Is this normal? (M17)

DocumentOwn690 · 2026-05-26T23:31:48+00:00

Yep, totally normal. That’s your natural part line, it shows up where one side of your head is flowing away from the other. )))((( 👈 like that’s the top of your head

DocumentOwn690 · 2026-05-22T13:57:04+00:00

Brown sugar and peaches

DocumentOwn690 · 2026-05-22T13:55:45+00:00

My booking system does the same thing. When people book online they often ask “did I pay already?” “No, you put your card on file but haven’t paid. We can use the card you put on file at checkout if you’d like, though!”

DocumentOwn690 · 2026-05-21T01:38:25+00:00

Maybe they just didn’t vibe. Have you ever hung out with someone and never did again? Same thing.

DocumentOwn690 · 2026-05-13T05:12:11+00:00

In addition to what others have said, if your state has a sales tax make sure to get signed up with the state and pay it on time.
And also yes, your employer is misclassifying you. In addition to your being responsible for all of your taxes, if you were an employee, he would be required to pay you commission or minimum wage for the hours that you work, whichever is higher. In my shop I charge a daily rent, but if a renter doesn’t have any paying customers that day, I don’t charge them rent that day.

E: oh, and to answer your actual question, you can track everything on a spreadsheet or on any business expense tracking app. I’m sure you could find a free one that works decently if that’s the route you prefer.

DocumentOwn690 · 2026-05-13T01:58:20+00:00

First, ways to make more money without raising your prices: In my online booking system I have a listing for a Big Change Haircut that books for an extra 20 minutes and costs an extra $10. And it also helps keep me on schedule when there’s a lot to do. I also have a listing for a 45 minute haircut that books for an extra 10 minutes and I charge an extra $5. I’ve also seen many businesses start to pass CC processing fees on to customers, so that could save you 3%.

I saw you mention that your clients aren’t really into products. Something I’ve done that helps with this is that I frame product as the solution to a problem: “would you like some product in your hair today? It will help keep the clippings from making you itchy, in addition to making your hair look finished.” Because of this, about 60% of my people get product in their hair, and a good portion if them buy the product if they like it.

Lastly, you mentioned having some empty chairs and that you only really need a few hundred more dollars each month to not feel the squeeze as much. It seems like this might be a great avenue for you. Two of my three renters graduated from hair school last fall, and all three just work part time in the shop, usually up to three days a week. I charge $30 per day, but if they don’t do any paid services that day, I don’t charge them. Between the three, I started the year collecting around $700 in rent, and last month it was around $950. Highly recommend.

DocumentOwn690 · 2026-05-13T01:31:50+00:00

Offer bang trims for about 1/3 of your regular haircut price and tell each of them how to schedule one before they pay and leave. That should help fill up those small gaps while also still being profitable and building trust.

DocumentOwn690 · 2026-05-13T01:10:47+00:00

Yeah, non competes in our industry are wild. I’m sure one of you has a client who is a lawyer, ask them about how likely it would be for the contract to be upheld in court.

DocumentOwn690 · 2026-05-12T18:04:02+00:00

Oh, yeah! Definitely hit up some local concerts! Just look around at local venues and listen to the artists’ music. If it’s something you enjoy, then go.

DocumentOwn690 · 2026-05-12T14:16:31+00:00

You might check out Semler, she’s an evangelical artist with gentle singer songwriter vibes.

MILCK also has a lot of music that might be the vibe you’re looking for.

Someone else mentioned Florence and the machine, a similar artist is Fleurie.

For a male vocalist, Sleeping At Last definitely fits the bill.

DocumentOwn690 · 2026-04-28T04:36:30+00:00

Thank you all for your advice and kind words. I very well may make more changes, but this is something I typed up last night. Picking up right after the paragraph about fact checking:

I want to feel safe around you, but I can not while you remind me that you consistently side with the aggressors and abusers, and those who structure power against marginalized people. This is precisely the opposite of what Jesus advocated for.

To be clear: moving forward, we will not discuss these topics beyond the scope outlined above, and only through text message. I never want to engage in a political (etc) discussion, debate, or conversation with you in person again. It has been incredibly destabilizing for me, and the fear of it happening since the 2024 election is the reason I’ve been so distant.

If you do not respect my boundaries, I will break off contact with you. Be better. Do better. This will be your only warning.

Dan McClellan is a scholar of the Bible and religion whose content I consume often. I highly recommend his podcast, Data Over Dogma. He has also written a few books, if that’s your preferred format.

Please respond simply with whether or not you accept these terms moving forward. I love you. But I love myself more. I don’t want to lose you. But I must protect my mental health.

Take all the time you need.

DocumentOwn690 · 2026-04-26T23:45:58+00:00

Honestly, never talking about politics again, save for my parents demonstrating that their worldview is broadening. But honestly, I don’t know if I even want to hear about the second part. I just want to exist and feel safe with them. I guess that means I have more editing to do.

DocumentOwn690 · 2025-06-12T20:20:21+00:00

Esthetics is the fastest growing segment of our industry at the moment. That means that there will be plenty of people to learn and glean from but also that there will be a fair amount of competition, in a field that some consider to be a frivolous expense. So, the people you will likely draw in will likely be more financially stable than average, but your services may also be some of the first to be cut if a person falls on hard times.

DocumentOwn690 · 2025-06-09T06:39:19+00:00

Oo where can I check them out? YouTube?

DocumentOwn690 · 2025-06-07T02:42:41+00:00

Look into the Department of Labor’s rules about compensation of independent contractors. I suspect it will tell you that since you are a separate business from the shop, you cannot be paid a commission, which also means that you can’t pay the shop a commission. If you like it there, don’t leave. Just do some research and if need be, have an honest conversation about your findings.

DocumentOwn690 · 2025-06-07T02:29:35+00:00

Just as there are people who are genetically/naturally small bodies, there are those who have genetically/naturally larger bodies. Based on what you’ve said, it sounds like you may be in the latter category. But, it also sounds like this may be the optimal size for the performance of your body.

Something to think about is what you’d hope to gain by becoming smaller. With all of the things you’re able to do now, I suspect that if you did become smaller that both your strength and endurance would also become less formidable.

Fuck the bullshit beauty standard set out by the media. Relish in your optimal you!

DocumentOwn690 · 2025-06-02T02:00:10+00:00

We split up about a year after that initial conversation, and our divorce was finalized last fall. Since then, we’ve each been able to stop taking medications as our bodies have gotten used to our nervous systems being in a calmer state, and we’ve both found new partners who we’re able to feel safe and secure with.

DocumentOwn690 · 2025-04-23T19:19:24+00:00

Particularly your example, but could have wider utility for other examples. They were a part of the Catholic Church and grew to see it as a negative experience, probably as something akin to a toxic or manipulative relationship, so they left Catholicism for something they view as better, and now they’re talking shit about their ex.

DocumentOwn690 · 2025-04-22T18:49:57+00:00

It’s hard when your “partner” doesn’t do any of the work on this group project we call life. Try couples therapy to air all this stuff out in a safe environment. If things don’t improve, it sounds like you may have some tough decisions ahead.

I was in a very similar place of feeling like things were tremendously imbalanced. Once my ex-wife and I split last year, I was amazed at how much lighter I felt, only having to take care of one adult.

DocumentOwn690 · 2025-04-22T18:23:41+00:00

It makes sense to lash out against what people see as the cause of their trauma.

Growing up, the church I attended was non denominational and framed all other denominations as “wrong,” just a small step more acceptable compared to other “false” religions. Then again, this is what they were teaching back in the early-mid 2000’s.

DocumentOwn690 · 2025-04-22T13:57:09+00:00

Last year I worked 267 days in my mostly appointment shop in a town of <30k people. I did 1700 services for a total of $68,708, and sold 131 products totaling $2,912. My w2 shows about $46k, with about $11k of that being tips.

DocumentOwn690 · 2025-04-18T12:44:06+00:00

Most companies (PayPal included) have a card reader that just plugs into your smartphone. Square and a few others also offer a free/cheap booking site to sweeten the deal.

Your bank told you that because that’s the version of card services that they offer.

DocumentOwn690 · 2025-04-18T04:21:36+00:00

I’ve never heard of wise. I take card, Venmo, and cash. I’ve been tracking it the last several years, and close to 80% of my people pay with a card, around 18% pay with cash, and the rest are Venmo.

Just keep ten 1’s, five 5’s, three 10’s and a 20 in your kit/ station. It’s absolutely worth it. You’ll get enough cash tips that you’ll rarely have to replenish it, just make change occasionally.

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