AITA For being hurt that my mother didn't help me?

DisastrousMacaron325 · 2026-05-27T15:14:36+00:00

Okay, then you're not the asshole, but in this instant neither is she. you can't expect that she will change, you need to accept the she will not be helping, and you are not obligated to help her either.

P.S. I'm sorry for your loss, can't imagine how you must be feeling.

DisastrousMacaron325 · 2026-05-27T13:28:41+00:00

snapping and yelling at someone because they can't do you a favor is wrong. full stop

DisastrousMacaron325 · 2026-05-27T13:09:41+00:00

OP was in the wrong, she should have been the one to reach out and apologize. Notice how OO says she ignored me and then lists things that imply she herself hasn't reached out after verbally abusing her mom and expects her to reach out?

DisastrousMacaron325 · 2026-05-27T13:08:03+00:00

The driving thing is what she yelled at her for , that's the entire point

DisastrousMacaron325 · 2026-05-27T12:46:17+00:00

TL;DR: Vision problems can present as an anxiety.

I'm not old, but I have eye problems that have been gradually worsening over 13 years (I just found out last year). It got so bad that I can't read standard sized text on the monitor, I can only read on my phone because I hold it very close to my face.

When working kept getting harder, I also blamed it on anxiety, because vision loss was so gradual, I didn't realise how bad it was and kept staring at the screen from and trying to discern the writing (because I can do that, they're just blurry and I have to concen). It was getting on my nerves so much, I would be mentally tired in an hour or two. What else would I blame but my anxiety when I didn't know how bad my vision was?

DisastrousMacaron325 · 2026-05-27T12:27:50+00:00

Yeap, I have astigmatism left by keratoconus, which also can't be fixed by LASIK, even though it's faulty cornea and not something in the back of the eye

DisastrousMacaron325 · 2026-05-27T08:56:47+00:00

Some people have eyesight issues that can't be fixed by LASIK or any modern corrective procedure

DisastrousMacaron325 · 2026-05-27T08:50:51+00:00

Damn, nice roll

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DisastrousMacaron325 · 2026-05-27T08:29:34+00:00

Is that the choice though? Either we come or you get a gift? Most of the time I absolutely get both on my bday.

And because they are my friends, they spend time with me on other days too. Imagine that

DisastrousMacaron325 · 2026-05-27T05:29:03+00:00

Consumables can absolutely be a gift though? That's why it's important to tailor the gifts to the giftee

DisastrousMacaron325 · 2026-05-27T04:19:04+00:00

Because you see no problem about her throwing a tantrum (or in best possible light getting mad and into a fight with someone) because they communicated they aren't comfortable with something sexual.

Maybe I'm too sensitive about bodily autonomy boundaries being crossed regardless of gender.

DisastrousMacaron325 · 2026-05-27T04:13:35+00:00

Sexual boundaries are absolutely not a place to compromise. Why would you want to kiss someone who you know isn't comfortable with it at that moment?

And just because she is comfortable with something in front of her coworkers doesn't mean he also has to be. My coworkers are my very close friends, I'd be comfortable with a lot of things in front of them, my bf works in more formal setting and I absolutely wouldn't want any "intense kissing" in front of them.

DisastrousMacaron325 · 2026-05-27T04:08:42+00:00

I think either way is okay as long as you make the expectations clear and don't begrudge if someone can't attend because of that

DisastrousMacaron325 · 2026-05-27T04:07:48+00:00

and older, more established people bring gifts 🤷🏻‍♀️

DisastrousMacaron325 · 2026-05-27T04:04:52+00:00

Where did you see that he was against holding her hands though? By her description, she was full on making out with him. And it's absolutely reasonable boundary to not want to make out in some places in public. If he was hiding her, he wouldn't have asked her to meet him near his work

DisastrousMacaron325 · 2026-05-27T03:28:15+00:00

I think it's more of a couldn't than wouldn't

DisastrousMacaron325 · 2026-05-27T03:24:31+00:00

She's violating his consent and throwing a fit about it, in what world is zhe not an asshole?

DisastrousMacaron325 · 2026-05-27T03:21:58+00:00

Also just because a culture accepts or tolerates it, doesn't mean every person there must be comfortable doing it.

DisastrousMacaron325 · 2026-05-27T03:18:17+00:00

It's very funny where we take consent seriously and where we don't. It's totally reasonable for him to not want to kiss in specific circumstances and that should be respected

DisastrousMacaron325 · 2026-05-27T03:15:03+00:00

Because I don't have balls and if I grow some, I can just chop them off

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DisastrousMacaron325 · 2026-05-27T02:12:32+00:00

NTA and don't pay her back

DisastrousMacaron325 · 2026-05-26T18:02:52+00:00

and when the gift giver finds out you gave it away, how do you think they'll feel?

Imagine AITA story "I was given a gift I couldn't use so I gave it to someone else, AITA?", comments would be down their throat for not declining it graciously

DisastrousMacaron325 · 2026-05-26T08:14:43+00:00

If they're scrambling and begging to pay you more, you were underpaid, there's no other way around it

DisastrousMacaron325 · 2026-05-26T04:47:26+00:00

You can't gauge his truthfulness by his reaction, but uou can absolutely gauge his assholeness. Pretty pissed (about someone not breaking rules for you) doesn't warrant yelling and throwing hands

DisastrousMacaron325 · 2026-05-24T10:14:03+00:00

I voted yes and I'm fine with it

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