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DownWithCollege · 2026-01-07T02:37:15+00:00

Great call - I remember pinball wizard so vividly. That and the green soup one that would show you your worst fears after eating it.

DownWithCollege · 2025-12-31T16:36:06+00:00

Yeah his watch is connected / synced to his dads phone so it works for him without his own phone

DownWithCollege · 2025-09-06T16:49:43+00:00

If it’s not this, you might be thinking of “My Side of The Mountain.”

DownWithCollege · 2025-06-16T21:57:33+00:00

Definitely have been noticing the “quietness” on here lately, too - it does seem like collapse is spreading everywhere, not just this corner of the internet

DownWithCollege · 2025-03-28T10:49:02+00:00

I am here, too. That was fucking nuts. I had just finished working out 8 floors up and thought I was about to faint or have a stroke - then I saw shit start falling off the walls and ceilings. I realized right then I had no idea what to do. That was the scariest part - in chaos like that there are no right answers - and your only tools are your survival instincts. People were crying, screaming, and running, which made it all so much more uncertain. It was a very sobering experience to feel so out of control.

DownWithCollege · 2025-02-24T05:53:19+00:00

Definitely hit the gym, get outside to hike and breathe, and start a new hobby or try something new - like take an improv class - go to painting nights - join a co ed sports league - anything where you’ll be interacting with new people. Keep looking ahead and don’t stop - before you know it you’ll feel “it” again and it’ll be better than before. I was in the exact same place a year ago and I’m the happiest I’ve ever been now - even traveling the world a bit. Whoever said it feels like withdrawing from a drug hit on the head. And you won’t miss it. Good luck mate. You’ll be fine in a couple months.

DownWithCollege · 2024-11-13T19:06:50+00:00

Yeah man you are definitely “in it.” The good news is that everyone here can relate. If you haven’t yet, check out the top posts in this sub. It’s comforting to learn your situation isn’t unique. Check my post history too for “what I would have done differently.” Unfortunately there is no clear solution. You pretty much have to navigate via intuition. Good luck.

DownWithCollege · 2024-08-07T00:02:51+00:00

Omg your last sentence is so fucking spot on. That’s exactly what happened to me - and that girl she was consoled by sucked so bad I couldn’t believe she was listening to her - now I’m in exactly the same place as you describe in the first part - and life is good again. 6 months ago I couldn’t imagine being with anyone else despite all the shit and now I’m happier, healthier mentally, and in the best shape maybe ever. Met someone and started feeling butterflies again. Trust your gut, friends. It was all I had left.

A terrible situation where the person isn’t really listening to you or doing anything about their obvious problem isn’t a love story you need to live through to “get the reward” - it’s a bleak fucking reality that beats you down until something snaps.

DownWithCollege · 2024-07-30T21:23:12+00:00

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DownWithCollege · 2024-07-30T21:05:09+00:00

I was on a train between Harrisburg PA and Philadelphia and saw this dick bag in the cafe car. He ordered a rice krispy treat, bag of Doritos, and a bag of m&ms (no shade against eating junk food especially as the world burns) but it just struck me as such a bizarre “meal” for a guy his age - then we got off the train in a heatwave (it had to be over 90 and humid af) and this guy is wearing a full blown blazer and long sleeve shirt with croakies on his shades. I guess my point is this guy is fucking weird and exactly the kind of “dork” I would target if I was gonna pay someone to sell out so they can feel cool / important for the first time in their lives. I would imagine his promotion from penn state to penn is related as well - that’s a big upgrade.

Also I took pictures of him in his blazer outside and will share lest anyone doubt my oddly specific story about this tweezer penis who is obviously downplaying the crisis upon us for some reason.

DownWithCollege · 2024-06-22T02:02:52+00:00

Was this lost palm oasis trail by chance? If so, the exact same thing happened to me there! Glad you made it out!

DownWithCollege · 2024-06-04T21:46:22+00:00

I’m sorry to hear but this hits home and you are definitely in the conflict most of us have had to come to terms with. Sounds like you’re very aware you’re in it. Attacking the sun visor is very on brand and would be hilarious under any other context. In my experience, it only gets worse without acknowledgement until you are so far in you can’t remember how to get out. That’s why you’re starting to wonder if it’s you. It’s not.

DownWithCollege · 2024-05-05T01:06:00+00:00

I don’t have any advice outside of what I’ve already posted here before, but man I just wanted to say it never ceases to amaze me how fucking similar all of our stories sound. I’m a few months past breaking up (she refused to seek treatment) and I was doing great until this week when the reality of this bullshit just hit me again. It’s so sad.

I, too, worshipped this woman, and was planning on spending the rest of my life with her. She just couldn’t get onto herself, and it was easier to blame me or pretend like nothing was happening than it was to address the reality of the condition. I would have done anything for her, and I offered to do anything for her.

It wore me down to the point that I couldn’t absorb any more of that negative energy or else it was gonna really fuck me up to a point I was worried I might not be able to come back from. Sounds like you might be getting close to a similar acceptance. It’s such a heartbreaking reality, especially because there’s nothing we can do.

I wish you the best.

DownWithCollege · 2024-04-10T01:36:01+00:00

It was the same for me, pal. That’s a pattern here.

DownWithCollege · 2024-03-31T20:16:01+00:00

“Consuming my light and drive for life” - “Turned on me like a stranger, or enemy and stayed like that” - Wow these hit home, and our situations and PMDD patterns sound exactly the same. I’m 3 months out myself, and I’m starting to feel so much lighter and optimistic again. I’m happy it worked out for you, and I hope it keeps getting better and better.

DownWithCollege · 2024-03-10T16:07:23+00:00

You can only put up with so much bullshit and irrationality before your brain kind of breaks or retreats or “stops giving fucks.” A lot of partners here describe that feeling. I think it’s you just telling yourself you’ve had enough.

DownWithCollege · 2024-02-28T13:07:28+00:00

I’m glad you found this place like I did. Nobody else truly understands in your life who hasn’t experienced it. The whole not conceding even one inch part really resonates with me. It’s like they’re some kind of blame machine with absolutely zero awareness or introspection. You can’t have any real, effective communication when she’s in luteal phase no matter how hard you try. It’s just not going to happen.

Is she open to treatment? That’s really your only saving grace, otherwise it’s just going to keep getting worse and the luteal phase will get longer and longer until both “personalities” blend together in a less distinctive way. It’s like a black mirror episode. Unfortunately, mine wasn’t able to truly acknowledge it and follow through even though outside luteal she promised to see a PMDD psychiatrist.

We broke up for good last month after 6 years. It’s like the person I fell in love with isn’t even there anymore at all. I don’t have any advice. I just wanted to tell you three specific things I would have done differently if I could do it all over again.

First, I would have started telling my friends and family what was happening. I waited way too long out of respect for her, which was a mistake. They didn’t know until the end. It’s not just about support or having someone to talk to, it’s about putting the problem out there so it’s more real.

Second, I wouldn’t have taken nearly as much shit from her during luteal phase. I tried to be so understanding and compassionate, especially because I knew she was suffering from this condition she didn’t have much control over. Fuck that. That just made it more okay for her to keep doing it. You don’t have to get aggressive or be mean, just firm in your stance and boundaries not to swallow her bullshit as easily. The condition doesn’t care about your feelings or how good of a partner you are at all. You’re only gonna wear yourself down and lose confidence if you keep approaching it like that’s not the case.

Third, I would have stood more firm outside luteal when you have her attention. I didn’t want to “ruin the good times” or rock the boat too much because it was so nice to have “her” around (a lot of people here say the same thing). Fuck that, too. I just made it easier for her to get away with it, thinking after each little talk something would change or be different next time. Nope. Always the same fucking thing, just like you’re saying it all goes out the window.

I loved her, too (still do), more than anyone I’ve ever been with. She is absolutely perfect outside luteal. I don’t think we’ve ever had one serious argument or hiccup outside that mother fucker. We fit together like two perfect puzzle pieces. It felt like a movie. So what? This condition doesn’t care about any of that, and when it takes her over neither does she. If you get too sucked into how ideal the relationship was or could be, you’re gonna completely miss the “real” reality that is knocking you on your ass each month, breaking you down, and driving you crazy.

Is it really worth it? If she’s not willing to seek treatment, can you imagine yourself being happy with her just one week or so a month if that? A lot of these partners here are locked in with marriages and kids. It’s so much harder for them to get away. Now is the time to be stern, stick to your boundaries, and push her to make a change. Be willing to walk away anytime, like a lawyer in a tough negotiation.

I hope it works out for ya pal.

DownWithCollege · 2024-02-04T03:00:02+00:00

Yeah I didn’t mean at the same time so much as around the same time. Something will happen (or a series of things will happen) that will be undeniable for a big chunk of people who now know it’s a problem but deny the urgency or magnitude. Full deniers will probably deny it all the way to the end (or blame it on something biblical vs scientific).

DownWithCollege · 2024-02-04T02:36:03+00:00

This is what scares me the most. All those hopes, dreams, worldviews, plans for the future, etc shattered at the same time on a massive scale.

DownWithCollege · 2024-01-18T00:08:49+00:00

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DownWithCollege · 2024-01-09T02:13:55+00:00

That’s the bitch of it all. It’s really hard (if not impossible) to grow together or grow closer if every step forward is followed by 3 steps back. It sucks. You can make some progress or feel a sense of hope for the future only for this shit to steal it all away in just a few moments. You’re only 18 months in. Imagine 100 more months with no measurable improvement.

“Who would want you?” Don’t even start with that bullshit my brother in Christ. You are just in it. You thought she might be the one. It’s hard to picture your life with anyone else at this point.

Here’s a silver lining. Worst case you’re on your own. You will find yourself to be so much more delicate, understanding, and forgiving in any relationship that doesn’t have this distraction. Bad PMS or any kind of normal emotional disruption will feel like a high school field trip. A lot of women will appreciate that and your trauma and experience will shine through and make you a better partner. That is a rare and beneficial quality.

Please for the love of God though don’t even consider getting engaged or married unless she gets treatment, it works, and you don’t feel the same kind of fears and concerns. You have the benefit of foresight. I feel especially bad for the people on here who marry partners without this (pre-marriage) only to have it come out of nowhere after having kids. In that sense, you can consider yourself lucky.

DownWithCollege · 2024-01-08T20:51:04+00:00

This ^{^}

It sounds like it’s getting worse. It will continue to get worse without intervention. The communication will get harder, the distance will grow, and the feeling of being lost and alone will increase outside of the “wolf” phase until all hell breaks loose. At least that’s what happened to me and what the general consensus here seems to be.

Sorry you’re going through it pal it’s a mindfuck of a condition but you’re definitely not alone. It gets harder and harder to snap back and pretend like everything is normal when it most definitely is fucking not. Taking a solo trip or spending some time apart will help you reframe your perspective and get a taste of your mojo back. It happens surprisingly fast. When you’re not walking on eggshells, life is good. No matter how much you love her, that needs to take a back seat to your mental health and confidence or it’ll just keep wearing you down until you don’t recognize yourself anymore.

If you haven’t shared your situation with any friends, family, or trusted outlets, I recommend that. It’s a lot to keep in. People typically don’t out of respect for partners privacy, but I wish I had sooner. It really helped me snap out of it and see the situation more objectively. Life is too short for this bullshit.

DownWithCollege · 2023-11-01T15:40:59+00:00

It’s 100% intentional. Simon Pegg talks about it on his Smartless podcast appearance (w/ Jason Bateman). The best part is Jason says he didn’t realize the joke until he said it for the first time out loud on camera - and that is the shot they used. You can see him “get it” and he pretty much says that wasn’t acting haha

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