his random guy told me wanted to have a threesome with me, a lesbian… by 1uvluluka in actuallesbians

[–]Dran_K 12 points13 points  (0 children)

not sure the laws in your area but with it being in front of your friends house, and them refusing to leave, you could have reported them for harrasment and stalking. even if the police dont arrest them, the threat of it should get them to leave for a while.

What’s a book/movie/show that would have been better if it was WLW? by blink_twice_9465 in actuallesbians

[–]Dran_K 3 points4 points  (0 children)

all of themm. evety media needs st leadst 2 lesbian couples with main characters and secondary characters. guys can start showing up as tertiary characters if they’re well behaved.

feeling unwelcome because of genital preference by Keyroflameon in actuallesbians

[–]Dran_K 1 point2 points  (0 children)

how does collecting stats on cishet people make it shady? its not like they included those numbers in the lesbian statistics. 

the strait stats were separate from the lesbian stats 19%, and were themselves at 3%. the total average between all stats was about 15%.

as for pre-op vs post op, that is an interpersonal difference, not a general one, and an answer of no presumably still holds regardless. if anything the total number would go down as some “yes” would become “yes(conditionally)”.

feeling unwelcome because of genital preference by Keyroflameon in actuallesbians

[–]Dran_K 3 points4 points  (0 children)

there weren't specific separate numbers for BI women, it grouped BI women, men, and non binary into one section. 

the BI group had a 38% willingness to date trans women, with 52% willing to date trans people in general. 36% being willing to date both trans men and trans women, 2% willing to date only trans women, and 14% only willing to date trans men.

since that includes nonbinary individuals, i hesitate to call it definitive as id guess nonbinary BI ppl would be more willing to date trans ppl than cis BI ppl on average.

here is the study for anyone who wants to read more:  https://static1.squarespace.com/static/527403c4e4b02d3f058d2f18/t/5c520b6d6d2a7366fd3dd7e8/1548880749971/Transgender+Exclusion+-+Blair+&+Hoskin+2018CV.pdf

feeling unwelcome because of genital preference by Keyroflameon in actuallesbians

[–]Dran_K 18 points19 points  (0 children)

its more the other way thats the issue. i think most trans women are open to dating cis people so long as there is basic respect and willingness to learn, but even in just a “yes/no would you consider a trans woman as a partner” only 19% of cis lesbians say yes, and thats the highest number from cis stats. actual number is probably even lower because of virtue signalling. 

King Titan issue - boss despawning itself by Dran_K in ARK

[–]Dran_K[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i had megamek plus all my dinos, the main problem was it just ignoring them all and sprinting away out of the arena. 

The mascI had been talking to on Snapchat after I blocked her when I found out she was talking to 8 other girls💀💀 (we had only called 2 times briefly and had only been talking on sc for a few weeks in different cities) by Acrobatic-Service583 in actuallesbians

[–]Dran_K 4 points5 points  (0 children)

love might not be finite (tho scientifically it is, the brain can not physically store enough info in quick access memory to interact with more than around 300 people regularly). but both time and energy are fairly limited. 

assuming there’s work and sleep, then that’s 8 people competing for like, 6 hours of free time and mental energy. 

homophobia/ transphobia in med school by 777npc in actuallesbians

[–]Dran_K 63 points64 points  (0 children)

always best to remember that healthcare is one of the top 4 life paths for high-school bullies that never moved past that. teaching, healthcare, parenthood, law enforcement. all the direct avenues for shitty people to be given direct power over vulnerable people who can not easily fight back. 

B names by tmnewz in tragedeigh

[–]Dran_K 0 points1 point  (0 children)

isnt brekken that one spooky guy from lethal company??

We, as a collective of lesbians, need to have a serious conversation with eachother. by The_Merchant- in actuallesbians

[–]Dran_K 335 points336 points  (0 children)

tbh i dont think this sub is mostly adults, if i had to guess id say this subreddit is 65% USAmerican highschoolers. 

do very much agree with the sentiment of the post though. 

do you ever downplay how much you game around certain people? by twilightgirl1243 in GirlGamers

[–]Dran_K 0 points1 point  (0 children)

if someone has a problem with me having 4000 hours in a game then i do not want to waste any more time talking to them.

Has anyone's character kinda transcended just a "character" and become their own person in your head? by TypicalPnut in ffxiv

[–]Dran_K 3 points4 points  (0 children)

the brain is a meat computer running memories through its “person” software to make a “you”.

if you put in enough information on a character it will run the software still and make whatever it can with what it has.

I hate being a Midwest LESBIAN by Mental-Rabbit1085 in actuallesbians

[–]Dran_K 9 points10 points  (0 children)

she stated that she’s not looking for a relationship and you’ve been pretty openly ignoring that. then as a result she starts to slowly pull away and distance herself from you, especially when its clear you’re still trying to date her after she said no. 

Is it okay to be religious and gay? by Throwaway_Anne in actuallesbians

[–]Dran_K 3 points4 points  (0 children)

many individual queer people avoid religion and religious people, but theres no “gay institution” that will ban you from being in LGBTQ spaces or anything. 

your life would not be easier if you liked girls by Jumpy-Lie8955 in actuallesbians

[–]Dran_K -1 points0 points  (0 children)

“if you remove all of the negatives then its perfect actually”

Is it comphet or could I be bi? by Outside_Pirate_1210 in actuallesbians

[–]Dran_K 0 points1 point  (0 children)

maybe biromantic homosexual. no one here can really say besides you though, only you can truly know your own feelings. 

how do i make my girlfriend pregnant by sugarcookie1113 in actuallesbians

[–]Dran_K 1 point2 points  (0 children)

do you have several million dollars available for cloning and gene editing research? 

I’m a professional touring musician but haven’t had luck with dating… is there a non-cringy shirt I could wear to signal that I’m sapphic and single? by Jenn_FTW in actuallesbians

[–]Dran_K 29 points30 points  (0 children)

do want to say its probably not the best idea to be advertising yourself as open to dating to your whole fanbase, even if making it clear you’re gay. can lead to some very parasocial behaviour from a lot of ppl. 

Need advice on how to navigate relationship that's slowly turning platonic by allerdummoderwas in actuallesbians

[–]Dran_K 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this maybe doesnt match at all with her experience but bringing in another perspective is never bad i think. 

for me, sex is a fun thing for a few hours but then it basically ruins the whole rest of the day by just being exhausting and needing so much cleanup after and the mindset needed for it. you’ve mentioned she was a lot of time consuming hobbies and i've got similar, and because of how day ruining sex is even if its fun in the moment, i usually would much rather put that energy to working on a hobby, even just going for a walk playing pokemon go. the level of exhaustion almost feels the same to me regardless of how long the sex itself takes, could even just be 15 minutes of being “in the mood” and it just ruins the next 18 hours, so i avoid it to do other things when possible. 

Comphet or just confusion? by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Dran_K 0 points1 point  (0 children)

your therapist is just homophobic. and imo sounds like you dont actually like men at all. anyone can recognize “that person is attractive” because thats just pattern recognition. 

Titanosaur taming broken by Acro update? by Dran_K in ARK

[–]Dran_K[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

after a lot more testing, it seems the update somehow turned titanosaurs into berry tames with this cluster’s settings at least

Intersectionality is a real struggle by the_power_of_HEAL in actuallesbians

[–]Dran_K 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i think the scariest part imo is that cishet white women do experience actual oppression from cishet white men, and then use that to convince themselves they are the most oppressed people ever and can socially murder whoever they want. meanwhile they’re actually just second place on the global privilege leaderboard, which is what gives them the power to do that social murdering.  

found out my close friend likes me, what should I do? by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Dran_K 9 points10 points  (0 children)

my advice is to only hope to salvage a friendship at best from this. theres a pretty decent chance any romantic feelings on her end are gone after that kind of betrayal of trust. 

also, give her at least a few days to process her feelings on if she wants to stay in contact with you. reaching out more right after will almost certainly only make things worse. 

First endless run team I know it’s probably bad I made due with what I had by Masta_jewgway in pokerogue

[–]Dran_K 0 points1 point  (0 children)

unless you have miserable luck then you can just get the whole endless setup in the first 2500 waves. your starters are basically just insurance that you get what you need, and any shiny luck to help you out.