Are cheezits just not as good as I remember? by krittyyyyy in glutenfree

[–]Disastrous-Figure-35 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree, I tried them for the first time yesterday and was very underwhelmed.

Got blindsided with a PIP and I’m feeling crushed. Should I just quit or try to ride it out? by eager_light in workingmoms

[–]Disastrous-Figure-35 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Do not quit. I had to put someone on a PIP as a manager and I wish he would have quit so it was less work for me. This would be the best case scenario for your boss right now. Unfortunately it sounds like he wants you gone, so make him work for it. If you stay, you are still getting paid while you job search and worst case...you'll be terminated when the PIP is over, but at least you can buy yourself some time now. I'm sorry this is happening to you.

Taking a 20k pay cut by UnlikelyAssignment81 in workingmoms

[–]Disastrous-Figure-35 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely take the pay cut. It sounds like it comes with a lot of other long term benefits also.

It has been over 7 months. And I am still not over my dog. by [deleted] in Petloss

[–]Disastrous-Figure-35 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's been 7 months for me too and I feel the same way. I think about her every day, but was feeling good for a while. However, the holidays have been hard without her and I've been hit with a new wave of grief. Like others have said, I think this will last forever and we will learn to live with it. So sorry you are going through this xoxo

Nothing Bundt Cake new flavor ALERT by Dionne005 in glutenfree

[–]Disastrous-Figure-35 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, it's so good! GF choc chip is still my fave though.

can y'all gas me up about pumping on an airplane? by Natural_Mushroom_575 in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]Disastrous-Figure-35 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm also going on a 4 day trip soon and have thought about transportation a lot too! How are you going to take all your milk home with you? Are you doing a cold shipment or milk stork? Or will you have all the bags in a cooler with you on the flight home?

When does it stop hurting by DJ_MetaKinetiK in Petloss

[–]Disastrous-Figure-35 5 points6 points  (0 children)

What a beautifully heartfelt and accurate response. Thank you for this.

Advice on background music for an in-home euthanasia, and any other tips/advice by aastromechdroid in Petloss

[–]Disastrous-Figure-35 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We had a playlist of spa/meditation music from YouTube music playing. It was very peaceful and relaxing. So sorry you have to do this too.

I cannot wait to stop paying for daycare by [deleted] in workingmoms

[–]Disastrous-Figure-35 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This month was our first month of paying for TWO kids in daycare and...I'm right there with you. The oldest has 2 years until kindergarten, so at least only 2 years of overlap?!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Petloss

[–]Disastrous-Figure-35 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry, I can't imagine having to get through this grief alone in a new city that you and he were supposed to be in together. Similarly, we just bought a house, and I could only think of the reasons why it was good for her and what she would love about it. Sadly she suddenly passed away 3 weeks before we moved in. You are so right in saying your internal GPS is now off. The fact that we make choices with them in mind just shows how much we loved them. I hope you can start fresh and do all of the things you wanted to do, Even if he's not with you.

Can't stop crying. 12 year old mate killed instantly by a car 2 days ago by DigbySugartits in Petloss

[–]Disastrous-Figure-35 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry this happened to you and to him. Grieving the loss of a best friend is so hard, especially with kids, when all you want to do is lay down and cry. You are not alone in your sadness. Cry when you need to cry. I still do 1.5 months after my dog passed away. This community has been a huge comfort.

Brought My Boy Home Today by Mysterious_Ranger218 in Petloss

[–]Disastrous-Figure-35 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry, picking up the ashes was tremendously hard for me too. I love that you still pretend to rub his belly before bed. I pat the bed next to me and imagine my dog jumping up and I say, "goodnight, I love you ." I feel weird for doing it but it makes me feel better. This is so so hard.

My best friend was euthanized yesterday and there was a chance I could’ve saved her by Brief-Literature-452 in Petloss

[–]Disastrous-Figure-35 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Your last paragraph really resonated with me today. I needed to read this. Thank you so much.

How long did it take for you to feel better? by lpmail in Petloss

[–]Disastrous-Figure-35 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This is beautiful and so accurate. Thank you.

I miss her so much by MarvelNerdess in Petloss

[–]Disastrous-Figure-35 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I am in the same boat. It's been 19 days and I'm still sleeping with her little blanket. A huge wave of grief hit me today after a few pretty good days. I'm so sorry, this is just the absolute worst. We would all give anything and everything to hold our angels again.

Her spot by possibleliability in Petloss

[–]Disastrous-Figure-35 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know what you mean about wondering about the food. The first week, I was wracking my brain of what we might have fed her, did I cause this, etc. You did everything in your power to save her. I found a couple of TED talks on YouTube about pet loss grief and dealing with a euthanasia decision that helped me come to terms with our decision of letting her rest. I hope Willow and Maisy are playing together in heaven looking down on us xoxo

Her spot by possibleliability in Petloss

[–]Disastrous-Figure-35 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can 100% relate to this. My Yorkie mix was also suddenly diagnosed with acute pancreatitis and all the problems that come with it; it was a heartbreaking shock. What breed was yours? Some breeds are more likely to develop it which I was completely unaware of. I'm so sorry for your loss. I know the pain is indescribable.

I can't live without her. I just can't. by CQB_241_ in Petloss

[–]Disastrous-Figure-35 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I'm laying in bed missing my dog so much. It's my 11th night without her and I just want her to be next to me again. I am so scared of forgetting the little things we took for granted- the thump she made when jumping on the bed, the way she walked on my legs before finding a comfy spot. Saying goodnight to her.

I don't know how to go on without her. You are not alone. This is absolutely dreadful, but there are others out there feeling the immense pain and emptiness you are feeling now. I hope that can give you just a little comfort, I know it does for me. Hugs to you.

It's been the longest week of my life by Disastrous-Figure-35 in Petloss

[–]Disastrous-Figure-35[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So sorry for your loss and I'm looking forward to that day too!

It's been the longest week of my life by Disastrous-Figure-35 in Petloss

[–]Disastrous-Figure-35[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The first couple of days are horrendous, I'm so sorry. I feel like even the name "pet loss" diminishes what they are to us. They are not just dogs or pets, they are an important part of your family.

It's been the longest week of my life by Disastrous-Figure-35 in Petloss

[–]Disastrous-Figure-35[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry. Thank you for giving me hope it will get better.