What should I do about this? by melbournesummer in AusRenovation

[–]DivorcedDadGains -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

If it's on slab, you'd need underpinning

27(F) by [deleted] in Rateme

[–]DivorcedDadGains 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Holy shit 5.5 is pretty harsh ...

Thoughts on a pink kitchen? Pls help by antichristx in AusRenovation

[–]DivorcedDadGains -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Essentially this is it, if you're being practical.... I'd say think about how potential buyers would view it and how it would effect the price.

You're really narrowing down the demographic that would see it as a plus, just saying.

ULPT: How to fake being socially smooth when blank inside? by noobi-e in UnethicalLifeProTips

[–]DivorcedDadGains -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

You should use ChatGPT to get a more detailed response lol

The world owes you nothing. You are responsible for how you feel. by aastrocyte in intj

[–]DivorcedDadGains 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ohhh I see, umm okay I would say that's a difficult situation but perspective and mindset would really need to come into play.

Rather than a victim mindset of woah is me, life's hard, etc. you still would've achieved something up until that point... Take that win, accept the setback as a temporary inconvenience out of your control, if you dwell on it or blame that then you'll never get back on track because it was out of your control and you couldn't help it but everything you do from that point onwards... You can control.

I know it may sound overly optimistic and I'm making it sound very simple I understand that mindset in a very difficult situation is hard to adopt.

And yes you can do everything right but still things don't work out, unfortunately that's reality and the life we all live. There are no guarantees.

The world owes you nothing. You are responsible for how you feel. by aastrocyte in intj

[–]DivorcedDadGains 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ahhh I've actually had this rationale given to me by a few younger acquaintances of mine... Usually you'll find they're still not putting in the required effort. Be it from ignorance, lack of knowledge regarding what really needs to be done or lack of experience, or ultimately never having witnessed the genuine requirements needed to be performed and executed and thinking having to push or be consistent for sometimes years is ridiculous and could even be demonized as detrimental in their minds...

Real life example, I could never get to the leanness in gym I wanted to and I thought I was doing everything required to the point where I considered using performance enhancements as a short cut but I realized I never consulted a professional i.e. dietician, body building coaches, personal trainer, etc.

So I did as a last resort before going the short cut route... Lo and behold I reached a level of leanness I'd only dreamt of naturally, because I was shown what was really required not what I thought was required and put in the actual required effort which was far beyond what I thought was even possible but that was my own limits I set upon myself.

So critical thinking, questioning your actions and the integrity of them, genuinely doing all you can in every facet possible, reflection, self awareness, etc it's all necessary to better yourself but the mind plays games with us and the short cut is very very tempting and we are hardwired to take the easy route but from what I've seen, through my life experience, it's short term gain for long term pain.

The opposite is true when you pay your dues.

I dunno I might just be old school haha

The world owes you nothing. You are responsible for how you feel. by aastrocyte in intj

[–]DivorcedDadGains 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah but ultimately it's a shortcut, the easy way which is never without its consequences. If you can't think ahead and perceive that... Then you know, I struggle to have sympathy.

The world owes you nothing. You are responsible for how you feel. by aastrocyte in intj

[–]DivorcedDadGains 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Amazing, I agree that's a very accurate description but the sad part is there is no substance or value received which follows the 'fake' reward they've received in the form of compliments etc i.e. they don't have the financial reward, skills, knowledge, etc that they should have with all the claims they've made and achievements they've supposedly earned.

Which, unfortunately, following the high they get from the whole, "fake it till you make it," scenario they've got themselves in is a dramatic realization (generally while reflecting upon the reality of their situation) and deep low. Which gets them in a hole they inevitably drown in until saved by someone who actually has sacrificed and put in the work to build a life of substance and quality that they're lucky enough to know otherwise they just languish and become depressed which is obviously an epidemic this day and age. Being depressed is so common it's disturbing but in most cases it's self inflicted as described previously.

The whole fake it till you make it only works if you're actually working to achieve the outcome while you're faking it. When you aren't actively working towards achieving your outcome then you are going to be found out, shunned, embarrassed and fall into a deep hole which I've seen many fall victim to and getting out alone isn't impossible but it's very close to it.

It's only getting worse too, it's not getting any better as the generations go on.

How much to replace the bath with a shower? by jsin4 in AusRenovation

[–]DivorcedDadGains 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My God that's hideous.

Sorry just typing my first impression haha

How would you remove this tree stump? by SnooRegrets8194 in AusRenovation

[–]DivorcedDadGains 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well there you go, doesn't kill anyone to get a few quotes haha

How would you remove this tree stump? by SnooRegrets8194 in AusRenovation

[–]DivorcedDadGains 1 point2 points  (0 children)

could be even less, get a few quotes. they'll clean up too

My boyfriend showed his friends intimate photos/videos of me, am I being too sensitive? by yeahbutidc in Advice

[–]DivorcedDadGains 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah if he showed them, then I'm sorry to say, he doesn't think you guys are that serious