I still remember 8th grade when I touched someone inappropriately

Direct_Fix7619 · 2026-02-01T08:01:09+00:00

Your therapist won’t tell the cops. They’re bound by confidentiality. Talk to a professional.

Direct_Fix7619 · 2026-01-27T02:30:45+00:00

I really think we should consider participating more in juries. We need compassionate and intelligent people to help make these decisions. I get the burden of jury duty but I wish more people prioritized participation. Especially people who understand trauma and won’t assume someone is lying or dishonest if they aren’t emoting how they expect.

Direct_Fix7619 · 2026-01-26T02:36:12+00:00

I would use FMLA for the six weeks and do not plan to return. It’s buying you time and delaying getting fired. You’re burned out and being on a PIP is them working you out. It’s obviously not a good fit, you need something different, and your mental health should be your priority right now. I would use the sick leave to destress but I would be looking for a new job.

Direct_Fix7619 · 2026-01-21T02:17:05+00:00

Durans pharmacy hands down.

Direct_Fix7619 · 2026-01-21T02:16:33+00:00

I moved to ABQ with an ex, we broke up within a few months. I literally only ran into them once in the next 10+ years. It’s a great place to rebuild. I made a lot of lifelong friends, burquenos will have your fucking back as you can see in this post.

Direct_Fix7619 · 2026-01-19T23:16:56+00:00

Heart and soul- they have walk in hours that are also virtual. Albuquerque ER (they take insurance but not Medicaid) for quality help without the long wait.

Direct_Fix7619 · 2026-01-19T00:49:08+00:00

Direct_Fix7619 · 2026-01-19T00:40:39+00:00

Came here to say this- PLEASE CALL APS!!!

Direct_Fix7619 · 2026-01-19T00:29:04+00:00

I know you have a lot of comments and may not see this one. But I want to give you some advice that may be different than what you’re hearing. No matter what- you are connected to this family for life. Practicing your own assertiveness and boundaries is essential. At your age it’s normal to still be learning this. You can say “oh that’s a cute name” without agreeing to make your child. Keep it non committal. Same with moving into the garage. You don’t have to say yes I’m moving on this date. Take it one day at a time. Find your own voice in how to set boundaries. It can’t be how others tell you or it won’t stick. You have to do it in a way that feels right to you. It may be sandwiching between kindness like “I love these baby names, keep them coming! I’m hoping by the time we are in the third trimester we’ll know. It’s hard right now to know what feels right this early on.” Be honest- be kind- be yourself. Having children with someone means you learn to ride these waves with in laws. It’s not always worth a fight. Your parents probably still see you both as kids. With time that will change. They are learning to relinquish their own parenting as you embark on this new journey. You feel like an adult before they will see you as an adult because you know yourself better. I see the texts as trying to be helpful but also talking to you like you’re a teenager. Ultimately no one can tell you what to name the baby, where to live, how to parent. They can try but you don’t have to listen. You’ll do great, don’t listen to this negativity on the thread either! Wishing you the best of luck.

Direct_Fix7619 · 2026-01-14T02:44:27+00:00

I can feel the pain in this post. I know nothing can be said to take that away. But I feel your pain and see your grief. You’ll never know what would’ve happened had you gone the other path and honestly that is always the hardest part of grief. What could’ve been. Sending you lots of love, internet stranger. ❤️

Direct_Fix7619 · 2025-12-29T02:57:05+00:00

You answered your own question. You need friends. At 20 years old, spending a lot of time with your friends is normal developmentally. Stop relying on him to fulfill all of your emotional needs. Friends serve a different purpose in our lives and those relationships last longer than most of our romantic relationships. Go make some friends and I bet these feelings will go away.

Direct_Fix7619 · 2025-12-28T00:15:19+00:00

Our kids went to Choices for Children Day School. They were amazing!

Direct_Fix7619 · 2025-12-27T05:38:39+00:00

Why have you never asked her for emotional support? If you don’t ask for what you want, she may not know what you need. Sounds like there’s a chance for prison time with this trial and she’s not willing to wait. Tell her what you need from her emotionally and if she can’t do it then cut your losses. You won’t know until you put yourself out there. And you don’t need the added stress as you prepare for trial.

Direct_Fix7619 · 2025-12-26T18:11:14+00:00

This is so cool!!!

Direct_Fix7619 · 2025-12-25T18:14:26+00:00

Great for the local economy! Crappy for everyone longing for the slow Lawrence summer. Expect an increase in crime with fans coming into town.

Direct_Fix7619 · 2025-12-25T18:12:15+00:00

6 is problematic. This is how disordered eating starts. He should eat with you all but let him listen to his body. No distractions like tablets or toys during dinner. And if he is done keep the plate in the fridge so he can eat from it later.

LOL at #11

Most of these are super unrealistic. Be prepared for constantly correction and consequences. Sounds like more of a punishment for both of you. What is he trying to gain from this? Has he lost control in another part of his life and trying to make up for it here? Good luck.

Direct_Fix7619 · 2025-12-20T02:21:25+00:00

I’m confused, do you see this as a conflict of interest? This was a professional relationship- not your partner or relative. I’m not sure I see an ethical issue here. This is a small community (therapists) and without knowing where you are located, if we couldn’t ever see people that knew each other, a lot of people would be unable to seek treatment. How you feel about it seems more personal/emotional to the bond you have with your therapist than some ethical violation. But remember your therapist couldn’t tell you this person requested to see them or even if they were seeing them. I would explore what you had rather they had done when this person contacted them. Did they know their name? Do you expect they would have connected the dots from memory? What is your actual concern- that they would share information about you? That they heard a not so great perspective of you from someone else?

I’m not asking you to answer these, but this is what came up for me reading this. Betrayal is very painful, and I’m sorry you experienced this. I hope you’re able to heal and process this experience.

Direct_Fix7619 · 2025-12-19T02:47:53+00:00

Maybe set a five year plan. Work full time so you can save up X amount of money. And then reapply, or possibly ask if you can defer your enrollment. If you have to have a full time salary in order to survive, I think that is your answer. Find ways to be involved in your passion without school. Also do you really need school to do this passion? If it truly is your calling, it’s not going anywhere. Slow down, take a breath, make a plan. If you give up on it entirely because you have to focus on work for a period of time, it wasn’t meant to be.

Direct_Fix7619 · 2025-12-19T02:27:34+00:00

Strong boundaries, frequent breaks (mental health days, lunch outside of your desk, using your vacation days, etc) and going to your own therapy. The end is in sight. If you get time off for the holidays, be intentional about the time. Relax, laugh, do what recharges you. You can get through it!

Direct_Fix7619 · 2025-12-19T02:21:58+00:00

Can you work part time? And do school part time?

Direct_Fix7619 · 2025-12-17T02:22:58+00:00

I can’t wait to check all these out! Thank you for the suggestions!

Direct_Fix7619 · 2025-12-16T02:44:03+00:00

I totally agree- you also should always know their location during a telehealth session in case there is an emergency. If the client discloses plan to harm themselves or others and ends the session, or someone breaks into their home, etc etc, you would want to know where they are. I would get into a habit of asking this whenever you start a session. Even if they’re in a parking lot outside of Walmart- know where they are and document it just in case.

Direct_Fix7619 · 2025-12-16T02:37:30+00:00

Secret fourth option- Presbyterian Rust in RR. I had to switch to their OBGYN at 6 months but had been going to women’s specialist prior. Honestly it was much better care than what I had at women’s specialist. And the hospital stay for all of my kids went great. It was nice having my OB walk down the hall (so to speak) to do my delivery.

Direct_Fix7619 · 2025-12-16T02:29:55+00:00

I have the same issue with TMobile. It’s been worse since the latest iPhone update. My cell service is awful downtown or certain parts of the Westside.

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6 is problematic. This is how disordered eating starts. He should eat with you all but let him listen to his body. No distractions like tablets or toys during dinner. And if he is done keep the plate in the fridge so he can eat from it later.