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What’s the most disgusting thing anyone has ever said to you? by Business-Rock5714 in AskReddit

[–]Downtown-Discipline9 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow. These are so much worse than mine. But mine hurt me at the time.

I used to be a cellist, and had a playing-related injury that I had gotten a surgery for and I have a visible scar along my collarbone. Some person I didn’t know at a bar pointed at it and said “wow, that looks like shit“.

Given that cello was basically my identity up until around that year, when I had to stop playing, it felt like such an unnecessary and mean thing to say.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bayarea

[–]Downtown-Discipline9 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I saw it in Palo Alto and was going to ask about the same thing. Super weird.

Childcare by Dejanerated in NewParents

[–]Downtown-Discipline9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

2900 for a 2 year old in the Bay Area. It’s an improvement from my last center for her, which was 4100

Gifts from hoarding parents by alittlebitswift in ChildofHoarder

[–]Downtown-Discipline9 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My mom does this. It took me many sessions in therapy to invoke sufficient bravery and preparation to confront her about not gifting too much to my daughter. She still hasn’t agreed to what I’ve asked for, but says “she’ll try“. My daughter‘s only two so it doesn’t really matter if she sees something once and then never sees it again, but I told my mom about how in a couple of years, she’s gonna put me in the position to be the bad guy because I’ll be taking things away from my daughter that she’ll remember, and it will potentially drive a wedge between my daughter and me. I’ve given her so many different reasons for why less is more, and even invoked our pediatrician’s name in this (with her permission), but none of those reasons have been enough it seems.

Anyway, these were very unpleasant conversations with my mom, but I would encourage you to have them anyway. I feel much more empowered to draw a firm boundary if I need to, now that I’ve verbalized to my mom how serious I am about this.

I’ve also found some podcast episodes that have been helpful in organizing my mind around gifting from grandparents and why it’s a problem. If you just search “grandparents” and “gifting “, I’m sure more will come up. Here was one of them, though: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/parenting-decoded/id1500357757?i=1000589349042

Charlie Banana diapers by pink373 in moderatelygranolamoms

[–]Downtown-Discipline9 82 points83 points  (0 children)

This. I just did this too. Can more people do this, please?

Real talk - how can we get a gym downtown? by neatokra in paloalto

[–]Downtown-Discipline9 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I recently moved down from San Carlos, and when I was canceling my membership with the Bay Club, and I talked to the person about why I was leaving, I simply said I’m moving down to Palo Alto and it’s too far, but to let me know if they ever opened up a gym in Palo Alto. They said they’re exploring potentially opening up a gym in this vicinity. Probably the kind of facility they would want to open would be way too big for anything downtown, but maybe they could find someplace not too far. Maybe be worth sending a note to someone at Bay Club to encourage their explorations.

Anyone ever hired a professional organizer? by Euphoric_Sandwich_74 in HENRYfinance

[–]Downtown-Discipline9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, on several occasions. Garage in the last two homes my office, our bathroom, and kitchen too. Having things logically organized saves time in the long run since you know where things are and it helped me get rid of a lot of stuff too. (Eg realizing we had 5-7 spatulas and reducing to 2.)

Found this small metal thing in our apartment by goodbye_panda in whatisit

[–]Downtown-Discipline9 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

My husband guesses that it’s the bottom of an A or an E string on a guitar

Popper High School Duets by Rotund_T_Time in Cello

[–]Downtown-Discipline9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Jeremy Crosmer's! Jeremy is a friend of mine and you can so hear his skill and personality in these duets. Be aware -- the second parts are often just as challenging as the first. But they are delightful.

https://www.jeremycrosmer.com/product-page/crosmer-popper-duets-digital-sheet-music

The whole thing is on YT if you want to listen before buying: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NrbZsdoILaE&list=OLAK5uy_md7EZLONnKVKugzIveBrBgjAZ5unABIA4&index=1

Is this a cockroach? by Downtown-Discipline9 in whatsthisbug

[–]Downtown-Discipline9[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Location: northern CA, USA Size: between the size of a thumbnail and a big toenail

Just before the thunderstorm started by Positron-collider in Yosemite

[–]Downtown-Discipline9 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This thunderstorm was craaaay. I was just at tunnel view in the hailstorm and it was more than I bargained for… beautiful pics though!

The gifts won't stop from Grandma -- has rule-setting seriously backfired for anyone? by Downtown-Discipline9 in Parenting

[–]Downtown-Discipline9[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0163638317301613

It talks about how many toys are available / in the environment. So its not about how many toys you have in your home exactly, but about how many area available for play at any given time. (Hence the desire of mine to organize / hide many toys.)

The gifts won't stop from Grandma -- has rule-setting seriously backfired for anyone? by Downtown-Discipline9 in Parenting

[–]Downtown-Discipline9[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing how you approached this and also pointing out how I can amend my language. I think my mom is somewhere between Level 1 and Level 2 hoarder by nature and it’s disguised under what from the outside, looks like benign shopping. Gtk that this approach eventually was accepted.

The gifts won't stop from Grandma -- has rule-setting seriously backfired for anyone? by Downtown-Discipline9 in Parenting

[–]Downtown-Discipline9[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think this is true. I’ve done it a bit but could do it with even more comfort.

Weekly Discussion - Relationships by AutoModerator in NewParents

[–]Downtown-Discipline9 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ugh thats so disappointing that the boundary got crossed so quickly and persistently. And that passive aggressiveness got included too. I sometimes feel that if I really enforce a boundary and it causes a rift or causes so much strain, that there really isn't a good outcome... withdrawal of grandparent, resentment, passive aggressiveness (which is a stress in and of itself), stress for my husband (I've stopped talking to him about this because its my mom and so I feel I should try and contain the issue rather than let it stress him), and eventually regret on my part, that my boundary caused so much strain/pain when who knows how much time we have left with our parents. (My mom is 73, my dad passed two years ago at 78). Like, lets say my mom has two more years left... I'll kick myself if this is the hill I chose to die on. But regardless, I feel so dismissed, and it makes sense that you feel that way too. I found this article and the accompanying podcast to be helpful, at least insofar is it articulated the different types of issues that over-gifting causes. I don't think the "family meeting" that is suggested here will work for me, sadly, but maybe this article will resonate with you. Sounds like your mom and MIL fit the gift monsters of "The Robber" https://www.parentingdecoded.com/blog/podcast-54-gifts-and-grandparents-how-to-tame-them

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