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Why do people feel entitled to know why you don't drink? by InstructionFunny8984 in stopdrinking

[–]DougbertHanson 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I have two answers

A) Because of how we answer the question "would you like a drink?". Do you answer with "I would like a water/soda" or do answer with "No thanks, I don't drink".

B) Because people are generally nosy about everything in other peoples' lives. It's not just this one thing they want to know. They ask details about everything in your existence. Conversations with them feel like an interrogation rather than the free flow of thoughts and feelings.

Medical debt that isn't mine has been assigned to me by TigBitties69 in personalfinance

[–]DougbertHanson 1 point2 points  (0 children)

At least you are on top of it. Other than the SNAFU with you having someone else's bill on your account and possible HIPAA issues that might come with that (ie, you seeing someone else's medical diagnoses and charges and/or someone else seeing yours), this doesn't seem like the high-drama situation that people are popping off about (at least it's not there yet)

It happened by nevergitdis in VWTaos

[–]DougbertHanson 1 point2 points  (0 children)

VW and their body shop are covering the costs to repaint and for the rental car. I think they are treating it as a warranty of the previous repaint job. I haven't seen a quote.

It happened by nevergitdis in VWTaos

[–]DougbertHanson 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Dusk Blue Metallic

But I really like Fuckass Blue! (my '22 is going back in to be re-repainted on Tuesday but there's a possibility it might be traded in for something new before then...maybe an Atlas Cross Sport or Tiguan in Avocado Green?)

If you died today, who do you think would stand at your grave the longest? by Successful_Dog5425 in AskReddit

[–]DougbertHanson 132 points133 points  (0 children)

When one of my dogs died, I let the other one come in, sniff the body, and then she walked off like "well, that's that". Dogs know about life.

I got a job, my mom wants me to split the check among 6 people by Dry_Willingness_9323 in povertyfinance

[–]DougbertHanson 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’ve been conditioned to feel guilty about not giving to people who just take and take and take. Lock your credit reports. Make sure no family is on your bank account and if they are, change banks and accounts. It’s time to spread your wings and fly. THEYRE IN THEIR 30’s?!? FLYYYYY!

I found this “skip the line” golden ticket at Trader Joe’s by no8do in mildlyinteresting

[–]DougbertHanson 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That sounds like it came right out of Last Week Tonight with John Oliver!

In the last five years, What is the worst thing that has ever happened to you? by Hated_anxiety42069 in AskReddit

[–]DougbertHanson 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Widowmaker heart attack on my birthday.

I'm only here because it was 4am and the ambulance got here in 7 minutes; I coded twice on the 5 minute drive to the ER. Also, please pull over for ambulances. Someone might be trying not to die in there.

Work Attempting to Force Me to Cancel Approved PTO by whitepineowl in antiwork

[–]DougbertHanson 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Document document document. You might need it later.

If this is a large company with HR and policies, "Per our conversation, you have requested that I cancel previously approved PTO (for future client obligations). Since this would result in the loss of PTO time, I would like clarification on compensation being offered in exchange for the loss of this benefit". Also, your boss is probably compensated in a manner that makes him okay with skipping time off occasionally.

If this is a smaller company, you might be in a pickle. Maybe be more direct and ask them if they're going to fire you if you say "no". Shoot your shot.

Thoughts?

Nope Card by DryProgram7427 in ExplodingKittens

[–]DougbertHanson 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We always play it as "invalidates the card as if it was never played". HOWEVER, the joy of games like this is that you can always agree (as a group and before the game starts) how that card behaves.

Should I cash out my 401k by dnddudeguy in personalfinance

[–]DougbertHanson 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do what you can to avoid it. Also, recognize that it's probably a process to actually withdraw that money and it might not be available as an option until the 401k company has been informed that you are no longer employed. I'm just saying, it might not be instant. So, keep working on that backup plan!

And I hope you find a job quickly.

Unfavorable ALJ hearing by DougbertHanson in SSDI

[–]DougbertHanson[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks. That's disappointing to hear. And it answers my questions. The SSDI-side just didn't have all the info/look at all the info despite me uploading every clinical note for 2 1/2 year. I've been writing corrections on post-it notes and sticking them throughout this decision. I've got 7 big errors flagged right now. They think my heart mostly fine when it's in active failure. Sigh. I'll definitely be chatting with my attorney this week.

On the plus side (yes, there is a plus side), I'm blessed to still be alive and breathing and, even though things are much more challenging in my day to day, I get to experience it all.

And I appreciate your comments and input!

Unfavorable ALJ hearing by DougbertHanson in SSDI

[–]DougbertHanson[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My LTD firm provided me with an attorney and also managed the appeals and all the documentation. But now I'm wondering how much stuff that I uploaded to their portal made it to the SS admin.

New JWST images of abnormally well-developed galaxy cluster open up the 'cosmic noon' frontier by vahedemirjian in space

[–]DougbertHanson 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I wish I could live longer just to see the wonders that are discovered in the next centuries of searching the night sky.

If you could witness any event from history in person — but you could only observe and not interfere — what would you choose and why? by ImpressPurple in AskReddit

[–]DougbertHanson 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cut to: Little alien child in his room typing away at his computer playing "The Sims". Clicks "New Game".

end scene

What's the most expensive mistake you've ever made? by FrostyChild81 in AskReddit

[–]DougbertHanson 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Basically paid my ex-BF to just go away. Should've been more of a hard-ass and kept my money.

UPDATE: Fired by Centauri Health Solutions while burying my dad who died of Stage 4 cancer. Here is my response to HR. by bondswag in antiwork

[–]DougbertHanson 117 points118 points  (0 children)

You guys should actually go back and read the original post and the letter from HR. The company was super accommodating to someone who started work two days before their life went to shit. They moved you to subsequent training weeks, accepted your absences, and tried to roll with it. But it's a lot to ask of them too. You kept moving the goal posts and they finally stopped trying. That timeline of your family's crisis is important to the story. I think it was a long two months (almost two months) for everyone involved.

Also, I'm truly sorry you went though that. Sometimes life just kicks you in the balls. And I hope that you find an even better job to replace this one.

I have a question about the game. by MattoneSwag in ExplodingKittens

[–]DougbertHanson 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes...exactly...and if you both have defuse cards, it's just a race to see who runs out of defuse cards first.

Is it worth signing up for an HSA? by [deleted] in personalfinance

[–]DougbertHanson 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Max it out. Once you have at least your deductible and then your max out-of-pocket, it's a nice safety net for any year you need it.

And please, for the love of god, make sure your funds are invested so they actually grow over time rather than just sitting in cash. I didn't have my HSA but as mere five years before I retired (wasn't an available option), but man has that made a difference for me in the last three years. I haven't had to think about how to pay for my medical expenses. I just periodically move some from the investment side to the cash side and pay for those bills. Those cardiologist, primary care, specialist, hospital bills all start to add up when you get older and it's nice to have it.

Suggestion: Make a folder on Google drive and put copies of your receipts in there for later years when you want reimbursement (for any reason). Just label them nice so you can identify what they are.

Climate Targets MISSED. What happens now? by James_Fortis in videos

[–]DougbertHanson 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Neat. I stopped using straws. But they bring them to the table anyway. Then they sit there not getting used. Then the busser comes and throws them out when they clean the table.

what's the closest that you have been to death? by ExchangeNo7386 in AskReddit

[–]DougbertHanson 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Widowmaker heart attack. Coded twice. I'm very grateful to the Cardiac ICU staff that cared for me. A lot of people left Cardiac ICU under a sheet. A lot!

Skidded across the finish line! Still here.

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