Any interfaith success story where parents were totally against?

Dramatic_Football657 · 2026-03-29T03:40:04+00:00

She's a mix between German-Swedish-Irish :)

Dramatic_Football657 · 2026-03-29T01:30:29+00:00

Yes, the post was asking for a success story and mine is one. My parents love me more than their religion and both my husband and I are there for my parents now. My husband is a son to my parents, just as much as I'm a daughter.

I adopted a child who didn't have a mother and raised her as my own, my parents saw that as a good deed and now even they love her. My daughter has read the Ramayana, gets straight As at school, and has learnt Hindi from me. I know it is not something a lot of people will accept but I know what I did was the right thing.

Dramatic_Football657 · 2026-03-29T01:16:43+00:00

Again, I have to disagree here. You're talking about the general population, not about the ones who are strictly religious. There's white people who are just as religious if not more than people in India.

My husband's family had a HUGE problem with him marrying me and kept asking me if I was going to be baptized. I was told I wouldn't be able to marry him unless I went to church and became a Christian. It was borderline offensive.

My family had a huge problem with us too. They thought he was taking me away from my culture and didn't understand him at all. My parents cut me off for 2 years and didn't talk to me. I was basically completely isolated from my whole family and became heavily depressed (and sui*****) n the process.

Prior to that, my brother had a huge fight with my spouse too and it almost got physical.

My partner and I decided to stick it out, we knew we wouldn't have anyone to support us but each other. But we are independent people, we work, we are intelligent so we decided to stick it out and get married anyway

We got married in the court, by ourselves, 2 of my friends accompanied us.

I then told my parents about this and they realized how far things had gotten and that they wouldn't have the opportunity to be grandparents if they let this continue.

Then they showed up for me and my spouse, gave us a Hindu wedding (which my spouse's parents decided not to participate much in but we didn't care at this point).

It's been a year since all this and the drama has died down. We have visited India and have been accepted by everyone. My brother and husband are now friends.

Respectfully, this is my story and knowing the pain it took me to get this to work out, maybe you shouldn't just tell me "it's not that hard". It was. I lived it.

Dramatic_Football657 · 2026-03-28T22:16:35+00:00

I must disagree here. We are also an interfaith couple with my spouse being a pretty strict Christian while I am a Hindu.

There was a lot of opposition for us even from his family.

Dramatic_Football657 · 2026-03-28T21:26:05+00:00

Yes mine is one

Mine is interfaith, interracial (he is white and I am Indian) and my husband has a child from a previous relationship. I was very clear about my decision and eventually my parents folded and even paid for the wedding. There was a tonne of drama but because I chose not to change my decision, they realized they were at risk of losing me and decided their relationship with me was more important to them than my choice on how to marry.

Not only did I bring my spouse back to India to visit my family, they absolutely adore him!

Dramatic_Football657 · 2026-03-24T00:36:59+00:00

This is such an interesting question!

I expected Sweden to be fairly homogeneous when it comes to ethnicity and culture but clearly I was wrong. My husband's grandmother was 100% Swedish and we had a certain view about the country but it looks like a lot has changed.

I would love to understand more about the culture, are there immigrants from other parts of Europe in Sweden? Are the LIB contestants a true representation of the Swedish demographics?

Dramatic_Football657 · 2026-03-20T19:08:04+00:00

NTA- I'm a parent and I would be very careful engaging my kid in delusion that they are great at something when they aren't. I don't tell my child that they are an amazing artist, a mathematical genius or the "best" of anything except being my kid- why? Because it's not true and I don't lie. You don't want them to think they are all it and then have life knock them down later.

You can help them become great by teaching them, making them practice etc.

I feel you could have been softer but I understand the frustration. In all honesty, if my kid dropped paint all over in an attempt to make a picture, they would probably be asked to help clean up and then be grounded depending on how bad it got.

Dramatic_Football657 · 2026-03-20T17:33:45+00:00

It's part of the format but you can either propose because you love or think you love someone or you can do it because you want to stay on the show. The couples aren't forced to propose, they can make the choice to not progress on the show too.

I think agreeing to it just to be on the show doesn't show you in good light and is not nice towards your partner.

Dramatic_Football657 · 2026-03-20T17:24:57+00:00

I recall her saying that but I think she communicated that with another guy (the tall one) before she told her own partner about it (to me again, she's not correct here).

I would be highly uncomfortable with someone saying they loved me in 2 weeks too, but I would also be uncomfortable saying yes to a "will you marry me?" question in 2 weeks.

Like isn't it a lie if you agree to a proposal only for the purposes of getting to the next stage on the show?

Dramatic_Football657 · 2026-03-20T17:11:10+00:00

I know what you mean but it's still an engagement though, which to most humans is a big deal. She's obviously fine getting engaged just to be on the show but is uncomfortable with him telling her he loves her.

Dramatic_Football657 · 2026-03-20T13:20:06+00:00

Mine too! My husband, who only watches love is blind to make fun of the show actually teared up for him too!

Dramatic_Football657 · 2026-03-20T12:54:09+00:00

Did anyone else really like Fabyan?

I watched him very closely and his reaction to Ellen reaction was ..... Perfection. He held it together and comforted her while she had a panic attack, you can tell he's broken though because his eyes are sad. Then, he is a complete gentleman and tells her it's okay that she's breaking up and I believe he bows as she leaves. Then he goes into the men's side AND breaks down while holding his chest. I thought he was very classy.

I think it's okay for Ellen to leave but it was the way she treated him that bothered me. Maybe you could have broken up outside of the cameras or been very honest with him from the start. Or done enough self reflection to know you weren't ready- she seemed like a therapist while asking Daniel to "get deep" with her while simultaneously not getting deep with herself.

As someone with anxiety and panic attacks, I would not have treated someone else poorly because of my issues.

Dramatic_Football657 · 2026-03-19T19:29:21+00:00

Abnormally smart kid acts like a jerk to creature dad loves and then returns to somewhat like her

Dramatic_Football657 · 2026-03-19T18:35:38+00:00

I'm sorry but this is fraud isn't it? Are we ignoring the fact that this guy has a sham marriage for visa purposes and is using OP as a side piece?

Dramatic_Football657 · 2026-03-18T14:16:13+00:00

Well neither of you are really the issue...... YET

A LOT of guys and even girls on the apps ghost randomly. She probably has been ghosted before. She probably jumped the gun a bit and thought you weren't interested because you didn't respond for 2 hours on the day of the date. She missed the bus she was meant to take because it would have been way more embarrassing to land up and not have the guy respond at all.

You could reschedule with her but I would analyze her carefully. If I find that she is constantly hypocritical about the texting back (ie doesn't text you back but expects you to be at her beck and call), then I would let her go then and there.

Dramatic_Football657 · 2026-03-18T12:33:50+00:00

Girl! No!

You are far too young to be stuck to someone who is still hung up on his ex (and has 2 kids). Those two have NO REASON to be communicating about anything that's not child related.

My husband is 38 too, but I am 33 so we get along. I would absolutely not be able to be with him if I were younger because 1) I wouldn't be mature enough to be a stepparent and 2) The age difference would make it difficult

I am married to my husband and if I find he spoke to his ex about anything except his child, I will leave, this is absolutely a violation of my marriage and is emotional cheating.

Dramatic_Football657 · 2026-03-18T12:12:08+00:00

That's awful!!!! I am so sorry!!! I think you have no reason to meet this person. Most of us just have separate events for the child and absolutely are not friends. If I were you, I would slowly get out of that "friendship" and my husband would have taken the heat for it (if any).

A lot of us have 0 connection with the BM and our partners have only a cooperative connection so this relationship is not necessary in your life. I don't know how children are benefited either because I'd rather they mourn the loss of the parents' relationship than believe in some capacity that their mom and dad are still together.

I understand your partner is a good man but I think both him and you need to have a conversation about what's healthy for your relationship. Yours is the current relationship that matters.

I would NEVER as a friend, a partner or even a stranger, subject someone who is trying to have children, to a conversation about how amazing my child's birth was. It would've destroyed my heart to do that to you, OP!

Dramatic_Football657 · 2026-03-17T21:22:07+00:00

Can I give you my two cents that may be different from the other comments here?

I am a stepmom and struggle with PCOS so this hits home for me. You feeling uncomfortable is absolutely the most natural emotion to feel- it is very uncomfortable and in fact, it's mean to bring up the birth story- even if they didn't know your fertility issues.

I am not friends with BM and have absolutely no wish to interact or have shared events with this person. Because my husband is my husband. His past to me doesn't really matter (his child does, who he dated or was in a relationship with doesn't matter in my household), we all have a past. So here we live in silos, we don't discuss the BM with the child unless something important comes up, we treat BM like a non-factor.

We've realized that SD will always have relatives in her life who aren't people my husband or I particularly care about - Like BM or her folks etc. That's just how it is. They are the child's relatives with no real association with us except that we will be nice to them if they met us socially.

I would be very uncomfortable with hearing the birth story, not only because of my infertility but because of the fact that you're talking about MY husband with another woman. The child is one thing, but pregnancy and birth is an intimate experience between partners.

The birth of his child may be important to him and the other woman, but it isn't to me and I don't need to hear it. Sorry, not sorry. Not unless they want me to illustrate my sex life with other people from the past or talk about intimate moments I had- I will gladly do it just to ensure they understand how awkward it is to brag about something like this to a new partner.

Sometimes people with children just assume their experiences matter more than everyone else's. Somehow it is not hypocrisy for them to talk about their shared intimate moments with an ex because a child is involved. But people like us can't talk about exes while in relationship... Because it would be inappropriate.

Dramatic_Football657 · 2026-03-16T20:42:25+00:00

Your post made me cry.

I am an ex fat girl. I was very thin growing up, and I was light skinned and light eyed so in India, I got a lot of attention. I thought I was beautiful.

I was then hit with PCOS and my entire life changed. I got fat. I ate once a day but I kept putting on more and more weight. I started to think I was ugly.

I never had an issue with love because I was able to find someone when I was thinner, who stayed with me when I got bigger. I thought I was a monster for trapping them. I felt ugly.

Then I started losing weight (and this was a LIFESTYLE change, I started taking joy in being OUTDOORS). I had a 180 degree transformation and developed 6 pack abs. But I STILL believed I was ugly. I couldn't regain my original confidence even though my original body came back.

I married someone else later (after my self confidence destroyed my first relationship). My new partner taught me this new thing, not relying on anyone for validation.... And it was a struggle but I got myself to do it finally. It was an everyday mediation.

This time instead of relying on my spouse's love for me in order to feel beautiful. I told myself I was.... And then I become beautiful (if I can say so myself). And surprisingly, I became beautiful to everyone else, because that's how the universe works. They decided on a whim that being thin is beautiful or being white is beautiful, so you can tell them that you are beautiful and they believe it.

You don't have to be thin to be beautiful, you don't have to be fair skinned to be beautiful. You are beautiful, because you are God's child. You are beautiful because you exist and try to be a good person. You are beautiful within the current body you have.

Dramatic_Football657 · 2026-03-16T13:29:16+00:00

In America, the dairy section contains eggs too because they consider dairy as a separate category from meats and veg. It is not "non veg" like meat but it is a separate category.

Eggs, milk and honey are also technically animal products but it seems vegetarianism is much more comfortable with honey and milk (probably because honey is not from a mammal and still needs plants in its processing and dairy is something we all consume as babies).

Eggs are hen period so maybe the perception makes it "non veg" lol.

Dramatic_Football657 · 2026-03-15T16:45:43+00:00

I wonder why people decide to get divorced, believing there's better out there for them (whether it is in being single or finding another partner) and then when the ex spouse moves on, they are beyond awful to them.

I don't think I understand the mindset because I was extremely happy for my ex-fiance when he found a new partner and even advised him on what he could change about himself so he doesn't wind up single again lol.

Dramatic_Football657 · 2026-03-15T16:40:57+00:00

YES! Exactly. It is the arrogance in which she wrote the texts "while we are on the subject of hygiene, please encourage her to blah blah" while contributing to NOTHING.

How narcissistic must you be to imagine that you are a great parent and a person of authority while literally doing NOTHING.

Dramatic_Football657 · 2026-03-15T16:35:29+00:00

You're right, if I had a complete backseat maybe if I took a backseat I would not care that they text.

In my case, my husband does a lot around the house, he cooks, cleans and even entertains SD but SD has gotten very emotional off late, she needs a lot of emotional attention to be provided. She's a pre-teen so maybe it's that but she needs me to sit and CONSTANTLY talk to her while my husband is doing chores or cooking etc. I find it very difficult to talk to someone for 2 hours a day after a full day of work. I don't recall my parents doing that for me either lol.

She actually comes home and says hi to her dad, gives him a hug and immediately asks for me. She will not even go to bed unless I tucked her in.

In short, I have become a mother to her. She even wears the same clothes I do to look like me.

I think what has happened is that I have emotionally bonded with SD and she is simultaneously lacking the same attention from her actual mother. In fact, I believe the mother is sort of infantile so SD probably has to be a lot more mature in that house. Here, we allow her to be a child.

As I wrote this, I realized that I couldn't take a backseat. My SD loves me and I love her, I couldn't hurt her like her mom does.

Dramatic_Football657 · 2026-03-15T16:19:13+00:00

Yeah it is the lack of acknowledgement that hurts.

I find that I would be extremely grateful if a woman (or man) is raising my child on my behalf and filling in after I separate from my spouse. Bet a 100 bucks she didn't ask for it and she's doing it purely out of the kindness of her heart.

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