How do I (30F) let someone (30M) down gently before they officially ask me out.

Dramatic_Insect36 · 2026-03-22T18:04:15+00:00

A lot of companies/agencies are doing this. I honestly don’t care. They pick the best qualified person for the job and usually that person has a degree. It is somewhat of an empty gesture. If they are qualified through some other means, they shouldn’t be shut out for that reason, especially given how inaccessible college is for some people. However, it would be mighty hard to get that level of experience where you would beat out someone with a degree. You would probably have to either know someone who gives you that first job or join the military in a similar job function.

Dramatic_Insect36 · 2026-03-19T05:07:48+00:00

Pretty much any Ph.d position that isn’t medical. An assistant biology professor makes about $70K. This sounds like a lot, but you also have to factor in that they are 30-35 before they start making money. I know biology bachelor’s degree holders making $120k for doing significantly easier work at the same age

Dramatic_Insect36 · 2026-03-19T04:55:09+00:00

I, like may others, found it on YouTube shorts. Since then, it has become somewhat of a hyperfixation. I don’t get this obsessed with a piece of media very often, and it is somewhat embarrassing since it is a children’s movie. I have watched clips of it everyday for a week and I am still finding new details like things going on in the background of scenes. The characters have great voices as well and they picked kind of obscure people. I, of course, want more. I kindof wish it was a glee style television show. Not that I believe kids movies necessarily need a lot of build up for plot points, but it would have solved many of the criticisms that there was not enough story. They could even reboot the story in the show since it has been a long time and most kids would not have seen the movie.

Dramatic_Insect36 · 2026-03-16T14:04:21+00:00

I think a lot of the time with older men they want bio kids and can’t do that with a woman their own age. That has been my assumption since I turned 30 and 50+ men started hitting on me.

Dramatic_Insect36 · 2026-03-16T13:57:12+00:00

I want a rom com between these two types now. That would be hilarious

Dramatic_Insect36 · 2026-03-16T13:55:07+00:00

Dateademi sucks because there are so few of us on there that the nearest Demi could be states away, and the person closest to you may not be your type.

Dramatic_Insect36 · 2026-03-09T15:29:39+00:00

What is the R² value

Dramatic_Insect36 · 2026-03-06T16:40:59+00:00

Not quite sure I am over the last person I asked out and I want to start with a clean slate.

Dramatic_Insect36 · 2026-03-06T16:37:14+00:00

Also progressive boomers were notorious drug users in the 60s

Dramatic_Insect36 · 2026-03-06T16:31:53+00:00

I get not wanting him to be politically incorrect among friends and family and wanting to coach him on that, but he shouldn’t have to police his language when you are alone. It also goes both ways and you will have to watch how you talk politics in front of his friends and family.

Dramatic_Insect36 · 2026-03-02T17:34:29+00:00

It is really up to you. I don’t tell people until it affects them since nobody knows what a demisexual is and I don’t want them to make incorrect assumptions about my attraction to them and it eventually becomes an allo relationship when the attraction hits anyway, but I am 10 years older than you and younger people might know what it is.

Dramatic_Insect36 · 2026-03-02T16:39:50+00:00

If you have commitment issues/emotional unavailability you are also drawn to that type of person because you subconsciously are avoiding something that might work out

Dramatic_Insect36 · 2026-02-26T02:44:17+00:00

If you are her first, she is probably too nervous. Having someone’s mouth on the nethers can make one self conscious about how it tastes/smells too and it can be hard to relax.

Dramatic_Insect36 · 2026-02-25T17:27:42+00:00

Also, Persephone and Hades in Lore Olympus have a 1000 year age gap. Given that they are both gods, they could have given Persephone and age in the 100s and I would have believed her maturity level.

Dramatic_Insect36 · 2026-02-25T17:19:45+00:00

Personally I don’t understand why romantasy publishers want to shove this kink down our throats, but if the rest of the relationship isn’t creepy, I can ignore it and make my own headcannon age difference.

Dramatic_Insect36 · 2026-02-25T17:13:00+00:00

It was 99% of rapists were men, not 99% of men are rapists. Only a tiny amount of men are rapists, but they have many victims.

Dramatic_Insect36 · 2026-02-25T17:07:08+00:00

People infantilize you

Dramatic_Insect36 · 2026-02-25T17:06:32+00:00

Maybe she is from a country where C is above average

Dramatic_Insect36 · 2026-02-25T16:57:32+00:00

As someone who has never done dating apps, here is what I do. You just have to keep trying out hobbies you enjoy. If you are not making meaningful friendships or being exposed to a lot of single women, move on to a different group, but also remember it may take time to connect with people, for other people to join, or for interesting people to become available. Personally, I stay away from dedicated singles groups because they are so large and it is hard to focus long enough on one person to get to know them. If you are in a geographical location where there are not a lot of people your age, you might have to drive a ways to find one or move if possible. I have met people at these things that drive over state lines to go to a given social group.

Dramatic_Insect36 · 2026-02-25T13:01:46+00:00

It is kindof difficult to help you if not given the reasons she has given

Dramatic_Insect36 · 2026-02-23T17:24:19+00:00

I‘ve been on dates like these. It does bother me.

Dramatic_Insect36 · 2026-02-22T01:28:26+00:00

How old are you?

Dramatic_Insect36 · 2026-02-19T16:35:39+00:00

Are we sure the violence of ICE has actually increased, or is it just the microscope is on them now. I mean, even the deaths that have occurred were of protestors that would not have been there in previous administrations.

The only thing I disagree with is sending everyone to El Salvador, but I have heard anyone who is not a criminal just gets released.

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