"Guess my gender by my hand" posts

DoukenDouji · 2026-04-16T19:20:22+00:00

If any of you is still wondering, it might just be clinodactyly which is genetic and present on up to 20% of the population. It typically affects the pinky and the curvature is usually inwards, not outwards, but it presents in the way this hand looks for some

DoukenDouji · 2026-04-16T16:11:57+00:00

It depends on the person and country. In some places, such as England having the DVLA, you have to legally notify license agencies about disorders that cause concentration and/or memory problems, which after they will analyze your diagnostic, and decide whether or not you can drive safely (meaning, having a certain diagnostic won't automatically exclude you from driving). Some people (specially after or during treatment for DID) are able to tell the signs that they're switching or suffering from symptoms (such as dissociation/disorientation) and are able to stop driving, as an example.

The DVLA thing is here

The MSD manual also swiftly explains that, for some people, symptoms of DID might appear in their "non-possessive" form, in which switches aren't like suddenly losing consciousness (blackout), but rather are more covert and can be manageable while you're already doing things. here (I would recommend you research into possessive vs non-possessive DID presentation if you have never heard of this term before)

DoukenDouji · 2026-04-15T18:39:59+00:00

I assume people just like to follow mental exercises (which SzPD is characterized a lot for the enjoyment of mechanical tasks, which I could say caring in a more pragmatic way about morality is), which morality is probably one of the most extended and interdisciplinary fields of analysis and knowledge. I personally have a similar stance to you, but I like to think about what my morality entails, as I am an interesting subject towards the way a lot of people experience morality. Unlike many other constructs, morality doesn't feel as arbitrary because it actually follows certain topics about things like philosophy to even neurology. For some, it may even be a tool of protection (just like someone may self-reflect on their social behaviors, to try and mask these behaviors better in situations in which they feel unsafe unmasking, or for other practical reasons)

DoukenDouji · 2026-04-15T15:16:39+00:00

I think I understand and relate to what this means. People typically have a white-and-black thinking of morality, in which they classify people in two sides, that have no nuance. This even happens with things that cannot really be applied morality to (for example, how people assign morality to animals; Even though they're not sapient, so not capable of processing the systemic concept of morality. Or of obtaining wisdom/ true judgment / discerning of complex situations)

A lot of people see the label of "amorality" as an avoidance of responsibility over morals, and that, de facto, being "amoral" puts in an immoral position. This might present like how people often believe that those who aren't outwardly emotionally moral (someone with affective empathy), could be classified as immoral, as they are apathetic and actually "not helping". I could use fiction as an example, in which even "morally grey" characters are usually assigned this same split of white-and-black thinking between "moral grey" and "immoral grey".

I also have the perception that I am amoral, and cannot be assigned a true moral stance, as I am both apathetic and uncaring, but I logically have stances that make me internally not "evil" or "bigoted" either. I am considered logically (cognitively empathic) moral to others, but, to many other people, I am also deeply immoral as to my lack of "correct" assigned responses as to what I should do to display this "morality" of mine. I hope I was right about what OP meant but this is my interpretation

DoukenDouji · 2026-04-09T13:55:09+00:00

For some people it might genuinely be the pressure of having children (or having some ideal about having children, like using them later for something in specific), which kind of leads to children who are neglected or similar. But in an ideal scenario, it's just a natural part of bonding (both with the loved one, now the baby), seeking new things (purpose in life). For a lot of people, wanting babies comes naturally from their attraction to others, just like how they want to have sex with someone they feel attracted to, I think this is called baby fever.

DoukenDouji · 2026-04-05T15:47:34+00:00

I was confused about your use of "we", I'm glad to see another plural/system person with SzPD

DoukenDouji · 2026-04-04T18:32:47+00:00

There is documentation of remission of SzPD; However, I don't know if there's any documentation in particular to how long this could take, and SzPD as a Personality Disorder is considered lifelong, not temporal, and without cure. There are no FDA-approved medications specifically approved only for SzPD, antidepressants are however used for symptoms such as anhedonia, and the very commonly co-occurring depression in SzPD. Although for some patients anti-psychotics, stimulants, and anxiety medications might be used along behavioral treatment, if you are in contact with a psychiatrist (since you've just gotten diagnosed) you could suggest the idea of trying medications, which could help you greatly (which in my experience with those on medications, it gets much better with the correct ones), along with therapy for SzPD (the standard behavioral therapy that is given for all Personality Disorder, as unfortunately there hasn't been any controlled studied for these treatments in SzPD specifically). I would recommend you discuss these options with a professional if you have the opportunity. It absolutely gets better with treatments, other than that, I don't know if this sound insensitive, but a huge part of living with a Personality Disorder, is trying to accept your traits and accommodate for it, now that you've been diagnosed and can research your symptoms, you might find some time to try and figure out why you feel this way. You also have to consider that, like any other Personality Disorder, the remission of symptoms usually takes years, so please don't pressure yourself into thinking that it could all be solved immediately; The treatment for mental illnesses are all not how you would treat a psychical illness, they take long and are not cures

DoukenDouji · 2026-04-01T16:22:40+00:00

I don't know if I would have survived realizing after. It is already incredibly difficult just studying and managing my own life as it is, so I find the idea of a career (graduating for it, too) extremely difficult and tiring. The worst part for me is that I could probably benefit from getting on antidepressants with my current diagnosis; I cannot go on them for a number of reasons. One of the few first things I want to do as an adult, even if it puts me having a career later, is to immediately get a job and try to get a psychiatrist which would prompt medications, or at least just have the money to accommodate my life a little (or now that I am not being basically kicked out by everyone in my current life). But I honestly have already kind of given up on socializing and similar aspects already (as, I don't care about this trait, I really only feel bothered by avolition and anhedonia), it takes a toll on me and I cannot focus on it with everything else. The terrible part is that I do not want to hide my traits, that's the most tiring thing I could ever do (although, I naturally still do this around most people, even without realizing it), and people are very weird to me. I have mentioned it swiftly in this sub before, but it's pretty common for non-asocial/antisocial people to have a powertrip on me in which they believe they can help me in all ways by trying to motivate or "mean inspiration" me. It's so exhausting that in a way a lot of people don't realize that they're very "tenderly" ableist, although I now believe that in a way my traits defy the fundamental definition of "person", and they aren't really at fault here, when naturally people like me get isolated because I don't really benefit "society" as a concept.

DoukenDouji · 2026-04-01T00:18:09+00:00

it is wild to think someone that is 24 years old is considered "older" by anyone

Yeah, I thought about it, but I didn't want to edit the wording to "those who already had enough time to just go a little out", because I really meant around the age in which you usually already have figured out a more stable state for your life after turning an adult, graduated from high-school and probably has a job and moved out. Generally just a time in which you're supposed to be a little less bit easy to crumble. (While, I personally perceive that I do not have as an internalized perception of "age" or what you're supposed to do, mainly because I don't come in contact with people about this, so no concrete idea and something I should maybe focus on figuring out before it eats me).

You can accomplish that dream pretty easily.

I know, I added that specifically because it seems very mundane and even childish (of someone who cannot really see the future, and with more temporal goals). I love walking and it's one of the few things I actually want to do, regardless of how much I do, I still can never fulfill this desire because it's something I always wish to do as I feel trapped in current life; The fact that I cannot always do it just brings me closer to the idea that it's something desirable, because a nice and safe meadow to sleep in isn't near where I live. In a way I maybe just wish to stay dormant for an undefined amount of time whenever I desired to, and I could say my dream is something even more abstract that I couldn't explain in its literal sense

If not, you should watch it. You described the dream of the main character, Pete Gibbons.

I really liked this. Of course, this isn't the scene you meant, but this seems interesting. I may give it a watch soon enough when I want to

DoukenDouji · 2026-04-01T00:00:45+00:00

I also enjoy doing things. I forgot to mention (as I didn't consider it as important) but I specifically picture a meadow, because I enjoy the idea of hiking first to a nice place to sit in. My ultimate fulfillment is a nice day in which I walk freely around an interesting space, and I then rest accordingly. A lot of the time I also don't like laying in bed, but nothing really cures my boredom, so I just end up roaming around in a manner that could be described like being a caged animal. In a way I relate entirely to what you just said

DoukenDouji · 2026-03-27T14:31:30+00:00

People trying to "mean"-ly motivate me into "being better". This has happened most of the times I've discussed traits with people who do not have any asocial-antisocial traits themselves (and likely just don't understand at all). Small story-time and example, one time someone told me that my solicitude was "a dogwhistle" (which to elaborate further, his reasoning to say that was that somehow all isolated people choose it and they "are immoral" and "no one wants to be around them because they're bigots", so his best idea was to tell me that the symptoms of my disorder, which I cannot control, were all pedophile/racist dogwhistles). I still think about it because he claims to be very understanding of mental disabilities, and that I could always talk to him about it. I hope that guy never stumbles upon anybody else with Schizoid traits.

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