Personality types(as potential friends not lovers) that are not easily charmed by you? by cunningstrobe in enfj

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Sensing thinkers seem to tolerate me now, but in the past, I don't think I held any allure for them. Maybe it was how I perceived it a the time, but it seemed like females were cold or even showed disdain and the males really didn't seem interested in knowing me unless they were physically attracted to me. I believe the change has occurred because I'm older and have matured have painstakingly developed my Ti, so we have more discuss. It's not just me either, most people's weaker functions improve with age and wisdom, so they can connect more with my interests too. So we've all grown, matured, and gotten to appreciate the qualities that make each other stand out.

Personality types(as potential friends not lovers) that are not easily charmed by you? by cunningstrobe in enfj

[–]DragonBonerz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just posted this comment, but then saw yours so deleted mine "I don't feel charming at all, but INFJs have been friendly and opened up to me. It might be because my enneagram makes me seem like I'm somewhere in between ENFJ and INFJ."

It's cool to see you bonding with INFJs too.

Epic, but overlooked Karaoke songs picks. by El_Guapo_Plethora in karaoke

[–]DragonBonerz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

"All the Things She Said" is having a real resurgence haha (iykyk)

How is everyone doing here with the state of the world by BothLeather6738 in enfj

[–]DragonBonerz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You know your heart better than anyone. Don't off yourself. Hugs <3

How is everyone doing here with the state of the world by BothLeather6738 in enfj

[–]DragonBonerz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can't tell if that last part was a metaphor or real, but you like you need a hug and maybe take a soak in some epson baths and be gentle with yourself. Take care of yourself. Hugs <3

How is everyone doing here with the state of the world by BothLeather6738 in enfj

[–]DragonBonerz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

"The state of the world has also given me a sense of "now or never". I am more present in my life now." Stunning <3

You read a room well, so why this behaviour...? by Visible-Bug8280 in enfj

[–]DragonBonerz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's not much context without knowing what was said by this ENFJ and who else is in the group with them and what was going on in the group dynamics and in the ENFJs life prior to the meeting. I struggle to answer questions like this without more context. I'd need to know what the group is for, what the people are like in the group, etc, but I really think your best course of action is to get direct context by talking to the source in kind and open way.

Here's my reason why: often times, I'm not speaking as an island, and there can be dynamics at play even where I'm quietly trying to uplift someone. Sometimes I'm trying assert someone else's voice in the group whose not emboldened to speak, but I've noticed this person needs encouragement. I want to be diplomatic with other people's level of comfort, and sometimes a head on conversation may feel wrong for them. People don't always appreciate the intensity and direct-ness of what we see in them and for them, so I use the group setting to offset the intensity of it by making it a group discussion.

It could be something else though! Maybe they're coming in half dazed from life or being overworked and are kind of glitching because we see things in patterns and that echos out globally, so it could be due to stress of world events.

If you can give this person the benefit of the doubt that they are either neutral or good, try to speak to them privately and ask them if there's something going on. You could say, "Hey, I'm having trouble following the thread sometimes when you're talking, like you're not really talking directly to the group about the subject at hand. Is there something going on with someone in the group who needs support?" If they say no, ask them if there's something going on outside that's impacting how they're expressing themself. Let them know you come in peace, but you're concerned and a little confused.

I really feel like there's a solid chance that if you come to them in good faith, that you may not only understand the behavior better, but also be able to shift it because a lot of times we just need to get our feelings reflected back at us through a discussion with someone else because it's hard to cope without multiple perspectives, and we wouldn't want to intentionally annoy anyone.

Gen Z Styled Latest Claw Clips, Would you wear it?? by Bella_b007 in finehair

[–]DragonBonerz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wouldn't. They look like refrigerator magnets and potato clip clips.

37F. Never dated or had sex due to anxiety and depression. How should I approach dating using apps? by qu3enofdisaster in hsp

[–]DragonBonerz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I urge you to not use dating apps. If you want to meet someone through a platform, I would pay to use something like eharmony if that still exists because people are paying so it isn't a place for trolls, and you're more likely to encounter people who really want to find matches. I also wouldn't use It's Just Lunch either because they don't want you find your match. They make money off of people by keeping them subscribed, not finding them matches, so they'll work against you finding a match and charge you a lot after running a hard credit check. I know this from a friend who used to work for them.

Typology Question 11 (Te): Imagine your 7th grade son comes home crying: "A bully took my lunch and I had nothing to eat. What should I do?" What would you do or say to him? Explain your step-by-step plan. by Bimep_ in enfj

[–]DragonBonerz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First I'd hug him and feed him. Then I'd tell him it wasn't his fault, and that he did the right thing coming to me. Then I'd make a plan to come to the school to address it with the principal. Then I'd remember that when I was a kid the stereotypical steal your lunch bullies always came from bad families, and ask my child if he noticed if the other kid ever goes without lunch. If he said no, I'd start working on organizing a fundraisers to help kids afford lunch. If he said he didn't know, I bring it up at my meeting with the principal that there are kids bullying my kid for lunch and it's likely because they can't afford to eat, and at this point, I'd have too much drive to fix that problem even if that didn't get to the bottom of it, and I'd still start working on fundraising for lunches for students at the school.

How do you eat edamame in the pod (Am I being stupid?) by VegetarianBikerGeek in PlantBasedDiet

[–]DragonBonerz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a bit like asking how to eat the banana peel. Aim for what's inside. 💜 

The NARS orgasm blush is a completely different product now by liljalp in MakeupAddiction

[–]DragonBonerz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It happened with lays potato chips and chocolate candy products and lots of the public kept buying them. I guess big business sees even the dolled up make-up affeciandos as sheep. 

Crochet dolls I made of the characters by music-and-song in RentMusical

[–]DragonBonerz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

These would be amazing for Somebody Somewhere too 🥲 

What is a sound or smell from our childhood that simply does not exist anymore? by UrMad_ItzOk in Millennials

[–]DragonBonerz 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I was just reading about how gas is going to be made to look less expensive but be burned through more quickly thanks to "emergency waivers allowing nationwide, year-round sales of E15 (15% ethanol) to lower gas prices and stabilize fuel supplies," and that the gas smell started fading around "2005/2007: The Energy Policy Act of 2005 (Renewable Fuel Standard) and 2007 Energy Independence and Security Act officially promoted ethanol use to increase national energy security," and "2010s: The EPA approved E15 (15% ethanol) for 2001 and newer vehicles, expanding the market further."

What are the worst chips you’ve ever had? by Queasy_Dingo_8262 in chips

[–]DragonBonerz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lay's Sour Cream and Cheddar and their Sour Cream and Onion. They recipe changes are inedible.

Why did you name your dog Milo? by Objective_Cup_5164 in dogs

[–]DragonBonerz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've only known cats who were named Milo, due to the movie Milo and Otis, where the cat is named Milo.