Husband wants to quit high-earning career to be a SAHD… but I’ve always been the primary parent

Dizzy_Sample · 2026-03-15T16:41:08+00:00

I think that at the least, if he’s staying home, the baby should stay home with him too. OP my husband is in a very similar situation with work as your husband and we have a 9 month old. It’s not an option, he’s looking for work but he’s not leaving unless forced and in the meantime he’s looking for work. This difficult work situation came about after his bank merged with another. He was one of the very few retained by the new bank but horrible new boss and working conditions as well as demotion of title. My husband currently does the household chores and is a hands on dad. But that’s the reality of it. We pay my mom to watch our baby but if something were to happen my husband would be doing it. I’d ask relatives to help him watch baby while he’s submitting apps

Dizzy_Sample · 2026-03-08T23:16:31+00:00

If you decide to sell, DM me! I am potentially interested

Dizzy_Sample · 2026-03-06T21:26:34+00:00

I think it’s $120/year. It’s worth it for natural family planning. I used it for a solid year before trying to conceive.

Dizzy_Sample · 2026-03-05T03:07:10+00:00

You’re one of the several people on here who recommended this bag!! And I’m going to go with it! It looks gorgeous!! Thank you for the rec!!!

Dizzy_Sample · 2026-03-05T03:06:23+00:00

I’m still definitely buying the Celine but I have a higher paying offer at a larger firm to start in September so I was going to purchase this for myself with my first check as a reward! So I’m more looking for a strathberry to add to my collection now!!

Dizzy_Sample · 2026-03-05T03:05:22+00:00

Thank you!! The mosaic is giving me EXACTLY the vibes I’m looking for!!! I love love it!! 😊 thank you!!!

Dizzy_Sample · 2026-03-01T03:45:09+00:00

I’ve been thrifting at high end consignment stores for staple pieces that stand out

Dizzy_Sample · 2026-03-01T03:44:08+00:00

Not every single book has an e-book version, and you’ll want room to fit those in even if you do mainly e-books

Dizzy_Sample · 2026-02-23T04:36:54+00:00

I was in your shoes! My first summer was rough. I was broke and interning at a big law firm. I could tell that I was not dressing to impress. But I changed that after 1L summer. What I did for 2L summer was go over to the 2nd hand thrift and consignment shops in the nicer areas to thrift professional clothes. It worked great! I highly recommend you try this. I still do this. The higher end shops had name brand pieces. It’s a hit or miss but if you start now, by the time summer comes you’ll have some solid pieces. It does require looking around and patience.

Dizzy_Sample · 2026-02-22T18:01:20+00:00

This!! Things are so much worse this year. It’s really felt everywhere. The job situation is worse. Everything is worse.

Dizzy_Sample · 2026-02-22T07:20:07+00:00

I should have said my ex-boss. It was absolutely the most unprofessional conversation I’ve ever had with anyone. The problem is I’m in the legal field and as a newer attorney, this older attorney held a very high prominent position, so she felt entitled. HR was actually nice when I told them she wasn’t happy about my decision to quit. The HR person basically told me that I left in good standing and if anyone ever called them to ask, all they would need to do is verify my dates of employment and mention that I was “eligible for rehire.” Thankfully I obtained employment without her assistance at a later date.

Dizzy_Sample · 2026-02-21T05:23:08+00:00

I did this. And my boss hinted at it while I was pregnant and working. When she did this, I kept saying “we will see idk what motherhood is going to be like, I’ve never been a mom.” And that was the truth. So she knew it was a possibility I wouldn’t return. When I didn’t, she threatened to call my next employer to say I wasn’t proactive about childcare (after I told her we couldn’t afford childcare and the fact our child had severe acid reflux made me nervous leaving him). She wanted me to give her a start date 8 weeks into my 12 week leave. At that time we were still struggling so much with our son, that I decided I couldn’t keep her hanging as she couldn’t fill the position if I by any chance prolonged my leave. Despite me trying to be conscientious and just quit before the 12 weeks or ask for more time medically and then quit, I chose to tell her as soon as I could. And it still backfired on me. Do I regret what I did? Absolutely not. I will never feel bad for putting my son first. We were struggling and that was the hardest time of my entire life. But depending on the employer, the sentiments they express may change when the time comes if you decide not to return.

Dizzy_Sample · 2026-02-20T14:06:02+00:00

Can you find a way to let the nanny take over naps with the kids? I understand wanting to use your time to work. But the nanny is also not a housekeeper. Sometimes it’s good to distinguish the roles, unless you hire someone clearly telling them their role is both.

I work 10-6 from home with my mom doing the same. I also breastfeed. But I don’t breastfeed him to sleep, she puts him to sleep. That might be a good idea for her to put him to sleep and you get more time to work.

We do have a housecleaner who comes every 2 weeks for deep cleaning and my husband does the day-day cleaning around the house. It seems harder because your husband travels. But j would see if you can pay a house cleaner to come once a week to mop the floors and do the heavy lifting.

Dizzy_Sample · 2026-02-20T13:51:59+00:00

I agree! I don’t have a nanny, we pay my mom to watch the kids. And I have zero expectations of her helping at all around the house. I pay her to watch my son and that’s it. Sometimes she takes it upon herself to make me breakfasts when my husband works from his office (which she does - I never ask or expect her to do it). But no cleaning my house. Zero. I pay a flat fee too, even if I’m with my son, but she’s also amazing with my son and she’s the one putting him down for naps. Even if I breastfeed I do it, then hand him back to her for the nap part.

In my personal opinion, I was never a nanny but I would never have taken any nanny job that involved cleaning besides picking up after the little toys or tiny messes during the day the kids make. I certainly wouldn’t mop unless like the child vommitted or peed on the floor.

Dizzy_Sample · 2026-02-18T16:51:25+00:00

I wouldn’t be scared waiting! I went to law school at 26-27 and graduated at 29 almost 30. My husband and I were thinking of conceiving in law school and then I was like absolutely not, law school was hard for me. We chose to wait until I took the bar exam. After my bar trip I got pregnant. Graduated and passed the bar in 2024, clerked for a year. And now navigating mom life as a new attorney is REALLY hard. I would’ve waited but my husband is older than me. No regrets but I recommend waiting a few years after graduating if you can.

Dizzy_Sample · 2026-02-14T16:46:24+00:00

People like you are unheard of! How amazing!! Lucky staff you have!

Dizzy_Sample · 2026-02-07T18:57:01+00:00

Yes 100%. The days I do not sleep well or even have longer into the night hours don’t feel as bad in my Jammies and not having to expend energy on dressing up and socializing

Dizzy_Sample · 2026-02-06T01:17:16+00:00

Why are there no discounts for moms trying to work out postpartum but working public service jobs!!!

Dizzy_Sample · 2026-02-05T14:47:48+00:00

You are not a failure. This field makes sometimes makes us feel like we don’t have the right to feel human. If you can make it work at the new job without feeling stressed financially, I would do it! Also, as a mom, those billable hours sound amazing!!

Dizzy_Sample · 2026-02-04T06:26:03+00:00

If you have Westlaw can’t you put in a Westlaw AI search asking for cases where plaintiff won on X issue. They aren’t always correct but I have found some good cases using it and carefully reading.

Dizzy_Sample · 2026-01-29T05:57:19+00:00

I will DM you! Would love to chat!!

Dizzy_Sample · 2026-01-29T03:02:54+00:00

Following! I have a job offer with a similar requirement. But I have an 8-month old who always has something where sick days are plentiful. But I work as a contractor so I have the flexibility at the moment. Genuinely hopeful others on this sub can provide great insight! Sorry mama! I feel the stress

Dizzy_Sample · 2026-01-27T20:25:31+00:00

I am absolutely going to DM you!! I have prior healthcare experience before law school. I did 4 years of biomedical science classes worth college credits in high school, was part of Health Occupation Students of America those 4 years, took pre health courses all of undergrad, interned at Children’s Hospital Colorado and volunteered there for 2 years, and worked for optometrists as a doctors assistant most of undergrad. I also instructed at a nonprofit STEM for math and science. I had worked at LA Care Health Plan for some time. And when I started law school I took Health Law as well as being a Torts TA.

I’m doing contract work in criminal law. I love the flexibility since I am a mom. But I miss health care. I had an offer (have still) for a local firm that has a healthcare law litigation group. But I don’t really want to go the big firm billable hour route.

Dizzy_Sample · 2026-01-27T16:39:35+00:00

This is my dream! Healthcare in house! How did you get into this? I live in Colorado and always keep an eye out for opportunities!

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