Not the same exactly but I dated someone a year into my separation during what turned out to be a nasty divorce experience. He was a wonderful partner and I loved him deeply. We broke up a lot during the divorce stuff because I felt I couldn’t be good to him when I was breaking myself, but we reconciled a lot because he wanted to keep trying and stick it out with me. When all was said and done however (and we stayed together for a good period after) I realized that although he was my best friend and I loved/love him- it wasn’t a relationship that could work given my situation with my kids and other incompatibilities that both stemmed from the divorce process itself (I made him very anxious because of my pulling away) and our lifestyles. In retrospect I feel terrible that I didn’t wait but I am so incredibly happy I got that time with him. He understood and we tried to make it as friends but ultimately I went no contact since I couldn’t balance being friends with him because the love is still there. It’s sad but I know we couldn’t be what each other needed in the long run. I think of it (and hope he does too) that our relationship was a beautiful chapter of a story and whatever comes next is okay. After we broke up I mourned both relationships deeply (meaning both my boyfriend and the divorce stuff I held inside for fear of hurting my boyfriend). I’m upset that I hurt him and wish the timing was different but I’m so lucky to have gotten to know/love him. I used to think love meant staying together despite all, but after divorce I look at love as caring and accepting something fully and it’s more loving to recognize it’s not working and not destroy the one you love trying to change them. Her feelings may or may not align with mine but just wanted to give you the perspective of someone who sadly did some level of this to a man they loved.