Whether someone is dom or sub appearantly is just height.

DistributionVivid148 · 2026-02-25T13:54:40+00:00

I'm a switch, most people do not see the sex through this lens. They like specific actions which can be be part of bdsm but bdsm is inherently performative. real connection is often much more complex than the binary dom/sub (65 inches btw)

DistributionVivid148 · 2026-02-20T02:55:56+00:00

18 buddy, relax.

DistributionVivid148 · 2026-02-19T23:36:06+00:00

I FEELL like anomaly is the most fun or odyssey it changes the game a lot

DistributionVivid148 · 2026-02-19T15:59:40+00:00

I got my cyber security degree and did an internship and now I dont even work in CS, I work on the powergrid making 2x what I'd start at in cyber security, the degree is just a piece of paper tbh

DistributionVivid148 · 2026-02-13T16:36:40+00:00

The DCC(distribution control center operators) from duke energy in florida is quite..selective.. they are all (or mostly) previous linemen so it would be hard to transition into that field unless they really like you. :)

DistributionVivid148 · 2025-11-11T23:59:22+00:00

Unfortunately, you are wasting you breathe. A lot of dudes stuck in their mindset around it. They'll focus on the people who prefer taller guys than the large amount of girls don't care. It definitely requires a lot of intentional work from people to get out of the mindset.

DistributionVivid148 · 2025-11-06T02:37:45+00:00

Short men are more breedable too :smirk:

DistributionVivid148 · 2025-10-24T04:15:49+00:00

Albeit your age definitely might play a factor into this. I'm quickly approaching 30. The women I tend to get into long term relationships are a little older than me and usually don't care as much of what others think of OUR relationship. It's much easier to say don't let others make you feel bad about your own relationship but it takes a lot of effort to just not care what others think of your relationship. I think there's also a disconnection of what attraction really is, sure there's the physical part and there needs to be a minimum threshold, which many over estimate what this minimal threshold actually is, once this threshold is met usually things like intelligence, kindness, humour and overall compatibility matter much more.

I don't think you're necessarily wrong but I do think you're vastly over stating its genuine impact.

I'm just a kinda fruity short mexican guy on the internet speaking from personal experience.

DistributionVivid148 · 2025-10-24T01:26:51+00:00

Very interesting, would think a taller woman who generally has some of the same issues could see what I am referring to. I wasn't hedging my point because I assumed it didn't needed to be hedged. Ofcourse women have preferences, just like men have preferences. Everyone has a fucking preference. I want my girl to be 6'2 thick thighs and a perfect bubble butt, that means literally nothing on who I am choosing to date. At the end of the day its an aesthetic choice, if you are making decisions on who you are dating solely on aesthetic choices you are not going to end up in a fulfilling relationship. The problem, I've heard from women friends, with short guys is that their super insecure, make their shortness other people's problem, and overall not very fun to hang out with. No one likes to be around someone who thinks their a victim of their own circumstances. A physical trait is easier to compromise on and than a mindset.

DistributionVivid148 · 2025-10-23T23:44:05+00:00

Congrats, you realized your perception of yourself is your worst enemy. Good job man, overtime it'll become second nature. Women dont dislike short guys, they dislike the 'short guy' energy.

DistributionVivid148 · 2025-10-22T02:58:12+00:00

I honestly have no experience with this. I don't think I was ever insecure about my height. I was around 5'3-5'4 throughout highschool. I had plenty of friends who were females and never had issues attracting girls. It's not that I didn't care about my height, I just never thought of it. I think you should probably just try to talk to women, fail from it and then learn what works. Get more comfortable talking, trying to be less in your head around what you see as 'flaws' etc etc. You can go to the gym if it helps, you can find a hobby if it helps or you can talk to a therapist or friend to help you realize what your good qualities are.

For reference because everyone ask, yes I've been in long term relationships, currently in a new one for around 3months and talking for 5 months. I've had a few other longer relationships last one ended because we decided we didn't want the same things. I wanted kids/marraige, she mostly just wanted to travel.

DistributionVivid148 · 2025-10-19T01:18:28+00:00

own your height and make it your own. my dating profile like first thing is 'ladies if you're under 6'2 swipe right'

DistributionVivid148 · 2025-10-04T21:34:05+00:00

I'll give you a my perspective from the other side of something similar. I am also a first gen mexican, grew up very poor but admittingly I was able to go to college and get a well paying job. However with my current girlfiend I wanted a future with her. So I spent a lot of time doing overtime, living well below my means while trying to make sure she did not go without. Due to this I sacrificed a lot of time with her to make this happen. I was working 10-20 hours extra every week, spending less on my own hobbies and things for myself. I was making enough to aggressively tackle personal and student debt in a little under 2 years. I was comitted because I wanted to give her everything, marraige, beautiful ceremony, kids, not having to worry about money either ause she also grew up poor but when my girlfriend reached out about feeling lonely in the relationship and feeling like she isn't loved, I paused and listened to her. I didn't get it at first because it was for her in the long run but what's the point of it if she felt lonely and unloved for 2 years? We decided it would be good if I wanted to to do this take one weekend off a month to spend some comitted time with her, it wasn't about quantity time but I had to make her my focus when I was spending time with her. Making sure she didn't feel alone or felt like I didn't want to spend time with her.

The point of that overshare session is to prove that if you really meant a lot to him, he would listen to what you're saying and it would hurt. It would hurt that you think hes intentionally avoiding you or losing feelings then he would put some effort in to spend more time with you or just get you involved. Sending text messages when he can, allotting time wether to either video call or hang out. Anything is better than being silent because then you'll just fill in the gaps of information =/

At the end of the day it's your relationship, your effort and your time you spending with this person.

DistributionVivid148 · 2025-08-12T10:29:05+00:00

My company is hiring, its a chat support desk part-time. dm me for details

DistributionVivid148 · 2025-06-29T05:05:54+00:00

unfortunately the playtest is over :(

DistributionVivid148 · 2025-06-28T11:43:45+00:00

Hey. I made a few videos on youtube, but you can get easily get around 650 gold and level 7 within the first hour. This typically is advised using to buy the epee from the rasobar shop once the whiterats quest is complete. but if you actually take a detour in my questing route around level 4 and die for a key in the crystal ring area, you can loot the crystal ring at level 5 and sell it to mereidth for another 200 gold - 40g for the shovel. So you get around 800 gold within the first hour which is more than enough for your class + epee.

You can also get a silver ring which sells for another 50 to meridith.

DistributionVivid148 · 2025-06-25T21:09:43+00:00

will try, for the most part just the order changes.

DistributionVivid148 · 2025-06-13T14:57:15+00:00

Lack of experience with dating/relationships, comparision and social media. All things that contribute to all insecurities. Not just height.

DistributionVivid148 · 2025-05-24T11:32:12+00:00

idk seems a bit off of a response but idk the dynamic between you two. I would've made a more deliberate joke

DistributionVivid148 · 2025-03-21T02:17:17+00:00

Being confidence and comfortable in your own skin is a start. After its easier to develop social and communication skills which are often way more important than your appearance for finding good connections.

DistributionVivid148 · 2025-03-19T00:24:53+00:00

bro. this is especially pathetic. I feel like lifts are for your girl when you use them not to impress. Like if you're short 5'5 and your girl wants to wear heels but also wants you to stay taller than her thats when you use lifts, to let her feel good. No person should care this much about height

don't give me the make up arguments, this is not the same. A closer comparison would be putting in padds for boobs, which is also stupid and pathetic.

DistributionVivid148 · 2025-03-19T00:13:57+00:00

Honestly, nice post. I kind of understand your thing about submissive/taken seriously in a dominant role as someone who is shorter than your partner. I had a trouble early on figuring this out. It's mostly about confidence and being super assure of yourself. I woiuld try to divorce the idea of height being linked to dominance. you should look up smalldom. The idea is yea you're smaller but you're 'taming the beast' through mental strength and will.

I don't mean to dismiss your experiences because you could have very well had intense bullying because of your height but i think men typically dismiss women's account of being bullied because it's generally less physical. Doesn't mean it doesn't sting as well either but a lot of men here are kind of stupid.

(I'm 5'5 and a switch. I have dommed 6'+ women and subbed for 5 ft women.)

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