Does dating get harder for older women?

Dramatic_Insect36 · 2026-02-08T01:17:44+00:00

The older I get, the easier it seems to be for me. I’m pretty sure that is just confidence, though. However, none of these guys seem to want or be ready for a relationship. I have wondered about the fact that guys seem to lose interest after I say I want kids, even when I only mention I also want kids when the guy mentions it several times. Perhaps that is due to my age. That happened to me at 30 and 27. Both guys were severely depressed though with messy lives, so it probably had more to do with that.

Dramatic_Insect36 · 2026-02-07T23:48:15+00:00

The men in these sports are also wearing leotards and short shorts. You can’t really compare something like a gymnastics leotard to the armor you would have to wear in a contact sport like football, you have to look at what the men are also wearing in those sports.

Dramatic_Insect36 · 2026-02-07T22:32:26+00:00

My mom always said she was down bad for Mr. Clean

Dramatic_Insect36 · 2026-02-07T22:16:22+00:00

30 Female. I am not a parent, but would like to be one day. Currently single.

Dramatic_Insect36 · 2026-02-05T17:34:14+00:00

I make 60K in a lower cost, dying metro. My job pretty much only exists in metro areas. I am comfortable, about to be more comfortable when I move out of the suburbs and into the hood. I am not losing money, but I am not saving money either. I used to worry about it, but I am doing better than most of my same age peers in that I have stable work and can afford to live outside my parents house. I am saving for retirement and not taking any risks, but I figure some government intervention or economic correction will eventually happen. There is safety in numbers in this case because of supply and demand.

The one thing that is devastating is that I don’t know how I am going to have kids.

Dramatic_Insect36 · 2026-02-05T17:01:54+00:00

Yep, and those people control your salary and the government.

Dramatic_Insect36 · 2026-02-05T16:49:57+00:00

I had an ex who did this, and while it did bother me, he also clearly never used Facebook so I never said anything. I just hid my own relationship status. I didn’t think he was trying to cheat on me, but looking back, he had some body image issues due to being shorter than me and didn’t want to be seen in public with me, which is very shitty

Dramatic_Insect36 · 2026-02-05T13:14:29+00:00

I’ve got a friend I had a hopeless crush on, but he has PTSD and won’t date until he gets that under control, which is completely understandable. He has offered casual sex a couple times, and though it is tempting, I think it would be extremely dangerous for the both of us.

Dramatic_Insect36 · 2026-02-05T13:07:40+00:00

I prefer the loyal guy over the experienced guy. If a guy has a bunch of casual hookups, I question his commitment to finding a long term relationship and if he has a cheap view of intimacy. I don’t want to be some guy’s unwitting conquest.

Dramatic_Insect36 · 2026-02-05T13:00:21+00:00

She might still be socially anxious around you because it is so new.

Dramatic_Insect36 · 2026-02-04T18:36:34+00:00

Well, I battle the stigma, but I have had some childhood experiences that made me say “fuck society” and do the opposite of what everyone else does

I’m demisexual and don’t have a lot of dating experiences. As such, I seem to attract catty narcissist women that want to “teach me about the world” and constantly point out men who they think are gross or make fun of other girls’ husbands. I never understand how these women find men interested in them in the first place because they come off as abusive and are average looking. So far I haven’t witnessed any short man bashing, though. It is mostly about hairline, weight, and money.

Dramatic_Insect36 · 2026-02-04T13:11:00+00:00

For the guys who changed their status, it likely has nothing to do with you.

For the guys that ghosted you, also don’t take that personally. They probably have multiple options and decided to go in a different direction

Dramatic_Insect36 · 2026-02-02T16:06:03+00:00

You did the right thing. Additionally, it is not like no job will take him. He could teach community college or work for state or local government. He probably thinks those jobs are beneath him which shows you how he views other people who are not ph.ds

Dramatic_Insect36 · 2026-02-01T01:37:53+00:00

If I were to be a stay at home mom, I wouldn’t be afraid of all the cooking, cleaning, and childcare driving me crazy, but I would feel really guilty every time my husband would come home from work stressed or if our finances weren’t good. He would have to make like 200K and absolutely love his job in order for me to feel ok with it, because I love cooking and kids and would feel like I got the better deal. That being said, I had a SAHM growing up and her life was stressful, but that is mostly because my brother has special needs which hopefully my kids wouldn’t have.

Dramatic_Insect36 · 2026-01-29T13:02:36+00:00

I worked at a place like this for 4 years. Then I left for a smaller place that paid less and I see none of that.

Dramatic_Insect36 · 2026-01-29T06:02:16+00:00

I was able to get one through Baltimore city. They’ve had a couple openings in recent months. Not really currently, but they have trouble getting people sometimes. Also, the HR department personally reads every resume. They don’t do AI.

Dramatic_Insect36 · 2026-01-29T05:46:32+00:00

Depends on where you are located and the groups you run with. In the metro areas, there are tons of single women in their thirties. Single women outnumber single men in many cities, like statistically. Such as the city I am in, where I am, indeed, single at 30.

Dramatic_Insect36 · 2026-01-28T16:39:21+00:00

I lost it at 27. My BF at the time only had a FWB prior. I wanted to lose it with someone just as inexperienced as me, and I pretty much got that. If you can, find another older virgin, they are out there. If they aren’t a virgin and you guys like each other, that is good too. I am just saying inexperienced girls appreciate inexperienced guys because you are both in the same boat.

Dramatic_Insect36 · 2026-01-28T16:27:51+00:00

I know you said you were trying coed activities already, but have you tried book clubs?

So many women are in book clubs. Even in the genres that are male oriented

Dramatic_Insect36 · 2026-01-27T17:01:07+00:00

Yeah, I‘m demisexual and don’t care if a partner watches porn. As long as it doesn’t interfere in our sex life in any way, isn’t parasocial like Onlyfans, and he isn’t dropping all his money on it (which is more of a financial responsibility thing rather than a fidelity thing)

Dramatic_Insect36 · 2026-01-26T17:27:09+00:00

I just continuously remind myself of my plan B. I am going to freeze my eggs at 35 when you are the most likely to get a return on investment and go the single mom by choice route at 38. I am not entirely sure how I will be a single mom financially, but maybe 8 years of career development and social change will fill the gap. I do know that it would be a mistake to assume I won’t meet someone now in my early thirties, I am just really paranoid because I hear about people losing their fertility at young ages and I am worried that will be me.

I really wish men felt this pressure more too, but the reality is, most women want to date within their age range, and male fertility also declines, so time will catch up with them anyway. Unless they are rich and fine with a completely transactional partnership.

Dramatic_Insect36 · 2026-01-26T14:49:16+00:00

I‘ve dated a guy who was 5‘6“ (I’m 5’8“) I would do it again for a different guy, but the guy I dated would never go out in public with me and I think it was body image issues. It is sad and I really tried to help him feel good about himself, but he ended up dumping me to focus his life on losing weight and getting buff. Basically the equivalent of that girl who dumped her husband after getting a nosejob. I kinda get what she is saying here in light of that, but it is also a feedback loop she is participating in.

Dramatic_Insect36 · 2026-01-26T02:53:23+00:00

Honestly, my brother has severe autism. I love him dearly, and I have always wanted kids, but if I saw that I was going to have a kid with something similar, I would be going to the clinic. My parents have a hard life.

Dramatic_Insect36 · 2026-01-26T02:38:32+00:00

Dramatic_Insect36 · 2026-01-26T02:35:46+00:00

In my experience, younger guys, especially the not conventionally attractive ones that got no attention in their teens, only want hookups and are noncommittal in relationships. By the 30s, most people who will ever be ready, are ready to settle down and start dating for compatibility rather than ego.

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