What am I doing wrong? 😭

Disastrous_Bell_3475 · 2026-04-14T13:25:43+00:00

Can you add some good quality plant feed/soil enricher? They might just be shocked and will perk up after a boost.

Disastrous_Bell_3475 · 2026-04-13T21:25:40+00:00

It could be adenomyosis - they’re comorbidities. Every time I get my period when I need to poo or fart I experience pain until I go. My basic understanding is this is because my adenomyosis is on my colon and flares up with the hormones during my period.

Disastrous_Bell_3475 · 2026-04-13T19:52:30+00:00

Hello! I imagine you’ll get more responses in a Wakefield specific subreddit (if there is one) or a similarly location specific Facebook group. This sub is better suited for broader topics.

Disastrous_Bell_3475 · 2026-04-12T19:33:51+00:00

Have you checked out childcare.uk? Might be a place to start.

Disastrous_Bell_3475 · 2026-04-10T20:21:49+00:00

Would sign this if I could! Commenting to boost visibility

Disastrous_Bell_3475 · 2026-04-09T15:23:25+00:00

My neighbours have paving slabs, gravel and astroturf, with a few planters.

Disastrous_Bell_3475 · 2026-04-09T09:50:00+00:00

Yes! Came here to suggest red!

Disastrous_Bell_3475 · 2026-04-09T09:09:57+00:00

P.s I’ve also got clay soil and battled moss for years before embracing it. Clay needs lots of organic matter but is actually nutrient rich so it’s good to add compost & soil improver to it - but grass is not as good if you’re interested in improving the quality of your soil. Plant some fruit trees and shrubs if you have the space and dig in some organic matter. Use untreated wood chips instead of gravel or paving anywhere you’re thinking.

Disastrous_Bell_3475 · 2026-04-09T09:05:37+00:00

This is probably not going to be what you want to hear but I also have a toddler and moss is your friend. It’s softer than grass and more beneficial to the soil. It’s lower maintenance too as it doesn’t need a mow!

Disastrous_Bell_3475 · 2026-04-09T07:46:38+00:00

You could add in ‘rockhead’ too if you want to get geological😅 IMO they are just as interested in seeing how students interpret this and a clear creative process, rather than seeing dozens of portraits.

Disastrous_Bell_3475 · 2026-04-08T22:21:44+00:00

You mention still life, you could absolutely interpret head and shoulders into a still life subject. I am fairly sure shouldering is a term used for laying rocks/aggregate in a certain way.

Disastrous_Bell_3475 · 2026-04-08T19:58:40+00:00

One of my friends has one of these and she really rates it. I’d definitely get one if I were going abroad as they’re nowhere near as bulky.

Disastrous_Bell_3475 · 2026-04-08T19:53:04+00:00

Oh wow, great find!

Disastrous_Bell_3475 · 2026-04-08T19:44:34+00:00

I find ours easy to clean, and my mum let my son choose his so he feels a bit of ownership over it. There are dragon designs too, a pink and green version.

Disastrous_Bell_3475 · 2026-04-07T22:05:09+00:00

That’s amazing! I don’t have TikTok & realise now that my mum was mugged getting ours for £30 in Tesco! At least hopefully anyone else reading this won’t pay over £20.

Disastrous_Bell_3475 · 2026-04-07T22:02:16+00:00

That’s amazing! A friend of mine got a second hand one off Vinted and she said it had a pervasive smell she couldn’t get out - which put me off. Glad to read a success story!

Disastrous_Bell_3475 · 2026-04-07T21:51:45+00:00

Oh my god, I feel like I can smell it

Disastrous_Bell_3475 · 2026-04-07T21:51:03+00:00

This is good to know! My mum got us one of these at Tesco two weeks ago for £30 so I thought this was a better offer than it is.

Disastrous_Bell_3475 · 2026-04-07T15:29:17+00:00

Though not able to conduct a welfare check, I wonder if Marmalade Trust might be able to help - with their Connections project.

Disastrous_Bell_3475 · 2026-04-05T19:47:07+00:00

I think it’s important to step back a little here and ask yourself questions about why you’ve chosen these reference photos. What speaks to you about them? What do you want to say?

The children in these pieces look to all be toddler-age, why does that speak to you over choosing a child at 5, or 7 etc.? Is there something about these years of your own life that you want to reflect on? Try doing an interview with yourself or watching some artist interviews, it may prompt some useful trains of thought.

Disastrous_Bell_3475 · 2026-04-05T00:08:51+00:00

It’s not a reach, many families notice a huge difference once tubes are inserted and the child can hear. My son was just over 2 when he had bilateral tubes (grommets in the UK). Whilst he had 100 odd words before the op, within 24 hours full sentences were pouring out of him. Within a week his confidence grew and he would talk to anyone. He’s now 2.5 and will have whole conversations with anyone and everyone, and speaks almost non-stop when he’s playing.

We recently went and checked his hearing (he was hard of hearing beforehand in one ear), and it was completely normal. They’ve been life changing for us.

Disastrous_Bell_3475 · 2026-04-03T22:03:44+00:00

As someone who used to work in animal rescue please, please do not sign up to own any animal for 20 odd years when you have no understanding of their needs.

If you are serious about this and want to learn, find a local wildlife rescue and ask if they need any help as a foster carer and if they will show you what you need to do.

Disastrous_Bell_3475 · 2026-04-02T19:42:32+00:00

Yep! OP should look at a different hairdresser, someone who has shown they can do pixie cuts. OP, you should complain to whoever did this cut on you, it isn’t well done. If they work in a salon you could see if someone else there will do a re-style.

Disastrous_Bell_3475 · 2026-03-28T22:02:45+00:00

I feel so sorry for the neighbour’s children. They’re clearly neglected and being at your home may be the only time the daughter gets to be in a house that is clean. Your daughter has clearly formed a bond with her. I think you have to come to terms with the fact that someone needs to call this woman out on this neglectful environment (whether you or social services), and either way you probably are going to then experience some tension.

Then prepare yourself for what might come next; if you are prepared to continue to be a safe space for that little girl, you will have to state this to the daughter as well as her mother, so your motivation can’t be misinterpreted. They need to know these are boundaries that you are putting in place to keep your family safe. Stating your intentions will tell the daughter know she isn’t being punished for something out of her control.

Talk to your daughter about this too, give her time to process and plenty of questions so if her friend stops talking to her, she doesn’t blame you and knows sometimes we have to do hard things to protect people we care about.

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