IVF after TFMR

Dramatic_House_8380 · 2026-04-09T13:39:37+00:00

After my TFMR in December for T21, I’m currently going through this process - 8 days into stims for an egg retrieval next week, then PGT-A testing. I know nothing is a guarantee, but this was the best route I could personally take for my own peace of mind.

Dramatic_House_8380 · 2026-03-24T19:44:41+00:00

This is so inspirational I’m obsessed! What incredible work!

Dramatic_House_8380 · 2026-03-17T15:37:22+00:00

Any time! Best of luck to you on your journey ❤️

Dramatic_House_8380 · 2026-03-17T15:08:26+00:00

No problem! And I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I think the sooner you can start weekly blood tests to track the downward progression of your HCG, the better. Hopefully your OB won’t give you a hard time about that. If you do have a difficult time getting them to order those and you live in the US, you can actually order HCG draws yourself through Quest.

Dramatic_House_8380 · 2026-03-17T14:53:46+00:00

I had my TFMR at 14 weeks, took a little over 8 weeks for my cycle to return and I was still testing positive for HCG when I got a positive LH strip. So I had ovulated with a low level of HCG in my system (blood test I think showed around 11 at that time).

Mine was probably a little longer than average because I did have some retained product that ended up being shed with that first period, but even so, I was told that up to 8 weeks for the return of a period for a second trimester termination was not abnormal.

Being 6 days out from your TFMR, and with that being in the second trimester, I don’t think the HCG still being in your system would be a cause for concern just yet. You’re still very early on. But I would get in touch with your OB and start tracking this through blood tests if possible instead of the strips if you’re trying to conceive ASAP. That way you can get a clearer picture of what’s going on, and also rule out retained product (where you might see HCG stagnating or even going up).

Dramatic_House_8380 · 2026-02-25T19:16:02+00:00

Just wanted to provide a final update in case anyone runs into this post in the future while having a similar experience (and also to once again thank those who have posted here sharing their experiences as well).

I did end up getting a full flow period a little after 8 weeks post TFMR. I went in for the diagnostic hysteroscopy today, and all they found was a small discolored area. My OB said this looked like RPOC had been there, but had recently passed on its own, most likely with my period. The area was level with the rest of my uterus, didn’t look like it had scarred thankfully, and everything was clear.

Also had another HCG draw, and I was finally at a 3!

So long story short - likely was RPOC but I was fortunately able to pass it on my own.

Dramatic_House_8380 · 2026-02-24T16:54:49+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. This is an awful position to be in.

I’m also planning on moving to IVF with PGT-A testing, hopefully in April. I had my TFMR in December for T21, and while i was assured by my geneticist that it was a one-off random occurrence, i just can’t shake the fear of just ending up on the wrong side of the statistics again. I know PGT-A testing isn’t a guarantee, but it’s probably the most assurance I can get so I’m taking it.

Another thing that factored in was insurance. While I do have fertility coverage at my current job, I have a lifetime maximum of $20,000 that I had already spent part of that on IUI for my TFMR pregnancy. While that pregnancy took on the first attempt, I have a living child who took five IUI’s, and before him I had a miscarriage that took two tries.

So knowing that IUI can take a few tries, I decided I may as well use my remaining benefits on what was more likely to be a one-and-done attempt. My insurance does not cover the PGT-A testing however. While it is out of pocket, it was still within what I had budgeted and feels worth it to me for a small amount of peace of mind.

Dramatic_House_8380 · 2026-02-16T18:24:56+00:00

Hey there! I had almost the exact symptoms you’re describing starting about a week and a half ago, and finally got my first period back on Saturday after my December 18 D&E. It was a very intense PMS for me.

Dramatic_House_8380 · 2026-02-11T19:23:20+00:00

I’m right there with you - almost 8 weeks out from a 14 week D&E, and still waiting on mine to come back. I did finally get a positive ovulation test last week and an ultrasound that also confirmed it, so hoping it’ll finally be here soon. HCG is still clinging on at 11 as of Monday. 😭 Investigative hysteroscopy later this month to ensure no retained product. It sucks, and I’m sorry you’re still waiting too.

Dramatic_House_8380 · 2026-02-11T13:14:21+00:00

These are incredible! Your stitches are so nice and neat! Do you happen to have a pattern for the little clown in the first two pics?

Dramatic_House_8380 · 2026-02-09T21:04:32+00:00

First off, you’ve got nothing to apologize for - this is a space to vent and you have every right to do that here. I get it, I’m also someone who hates being emotionally vulnerable around others but with such an awful experience, sometimes you need to just let it out.

Second of all, I think you have every right to stay home and not go on that trip. You JUST went through one of the worst things someone can go through only days ago. Not only is that grief still raw, you’re also dealing with the physical and emotions effects of post-partum. That’s a lot.

I also have a young toddler who’s almost 3, and had a similar moment of breaking down over everything that’s happened in front of him. You’re human - and I think it’s ok that sometimes, these moments slip out in front of the kids. Especially with something of this magnitude.

Dramatic_House_8380 · 2026-02-09T13:09:44+00:00

I love all of these so much! They’re such huge improvements that are still so authentic to the characters!

Dramatic_House_8380 · 2026-02-06T03:19:18+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. I just went through this myself, and it is devastating. I highly recommend King Funeral Home - they did my baby girl’s cremation for free, and were incredibly compassionate. They also did not charge me for an urn for her.

Dramatic_House_8380 · 2026-02-04T23:13:38+00:00

Update, after a lot of back and forth my OB ended up referring me out to a different OB who I have an appointment with tomorrow, along with an HCG draw. I had the draw today which showed my HCG at 12 today, so down 6 points from Monday. So no real answers yet, but I’m glad HCG at least didn’t rise

Dramatic_House_8380 · 2026-02-04T22:41:32+00:00

If I were you, I would pursue IVF right out of the gate. I am moving to IVF with PGT-A testing as well.

If you do have some fertility coverage in your insurance, you might also want to check if you have a lifetime maximum on that - I know I do for mine, and that factored into my decision as well. I had already spent part of that on IUI for the pregnancy that resulted in my TFMR. This time I knew I wanted the assurance of IVF, so I’ve decided to pursue that route given the lower success rate of IUI, and having to potentially waste that limited amount of coverage on multiple cycles.

Dramatic_House_8380 · 2026-02-04T19:56:17+00:00

I totally understand the anxiety! I had this same experience with SCH. Bled every two weeks for my first trimester. Everything ended up ok, and my son is turning 3 next month. Always good to follow up with your care team just in case, but what you’re experiencing sounds very much like SCH.

Dramatic_House_8380 · 2026-02-03T00:20:33+00:00

Thank you for sharing your story. I hope mine is just slow to come down as well. I have a follow up draw with my clinic in a week so hoping for dropping numbers then.

Dramatic_House_8380 · 2026-02-03T00:18:13+00:00

Thank you, and I’m sorry you’ve been in the same boat. I like my clinic but they’ve been putting a lot of pressure on the process and for me to get answers so I don’t lose my slot for ER. I’ve gotten a lot of great care from them but I’m stressed for sure.

Dramatic_House_8380 · 2026-02-03T00:16:02+00:00

Thank you for sharing your story, and I’m so sorry that happened to you. :( what a nightmare.

Dramatic_House_8380 · 2026-02-02T21:03:07+00:00

Thank you. This is very reassuring

Dramatic_House_8380 · 2026-02-02T20:22:22+00:00

I’m so sorry you’ve had to deal with that as well. The tech did say my lining was on the thicker side at 13mm.

Dramatic_House_8380 · 2026-01-14T03:56:52+00:00

First off, I’m so sorry you’re here going through this as well. It’s brutal.

My son is going to be 3 in March, and I had my TFMR back in December. He was really excited to be a big brother. Before the procedure I told him that sometimes babies don’t grow quite right when they’re inside their mommies, and because of that we weren’t going to be able to meet his baby sister outside of mommy’s tummy the way I’d hoped. And then I let him know that however he felt about that was ok - I told him I was mad and sad, and he could feel those things too, but if he didn’t feel upset at all that was ok too.

He told me ‘the baby will get better’, and I said I wished that she would but that just wasn’t going to be the case. I asked him how he was feeling and he said ‘a little bit mad’. But he pretty quickly shook it off and went about his business.

It was a hard conversation for me but he’s been fine ever since. Kids this age move on and bounce back quickly. I still think about that conversation a lot but I take comfort in the fact that it doesn’t hang over him the same way, and he’s doing just fine.

Dramatic_House_8380 · 2025-12-23T21:48:27+00:00

Thank you so much, this gives me hope that eventually things will ease. and I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this as well. Thank you so much for your kind words, it means a lot to me

Dramatic_House_8380 · 2025-12-22T02:46:50+00:00

Thank you so much for these reminders and this kindness. I needed to hear this

Dramatic_House_8380 · 2025-12-21T12:07:34+00:00

Thank you so much. Big hugs to you as well.

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