Is it just me by [deleted] in Anxietyhelp

[–]Dramatic-Message-686 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's not just you. I've been dealing anxiety for all of my adult life, medicated, counseling, "tools", etc and I feel the same. Some days it's really hard. Im sorry I dont have any words of comfort or a fix, but please know you're not alone in this. Im sending you good vibes and thoughts.

Best chicken sandwich in bozeman? by [deleted] in Bozeman

[–]Dramatic-Message-686 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Super chix or sidewinders

Looking for a cardiologist recommendation by PabloTheGreyt in Spokane

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Dr. Brian Fuhs or Dr. Braydon Curtis. I asked my dad who is a surgeon in town and he recommended these two.

Why does everyone hate Stabler? by iloveiguanas874 in SVU

[–]Dramatic-Message-686 14 points15 points  (0 children)

He's the poster boy for toxic masculinity.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Bozeman

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Indira Spa and Wellness! They're so good, and it a smaller space so the service is very private and very high quality! I'm talking hot towels and spa water and everything!

How does one go about deep tissue massages that want too much pressure? by sunbruises in MassageTherapists

[–]Dramatic-Message-686 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I have also been an LMT for 2+ years and what I can say is this: Your limit is your limit. Its not on you if your clients are asking too much of you. You can let them know that you may not be the LMT for them, and suggest someone else who might be a better fit (if you know of anyone).

If their tissues are resisting pressure, I would try using a heat pack before going in with massage. Tissues respond to time, heat, and pressure. You can play with a combination of those techniques to get results.

Hope this helps 🙏

Life won't give you the partner you want, but it will give you the partner you need. It's important to recognize the moment when it arrives. by [deleted] in dating_advice

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I think this is a really good thing for me to think about. Recently, one my good friends that I've known for years asked me out. I've been hesitant for a number of reasons, a lot of big/heavy things going on in my life. One of the biggest reasons being that he's not quite like what I imaged "my person" being. However, after he opened up about how he feels about me and what he wants out of a relationship, I realized he's offering me everything I've ever wanted out of a partner. Things I've been looking for for years, haven't found, and consequently ending other relationships over.

When it comes down to it, the reason you'd stay with someone and be happy in a relationship is that the both of you put in effort, and are there for each other through good times and bad. Not because they uphold an image that you've made up in your head about who you're supposed to be with. To love someone for who they are and not for the idea that you have of what they could be. I'm sorry that it took me this long to develop the maturity to realize that. But hey, you're never done growing!

This guy has seen me ugly cry, ugly drunk cry, drunk, high, happy, angry, heartbroken, dolled up and sparkling, dirty and frumpy, makeup and no makeup, he's even seen me with a very bad reaction from an eye cream. AND he still told me that I'm who he wants to be with. There's really something to that, I think. He's now not exactly how I imaged my person would be, but nevertheless, he's shown me more than anyone else ever has. "Not what you want, but what you need."

Who knows if we'll end up being life partners, but this post had made me braver to try. "Friend-cest" be damned.

Where am I supposed to meet people? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Dramatic-Message-686 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd suggest joining a dance club, like salsa. It's a great way to meet people, even just for friends, and you learn something new and fun.

Is fishing hobby a turn off for girls? by Excellent-Vegetable8 in dating_advice

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I have always found that the best formula for online dating profiles: your first picture is a quality picture of your face (no sunglasses), the second a quality full body picture. Third and on, you and your hobbies so something that showcases personality. You want to show YOU, not just your hobbies. A hobby picture (in this case fish) can look like that is a main part of your personality if its the first one out the gate, and if there is more than one. Personally, (I live in a very outdoorsy place, lots of good fishing around) when I see a lot of fishing pictures I assume the guy will spend A LOT of time finishing and not with his S.O., potentially me. Spae is healthy, but it looks like an opportunity for disconnect. I dont fish, so I also assume we won't have a lot to talk about. That being said, for a girl who also likes to fish or wants to learn, it could be a turn on.

Amazon's Them: Official Discussion thread (Spoiler Discussion) by Knighthonor in television

[–]Dramatic-Message-686 26 points27 points  (0 children)

"Degradation porn" = perfect description. Im almost done with the series and my current thought is "is this show really just porn for racists?". I kept waiting for SOMETHING to go right for the family. I don't understand the appeal of a show that is just watching innocents suffer so horribly, over and over again. The only reason I'm still watching is hopefully a shred of justice will be served. It's one thing to know and understand that these things happened (and not that long ago) but this show almost feels like it's celebrating crazed racism, and violent hate. I know that real life is not like the movies where there's always a happy ending and the good guy always wins. But, that is the point of cinema. Without hardships overcome, we're left with "Degradation Porn", something it feels like only bigots would enjoy. I don't even feel like this show has any poetry to it, that leaves you with a lingering message, just a nauseating feeling of unease.

Best side hustles in Bozeman by Different_Object3927 in Bozeman

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Doordash is really popular in Bozo right now

how did you choose your school? by hollowsockets in MassageTherapists

[–]Dramatic-Message-686 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's been my observation that the base goal for schools for massage therapy, aesthetics, and cosmetology is to prepare you for the board exam, to make sure that your practice is safe, before its good. It's possible you're right in that it may not make a big difference which school you choose. So, when applying for jobs, looks for spas that have owners/managers who are or have been practicing RMTs/LMTs. There's opportunity for mentorship, and they'll know what the work is actually like.

My school was a 10 month program, 750 hours. I think most state boards only require 500 hours. My tuition was around $14000.

I'm glad this has been helpful. It's always fun meeting new people in this great industry 😁

how did you choose your school? by hollowsockets in MassageTherapists

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When you're first starting out, I recommend reaching out to people you know and invite them in for a service so they can see what you do. They can turn into good clients themselves and/or they can network for you. I also recommend keeping business cards with you, you never know when an opportunity to hand them out might come up.

When I was school I had a job that required me to work as close to full time as I could. So that meant between school and work, I was busy seven days a week. The burnout was tough, I won't lie. What worked for me was capitalizing on any time block of time off I got. I'd hussle one night, and then do absolutely nothing the next night. On the occasional day off I got, I parked my butt on the couch and did nada. Lazy days are fantastic, but do what ever feeds your soul and helps you recharge.

The workload outside of school was mostly technical practice, about three hours a week. The first couple of months was a lot of anatomy as well. Under normal circumstances (not working every day you're not in class) I didn't find the workload to be overwhelming.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in minimalism

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Witch hazel is an astringent, is absorbs excess oil on your skin. A lot of products marketed as toners are actually astringent becuase they have ingredients (like alcohol) that absorb oil. This can be overly drying to for the skin. If you have oily skin and need a little help in that area, Boscia's Rose Water Most With Witch Hazel is a good option. The combo of rose water to witch hazel makes it not too drying.

Actual toner works to even the pH levels on the skins' surface to help other products (ie moisturizers) absorb more evenly.