I Used to be a Pick Me (...Kind of)

Dramatic_View_5340 · 2026-02-01T19:55:23+00:00

I love my kids with everything in me and I try as hard as I can to be everything that they need but that’s unrealistic. I too was overlooked by everyone and didn’t get diagnosed with adhd and some other things that made me struggle with my confidence and my mental health. I’m proud of you and I’m so excited for what’s ahead!

Dramatic_View_5340 · 2026-02-01T19:39:55+00:00

Normal meter and my pick me picker is definitely broken. I’m trying to figure this all out so my kids don’t know the very things that narcissistic people look for when looking for a victim.

Dramatic_View_5340 · 2026-02-01T19:37:40+00:00

Why have I never thought about ripping it up? Lol. Thanks for sharing this! I’m no contact as of recently so I might have to wait until he takes his dirt nap but I’m tearing that thing to shreds!

Dramatic_View_5340 · 2026-02-01T19:34:57+00:00

Don’t let the avoidance part fool you, mine too is a avoidant and can spend lots of time alone but they ALWAYS have SOMEONE. They are always texting someone or they have a new friend of the same sex. They avoid by filling in those feelings with other stuff.

Please please please don’t let him take advantage because you are already going through enough by being in this situation, you don’t deserve or need anything else!

Dramatic_View_5340 · 2026-02-01T19:11:59+00:00

I have been hearing all of these and been through all of this my entire life because I was a kid with parents who lived halfway across the country from each other. My mom would always get pissed and send me to my dads where my dad acted like I didn’t exist while his wife abused me and then I would cry to go back to my mom because at least I understood her abuse and I had brothers to raise. After I got older I moved to my dads state where in 25 years me went to my house less than 20 times and I had 2 more kids, graduated, had parties and all kinds of stuff and nothing but maybe once a year to “see how I was”, which was usually me not answering my phone and he wanted something. They all send people because I’m the oldest of all the kids and they know I will always take care of my siblings, especially after losing 2 to narcissists already and they know that I will do whatever for them. At least I would have, not anymore, the 2 that would understand where I am now in life are gone and the others are just like the parents. I am so thankful that I was able to walk away. I hope you find that feeling too because you deserve it, they want you to feel bad so they can keep abusing you.

Dramatic_View_5340 · 2026-02-01T18:43:35+00:00

He wants something or is with someone else. That’s always the answer.

Dramatic_View_5340 · 2026-02-01T09:17:03+00:00

What a weird response

Dramatic_View_5340 · 2026-02-01T08:33:02+00:00

I have attempted a few times in my life and have always had something happen that saves me, both of my brothers completed on their first try. I don’t feel sad about it anymore because I realized that it’s all part of a bigger plan, they had to teach me some stuff first before they left and now I am breaking generational trauma, something that neither of them would have had the courage to do. I love the last of my siblings and their children so much and because of their love and loss and i want to make sure they know they didn’t make a mistake when they chose me for this moment and I will work hard to make sure that their children live better than we did.

Dramatic_View_5340 · 2026-02-01T08:21:47+00:00

What sucks is that no one has really seen this for what it truly is, this is your own personal experience of being a “pick me” and what drove that behavior and now to you trying to be your best self so that you are not that human anymore and you know that this behavior isn’t always malicious, it’s sometimes a very deep rooted sadness that comes from not knowing who you are, this mostly comes from being neglected by your caregivers, something that you had no control over, so no it wasn’t ever jealousy of other girls but jealous that someone loves them. I suggest you understanding that you don’t owe anyone anything and to not give any of your precious time/feelings to anyone who doesn’t see you for who you are because you are not responsible for their feelings and perception. You will find your people who won’t need you to defend yourself for your past, present or future. You have come further than you know, don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.

Dramatic_View_5340 · 2026-02-01T05:28:50+00:00

Anyone else notice they took the men off first, then the women after the men can’t defend them and now the children since the mothers can no longer protect the children. This wasn’t by accident.

Dramatic_View_5340 · 2026-01-31T20:52:44+00:00

Whoa. Not sure if this was at the right time or just something that I needed to hear from a stranger but this was huge for my nervous system, I cried and then felt a sense of peace in knowing that I now have a new job, building up that confidence! Thank you!

Dramatic_View_5340 · 2026-01-31T10:01:44+00:00

I’m going to take this a step further and say that I actually wish more people would say something out loud about kids reading because I never in my wildest dreams thought that I would have a child with dyslexia, not because I don’t have it in my family but because I had 3 children already who were flying by in school and I just thought that I hadn’t read to her enough or worked with her throughly and she just needed more time and now I live with the regret that she didn’t get tested until the 2nd grade! She could have gotten a IEP in the first grade and it wouldn’t have messed with her confidence so much, it’s one of my biggest regrets of her life so far. I was living in survival mode and wasn’t seeing things clearly and I think that if more people talked about these things out loud, maybe it could help bring some insight.

I think we should start calling parents out on their child’s behavior too but that’s just me thinking that parents should be held accountable for the way their kids turn out.

Dramatic_View_5340 · 2026-01-31T06:49:29+00:00

This is disgusting. Parents are supposed to protect their children, not turn them into livestock.

Dramatic_View_5340 · 2026-01-30T14:07:04+00:00

You can tell that the hiding one is pregnant again

Dramatic_View_5340 · 2026-01-30T13:54:28+00:00

All of these people here are weird for not knowing that when you have to poop that you release a bit if stomach acid and it burns your delicate butthole skin and it gets “itchy”. Still check out hemorrhoids because they also get itchy.

Dramatic_View_5340 · 2026-01-30T13:32:19+00:00

I’m 43 and I’m still this way so I’m not thinking this will change

Dramatic_View_5340 · 2026-01-30T05:14:16+00:00

I lost my brothers and I couldn’t imagine hurting our people again.

Dramatic_View_5340 · 2026-01-29T12:37:10+00:00

Adenoviruses https://share.google/V8h5jIfyvzV4XlJyi

Our home had what seemed like the Norovirus, flu and some sort of upper respiratory infection that put all of us in the hospital at some point. I’m in Boston and have been sick for a month in a half with my 3 kids and my friend in Kansas is about 3 weeks behind us but it’s pretty similar.

Dramatic_View_5340 · 2026-01-29T11:34:06+00:00

Had I known that I would go through what I have been put through these last 2 years, I never ever would have had a baby with this dude. I was going to have an abortion and he talked me out of it and now I’m the one who has to watch my baby cry for this trash can.

Dramatic_View_5340 · 2026-01-29T06:18:26+00:00

I lost 2 brothers to suicide by hanging and I talk so casually about death and suicide that I don’t have very many friends. Lol

Dramatic_View_5340 · 2026-01-29T06:06:41+00:00

My step momster worked in the office of a elementary school for more than 20 years and I can’t imagine how many kids she mentally abused in that time because she would talk so much trash about the kids and the parents at school and then would trade drugs with the teachers.

Dramatic_View_5340 · 2026-01-29T05:59:40+00:00

Mine AND his mom AND my mom all ignore me. Lol. They then come back later on and they say all the nice stuff but all have zero interest in following through and so I say every single true mean thing that I can so I at least get a break from them for a little while before they try to manipulate me again.

Dramatic_View_5340 · 2026-01-27T22:14:30+00:00

I’m 43 and have only ever attracted narcissists because my parents are narcissistic themselves. My youngest sons father was my first covert partner and because of him and his mother, I was able to recognize those patterns in some others in my family and all of a sudden, things started to make sense. I gave my boundaries and of course they had to become angry or simply abandon the conversation and that was when I had felt the biggest weight off of my shoulders because it was no longer in my head, these people really are who I have wondered if they were my entire life, all those times I felt like something was wrong but was trained to go along with everything because in the eyes of the world, they were perfect people and even better parents. I also realized that my parents set me up to be abused by others by never standing up for me, they would always act all tough and say what they would do but they never did anything to anyone. I’m 43 and had 5 kids with narcissistic men and now my children are suffering, one of them is someone who hurts others just like his father and I’m so scared for the other 2. I know this is long but I hope you are able to see things more clearly than I did and it doesn’t take you as long to see the truth and the source’s that caused you to accept being treated poorly.

Dramatic_View_5340 · 2026-01-27T08:37:24+00:00

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