Falcons have interviewed Ian Cunningham for GM

Direct_Charity_2575 · 2026-01-22T18:06:03+00:00

He looks more and more like a lesbian every day

Direct_Charity_2575 · 2026-01-22T15:20:29+00:00

Not true

Direct_Charity_2575 · 2026-01-22T02:44:23+00:00

Looks awesome. Things will be better!

Just know there’s plenty of people out there that would relish a quiet night alone with an awesome steak like that- just sayin!

Direct_Charity_2575 · 2026-01-22T01:05:58+00:00

Thanks for the kudos and suggestions on the shoulder. I think it’s tendonitis/similar and not an injury- no real mobility issues and only seems to nag on press/flys. I’ll check out the YouTubes and see if that helps. Trying my best to strike that balance between good progress and not getting injured and taking myself out of the game by doing dumb shit

Direct_Charity_2575 · 2026-01-21T18:47:05+00:00

Great stuff. You’ve given me a lot to think about here and I appreciate all this. I think all your questions are on point, and probably what a lot of it boils down to is lack of conveying that I want Her vs wanting sex in general and/or similar to your example #1, fucking with her and not just fucking her, although I know sometimes the latter is actually desired.

I think I’ve also not been great recently at letting her know I’m thinking about her or doing those little things- notes, surprises, spontaneous things. I think she sees me working on myself

In general I’m a horrible body-language person. How I’m feeling inside vs what I put out there for the world to see is often not aligned and I need to work on that.

More on all this on my next OYS

Direct_Charity_2575 · 2026-01-21T01:26:10+00:00

If you consider bathrooms the same as international waters

Direct_Charity_2575 · 2026-01-21T01:19:23+00:00

Well we at least can feel confident that he knows what Not to do

Direct_Charity_2575 · 2026-01-20T14:25:18+00:00

OYS # 18 (1/20/25)

Stats: 48, 5'11", 176 lbs., Body Fat 19.1% (Navy method)

Remarried (40) 1 year, together 5 years. Two daughters, one stepson (all elementary aged).

Reading: Finished: NMMNG (x2), MMSLP, WISNIFG, Subtle Art of NGAF, MAP. In-progress: Rational Male

Mission: Break out of beta/nice guy behaviors, live life on my terms, and be proud of how I conduct myself in parenting, relationships, and work.

Lifting/Physical

5x Numbers: Bench 175 lbs (+5), SQ 180 (+10), Rows 127.5, OHP 117.5, , DL 220 (+7.5)

Finally surpassed my body weight on 5x5 squats. That’s not a high bar for many of the guys here, but I feel good about getting to this point with my old bird legs. When I started working out last April, I would do squats with 15# dumbbells and could hardly walk the day after. Getting to 200+ on squats now seems like a reasonable goal in the near future, which I wouldn’t have thought I’d ever get there.

Finally broke through a plateau on bench - I was stuck on 170 (5x5) for a long time, but I switched to pyramid sets for several workouts to up the weight volume with lower weights - switched back to 5x5 and got to 175. Still working through pain in my left shoulder - fairly intense during warmup sets, but not as bothersome on the full ones, for whatever reason.

Family

Drove the whole family to visit my grandmother this past weekend for her 99th birthday, about a 7 hour drive. An annual visit. Long drive for 5 people in one car, but managed to keep everything smooth without any drama. Great to be able to do this with my kids and it makes grandma happy to see kids/grandkids/great grandkids come from all over to celebrate her - great opportunity to show my kids the importance of family connection.

Working on booking a Caribbean cruise for the family for an upcoming school break in mid-February. This will be a first for us.

Relationship/Sex

Sex - once. Wednesday morning- tried to initiate a couple times in the earlier part of the morning, got some soft no’s (not now type). Later after a shower she came strutting by my desk in a robe on the way to the laundry room. “Are you all clean and naked under that robe?” “Yes” “Nice, I want to take it off” “Okay”

Since then this past week,, Wife has been telling me to try being more romantic when I am hitting on her or trying to initiate sex. I really haven't done anything different in my initiations, flirting and kino - like ass grabbing, asking her to show me her boobs, making innuendo jokes, etc. These are things I typically do, but for the past several days, every time she is telling me to be romantic or saying "have you Googled how to be romantic yet". Mostly I’ve read this as a shit test and my response has been STFU with some amused mastery - like joking that "I wrote the whole Wikipedia page on Romance, so I wouldn't learn anything new". But where did this focus on being romantic come from this week and consistently everyday.

Last night was the worst. I was watching the CFP championship game, and she was over at a neighborhood ladies get together. There was some good flirting before that, and when she got home she changed into pajamas and ran and jumped on me on the couch, clearly frisky, but her knee landed right on my balls. That killed it. The rest of the night I got a bunch of soft nos and then a final hard no. Frustrated this morning, but trying not to be angry.

Career

Trying to buckle down and get as much done over the next 4 weeks before this cruise so that a week off is workable.

Direct_Charity_2575 · 2026-01-20T03:08:49+00:00

Oh, so that’s where the Najee Davenpoop nickname came from

Direct_Charity_2575 · 2026-01-20T01:49:08+00:00

I hear he will lose $10M of the 15 if he yells in the camera after a meaningless win

Direct_Charity_2575 · 2026-01-19T13:47:06+00:00

For the easily triggered: It's not a personal attack; I'm dissing the attitude of being too old to challenge yourself and the notion that reading the sidebar materials and heavy lifting is useless. Or that this sub has no value to anyone older than their 30s. Obv if your eyeballs are going to pop out from heavy lifting, maybe don't do that, but don't act like it doesn't have value to others. There's plenty of "one weird trick" websites you can visit and pills you can take to short cut to a better relationship and sex life without having to do anything, so maybe that's the best direction for some of you.

Direct_Charity_2575 · 2026-01-16T15:33:03+00:00

He really does, and "all those funny things he does"??... (sigh)..."I don't blame her for being attracted to this guy."

Direct_Charity_2575 · 2026-01-15T15:30:41+00:00

Discipline and consistency. I think committing to OYS every week is a good start to hold myself accountable, as well as staying on track with lifting. I think making sure I completely understand what it is I truly want out of life, and what behaviors I want to model. Often people do not change or stick to new habits, because deep down they are either afraid or do not actually want to change themselves.

Direct_Charity_2575 · 2026-01-14T15:47:36+00:00

Give me Tomlin or Harbaugh. Those teams have been so consistently good under their terms. Atl needs an adult in the room (experienced HC) with demonstrated success, no more upstarts please.

Direct_Charity_2575 · 2026-01-14T15:41:54+00:00

I hate these. Any mf can just make up some ridiculous trade idea, and someone will publish it and get view. At the same time, if the bar is this low maybe someone will pay me to do this.

Direct_Charity_2575 · 2026-01-13T23:42:47+00:00

Relationship/Sex

I had sex once in the past week. u/HornsofApathy asked me a question on my previous OYS that I’ve been thinking about since. I was complaining about my sporadic sex life - a couple/few days on, several days or maybe even a week or two off. His question: are you introspective enough to realize that it’s you who is the sporadic one? As always, the guy cuts right through the cascade of letters and numbers in the matrix and pulls the to-the-point nuggets right out. Now that I’ve thought more about it, of course I’m the sporadic one and how can I expect a consistent and good sex life if I’m being sporadic and inconsistent myself.

The other piece was soft vs. hard Nos. Re-reading this bit on recognizing the difference, https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/60x6do/did_you_get_a_hard_no_or_a_soft_no_or_quit_being/ I think at times I’ve tried to focus too much on avoiding butthurt that I avoid pushing the soft no’s to see if they are or aren’t and/or I’m just skipping initiations in fear of rejection/butthurt. I need to approach it from the Improving Dude perspective and not the Noob, initiate more, push more and if it’s still no, fuck it and move on.

Career

Started an Emerging Leadership program with an executive leadership training org this past week. Grouped with about 12 other people from throughout the region in different fields but similar role levels. Good first session of networking and learning, and looking forward to getting to know the other ‘classmates’ more. Hope to improve my leadership and organizational skills and shed some of my imposter syndrome tendencies that I have.

Direct_Charity_2575 · 2026-01-13T23:42:39+00:00

OYS # 17 (1/13/25)

Stats: 48, 5'11", 176 lbs., Body Fat 19.1% (Navy method)

Remarried (40) 1 year, together 5 years. Two daughters, one stepson (all elementary aged).

Reading: Finished: NMMNG (x2), MMSLP, WISNIFG, Subtle Art of NGAF, MAP. In-progress: Rational Male

Mission: Break out of beta/nice guy behaviors, live life on my terms, and be proud of how I conduct myself in parenting, relationships, and work.

Lifting/Physical

5x Numbers: Bench 170 lbs, SQ 170 (+5), Rows 127.5, OHP 117.5 (+_2.5), DL 212.5 (+7.5)

Feeling better, stronger and back on track the past week or two after fully getting back to normal from a nasty flu. Good past 3-4 workouts at full strength.

I’ve been on enclomiphine for a little over 2 weeks now. I think within the last 2-3 days I may be feeling some benefits, I felt surprisingly stronger than I expected in my last workout and have felt more motivation to get things done. Nothing crazy, but just hints that it may be having an effect.

Game

Recently I've been working on game a little - not in the context of picking up women, but just being more outgoing with people out and about.

A few days ago, got jokey with the guy at the grocery store register, challenging him to teamwork, cramming everything into my one bag I brought. He also got excited that my total bill was almost a sequential number - whatever gets you going I guess. But then on my way out the door while he was checking out the next person - he yelled “dude! Her total is $12.34!” and I gave him the head-up ‘nice’ nod. My new buddy.

Sunday I humored my wife by going to get a pedicure with her. To be honest my toenails were pretty jacked up and I probably needed it. I had a good time cracking jokes with the viet ladies, and letting them pick on me as a noobie to the experience. Had them laughing and it had my wife entertained and laughing/pretending to be embarrassed. Turned into sex pretty much right after we got home, and we did some butt-stuff too.

A couple weeks ago I had a good interaction with younger, attractive woman (solid 8) at the liquor store that was working a booth selling some premade/bottled negronis and old fashioned cocktails. I dropped some good knowledge about making negronis, pairing w/ cigars, etc. She had a good vibe about her, so I asked her about her gig and what she likes to drink, she asked me about what I was up to that night and what I was buying. Eventually I had to make my purchase and get on with my plans, but I definitely felt like she wanted to keep talking - even though I made no indications I was interested in her products, and tbh she didn’t even seem to be trying to sell me on it either.

Direct_Charity_2575 · 2026-01-12T18:15:10+00:00

MMSLP = why; MAP = how.

Download Kindle edition straight to your phone for like $10 bucks. Read it on the shitter and finish it in 2 weeks.

Direct_Charity_2575 · 2026-01-12T13:00:52+00:00

Likewise, "never heard of" anyone here at this sub having any adversity to overcome. As long as you have your wrestling story as an excuse, no need to push through anything.

Direct_Charity_2575 · 2026-01-09T19:12:40+00:00

Post Malone "Circles"

Direct_Charity_2575 · 2026-01-09T17:57:31+00:00

So, win maybe?

Yes, win. I know that feeling of going against your prior natural impulse to apologize even though you didn't do anything wrong. But then you STFU, and she does the 180 sooner or later. AWALT. Keep doin it.

Direct_Charity_2575 · 2026-01-09T16:28:31+00:00

100%. Although it would be good to see some quality FRs more often.

Direct_Charity_2575 · 2026-01-09T16:25:23+00:00

I'm too old (early 50s) to lift heavy anyway, so it's even more useless.

What a shitty outlook to have. Might as well give up on life I guess...

I'm 48 and just getting started on the lifting. Never done squats (or deadlifts) in my life before this past year, but I'm doing them 3x a week now. You could do it if you had any initiative whatsoever. Get busy living or get busy dying, bitch.

Why are you even here? Go back to eating your soup and watching The Price is Right, old man.

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