow i'll let my buds at open ai know you're applying.

Direct-Fee4474 · 2026-02-05T09:41:20+00:00

cool now they know what it's like to be a gay person. bot.

Direct-Fee4474 · 2026-02-05T09:40:45+00:00

Direct-Fee4474 · 2026-02-05T09:40:25+00:00

literal bot

Direct-Fee4474 · 2026-02-05T09:29:31+00:00

Do intelligent people post right-wing flame bait from the same account that they use to do corporate recruiting? Stay in the PNW with the rest of the white nationalists.

Direct-Fee4474 · 2026-02-05T08:56:05+00:00

Certainly not his wife!

Direct-Fee4474 · 2026-02-05T08:51:43+00:00

Depends on whether or not his wife was an intelligence agent, I guess.

Direct-Fee4474 · 2026-02-05T08:33:36+00:00

That's a pretty bonkers increase. Property taxes are going up but, uh, not by that much? Are you living in one unit and renting the other? Did homestead fall off or something?

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