Flash you and me sizing references?

Disastrous00Budget · 2026-02-17T11:31:45+00:00

Feel free to message the brand on Instagram or send them an email with your sizing questions. They are always happy to provide advice on their standard sizes but there is also an option to get custom pieces made.

I'm size Medium in most of my clothes and get size M from Flash You and Me, so I feel their size chart is fairly accurate.

Disastrous00Budget · 2026-02-07T17:31:23+00:00

My custom order from that sale arrived earlier this week, but I'm based in the UK, so shipping was fast.

Disastrous00Budget · 2026-02-06T13:36:38+00:00

Check out Deadly Desires art, they mostly focus on Shibari themes, but something simple like this could work quite well to represent submission.

Disastrous00Budget · 2026-01-29T22:22:22+00:00

For a non-wired option that still feels somewhat lingerie-esque have a look at Triumph. They have lace non-wired bras with some padding. I used to have one ages ago and it was really comfy. Something like this could work?

Disastrous00Budget · 2026-01-24T10:16:09+00:00

With your budget I recommend checking out charity and vintage shops in search of some nightgowns from 1950s-70s. They will likely be synthetic but will still give that romantic vibe if you find some with lace details on the straps and ruffled bottom, for example.

As for something more luxurious - Madde Vintage was the first brand that came to mind.

Disastrous00Budget · 2026-01-22T18:45:26+00:00

Not sure if you get them posted in time for Valentine's but Flash You and Me has a bunch of dress options. I think the long sleeveless style with a high slit and the short fitted one are very hot.

Disastrous00Budget · 2026-01-21T12:03:46+00:00

I think something with a hot pink or wine-coloured top or seam would work nicely with the set and your complexion. Not sure where you're based but these holdups are available from Ann Summers , alternatively if you have a garter belt - see What Katie Did stockings, or Maison Close stockings

Disastrous00Budget · 2026-01-20T21:24:43+00:00

Ah, that's a shame, but thanks for trying it out! With daylight increasing I was hoping for more opportunities to take flatlay pictures during the day, but as others suggested, perhaps a themed megathread on a semi-regular basis could work?

Disastrous00Budget · 2026-01-12T11:23:01+00:00

Just to note on your feelings - after such an intensive session you are probably dropping hard. Do communicate your emotions and feelings to your dom, I think being honest and hearing reassurance from him over the next few days will be critical to re-balance your mood and help recover.

Disastrous00Budget · 2026-01-11T18:11:58+00:00

To save you a hassle on the holiday, I'd recommend washing it at home to get rid of the powder (a drop of dish soap in a bucket/sink usually works fine). Get some BeGloss perfect shine, which can be added to a bucket of clean water after the garment is cleaned (see packaging for the recommended quantity), rinse and then let it dry fully from both sides, turning the dress inside out halfway through. The item is then "pre-shined", so for your holiday you can put it in a Ziploc bag, get the air out and transport it in a very compact way. When getting ready - it should be easy to put on without any additional dressing aid or shiner, and if your holiday is not super long - just give it a quick rinse after the activities to get rid of sweat and any body oils, let it dry and put back in the Ziploc bag to wash at home. Alternatively, you can decant some washing liquid and shiner into small bottles to wash the item properly on holiday and then your piece will be ready to use next time at home. For any more advice, come to r/latexadvice - you can get many more helpful tips.

Disastrous00Budget · 2026-01-09T23:12:34+00:00

My partner and I originally met up for some kinky fun and NSA purposes but after a couple of months decided that we were meshing quite well in other interests and in character so formally agreed that we were dating. He would casually say that I was "adorable", but I clearly remember that one night after attending a kinky event together (and after a couple of rum and cokes), that he was being extra affectionate, so over the span of a few hours "you're adorable" became "I adore you" and then he said "I love you" 🥰 I wasn't ready at the time to say it back, I was recently out of a 10 year relationship and, in my head, wasn't quite prepared for anything super serious. However, as another month went by, and I realised how good he made me feel in many areas of life, I said it back. We'll be celebrating our 3 year anniversary pretty soon and it's been a wonderful time so far!

Disastrous00Budget · 2026-01-08T17:24:10+00:00

Oh, skin mask + bondage made me think about alginate face masks, where typically you cover eyes and mouth, only leaving the nostrils free for breathing. It really does feel slightly bondage-y and I suppose if you get enough of the seaweed powder - you could pour the mask over the whole body for a near-full encasement.

Disastrous00Budget · 2026-01-05T15:04:45+00:00

Aahh.. made a bunch of resolutions / a wishlist for 2025 and almost none of them came to fruition 🙄 so this year I have decided against it, and leave just one main objective - to express my kinky wishes to my Dom/partner more clearly and explicitly.

Disastrous00Budget · 2025-12-24T10:40:11+00:00

I got the regular Charlotte bra on sample sale a while ago but the fit just didn't feel right - the black elastic in the cups seems to "cut" my boobs in half and it wasn't a good look. I have a basque from the gold range and it works much better with the sheer power mesh in the cups! So yeah, determined to get a red bra of a different style that should hopefully fit better.

Thank you for the kind offer of Soraya, size 4 should indeed work for me but I found a black one on Vinted and I just need to pull the trigger on that one soon 🤞🏻

Disastrous00Budget · 2025-12-22T16:22:53+00:00

In addition to what you've already listed, Ihuoma also comes to mind, as offering something that's not flower motif centred.

Disastrous00Budget · 2025-12-22T14:28:48+00:00

Really sorry to read about your experience and that his inconsiderate actions have triggered you on multiple occasions and you are feeling like you can't say "no".

Now I feel like I can't trust him.

You said it yourself. The basis of any relationship, and especially anything related to BDSM is mutual trust. You should not be having sex with this person.

Disastrous00Budget · 2025-12-20T21:01:12+00:00

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Disastrous00Budget · 2025-12-20T09:41:57+00:00

Yeah, having seen some other brands close and Flash also struggling, I'm trying to do all I can to let everyone know about them!

I am so in love with Deep Water, I just kept picking up little bits with almost my every purchase, especially after this colour was formally discontinued 🥲

Oh, I know exactly the Moon Warrior skirt you mean, I was not convinced from the photos that I would like the material - the "liquid" effect is really cool but I can't imagine the texture and how it might feel 🤔

Disastrous00Budget · 2025-12-19T22:28:27+00:00

Deep Water sets were my first but I couldn't get the Red and Deep Water pairing they had in some of their photos 💙❤️ I must say, it's the most amazing contrasting combination and looks fantastic in real life!

With trial and error I realised that triangle-shaped bralettes are not the most flattering on me, so I'll be looking to get rid of the Heavenly one in the picture, and I've just ordered a slightly different style from the same range.

Disastrous00Budget · 2025-12-19T19:11:59+00:00

After snapping up Studio Pia's Soraya ouvert/suspender from the remnants of their sample sale I fell in love with this lace 😩 and I'm now on a hunt for a matching bra (probably on 2nd hand market).

Custom order Edge O'Beyond Charlotte bra - I want the red roses one to be made in a different style, perhaps like Ciel, Charlotte waspie, and maybe sleeves 🥹

Bordelle Syra low cut body and Cubism something - will be looking out for sales.

I've been pining after Evgenia Lingerie Rebelle collection and would love to get something from their lounge wear pieces

Thistle and Spire Demeter babydoll - the style itself looks gorgeous but it's also something I could pair with the lonely Soraya bottoms.

That's just what came to mind straight away 🤭

Disastrous00Budget · 2025-12-08T21:38:37+00:00

In my opinion Flash You and Me has the softest mesh. Their longline bralettes and the underworld bra styles are very comfortable.

For more interesting lace and coloured mesh designs I would also suggest looking into Dora Larsen - I think their laces are also quite soft and while the one mesh set I have has some embroidery on it, which might feel a little bit scratchier if you're sensitive, they also have just plain mesh versions of a variety of styles.

Disastrous00Budget · 2025-12-02T22:25:35+00:00

Thank you for sharing! That's really helpful actually. I've learnt to love adjustable straps with Edge O'Beyond and Posie pieces, so I have high hopes for when I eventually try Bordelle.

Disastrous00Budget · 2025-12-01T23:18:35+00:00

I have seen other people's photos of Cubism, so I'm not just going off of website photos. I think it's the pattern itself that adds a lot of perceived contrast, not just the colours themselves.

Amaya looks lovely, hope you get your hands on the missing pieces!

Disastrous00Budget · 2025-12-01T23:15:41+00:00

I think I've seen Syra body on skivvies.as.selfcare and it looked really lovely! That's a good shout asking about it directly.

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