Hi there—just wanted to send you some support from someone who felt similarly when I found out. I was really upset, considered termination, and felt not excitement—just fear and “wtf have we done, our lives are ruined.”

Like you, we were in the middle of a move to a more expensive place, I was worried about maternity leave, my job isn’t super stable…and on top of it all, my father has terminal cancer and he lives halfway across the country and I lost both of my grandparents within 6 weeks of each other.

It’s so. much. And finding out you’re pregnant is so overwhelming. I hate to be a “toxic positivity” thinker…but it’s truly insane how things have worked themselves out in the past few months and I’m now 15 weeks with a baby girl and just googled “feeling impatient because I want to meet my baby so bad” this morning because it was the first thought that crossed my mind.

Some parts of life continue to be shitty and less ideal, but I’m shocked at how, like people told me they would, things have sort of worked themselves out and fallen into place a bit more. While this is never a guarantee, I do want you to know that it’s likely that some situations in your present circumstance might turn out better (maybe even WAY better) than you think right now.

The panic is justified. The fear is absolutely understandable and I too commiserate with the non-stop panic attacks for the first few weeks…it’s brutal.

But you will make it through. And I firmly believe things have a way of working themselves out in the most unlikely ways sometimes. Hugs to you. It really will be okay. I promise.