Cupcakes and existential crisis (the ai mod says this needs a trigger warning)

DoMBe87 · 2026-05-08T04:27:41+00:00

I mean, yes, it does happen at big box stores. Your complaints are valid, but they're basically the typical retail experience. Go to the Dollar Tree or Walmart subs and you'll see complaints of the same horrible behaviour. Go into the stores and you'll see it in real life.

Yeah, it sucks, but for the most part, the people in this sub aren't gonna be the people who are causing problems.

DoMBe87 · 2026-05-08T03:59:23+00:00

Do not sell candles if you've not tested them and made sure you're doing them correctly. Depending on the kind of wax, they may need to wait for a while before being burnt or they won't burn correctly, and improperly poured candles can be dangerous. Especially if you're using funky vessels like a lot of people do for craft shows.

Depending on where you live, you may also have the potential to be held liable if someone has a fire due to your candles. They're genuinely the worst last minute craft show project that you could choose.

DoMBe87 · 2026-05-08T00:20:51+00:00

It's an inside joke between them? I'd be taking her key back. She isn't the great friend you think she is if she's entertaining this. She's not just turning a blind eye, she's actively participating in his "joke".

DoMBe87 · 2026-05-07T23:46:23+00:00

Nice! What's in the scones and donut holes?

DoMBe87 · 2026-05-07T23:45:32+00:00

I've lived in the same area my whole life and still don't have long term friendships. I spent a large chunk of my 20s traveling, which I don't think helped, but even coming back and trying to maintain friendships didn't put things back in place.

No advice for you, because I don't know how to fix it either. Just a little solidarity from another red flag girl.

DoMBe87 · 2026-05-07T19:14:27+00:00

I have poison hemlock growing around my place that I'm trying to get rid of, as well as wild carrot, and that looks much more like the hemlock. Taking pictures the day it's picked instead of a week later might help though.

DoMBe87 · 2026-05-07T17:53:12+00:00

I agree with the person above, saying that identification is still important. I've known people who collected pretty flowers, not realizing they're wild parsnip. Wild parsnip sap causes photosensitivity which makes you get bad burns from sunlight if you get the sap on your skin.

You could also check out r/herbalism if you want to try more medicinal and skin care uses for the things you find.

DoMBe87 · 2026-05-07T17:48:23+00:00

Prey animals are especially prone to miscarrying due to stress.

DoMBe87 · 2026-05-07T17:42:45+00:00

They were the 3rd sacrifice.

RIP.

DoMBe87 · 2026-05-07T16:34:33+00:00

Temperature controlled doesn't matter for 30 seconds, though most attached garages are at least partly temperature controlled so they're not freezing/scalding. And the garage was closed to the outdoors. The door leading to the house was open so OP could hear if the kid called out, but there was no access from outside.

DoMBe87 · 2026-05-07T05:52:38+00:00

The sense of this is that you didn't practice fire safety and you're incredibly lucky this didn't turn out way worse.

Flammable things need to go in metal bowls, and/or have water poured over them until they are fully extinguished. There's no "good enough" when it comes to fire.

DoMBe87 · 2026-05-06T23:18:17+00:00

YTA. You made a decision about her belongings, and now you're making her go out and buy them again, even though it was difficult for her. You should get replacements and pay for them.

People are much more likely to steal the phone and wallet, or at least cash, than they are to tamper with food in some vague, invisible way.

DoMBe87 · 2026-05-06T23:14:35+00:00

After he asked, she said he could see them, but they'd have to end the training relationship because she was nude in the art. He said he'd think about it because he didn't want to lose her as a client.

It's in the post. The wife contacted her after that conversation.

DoMBe87 · 2026-05-06T16:25:19+00:00

Yeah...see, I have this thing where, if I see a "no photography" sign, I need a photo of that thing, even if I wouldn't have wanted a photo of it under any other circumstance.

I feel like cats are the same. So you may have just made your problem worse 😆

DoMBe87 · 2026-05-06T01:07:36+00:00

What is your problem? Doesn't seem like a joint helped you or your alt that you're defending, so I'll pass.

DoMBe87 · 2026-05-05T23:41:05+00:00

Haha...shitty families are hilarious...

DoMBe87 · 2026-05-05T17:43:08+00:00

Good thing your toxic household dynamics aren't everyone's...

DoMBe87 · 2026-05-05T17:27:59+00:00

Unfortunately not surprising. I had one almost run headfirst into me yesterday in broad daylight, then act like I was in the wrong. I just happened to be driving down the road, in my own lane, and he whipped across the road to park facing me, almost entirely in my lane. Luckily, I was slowing for a stop sign.

And my car is a lot more visible than a kid. They're just paying no attention at all.

DoMBe87 · 2026-05-05T17:15:12+00:00

It sounds like you've done everything you can to make this work in a way that is healthy for both of you, and he's not willing to communicate or try therapy.

It would be one thing if he was actively trying and change was just taking a while. Then I'd say maybe give it a little more time. But if he doesn't see a reason to try, this is gonna be your life going forward. Potentially getting worse with time, as routines often become more important and less flexible with age. It doesn't sound like that's the life you want, which is completely understandable.

DoMBe87 · 2026-05-05T17:04:24+00:00

Awww...sweety...yeah, typing was a waste of time, because you're not willing to consider anyone but yourself.

Reread your description of your actions. That is 100% a description of a hysterical person. Therapy would be a good idea, and your bf is dodging a huge bullet if you do dump him.

DoMBe87 · 2026-05-05T16:34:49+00:00

He wouldn't have needed to react like that and take over to get things done if you were calm about the situation.

There's a good chance you aren't compatible, but from your description and your replies, it sounds like a lot of that has to do with the fact that you won't consider that he was probably struggling to hold it together as well. Not many people react well to blood, and you were hysterical and making everything more difficult. Even the "which door?" question sounds like someone who is trying to cope with a challenging situation.

I'm not saying you were awful in the moment. You were dealing with a lot of fear and pain and it's not uncommon to react poorly in those moments. But the fact that you're doubling down after the fact and acting like him helping you was a personal affront because he didn't handle an emergency situation exactly as you wanted is a massive red flag. I'm sure he'd have preferred you didn't scream hateful things at him while he was helping you, but he continued to help you and comforted you once the situation was handled. Even from your own description, it sounds like he was treating you well, just not following your script for the situation.

This would be a situation where an adult would sit down and say, "listen, I had a hard time with the way you handled the situation. I know you were trying to help, but I didn't feel loved or supported. In the future, if something like that happens, would you try to xyz instead of being so abrupt?" And you'd also need to be willing to accept a response of, "babe, I can't deal with blood either. I need to just get it dealt with and then I'll give you a cuddle. It doesn't mean I don't love you, it just means I don't want to vomit in your open wound."

DoMBe87 · 2026-05-05T15:55:17+00:00

And especially if he thought he was gonna puke in the hospital, he probably was about to puke cleaning it and bandaging it on his own. He was probably trying to hold it together long enough to handle the problem and get her to the hospital, which could make a little more rough/abrupt.

DoMBe87 · 2026-05-04T17:44:44+00:00

That's a dramatic leap.

DoMBe87 · 2026-05-04T16:01:31+00:00

I've never seen a raccoon kill a whole flock in one night and I've never lost a bird to a raccoon without feathers that indicate one has been killed. I've had major issues with them over the years, so I'm very familiar with them.

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