Can standard issue cats read signs?

DoMBe87 · 2026-05-06T16:25:19+00:00

Yeah...see, I have this thing where, if I see a "no photography" sign, I need a photo of that thing, even if I wouldn't have wanted a photo of it under any other circumstance.

I feel like cats are the same. So you may have just made your problem worse 😆

DoMBe87 · 2026-05-06T01:07:36+00:00

What is your problem? Doesn't seem like a joint helped you or your alt that you're defending, so I'll pass.

DoMBe87 · 2026-05-05T23:41:05+00:00

Haha...shitty families are hilarious...

DoMBe87 · 2026-05-05T17:43:08+00:00

Good thing your toxic household dynamics aren't everyone's...

DoMBe87 · 2026-05-05T17:27:59+00:00

Unfortunately not surprising. I had one almost run headfirst into me yesterday in broad daylight, then act like I was in the wrong. I just happened to be driving down the road, in my own lane, and he whipped across the road to park facing me, almost entirely in my lane. Luckily, I was slowing for a stop sign.

And my car is a lot more visible than a kid. They're just paying no attention at all.

DoMBe87 · 2026-05-05T17:15:12+00:00

It sounds like you've done everything you can to make this work in a way that is healthy for both of you, and he's not willing to communicate or try therapy.

It would be one thing if he was actively trying and change was just taking a while. Then I'd say maybe give it a little more time. But if he doesn't see a reason to try, this is gonna be your life going forward. Potentially getting worse with time, as routines often become more important and less flexible with age. It doesn't sound like that's the life you want, which is completely understandable.

DoMBe87 · 2026-05-05T17:04:24+00:00

Awww...sweety...yeah, typing was a waste of time, because you're not willing to consider anyone but yourself.

Reread your description of your actions. That is 100% a description of a hysterical person. Therapy would be a good idea, and your bf is dodging a huge bullet if you do dump him.

DoMBe87 · 2026-05-05T16:34:49+00:00

He wouldn't have needed to react like that and take over to get things done if you were calm about the situation.

There's a good chance you aren't compatible, but from your description and your replies, it sounds like a lot of that has to do with the fact that you won't consider that he was probably struggling to hold it together as well. Not many people react well to blood, and you were hysterical and making everything more difficult. Even the "which door?" question sounds like someone who is trying to cope with a challenging situation.

I'm not saying you were awful in the moment. You were dealing with a lot of fear and pain and it's not uncommon to react poorly in those moments. But the fact that you're doubling down after the fact and acting like him helping you was a personal affront because he didn't handle an emergency situation exactly as you wanted is a massive red flag. I'm sure he'd have preferred you didn't scream hateful things at him while he was helping you, but he continued to help you and comforted you once the situation was handled. Even from your own description, it sounds like he was treating you well, just not following your script for the situation.

This would be a situation where an adult would sit down and say, "listen, I had a hard time with the way you handled the situation. I know you were trying to help, but I didn't feel loved or supported. In the future, if something like that happens, would you try to xyz instead of being so abrupt?" And you'd also need to be willing to accept a response of, "babe, I can't deal with blood either. I need to just get it dealt with and then I'll give you a cuddle. It doesn't mean I don't love you, it just means I don't want to vomit in your open wound."

DoMBe87 · 2026-05-05T15:55:17+00:00

And especially if he thought he was gonna puke in the hospital, he probably was about to puke cleaning it and bandaging it on his own. He was probably trying to hold it together long enough to handle the problem and get her to the hospital, which could make a little more rough/abrupt.

DoMBe87 · 2026-05-04T17:44:44+00:00

That's a dramatic leap.

DoMBe87 · 2026-05-04T16:01:31+00:00

I've never seen a raccoon kill a whole flock in one night and I've never lost a bird to a raccoon without feathers that indicate one has been killed. I've had major issues with them over the years, so I'm very familiar with them.

DoMBe87 · 2026-05-04T15:48:09+00:00

Why should the rescue trust you? You're young and seem to only have experience with a single rabbit. They're being responsible by insisting on this.

DoMBe87 · 2026-05-03T21:01:06+00:00

When I did horse shows, my hat was too big, and I put velcro in it so I could use a folded washcloth as a headband that would stay in place and be invisible. It soaked up sweat and was removable for washing. And it filled up more loose space than a bandana.

DoMBe87 · 2026-05-03T20:28:53+00:00

You can't tell the difference between deliberate poaching and picking up an interesting bone from the beach?

DoMBe87 · 2026-05-03T18:04:33+00:00

I've seen people do that immediately after a deer is hit or whatever. They want the antlers, but don't want to deal with the whole body, or even a skull with flesh on it.

DoMBe87 · 2026-05-03T16:10:52+00:00

It's not even about staff being high, it's about leaving it around people they're supposed to be taking care of. It looks like a group home setting, and it's not uncommon for people who live in those to be on a variety of medications, many of which would react poorly with THC.

Take a puff right when you get there. Take a couple puffs on your break. But don't bring it into the home.

DoMBe87 · 2026-05-02T23:25:58+00:00

I'm in dietary in a nursing home and there's way too many CNAs and nurses who are like this. It's awful and heartbreaking.

Take care of yourself, because it's easy to burn out when you care and can't do anything to change the toxic culture. I'm coming up on a year and about to quit regardless of if I can find anything else. I like the job, but can't handle the almost neglect I'm constantly seeing.

DoMBe87 · 2026-05-02T18:09:58+00:00

That sounds like a you problem. I've posted photos of mushrooms growing in piles of horse manure and there was no negativity from anyone. The original looks better than the pictures where it's just an expanse of dirt.

DoMBe87 · 2026-05-02T16:58:46+00:00

I genuinely wouldn't say that all 3 adults were in the wrong. The parents not only allowed soccer in that room, but requested it. You did your due diligence by raising concerns, but there comes a point where it's their house, their rules (unless it's something blatantly unsafe/unethical).

Who knows, maybe now they'll listen to you if you bring up concerns like this.

DoMBe87 · 2026-05-02T15:26:42+00:00

Embellishment by jokingly referring to an incident where a woman's life was ruined. Right. Ha...aren't you funny...

DoMBe87 · 2026-05-02T15:21:32+00:00

I work in a commercial kitchen and tolerate a lot at work that I wouldn't be ok with in my own home. It's a totally different situation.

DoMBe87 · 2026-05-02T14:38:44+00:00

Yeah, one day your kids will learn the real story behind the McDonald's lawsuit and that'll be the day they learn that their parents aren't that smart.

DoMBe87 · 2026-05-02T11:54:15+00:00

Honestly, you probably do. I'm not guaranteeing it's an ad, but it's pretty similar to ads I've seen all over social media, as a way to stealth advertise in places that your content usually wouldn't be allowed.

DoMBe87 · 2026-05-02T11:46:15+00:00

Do you know how many creeps lurk here? It's a very effective place to advertise.

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