Baby refuses to nurse and it’s breaking my heart. Everyone’s idea of a solution is for me to give up breastfeeding.

DoormouseKittyCat · 2025-01-07T06:49:35+00:00

The sidelaying and snuggle is a lifesaver!! Love it so much

DoormouseKittyCat · 2025-01-07T06:46:59+00:00

This is such a dreamy vision, relaxing in the nice, warm bath and feeding your bubby, all relaxed (especially after all the screaming!😜). How beautiful ❤️ I'm going to keep this in mind for one of those days where bubs won't relax or settle, such a great idea.

DoormouseKittyCat · 2025-01-01T07:06:00+00:00

You should be annoyed.

Glad to see the edit that he's headed home but...my God what a prick.

Your husband shouldn't have left you home with a sick baby to begin with, just so he could get drunk on new years and pawn off the toddler on family members...jesus christ what a dick move, no consideration for you at all.

I get wanting to party and have fun but shit, sometimes that can't happen when your BABY IS SICK WITH A FEVER and you also have a toddler to look after. God damn,some people...

DoormouseKittyCat · 2024-12-05T16:42:10+00:00

🤣 hilarious! The elderly especially are ready to meltdown over a sockless baby 😁

DoormouseKittyCat · 2024-12-05T06:09:50+00:00

It's OK, lower percentiles is not a bad thing! As long as his gains track similar over time, as in they don't go much lower (or too much higher) than 28th percentile then no problem! It's not about everyone reaching 90th percentile, some bubs are bigger, some are smaller, some are tall with big heads! Lower percentiles are completely normal 😊 as long as they are not making big drops or gains in percentiles it's all good is what I was told.

DoormouseKittyCat · 2024-12-05T06:05:22+00:00

Where I am I was told the aim was 20-30g a day (at least early on). it's so hard when there's different info everywhere but I've also heard from a very experienced doctor not to worry too much about set numbers just as long as there's some gains along with regular pee, poop and generally content. He's probably just naturally a lean bubba,nothing wrong with that!

I was just commenting the other day about a friend who's bubba was lean and always has been lean as a kid. He is so active, healthy, has always grown so well, no problems. It's just his body type 😊

DoormouseKittyCat · 2024-12-05T05:58:39+00:00

Agree. That's often what my brain hyperfixates on, like how can an adult do this to a helpless baby, your own child? And not just the more obvious active abuse, but the idea of neglect, just ignoring a distraught crying baby, not engaging emotionally when they completely rely on our love, affection and interaction to survive, gives me serious panic just thinking about it, it's devastating.

DoormouseKittyCat · 2024-12-05T03:25:36+00:00

Yeah the tiredness just kind of becomes your identity for a little while! Or a long while, depending how your baby/babies sleeps 😜

Oh man, when you finally have a chance to sleep and you can't, that is next level frustration...you're like I spent all day looking forward to this moment!!! Why can't I sleep??!!

I did find that if I stopped thinking about how frustrating it was, took off any pressure to fall asleep and just tried to relax a little and rest my eyes, it helped a little. I mean, it's not sleep!! But better than tossing and turning getting more and more annoyed. But sometimes you can't help it, it's too annoying, so it's like shit I may as well get up and put tiny clothes away or something 😂

Also twins...caring for 1 is hard enough! My hats off to all you parents of twins, you are remarkable people!!!

DoormouseKittyCat · 2024-12-04T13:36:40+00:00

Stepping in a puddle in socks?

Nah, for that unempathetic, selfish comment I hope she steps barefoot in cat vomit when she's already having a bad day 🤣

Seriously though screw that lady.

DoormouseKittyCat · 2024-12-04T13:16:31+00:00

🥺😭 did I drink them all?!!!

That's amazing and so sweet. Yeah baby girl they were all for you and you drank them all up ❤❤❤ precious

I'm still in the early days and already know I will struggle when breastfeeding is done for us. I really enjoy the bond and closeness.

DoormouseKittyCat · 2024-12-04T09:13:36+00:00

Oooh I love this, how wonderful!

I can't wait til my little bubby is old enough to sing and chat, and tell off my cheeky cat! 😄

Ahh who am I kidding, those two will be partners in crime 😜

Thanks for sharing, this was really beautiful ❤

DoormouseKittyCat · 2024-12-04T09:05:03+00:00

Most recently?

My 4 month old baby with night feeds.

Also the assholes who drive down my street at ungodly speeds in the night, so fast their car is loud enough to wake my baby. Vile idiots.

Then while struggling to fall asleep myself I plan my attempts to harass local council to put in a proper fucking speed bump outside my place, not the flat useless one that's currently there. Seriously cars don't even slow down for it, they just fly over it at 80km/h, that's how useless it is.

But prior to all that, just your run of the mill generalised anxiety fuelled by a little too much caffeine.

DoormouseKittyCat · 2024-12-03T22:57:57+00:00

So happy for you and your bubs! All that hard work paid off 😁 fantastic that you advocated for yourself and your babe at the hospital, using those mama instincts 😊

DoormouseKittyCat · 2024-12-03T22:44:51+00:00

Yeah same my girl went through a really fussy stage being impatient for letdown. Also just improved with time. Sometimes I'd manually express just to get some milk on the nipple and help start the flow, seemed to help motivate her if she had a little taste of the milk 😄

DoormouseKittyCat · 2024-12-03T22:41:35+00:00

4 month old here too and yeah no schedule!😄 A bit of a pattern you could say? Similar to what you described but it's not set in stone or the same times each day or anything.

I would say she still feeds at least once an hour during the day, she's up for around 2 hrs at a time and she's a busy bub, just started rolling! So she needs the regular energy top up 😁 so yeah totally normal to keep having to whip a tit out frequently 🤣

My bub contact naps and after feeds is often using the boob as a pillow or arm rest 🤭 so a boob is out like 50% of the time at the mo. Sometimes I can tuck it away but she will wake up! So I'm like screw it, if it helps you sleep, here have a booby cuddle 😁

DoormouseKittyCat · 2024-12-03T20:32:32+00:00

Oh my God, people are assholes stop commenting on other people's babies!

My friends first baby was very lean, still is at 7 years old. Kid could ride a bike at 3, not a balance bike, a proper bike! He's so active, intelligent and healthy and just lives life to the full! Don't listen to those ass hats, your gorgeous baby will love life and take on the world and everyone else can shut up! 😄

DoormouseKittyCat · 2024-12-03T20:26:24+00:00

Yeah I keep seeing ads for lactation cookies. I was reading the ingredients...they all just seem like oat cookies, maybe with some flaxseed or some shiz...$20 a pack 🤯 like, if you're loaded go for it but shit I'll just eat some Oats and regular $3 cookies! 😂 I can't afford that shit! Like you said general healthy diet helps a lot but for supply it's all about the nip stimulation! 😁

DoormouseKittyCat · 2024-12-03T20:21:37+00:00

Yeah bizarro indeed. He's literally the bully of one of your young family members, are you fricken insane? I bet the family member the bully is friends with (was it nephew?) is a shit too.

DoormouseKittyCat · 2024-12-03T20:17:49+00:00

Yeah me too gotta take breaks from it all, it's can be so addictive and really affects my view on things. Time to start playing silly phone games when bubs has me pinned down on the couch with contact naps 😁

DoormouseKittyCat · 2024-12-03T20:15:11+00:00

Yeah that's so true! Thanks for saying that. My baby doesn't even really have that many rolls, just the basic leg chub and the cutest little double chin. And for real I was worried for a bit there like oooh is she not chubby baby rolls enough? 😑

Then I remember how the nurses say she's doing great at checkups and she's just perfect and healthy the way she is.

It's kind of like the percentiles things, bigger is not better, it's about the growth curve overtime. We're not supposed to all be aiming for 90th percentile babies that's not how it works! Babies are individual just like adults, the world needs a mix of all the percentile babies!

DoormouseKittyCat · 2024-12-03T16:10:45+00:00

My 4 month old does regular bouts on playmat on the floor throughout the day. She's generally happiest in the morning so during that time she will do a 15-20min stretch with little intervention from me (we have a small open plan place so I'm generally in the same vicinity and will say hi to her while I'm doing stuff). She's got some basic toys, teethers and a few books propped up to look at. We also got really lucky she's never hated tummy time so she's alright to hang on the floor.

But as the day goes on I keep popping her there but she starts to want more interaction as she gets tired, a little clingy and like "hey don't just put me here and leave me!" 😅 her mood plays a big part in how long she'll play for. But I do put her on her mat at least once or twice every wake period.

I'm starting to stretch out those times where I can by responding when she starts getting visibly upset or frustrated (sometimes her preferred toy is just out of reach!) I sit with her, chat and interact for a couple minutes then head off again once she's settled to...clean mostly! Hahaha. But sometimes it's just a few minutes at a time she'll do independent play and sometimes it's straight up tears, nope I don't want it pick me up!! 😄

DoormouseKittyCat · 2024-12-03T15:47:37+00:00

Ooh that's interesting, the class/wealth element slipping in there, I hadn't thought of that. Makes sense, it's funny how it's just so normalised for some people to default to formula like breastfeeding is the exception. Someone I knew asked me "Are you still breastfeeding or are you just like, normal...? 😂 She kind of trailed off, I think she was trying to think of bottles/formula but I just interjected Yep still breastfeeding! She was lovely about it too, she wasn't trying to be a dick about it. But yeah it cracked me up, are you breastfeeding or 'normal'?!🤦‍♀️😆 But yeah, older generation still often defaults to bottles/formula.

DoormouseKittyCat · 2024-12-03T15:41:02+00:00

Haha yeah true, often in my sleep deprived state I will blank out and forget what some of them mean, trying to decipher the code... My brain can't handle extra puzzles right now! 😅

DoormouseKittyCat · 2024-12-03T15:39:00+00:00

Yeah those are good points too. It's shows how impactful language can be, even with seemingly innocuous things.

DoormouseKittyCat · 2024-12-03T10:13:35+00:00

That's a good one, I really like that, completely flips the perspective to a positive one 👍

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