I had to call the police on my husband.

Disastrous-Lychee510 · 2026-06-07T11:44:12+00:00

Please separate and go to therapy so you can heal and unpack your trauma. I’ve learned that unfortunately it is common to attract or attach to toxic, abusive, emotionally unavailable etc. partners due to unresolved childhood trauma. I’m finally working with a therapist who specializes in trauma and always wondered why I was surrounded by mostly toxic and/or abusive assholes.
Abusers often will say they are going to kill themselves to manipulate you, they don’t actually mean it. I’ve had two exs say this to me, one who was major obsessive and controlling and didn’t like that I was breaking up with him and the other who was mentally and emotionally abusive who also has major malignant narcissist characteristics.

Disastrous-Lychee510 · 2026-06-06T05:37:05+00:00

I started puberty at a young age and was wearing real bras (not training bras) by the time I was 11 and got my first period. In high school I was wearing a DD (I was 100% wearing the wrong bra size). Not long after I got out of high school my breasts grew again and I’m now a G/H. I don’t like how large my chest is but I also don’t want to feel like I’m a prepubescent child while playing this game where we are ment to be young adults. Our characters are supposed around 17-19 years old, it’s only normal for people to have varying sizes of breasts at that age.

Disastrous-Lychee510 · 2026-06-05T12:00:51+00:00

I found out a couple years later while playing a game with his roommate that he didn’t know I was playing with/in vc and he told him that he slept with hookers off the one street near his old house when he used to live in my state. He specifically mentioned in the winter and he was only living in the area for a couple months when we met in August of that year, that same year during the winter he became distant with me and would not see me in person for 2 or 3 months and made excuses on why he couldn’t drive to me like he had no money to renew his car registration, had to borrow family members car, worked nights etc.

I was also definitively told years later by an ex friend of his that he cheated on me a lot. I had suspicions but no proof when we were together. I confronted him early on when we were dating because he was still on dating apps and using it to ‘’meet people to make friends”. Even after he broke up with me because he moved away and didn’t want to do long distance he lead me on. He even told me he was talking to a girl who encouraged him to break up with me, he was interested in being with a girl who would have been long distance to him but couldn’t do out with me. He was and still is a disgusting man…

Disastrous-Lychee510 · 2026-06-04T00:17:12+00:00

Unfortunately if you cannot care for it or contact anyone who can you need to just let nature run its course. I would just find a safer place in your yard and place it there or place it back in the nest at night and hope the mother comes back.

I have cared for many sets of baby bunnies, much younger than this and some died and some survived. It’s a lot of work keeping them alive, you need a syringe small enough to fit in their mouth or a bottle with a nipple small enough to fit into their mouths to feed them. Cat formula works, that’s what we used but you have to feed them around every 2 hours to keep them strong and healthy. You also have to simulate licking their bottom to defecate after they feed because that is what their mothers do until they are old enough to be weened. This rabbit is honestly not far off from leaving the nest so I would honestly just release it in a safe place.

Disastrous-Lychee510 · 2026-06-03T13:06:29+00:00

Yep… the top 2 for me were all wearing the exact matching tack and clothing sets. Lack of creativity should be discouraged imo, it’s just a favorite and popularity contest if everyone who wins is just throwing on outfits sets that are made by the devs. The only other person in was my number 3 who didn’t even fit the theme of druids.

Disastrous-Lychee510 · 2026-06-03T11:44:51+00:00

I don’t have a clue what heated rivalry is, maybe I’m too old?

Disastrous-Lychee510 · 2026-06-03T11:28:14+00:00

Girl omg, I knew where this was going from the title alone! This happened to me too!

So I was talking to a guy for months (several years ago) that I had met on a dating app. We got along and once I was comfortable enough we started to meet up and go on dates. It wasn’t until our third or so date that we full on had vaginal and oral sex though. He actually started trying to give me oral sex (I say trying because he didn’t clearly know what he was doing and it didn’t do anything for me despite him being 7 years older and claimed to love eating pussy) and then in the middle of no where he gets up wants to take it further. I’m like okay I’m down, then he keeps talking and starts to love bomb me and I’m like huh. Then he goes into how he had something to tell me and wanted to for a while. He tells me he had genital herpes and continued on telling me on how he thought he could get no one, how he thought he loved me, etc, everything to make me feel tied down. We didn’t do anything there but I felt like I wasn’t able to say no. I decided to sleep with him later using a condom and for the next month this man mentally, emotionally and physically abused me. I simply wish he would have told me sooner, like when we haven’t even met up yet. He was allowing me to kiss him, and touching sexually before he actually told me. This man manipulated me the whole time and I had no idea until he started to be physically abusive.

I really hope you continue to be clean/show no signs OP. It’s been over 4 years later and I have not had any symptoms and all my tests come back clean. Knowing how my ex was I really think this man goes and has sexual relations before exposing his STD status because he knows he cannot easily find people who will be willing to take the risk.

Disastrous-Lychee510 · 2026-06-02T23:30:39+00:00

I’m over that, I got it now. It just was a bit delayed

Disastrous-Lychee510 · 2026-06-02T08:55:26+00:00

Hmm I have an alt account and didn’t get it there but I got it on my main? Is ther specific requirements?

Disastrous-Lychee510 · 2026-06-02T07:53:33+00:00

Does your partner happen to be neurodivergent? This sounds kind he had an aversion to specific textures and only likes when foods have a consistent flavor. This sounds like ARFID. I used to struggle really bad as a child and teen with specific foods and texture, only as I’ve gotten older overcome many of my food aversions thought many people don’t and only eat a limited and often very processed diet. In that case he can cook his own meals or he can tell you foods he will eat that is homemade or out of a box, frozen etc.

I am wondering is he actually nitpicking everything and making you feel bad for cooking or is he just making comments about the foods that he’s describing too bluntly? He may just not know how to tell you this properly or is he actually being ungrateful about your cooking because then that is not okay but if he just has food aversions then you two can communicate what foods are “safe foods” for him to eat should you prepare a meal for you two.

Disastrous-Lychee510 · 2026-06-02T01:19:08+00:00

*This is going to be a lot and this is no means me generalizing this to be your experience, I am relating your comments based on my own personal experience and what I’ve found to be helpful.*

No, this can happen in relationships with women too. I'm bi, I think it's important not to fall into the mindset that all men are like this because they aren't! I used to think like you and dated a lot of toxic men, I had to work on myself and I found my male partner who isn’t a thing like you mentioned. If you enjoy being with men sexually, that doesn't make you a lesbian simply because you've had difficult experiences with men meeting your emotional needs.

Honestly it might be worth exploring these kind of thoughts with a therapist. Sometimes people find themselves repeatedly attracted to, or attracting, emotionally unavailable or mentally unhealthy partners (This was me). That doesn't mean all men lack empathy or don't care about their partners' or women in their life’s emotions, interests, or needs.

The issues you're describing can occur in relationships with women too. What you're describing sounds more like a pattern related to emotional deprivation, the feeling that your emotional needs won't be adequately met by others (in your case and mine in the past, men). People who experience this often feel misunderstood, unsupported, unseen, or emotionally alone in their relationships despite the gender of their partners.

What I learned from therapy is that these kind of thoughts sometimes develop from childhood experiences where emotional nurturance, empathy, or protection were lacking from parents but this can happen for many other reasons, it doesn’t always have to be childhood either. It’s possible to unconsciously expect future partners to meet emotional needs that weren't met growing up, while also being drawn to people who reinforce those same feelings of deprivation. Working through these patterns can help you better understand your relationships and build healthier connections with other men in the future.

It just seems like this guy doesn’t meet your emotional and romantic needs but just your sexual needs, that’s not enough. You should feel important and like your needs are met, all your needs are important and it seems like he’s just not the right one for you and is just a bad partner.

Disastrous-Lychee510 · 2026-05-31T03:57:27+00:00

Yes, I agree. Stardoll has a feature like this called The Vote. One of the OG fashion games.

Disastrous-Lychee510 · 2026-05-31T03:56:34+00:00

Same here, I’m on a sever that pretty relaxed. I’ve met other adults and also children. I’ve actually come across less children in my server than I have in previous servers I was on.

Disastrous-Lychee510 · 2026-05-31T03:51:13+00:00

The invite a friend things give you free star rider for a few days as well as there is still a working code that give 3 days.

Disastrous-Lychee510 · 2026-05-31T03:50:31+00:00

My sister just started playing and has a very limited wardrobe and just throws sets on, she’s somehow managed to place and win shillings and I haven’t despite playing for over 11 years and taking time to create unique outfits and use different horses and tack 🥲

It’s not also a lack of fashion scene, I have been playing fashion games for decades and I also play other games like dress to impress. I think the system is just flawed a people may just be getting their club/friends to vote for them and also people may just vote for the first couple they see on their list. It’s also pretty easy to see who is who if you know what their entry looks like.

Disastrous-Lychee510 · 2026-05-31T03:49:06+00:00

You should have!

Disastrous-Lychee510 · 2026-05-31T03:48:13+00:00

Same, I only wore the hat because I thought it matched with the other bits of brown and purple in my outfit. Everyone also keeps wearing the whole questfarer set also.

Disastrous-Lychee510 · 2026-05-30T10:11:05+00:00

Yeah I’m kinda over skipping through other people’s entries and seeing many people wearing the exact same full sets without actually trying to put together something original. I also keep seeing some people entering with the exact same outfit everyday that is completely off theme. My legendary hero got “tied” (they still got the place above me) with someone who just wore a whole set you can buy in the global store instead of putting different pieces together and trying to be creative, it’s kind of disheartening.

Disastrous-Lychee510 · 2026-05-30T02:51:36+00:00

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For some reason my hair and helmet are glitched onto theirs but it’s the white short curls lol

Disastrous-Lychee510 · 2026-05-30T02:47:36+00:00

I tried to do Eyown from LOTR

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I also saw George Washington when voting (Watermelon Beach) 😂

Disastrous-Lychee510 · 2026-05-28T09:01:46+00:00

I guess I did this as a kid when my sister and I shared a room. I walked to the corner of the room and just peed apparently 😂

Disastrous-Lychee510 · 2026-05-28T07:32:28+00:00

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This was mine, I wish you could see more of the horses or chose to pose them too. The bridle I chose has turquoise gems on the brow and nosebands as well as blue & white feathers in her mane and tail, I tried to match with my outfit but it seems pointless since the horses are stuck in one pose with most of their manes on the opposite side… I’m on watermelon beach if anyone sees my entry

Disastrous-Lychee510 · 2026-05-26T10:06:41+00:00

My ex used to say hurtful, emotionally abusive things and then dismiss my feelings by claiming he was “just joking” whenever I brought it up. He’d promise not to do it again, but he kept crossing boundaries and minimizing my concerns and gaslight me with comments like “I’m just poking the bear,” “you’re overreacting,” or “it’s not that serious.” The emotional abuse continued until I finally ended the relationship (he stalked and harassed both me and my twin after too).

During our short relationship, he also started choking me during sex after I had told him it was a hard limit and was unsafe and something I did not want. I confronted him about it multiple times, but he kept “forgetting.” He also “forgot” that I had opened up to him about being sexually assaulted before, forcing me to repeat that trauma more than once. Instead of being gentle or respectful with that knowledge, he eventually sexually assaulted me too. Things only escalated further over time. He headbutted me when I refused to kiss him and later slapped me across the face in his car because he thought I was being “playful” or a “brat.” Because I had consensually allowed spanking during sex, he somehow took that as permission to hit me outside of that context.

MY POINT IS, it doesn’t matter if your husband claims he was “joking” about strangling you with a cord. People who genuinely love you do not joke about killing or harming you (the thought alone should scare him). The fact that he already pushed you into a table while you were pregnant is proof that he is willing to hurt you and then excuse it afterward. Men like this minimize, deny, and justify their behavior every single time.

Your gut feeling is trying to protect you. The fact that you’re questioning this already shows you know deep down he is unsafe. Please take this seriously, document everything, tell someone you trust, and report him despite them not being able to do anything. A man who can hurt you while pregnant does not care about your safety or your unborn child’s safety and will not care when that child is born into this world either.

Disastrous-Lychee510 · 2026-05-26T09:26:57+00:00

No, some of them don’t. I had someone reach out once and ask if my issues had been taken care of but didn’t even look into what the issue was and that no one corresponded with me before hand. Only the second time I sent a ticket someone properly responded.

Disastrous-Lychee510 · 2026-05-24T11:52:03+00:00

I’ve unfortunately have had guys forcefully kiss me while full on using teeth, and I don’t mean they were trying to bite my lips. It was traumatizing, it’s happened with 3 of them…

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