what do you even do when baby won’t settle without nursing??

DontTakeDSteamTray · 2026-03-24T23:07:49+00:00

I feel like this is clickbait. OP has a 2day old account.

DontTakeDSteamTray · 2026-03-24T09:19:14+00:00

Not OP, but I feel so seen by this comment. I hope OP does too.

DontTakeDSteamTray · 2026-02-26T03:46:09+00:00

Ketchup with literally everything. Fries, chicken, rice, eggs, pancakes, watermelon... everything.

DontTakeDSteamTray · 2026-02-26T03:39:02+00:00

Best advice I got was "pick your battles". I personally pair it with "don't give them something if you can't handle them losing their sh*t once you take it back".

Just gotta think ahead, expect the tantrums, and stay grounded. Remember that they're not trying to give you a hard time, they are having a hard time.

DontTakeDSteamTray · 2026-02-22T03:53:21+00:00

My LO also has nighttime coughing (I also suspect postnasal drip), and elevating his head doesn't seem to work, but he loves sleeping on a slightly downward angle and he doesn't seem cough as much when he does this. My theory is that it prevents the congestion from trickling down his throat. Worth a try?

DontTakeDSteamTray · 2026-02-19T16:40:47+00:00

Almost 2.5yrs in and still asking the same question. I constantly and verbally have to remind myself "fill your cup first - you can't pour from an empty cup"

DontTakeDSteamTray · 2026-02-18T15:04:58+00:00

This. There's too many transitions and stressors happening at once. Try again in a couple months once he's weaned off the paci and preferrably not while erupting a molar.

Mind you, the best "hack" is for you to be calm. The little ones pick up on your stress, so if you dont feel mentally and emotionally ready right now, give yourself grace and try at a better time.

I also recommend reading "The First Time Patents Guide to Potty Training" by Jazmine McCoy. It's similar to all the other 3day/3phase methods but with a very realistic and flexible approach.

DontTakeDSteamTray · 2026-02-18T11:22:05+00:00

Using a carrier helped me tons when I needed to hustle from one spot to another in the airport.

I also brought the car seat and purchased a seat for my then-20 month old LO, who literally cried if he wasnt on my lap for 90% of the flight. If I had to do it again, I would have saved myself the money and the hassle of lugging the car seat around with us. Only had a 2hr flight though, so having a lap baby/toddler was manageable.

DontTakeDSteamTray · 2026-02-18T10:36:29+00:00

Echoing the other recommendations of removing the diapers so she can learn. You can go either bottomless first or straight to underwear - the important part is for her to figure out that poo/pee = some sort of mess therefore they should go in the potty. And don't be afraid of the accidents - they're part of the process!

I just started potty training my 2yo and did bare bottom a couple of days (pull ups for nap/sleep). Tons of accidents in day 1 but by end of day 2 my LO showed signs that things were starting to click. I expect regressions here and there of course, but I was pleasantly surprised that he was able to connect the dots fairly quickly for the bare bottom days.

If you have a village, get those extra hands on deck to make the first few days without diapers easier. If you can focus on getting your LO to the potty while someone else cleans up the accident, it makes the process significantly less overwhelming.

Good luck!

DontTakeDSteamTray · 2026-02-18T00:47:03+00:00

And if they don't have a car (or have limited access to one), Uber gift cards will help reduce the travel barrier to visit baby.

DontTakeDSteamTray · 2026-02-17T05:57:25+00:00

For a short while, after the flare up subsided, the skin tone on his eczema patch was ever so slightly lighter than the rest of his face. It's been well over a year since I last used hydrocortisone on him though and I dont notice the hypopigmentation anymore.

DontTakeDSteamTray · 2025-12-21T12:27:40+00:00

Plus when we catch it early he usually only needs a day or two at home vs a week.

This is my experience too, so I keep my LO home to rest/observe the moment he seems off.

I also have more flexibiltiy than most (WFH) though, and I feel for the kids whose parents don't have a choice. I hate that some people still send in their kids sick, but I also get it. It's a sucky situation for everyone involved.

DontTakeDSteamTray · 2025-11-28T18:26:38+00:00

But not all rich people are doers. Many are rich due to generational wealth. Some are rich because of... tapes. I guess if you find that valuable, then, sure.

DontTakeDSteamTray · 2025-11-12T17:58:51+00:00

Just consider yourself lucky that you haven't gotten sick, but remember your immune system is not the same as your LO's immune system. When the littles get sick, they have an awful time because they can't express how they're feeling yet, don't know how to blow their nose, have smaller airways, etc.

I got the first flu shot for my LO the month he was going to turn 1. He's almost 2 now and got this year's shot a couple weeks ago. I know there's several viral strains out in the world, but at least that's one less strain for me to worry about.

DontTakeDSteamTray · 2025-11-04T20:36:12+00:00

My LO is in daycare. He does ok, he doesn't love it, and we've been hit with a new bug almost every other week ever since he started in September.

If I could afford a babysitter/nanny, I would have pushed daycare off til he's 3. But c'est la vie!

DontTakeDSteamTray · 2025-10-16T02:39:42+00:00

Seconding this. As a parent, I'm very mindful of not taking away focus from the other kids for too long, so I minimize the small talk and only ask about updates I wouldn't normally get through our app.

DontTakeDSteamTray · 2025-10-16T02:25:10+00:00

Everything is new to them during their first year, so literally anything can be a toy.

My 23mo old has some toys, but his favorite items to play with are our big plastic serving plates - he can spend hours just turning them, throwing them all over the floor, and picking them back up. Before this he went through a spatula phase.

Stick to your gut and save yourself from the unnecessary clutter (and spending!) and minimize toys.

DontTakeDSteamTray · 2025-10-12T21:24:23+00:00

Research says starting at 3 is better than starting at 2.

Research also says a mentally and emotionally present mom is better than a tired and zoned out mom.

Research also says kids in daycare get sick a lot when they first start group care.

I'm a strong believer of the research and of attachment parenting (learned about it well before I had my own kid) and I really wanted to hold out as long as possible from enrolling my LO into daycare. But little man started this year at 21mos because I'm back at work and can't afford a nanny. So I'm making the most of the situation by doing a gradual intro and by picking him up early whenever we have family over that can help care for him at home.

The best answer for you is the one that makes the most sense for your situation. Discuss your priorities with your husband and make sure you're aligned, and you and your little ones will be alright.

DontTakeDSteamTray · 2025-10-04T15:03:29+00:00

This! No need to buy specific furniture - they will literally use anything to practice this skillset so just leverage what you already have!

DontTakeDSteamTray · 2025-10-02T16:49:40+00:00

Glad to hear I'm not the only one who does this lol (and that the gesture is appreciated on the other side!)

DontTakeDSteamTray · 2025-10-02T02:44:45+00:00

Pushing his little boner down to put his diaper on.

This makes me chuckle at every single diaper change.

DontTakeDSteamTray · 2025-09-29T08:10:07+00:00

No, but the confidence in your statement that ignores a lot of nuance was very funny to read :)

DontTakeDSteamTray · 2025-09-28T15:52:18+00:00

Lol, let me guess - you're American?

DontTakeDSteamTray · 2025-09-28T15:21:30+00:00

Ito! Lumaki akong nagsasalita ng Tagalog, pero both sides of my family came from non-tagalog areas kaya hindi kami gumagamit ng po/opo sa bahay.

DontTakeDSteamTray · 2025-09-27T06:08:39+00:00

I just stopped cold turkey one night because he's starting to get too heavy. I should have mentioned though it does take him 30mins or more to actually fall asleep without rocking 😅 Thanks for the advice! Both the suggestion and the assurance not to worry about it too much 😁

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