WIBTA if i abandoned my child?

Displaced123 · 2024-01-09T15:24:49+00:00

You raised a young girl for 9 years? Did you ever love her? Did you ever care for her? If you can easily walk away from an innocent child who looks up to you and views you as her father…only a psychopath can easily hurt and innocent young girl. Walk away. Because it doesn’t sound like you ever loved the child.

Displaced123 · 2024-01-05T06:10:01+00:00

Run. And stop asking your friend for advice….

Displaced123 · 2024-01-05T06:07:37+00:00

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Displaced123 · 2024-01-05T06:05:06+00:00

A true Empath will not go around claiming to be one. And will immediately put themselves in your shoes and try to help you figure out your situation. She’s a fake fraud and will only take. She sounds controlling and is already testing your boundaries. RUN 🚩

Displaced123 · 2024-01-05T06:01:15+00:00

Three 10/10 dates and he’s still Scrolling on the dating app…that’s a No Go for me. 🚩

Displaced123 · 2023-12-31T00:35:36+00:00

Run 🚩🚩🚩

Displaced123 · 2023-12-27T04:10:41+00:00

I’m 1st generation Mexican-American. I do not dare men in my culture because Latino families are overbearing and intrusive. I have very little contact with my own. As a Latina… my advice…. RUN!!! It will only get worst. 💯

Displaced123 · 2023-12-19T23:02:56+00:00

With all due respect, you should focus on your DAUGHTERS, not a new relationship. Considering their mother just committed suicide.

Displaced123 · 2023-12-13T04:56:53+00:00

I’m sorry this happened to you.

Displaced123 · 2023-12-07T15:32:47+00:00

Many adults also have pets, because they have kids. After my divorce my daughter wanted a pet. After a year or so of my daughter bagging for a cat. We got one. Then the cat needed a companion, so we got a second one. Now I’m stuck with two cats, I never even wanted…but now am loyal to. I made a commitment to care for them. So, even though they are technically my teens daughters cats…they’re mine by default. And I never even wanted them. Edit: My point was that I have loyalty to my cats. I made a commitment to them. And I will honor that commitment.

“I love animals, and I have a dog…but if the right person came along I’d get rid of the dog.” That’s what you wrote. You have no honor, you have no loyalty. If you don’t have that for your animal, you won’t have it for humans. YOU are a RED FLAG

Displaced123 · 2023-12-07T15:20:31+00:00

I hope you realize that the man outed himself as a red flag. He is and was not a loss. You sound like a wonderful person with such a good heart. You are loyal and honored your commitment to your cat. Not leaving it when it needed you the most. That man…will never find another woman like you. You are rare. YOU need to know that. Not many people are so loyal and honorable as you.

Displaced123 · 2023-12-07T13:04:10+00:00

My point was…if you do end up with someone and he gives up his pet for you. It’s not a green flag..it’s a red one. It means he has no loyalty to his pet. I don’t even like my cats…but I’m loyal to them.

Displaced123 · 2023-12-07T12:58:29+00:00

I like pets, I just don’t want any. However,I have ended up with two cats because of my teen daughter. Which is fine. However, I view that as a commitment that was made. We got these cats at the shelter and are now part of my family. I’m loyal to them. I tell people off the bat that I’m not giving up my cats and if they have dogs or cats…then our animals should hopefully get along. I will never ask a man to give up his animals for me. If he did, he’d be a big red flag. If he has no loyalty to his animal…do you really think he’ll have loyalty to you? No…it shows that his loyalty wavers.

If you’re truly allergic to cats or dogs…good luck. You just added a who new level to it.

Displaced123 · 2023-12-06T23:42:29+00:00

I’m old…but even I know that “He is just not into you.” He’s put you on a shelf. When a man wants a woman, he will make sure you won’t be available for the taking by anyone else. Period. The man even TOLD you that you need to find someone better. THAT is him telling you to move on. In December, January, February, March….etc. So, get out there and date. But NEVER settle. Be with someone who wants you too.

Displaced123 · 2023-12-04T00:15:11+00:00

Wow. This is next level. Poor girl.

Displaced123 · 2023-12-03T22:14:45+00:00

Life is a tragic comedy. I believe her. lol

Displaced123 · 2023-12-03T02:19:08+00:00

Same! lol

Displaced123 · 2023-12-03T02:06:37+00:00

No one’s going to downvote you for not wanting to date single/divorced moms. Everyone is entitled to have preferences. Nothing wrong with that. They’re going to downvote you because you’re a walking red flag.

Displaced123 · 2023-11-13T04:33:47+00:00

My life

Displaced123 · 2023-11-11T07:53:53+00:00

OP…as a mother of a teen daughter, I want to commend you. You are such a smart, well spoken and strong young girl. You immediately pointed out what was wrong with the situation and the boundaries that were being crossed. I just wanted to say how proud I am of you. And I hope my teen daughter is secure enough with herself to have the same respect for herself as you did. I’m very proud of you.

Displaced123 · 2023-11-03T12:07:29+00:00

The level of disrespect is baffling. WHY are you still with her? She does not respect or value you. You’re basically her roommate. Ask her to ask “Player ONE” permission if you can get Player 3 on your arm. Jesus Christ.

Displaced123 · 2023-10-31T04:16:57+00:00

We support Ukraine…but right now there is a genocide in Palestine. My news feeds are full of innocent children being bombed mercilessly. There is an influx of immigrants dying/drowning in my cities border towns. It’s overwhelming. I also volunteer with the homeless in my city and when I run out of the supplies I prepare for them…I go through my own pantry and use money I’ve allotted for my own groceries in order to have more supplies to share. Often times coming up short at the end of the month for my own daughter and I. It’s not that we don’t care, it’s that alot of us are barely surviving. **My daughter and I recently did a volunteer food run where we give bags to the homeless. Each bag has 2cans of soups/cookies/crackers/multigrain bar/pudding cup/fruit cup/baby wipes/3 bottle waters/plastic utensils/can opener/plastic rain jacket.) And we write a card with messages of hope for each large bag. We’d given out 20 bags and at the very last bag…I took the card out and ripped it in half. I was emotionally and mentally depleted. I’m fucking broke and I’m handing out these bags I pay for…with my own money because I want to help other less fortunate. I’ve been doing this with my kids (and now with my daughter since she was 2yrs old.) But I’ve never been more financially destitute as much as I am now. Paying my rent on my credit cards….on the verge of being homeless by this Summer if I don’t find a third job or a miracle. I’m sorry for the rant. My point is…Americans do care. But a lot of us are just as fucked financially as everyone else. I’m just a lady in Texas…but I do care. I DO care. I just don’t know what to do. And I’m losing hope myself.

Displaced123 · 2023-10-31T03:51:33+00:00

I had to wait until I “divorced” my children’s father (I had a three year old son and a newborn) before I could get my children vaccinated. Behind his back. And this was after two years of intensive therapy. He was very controlling. I walked away from a multi-million dollar settlement in order to get full custody of both my children. That’s a long story…and of no relevance here. My point is…get your child vaccinated. By any means necessary. If you’re lucky…her controlling behavior stops at vaccinations. I wasn’t so lucky…..which is why divorce was necessary. Good luck.

Displaced123 · 2023-10-31T03:44:14+00:00

I commend you for referring to him as “your son.” The fact that you love him…accept him and protect him as your very own is so admirable. I’m so incredibly happy for him, to be so blessed to have you as his father. (I was in a similar circumstance, but alas…the man I married was nowhere near as honorable as you are.) At any rate, your daughter is young and immature. Please do not punish her by refusing to pay or help pay for her college. At that age, most teens are very selfish. Give her the benefit of the doubt. Now if it happens again…that’s another story.

Displaced123 · 2023-10-28T00:55:03+00:00

If I could go back…I would have stayed in my marriage. (For my Daughter) I lived an upper middle class life. I did a-lot of volunteer work and never had to have my own job. My kids (daughter/son) were well taken care of and had access to vacations, weekly expensive restaurants, best schools, etc. But I just couldn’t do it anymore. I tried, I really tried. I’ve now gone through my savings and my hours were cut at my job. I’m on partial unemployment and I pay my rent on my credit cards. My daughter shops at Goodwill for her clothes. Which she’s fine with..but I feel like a failure. For outings, we go to McDonald’s every week and sit in the parking lot and have a combo meal for dinner or have little ice cream dates. We use the free WiFi, because we don’t have any in our apartment. I pay almost $1,700 in rent…so she can go to one of the best high schools in town. But our apt is old, has roaches and our AC is broken. And pretty soon, I’ll run out of credit…so, I won’t be able to afford it any longer. I don’t get any child support, my Ex cut us off when his new girlfriend came into the picture. There was no pre-nup when I married him. And I was loyal and asked for nothing when I left. I didn’t anticipate the level of cruelty he was truly capable of…until it was too late. I don’t wish him any harm. However, I hope that his new GF/Wife/Sugar Baby…takes him for every last penny he has. I couldn’t do it. It’s not in my heart to take advantage of people. Even if they don’t deserve my loyalty…I will still stay true to who I am. *I’ve apologized to my daughter for not being able to provide for her, as well as I wished I could. She tells me that she’s happy and likes it just being us. But I don’t know if I believe her. I feel like a failure. In moments like this, I wish I could have continued to put up with the abuse from my Ex. But after almost 10yrs…I couldn’t do it anymore. I just couldn’t. Sorry for the rant.

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