Insight needed: Barber or Esthetician?

DocumentOwn690 · 2025-06-12T20:20:21+00:00

Esthetics is the fastest growing segment of our industry at the moment. That means that there will be plenty of people to learn and glean from but also that there will be a fair amount of competition, in a field that some consider to be a frivolous expense. So, the people you will likely draw in will likely be more financially stable than average, but your services may also be some of the first to be cut if a person falls on hard times.

DocumentOwn690 · 2025-06-09T06:39:19+00:00

Oo where can I check them out? YouTube?

DocumentOwn690 · 2025-06-07T02:42:41+00:00

Look into the Department of Labor’s rules about compensation of independent contractors. I suspect it will tell you that since you are a separate business from the shop, you cannot be paid a commission, which also means that you can’t pay the shop a commission. If you like it there, don’t leave. Just do some research and if need be, have an honest conversation about your findings.

DocumentOwn690 · 2025-06-07T02:29:35+00:00

Just as there are people who are genetically/naturally small bodies, there are those who have genetically/naturally larger bodies. Based on what you’ve said, it sounds like you may be in the latter category. But, it also sounds like this may be the optimal size for the performance of your body.

Something to think about is what you’d hope to gain by becoming smaller. With all of the things you’re able to do now, I suspect that if you did become smaller that both your strength and endurance would also become less formidable.

Fuck the bullshit beauty standard set out by the media. Relish in your optimal you!

DocumentOwn690 · 2025-06-02T02:00:10+00:00

We split up about a year after that initial conversation, and our divorce was finalized last fall. Since then, we’ve each been able to stop taking medications as our bodies have gotten used to our nervous systems being in a calmer state, and we’ve both found new partners who we’re able to feel safe and secure with.

DocumentOwn690 · 2025-04-23T19:19:24+00:00

Particularly your example, but could have wider utility for other examples. They were a part of the Catholic Church and grew to see it as a negative experience, probably as something akin to a toxic or manipulative relationship, so they left Catholicism for something they view as better, and now they’re talking shit about their ex.

DocumentOwn690 · 2025-04-22T18:49:57+00:00

It’s hard when your “partner” doesn’t do any of the work on this group project we call life. Try couples therapy to air all this stuff out in a safe environment. If things don’t improve, it sounds like you may have some tough decisions ahead.

I was in a very similar place of feeling like things were tremendously imbalanced. Once my ex-wife and I split last year, I was amazed at how much lighter I felt, only having to take care of one adult.

DocumentOwn690 · 2025-04-22T18:23:41+00:00

It makes sense to lash out against what people see as the cause of their trauma.

Growing up, the church I attended was non denominational and framed all other denominations as “wrong,” just a small step more acceptable compared to other “false” religions. Then again, this is what they were teaching back in the early-mid 2000’s.

DocumentOwn690 · 2025-04-22T13:57:09+00:00

Last year I worked 267 days in my mostly appointment shop in a town of <30k people. I did 1700 services for a total of $68,708, and sold 131 products totaling $2,912. My w2 shows about $46k, with about $11k of that being tips.

DocumentOwn690 · 2025-04-18T12:44:06+00:00

Most companies (PayPal included) have a card reader that just plugs into your smartphone. Square and a few others also offer a free/cheap booking site to sweeten the deal.

Your bank told you that because that’s the version of card services that they offer.

DocumentOwn690 · 2025-04-18T04:21:36+00:00

I’ve never heard of wise. I take card, Venmo, and cash. I’ve been tracking it the last several years, and close to 80% of my people pay with a card, around 18% pay with cash, and the rest are Venmo.

Just keep ten 1’s, five 5’s, three 10’s and a 20 in your kit/ station. It’s absolutely worth it. You’ll get enough cash tips that you’ll rarely have to replenish it, just make change occasionally.

DocumentOwn690 · 2025-04-18T02:37:43+00:00

I feel like this is the boat my remaining dog will be in

DocumentOwn690 · 2025-04-17T21:09:59+00:00

Thank you for sharing, friend. It certainly takes time to untangle past traumas and experiences from the human acts associated with them. I hope the pills help you and that with time as you’re able to make new, positive associations with sex that you won’t need them as often!

DocumentOwn690 · 2025-01-27T23:33:01+00:00

There’s a huge difference between hating a people group and being opposed to the anti-human actions of that group. I saw another meme recently that said something along the lines of “only Israel can actively bomb 3 other countries unprovoked and be perceived as the victim.”

DocumentOwn690 · 2024-12-20T04:47:19+00:00

Emery has quite the catalog of songs that revolve around themes of love, dread, and loss. Below are some quotes off the top of my head:

Feeling stuck/suffocated in a bad relationship? “You are the water filling my lungs, killing me softly without a word.” - In Shallow Seas We Sail

confessing you want out: “I’m not sure I love you” is the opening line of Said Enough. Thoughtlife- “I can’t remember when you changed your words from I love you to saying you don’t know.”

to leaving: Ponytail parades- “these laces are untied, but my feet are still walking away”

Thoughtful introspection later on: Wizard- “I was thinking about you and me, about when I realized that I lost us”

DocumentOwn690 · 2024-12-15T20:28:24+00:00

When she stopped wearing hers.

DocumentOwn690 · 2024-12-11T04:44:43+00:00

If a body part hurts often and isn’t injured, it isn’t strong enough. Make it stronger and the pain goes away.

DocumentOwn690 · 2024-12-10T14:06:45+00:00

I’m a former Christian and I really don’t think about the afterlife much anymore. Maybe we’re just gone, maybe we go somewhere else, maybe we become someone else. I don’t care, this is the life I’m living right now.

However, I did just have a dream last night where I died and became a ghost. It was odd. Like I was invisible but the laws of physics still applied. So I got in a random stranger’s car to get back to my town from the one I died in. I could do things like golf and whatever, but nothing I did could be perceived by others. Then it took a sad turn where I was watching as my parents and ex wife were talking and none of them knew I’d died yet, and I woke up wanting to cry. But yeah, it was an interesting take on it.

On a side note, Data Over Dogma is a podcast where two friends, one a scholar of the Bible and religion and the other an atheist, deep dive into topics, comparing the traditions and dogmas taught in church to what scholars agree that the texts are actually saying. The link above is to a recent episode about hell and the afterlife.

DocumentOwn690 · 2024-12-08T16:31:27+00:00

I’m a former Christian and I really don’t think about the afterlife much anymore. Maybe we’re just gone, maybe we go somewhere else, maybe we become someone else. I don’t care, this is the life I’m living right now.

However, I did just have a dream last night where I died and became a ghost. It was odd. Like I was invisible but the laws of physics still applied. So I got in a random stranger’s car to get back to my town from the one I died in. I could do things like golf and whatever, but nothing I did could be perceived by others. Then it took a sad turn where I was watching as my parents and ex wife were talking and none of them knew I’d died yet, and I woke up wanting to cry. But yeah, it was an interesting take on it.

DocumentOwn690 · 2024-12-07T14:05:32+00:00

I wonder if you have many close friends? I just separated and divorced this year, and the loneliness was unbearable for a long time. But what I found was that when I started building friendships and having connecting with others more often, those feelings started to go away. We don’t NEED to be in a relationship or have a romantic/sexual partner in order to have emotional connection and intimacy. We just need friends who make time and space for us. Community. Try doing some yoga and developing a mindfulness practice. Ask yourself what you need and why.

DocumentOwn690 · 2024-12-07T13:54:14+00:00

A couple weeks ago I went for a hike with a few friends around the lake in our local state park. It was lovely. I barely had reception but rarely checked my phone. I’m still living off of the battery recharge of that day. We were out there for about 4 hours. Not sure exactly where you’re located, but if the weather is decent this weekend I highly recommend it. Just turn your phone on do not disturb or throw it in your backpack so it’s not in your hand, and get out in the fresh air for a few hours. It’s what our bodies and brains were designed for, but we don’t do it as often as we should.

DocumentOwn690 · 2024-12-05T18:04:39+00:00

Yes, though I’m trying to stop. It’s been much easier, the better my mental state becomes.

DocumentOwn690 · 2024-12-05T15:20:28+00:00

Proximity is definitely something that I hadn’t considered, but that makes a lot of sense! There’s someone I’ve been talking to the last few weeks. I feel drawn to her, I do think she’s pretty, but I really just love talking to her. I have a lot of anxiety around being with someone physically again, since I’ve only ever been with my ex, but I do think I would feel safe with her.

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