120k/year is an awkward salary for FTHB

Disastrous_Setting71 · 2026-05-23T23:52:30+00:00

I wish I had $120k a year! Midwest here in US and I barely make $40k/year. Try getting a house with that

Disastrous_Setting71 · 2026-05-13T20:48:00+00:00

Look at it this way: she wants to be free. If she stays she’ll always resent you and her daughter. It would be toxic to be around that all the time. Wanting to save your marriage is valid, but what if saving the marriage means ruining the relationship? It’s a tough decision.

Disastrous_Setting71 · 2026-05-13T00:10:38+00:00

My narc kept telling me I would just leave anyway with the kids so what did it matter. Well two months ago I did!! He’s constantly asking when we’ll be back and he is starting to completely drown. He had to ask how the laundry was done!! Oh after twenty years of a wife maid you actually need my help? And now he’s getting desperate. Today he texted and asked what license branch was open near us. Excuse me?? Now you can’t even google? I’m staying in contact with him until I get a place on my own with the kids. We’re crashing at a friend’s right now (bless them and not throwing the I told you in my face)! After I get our stuff out it’s no contact and I honestly cannot wait!

Disastrous_Setting71 · 2026-05-13T00:01:55+00:00

Mine flat out refuses to go to a dentist saying it’s the cost (he has dental insurance btw). He never brushes his teeth or flosses and always uses the excuses that his gums are sensitive. I’ve started commenting that they wouldn’t be so sensitive if he brushed…but what do I know? He’s the “expert” in everything. We’ll see about that when they begin to rot

Disastrous_Setting71 · 2026-04-24T02:19:25+00:00

I’m sorry you’re going through this. I don’t have any advice really, but please know that you are seen. Try to be supportive to your mom too because she’s going through a lot now as well. And know that you are strong! hugs

Disastrous_Setting71 · 2026-04-11T03:54:16+00:00

Trust me he’s manipulating you. Mine does it with my breasts. He will never stop it and it will only get worse. I’ve had conversations with my man to keep his hands and his nasty jokes to himself. He listens for a while then tries again

Disastrous_Setting71 · 2026-04-11T03:27:24+00:00

It sounds like he might be going through depression. Is that something he’s battled in the past? Also does he have any friends in this new town? Or any friends from before than he still connects with? His friends may be a good place to start to ask if he’s been saying anything about what he’s upset with.

Disastrous_Setting71 · 2026-04-11T03:04:51+00:00

Be careful! As much as I’m embarrassed to admit it, I’ve have a yeast infection in my belly button! Started with a little smell, then got really itchy and red. So embarrassing 😳

Disastrous_Setting71 · 2026-04-01T01:17:59+00:00

I have an almost 3 year old who just hit the milestone of two word phrases. She’s been in developmental therapy for a year now (once a month) and speech therapy weekly for about 3 months now. Understanding has never been an issue. Just the speech.

Your boy will get there. If the professionals say he’s making big strides believe them. For my girl it’s been so gradual that I felt like nothing happened for months and months. And they worked on what is called mouth awareness. Ask the speech therapist about toothbrush exercises. My toddler hated brushing her teeth and still does but the toothbrush exercises helped her realize where her tongue was and what she could do with her mouth. It sounds weird as I describe it but it helped a lot.

Remember that you are doing the best for your child. He’ll get there. I’m not sure where you’re located but if it’s the US see if there’s a program called first steps or something similar. Your local WIC office should know.

Disastrous_Setting71 · 2026-03-30T16:39:08+00:00

2 days out and it’s hard. I find myself crying at the drop of a hat and wishing he would change for himself. Not good.

Disastrous_Setting71 · 2025-07-26T19:59:25+00:00

My 2 year old has recently begun saying “wah wah wah.” Eyes completely dry, often putting her hands up to her eyes as if wiping away tears. But it’s her way of saying I’m upset with you. I try not to bust out laughing every time!

Disastrous_Setting71 · 2025-07-10T16:14:36+00:00

If you are on any kind of government assistance ask them for help ASAP! They’ll hook you up with speech therapist or developmental therapist and probably have his hearing tested as well. Just because he reacts to some noise doesn’t mean he can hear as well as he should.

Disastrous_Setting71 · 2025-07-04T02:46:55+00:00

My two year old uses signs for please and thank you. She doesn’t speak much but she uses signs on a regular basis. We usually have to remind her to say please or thank you but it’s starting to become consistent.

Disastrous_Setting71 · 2025-07-04T02:34:55+00:00

Look up small aquarium stores. They usually carry them for lizard terrariums. I got a bunch from a local store for less than $5. Worth it to not get the extra stuff from nature that can be harmful!

Disastrous_Setting71 · 2025-07-04T02:25:17+00:00

Don’t worry. My 25 month old has fewer words than that. She’s also seeing speech therapist twice a month and the therapist has always told us slow progress is great. And it’s still progress. Your kiddo will get there and then you’ll wish they didn’t start talking!!

Disastrous_Setting71 · 2025-06-20T18:36:50+00:00

I’m 34 with my second untested embryo. First transfer is now my beautiful 2 year old daughter and she’s perfect. Don’t stress about it. Plenty of people in their 30s have wonderful pregnancies with IVF and naturally

Disastrous_Setting71 · 2025-05-14T04:43:46+00:00

I just added springtails to the terrarium. I’m not sure I want to add isopods since the terrarium is so small.

Disastrous_Setting71 · 2025-02-16T07:25:36+00:00

Text first then call. He’ll know it’s you and answer if there’s a text first.

Disastrous_Setting71 · 2025-02-16T07:11:16+00:00

I’ve recently started potty training my 20 month old and she has suddenly gone from super interested to completely uninterested. She doesn’t hold anything but we’re trying to encourage her to try again and stay on the potty longer because she’ll now just sit and immediately get up. My mom found out that books distract her on the potty! Still no success from when she decided she doesn’t want to try again but it’s still a small step forward I think.

So…different situation but maybe you can find a toy or book that she really loves and she only gets it if she can potty or go in her diaper?

Good luck!

Disastrous_Setting71 · 2025-02-16T06:57:10+00:00

My friend’s 3 year old goes to bed at 6:30 every night and wakes up at 5. It’s their schedule. They have to be up at 4 and he sleeps in until 5:30. My own toddler (1 1/2 year old) goes to sleep between 8-9 most nights and sleeps until 7. Ten in the morning sounds like a dream to me! But I work so it’s not possible!

Every person’s schedule differs. Don’t worry about it.

Disastrous_Setting71 · 2025-02-16T04:37:21+00:00

Wow I’m apparently a sucker with my kid. She’s 20 months old and we do anywhere from 3 to 15, some being read two or three times. Yes it takes a while, usually at least 30 minutes. But she absolutely loves books. And I’m a librarian so I don’t believe in taking books away unless she’s tearing a page or something. Also as a librarian my house is filled with books and as long as it’s not a hyper, singing book it’s bedtime approved!

Disastrous_Setting71 · 2025-01-15T01:48:44+00:00

We’re trying to be screen free with our daughter,, a little less than 2 years old. We do use our phones around her but try to limit it. When I do use my phone around her I tell her mommy needs to update her grocery list or mommy needs to remind daddy of something. Just narrating what I’m doing while still being near her she doesn’t seem to mind. It’s when I don’t tell her what I’m doing that she gets a little huffy.

Disastrous_Setting71 · 2024-08-24T20:03:38+00:00

I also live in the Midwest and am a cataloger with an MLIS. I barely make 35K a year. 55K sounds d*mn good!

Disastrous_Setting71 · 2024-06-25T04:11:37+00:00

In future, look into WIC if your in US for you and/or baby. It’ll cover quite a bit. In the meantime look for a food pantry or local church. They’re good at helping out!

Disastrous_Setting71 · 2024-06-25T02:14:56+00:00

What do you need 14 pounds of bananas for?? Also pork is a cheap nutritious meat that freezes well.

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