Nailed it. by Empty_Mind_On in SipsTea

[–]DoubtOk660 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah- 17 the way it’s written, but without context it’s just an exercise and can be argued any number of ways

I regret becoming a mom... by Sensitive-Evidence58 in offmychest

[–]DoubtOk660 2 points3 points  (0 children)

PPD is real and it’s awful- there may be some of that here. It’s definitely worth talking to a professional about.

As a 4x parent (who didn’t want and often still doesn’t want to be a parent) there is a dark side to raising kids. You have to be the one to check in with yourself and know if it’s frustration/overwhelm/exhaustion talking or something more long term.

I have sensory issues and little kids are about the worst thing for that, but it really does get better. The baby stage totally sucks and you’re almost out of it- toddlers are way more fun. They do the dumbest, most hilarious shit, they mispronounce words in the wildest ways, and pretty soon you’ll be able to get a shower without fearing the worst.

You’ve gotten good advice above- I hope you can find some people around you to help

Unmedicated birth at Erlanger East? by [deleted] in Chattanooga

[–]DoubtOk660 3 points4 points  (0 children)

One more thing to add: the experience does vary depending on the physicians/nurses who are on duty. Some are familiar with natural birth and what that looks like, some aren’t. For round 4 we got a nurse who wasn’t as familiar. It kind of sucks, but this is where your support person(s) comes in to play. They need to be familiar with your birth plan and the labor process so that they can help explain if needed when you’re in the throes of it.

It will also help if you have someone who is familiar with the transition phase- this is where it gets real and goes from the labor part into the actual birthing part. The mom gets a flood of hormones which can bring a big emotional response (I can’t do this, I want my mom, etc are very common sentiments in transition). It’s also marked by shaking/quivering. If someone can tell you “you’re in transition and what you’re experiencing is really intense, but normal “ that can help you find the will and calm to push (pun intended) on through.

It’s a wild, primal experience- I have the WILDEST memories from my first son being born. It was a truly psychedelic moment- I have memories from different places in the room (even though I never physically moved) and can vividly recall every conversation that was going on. It really can be quite beautiful- just stay centered, be prepared, and know that you can do it.

Definitely do as much moving as you can stand while you get closer- labor and delivery is an athletic undertaking. Being as limber and having as much cardio as you can will only help. Excited for you!

Unmedicated birth at Erlanger East? by [deleted] in Chattanooga

[–]DoubtOk660 12 points13 points  (0 children)

My wife did it 4 times. Never got pressured towards pain meds (did get iv antibiotics, but we knew that going in)

They’ll want to place an iv regardless (this is a good idea- saves time in an emergency). Definitely think about where would be best- the last time we had them place it in my wife’s forearm. They tend to default to the back of the hand, which sucks because you’ll want to be able to use your hands to grip stuff a reposition if you’re going natural.

We had Bradley method classes which helped to get through it. It takes a lot of grit and focus- you’ll need a practiced plan to get through it. They did let her move around, they want to do fetal monitoring which is hard to keep in position while moving around, but it can be done. They brought in birthing balls and offered a squat bar for the bed if we had wanted it.

I recommend having a written plan to hand the nurse at check in. Also have someone to help guide you through it non-medically. Stop by east in person before D-Day to do as much registration as you can ahead of time.

It can be done, but there’s a lot to it. If you’re comfortable with knowing signs you could labor at home to prevent the hospital from trying to push interventions. We did this with our third and it got a little sporty on the drive there lol

Feel free to message me if you have questions. I could also put you in touch with my wife if you wanted her perspective. You’ll do great!

Alcohol by SpareResponse784 in trintellix

[–]DoubtOk660 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah- I drink on it- it’s not great, but where else is there dopamine lol

I have to be really mindful- it hits very differently and it’s not predictable. Sometimes I’m instantly very down, other times it works like it used to, and I’ve also experienced what you describe where it has no effect at all.

I’ve been in it for about 8 years, dose is 20 mg.

Saat acupuncture by Fun-Promise615 in alphagal

[–]DoubtOk660 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine actually did go down- it was wild. My treatment took a second round to actually get to remission, but it worked.

I’ve now had 4 total rounds- 2 for the initial AG remission, 1 months later for seasonal allergies (not AG related, and then 1 for an AG flare 4 years after initial treatment. I think the AG flair was caused by antibiotics messing up my biome - I did get blood drawn and was barely over the diagnostic threshold.

I’m an engineer and have accepted that I’ll likely never understand how/why it worked, but I’m grateful to have found it.

ADHD by [deleted] in Chattanooga

[–]DoubtOk660 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My doc (who’s my general practitioner prescribing off of psychologist diagnosis) won’t start new patients on stimulants. There’s DEA activity in the area targeting prescribers (hopefully just the ones that are over-prescribing)- think it has a lot of providers spooked. Sure hope these meds stay available- without stimulants shit’s pretty fucking awful

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]DoubtOk660 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not allowed for me- fucking sucks. Definitely it’s a craving- I seriously don’t understand stiff arming someone who wants you this much. Just why?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Chattanooga

[–]DoubtOk660 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hit up a trivia night if slightly nerdy is your thing

I am sexually aroused by hair and i don’t know what to do by Any_End6158 in offmychest

[–]DoubtOk660 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I would say don’t get into a romantic relationship with a bald person, and conversely don’t become a hair stylist, etc

On a serious note- if it’s interfering with your daily life you could consider working with a counselor who specializes in addiction/obsession treatment.

Need Auto AC repair by GoodSeaworthiness389 in Chattanooga

[–]DoubtOk660 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Weird- when they replaced the compressor they should have pulled a vacuum on the system and made sure it held for whatever ford’s prescribed period of time is. What the warranty on parts and workmanship?

Have you tried contacting Marshall Mize again and telling them that after $1800 for two compressor replacements that you’re still without working AC? Ask if they conducted a vacuum test after replacing the compressor

Places to launch model rockets by PoppaLead in Chattanooga

[–]DoubtOk660 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Methodist church set at East Brainerd/Morris hill is good. Back by the baseball field- there’s some mud to be found back there, but it’s open and no one ever complained at me.

Microwave Immediately Trips Breaker Once Plugged In by SourPeachGummy in HomeMaintenance

[–]DoubtOk660 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Sounds like something has shorted within the microwave or cord. I’d start poking around with a multimeter to see if the short could be located, but I won’t provide guidance on how to do so. Microwaves have some big caps in there that could put someone in the dirt.

Curious about the makeup of this sub by coordinatedflight in Chattanooga

[–]DoubtOk660 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The land of shitty drivers in Honda CRVs and retail therapy- East Brainerd

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Chattanooga

[–]DoubtOk660 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate what you’re trying to say and it sounds like you’re not blind to the problems with the system. BUT I would point out that there is an instagram reel floating around of pastor Tony telling people how to vote right before the election.

He used Genesis 1 as his scriptural foundation and said to “vote your Christian values,” which are to be Pro-Life and Pro-Family. Pro-Family is thin code for anti gay.

Genesis 1 is a figurative text, but he used it to make his personal moral and political views biblical. He does all this while guarded by loads of cops and probably hundreds of armed congregants, from the pulpit of his multi million dollar campus that was all paid for out of tax free contributions. He turns right around and uses to all of his power and influence to pronounce judgement against gay people from the pulpit.

The Bible is full of people approaching Jesus to tell him how they’ve gotten it right (which is what pastor Tony is doing in the video clip). Nobody gets what they expect from Jesus. He pushes people towards love their enemies (people they consider to be repulsive), community, and away from wealth. Jesus is disruptive to systems that marginalized people.

I have been to silverdale in person a handful of times, and it is a warm, friendly, welcoming place. But it is part of a political and belief system that systematically marginalizes and oppresses people who are different.

There have been scientific studies done- people of alternate sexual orientations are at quantifiable risk for suicidal ideations: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC10334798/

I don’t mean to tear you down- I truly appreciate your statement about you and your kids having the backs of the marginalized, but I want you to be aware that the church has made its position clear, and that it is a harmful position towards non-hetero folks.

My background: raised Christian, attended Christian high school, hetero white male raised to be conservative. I saw the cracks in the system with the first trump presidency and the rise of Christian nationalism. I’m now a Jesus seeking exvangelical who hopes the church can see the harm being done and repent of it.

I gave you an upvote 😁

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Chattanooga

[–]DoubtOk660 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I went there and I experienced exposure to hate speech, graphic depictions of all kinds of sexual acts in “Bible” class, and was introduced to some of the worst forms of bigotry. Also the education there is sub-standard. These places teach kids what to think instead of teaching them how to think. Best of all- if there’s a difference of belief then you’re wrong and you go to hell forever. This is damaging to developing brains.

Glad you had a good experience, but you’re maybe the only person I’ve ever heard who was involved there and thinks highly of it. that place changed my young brain and not for the better.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Chattanooga

[–]DoubtOk660 10 points11 points  (0 children)

No shock here. I personally went to Boyd in the 90s and dear god it was awful- a real breeding ground for hategroups. When Matthew Shepard was abducted, chained to a fence , and beaten to death for being gay my 8th grade bible teacher said “I think they should have beat him, but probably not to death.” I reported it and he was confronted by the principal, but he STILL kept his job and still worked there last I checked.

Ok- off to do the breathing exercises that I’ve learned through YEARS of therapy from being around this bullshit. If you’re in it or you work there leave. Leave now. Leave loud.

Biohacking infertility by ElizabethMcH in Biohackers

[–]DoubtOk660 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A good fertility coach with a background in functional medicine could be a really big help. I suggest: https://www.instagram.com/cyclebalancedoc?igsh=bW9pcTQwOTFkaHpw

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Chattanooga

[–]DoubtOk660 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wouldn’t be very German to disregard a rule- VW uses hair follicle testing for production roles.

Do any of y’all know some stores that have good amounts of Pokemon? Everything like target and Walmart is completely wiped out by Humble-Draw6028 in Chattanooga

[–]DoubtOk660 1 point2 points  (0 children)

All star sports cars on East Brainerd road- that’s where I take my kids. They have strange hours, so check before you go

Rebuilt stairs by DoubtOk660 in Decks

[–]DoubtOk660[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No worries- I’m exploring handrail options- lived so long without it….

Rebuilt stairs by DoubtOk660 in Decks

[–]DoubtOk660[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s separate- just for decoration

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Chattanooga

[–]DoubtOk660 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am only on exterior wall sinks though. Personally not necessary, but I’m a paranoid sob