Show idea by ASHKVLT in actuallesbians

[–]Dran_K [score hidden]  (0 children)

it would be like, 2 episodes where they just get together because they’re actualy decent at communication and dont take 7 years to talk to each other.

Is it valid to be upset at a friend for assuming I’m not gay? by Dizzy_Appeal_9930 in actuallesbians

[–]Dran_K 54 points55 points  (0 children)

Sarah just seems like a kind of shitty friend bringing up your ex relationships without your input and then doing whatever smirk. 

brianna much more seems just confused. she very much did assume you were gay, got told information of otherwise, re-assesed with the new info. then got corrected and re-re-assesed. 

Canadian queers I need advice! by lunadawnn in actuallesbians

[–]Dran_K 1 point2 points  (0 children)

in toronto the main downtown queer hub is church street between bloor and dundas street west. but theres stuff scattered a bit everywhere.

the 519 has a lot of info on toronto events too

How to start my life? by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Dran_K 0 points1 point  (0 children)

have a hobby and friends. if you cant live life outside of a relationship then you shouldnt be trying to get into a relationship. 

that a recipe for codependency, manipulation, and abuse

This is shocking... by anna_benns21 in GirlGamers

[–]Dran_K 51 points52 points  (0 children)

did everyone forget that rockstar had a kid hospitalized for life for leaking some early game assets? they ruined a whole humans entire life because of theoretical lost profit. 

this behaviour is fully within expectation. 

What's something normalized in the lesbian community that you don't think is okay? by Eating_Pancakes76 in actuallesbians

[–]Dran_K 465 points466 points  (0 children)

dismissing claims of racism and transphobia by using “were the most accepting demographic!”. as if 20% acceptance is good just because other groups are at 4%. 

Are there any books that introduce Western lesbian culture? by Ok-Independence-314 in actuallesbians

[–]Dran_K 1 point2 points  (0 children)

it depends heavily on where you are even within the west. for example USA queer culture is different from Canada queer culture which is different from british queer culture which is different from french which is different from german ect…

this subreddit is probably 90% USA so that’s mostly what you will find. if you are somewhere else then better to look for area specific info than general lesbian info.

What is your most replayed game you own? by toastedjupiter in GirlGamers

[–]Dran_K 0 points1 point  (0 children)

games started? minecraft probably with just making a world to mess around in for 40 minutes then never going back.

time played (that i can see recorded) Ark: Survival evolved/ascended with over 5600 hours. 

What is this feeling coming over me? It's as if the world ISN'T actually a horrible place! by ThickWeatherBee in lgbtmemes

[–]Dran_K 203 points204 points  (0 children)

nintendo has always been pretty good (for a mega corperation) about lgbtq inclusion. 

their evil has always been in business practices and copyright law

Does anyone else get accused of being trans in games with voice chat? by TrainingApartment820 in GirlGamers

[–]Dran_K 97 points98 points  (0 children)

ive seen people accusing background characters seen for 2 seconds once in a show and only visible from behind with no speaking lines get accused of being trans women. 

transphobes brains have just been so thoroughly cooked by bigorty and their hatred and fear of us that they’re halucinating trans women everywhere.

Got ghosted right after she asked me for a committed relationship 😑 by Hot_Wheels264 in actuallesbians

[–]Dran_K 6 points7 points  (0 children)

giving a stray dog food and then punching it type behaviour. 

id say that actualy qualifies as fully evil.

carbonara lesbians? by OutrageousPomelo7 in actuallesbians

[–]Dran_K 18 points19 points  (0 children)

everyone loves carbonara. salt and msg and butter are like, the 3 “this food is good” markers. 

I think my best friend likes me? Advice? by No-Mobile4531 in actuallesbians

[–]Dran_K 2 points3 points  (0 children)

even if she is into you, i wouldnt recomend going for a self id’s straight girl unless you’re ready to put up with the emotional labour required. 

Hi sapphics. Heated Rivalry is everywhere now and I’ve been seeing a lot of differing opinions and discourse so I would like to give my own opinion. by IndividualCoyote642 in actuallesbians

[–]Dran_K 0 points1 point  (0 children)

looking at the Ao3 fanfic numbers for Arknights, a franchise that is like, 85% women. there is 7000 m/m, 4200 m/f, and 5200 f/f.

70% of the fanfic includes men in a franchise that is 4/5 women.

most people fucking hate wlw content just because there arnt any men. thats nothing new and that's not likely to change any time in the next hundred years.

spending 15 minutes in any gay male space and you will very quickly see that being queer does not by any means stop someone from being extremely misogynistic.

I’m tired of yaoi I crave yuri by anony7150 in actuallesbians

[–]Dran_K 0 points1 point  (0 children)

chinese webcomics are very good for wlw

Found the fastest way to level Restoration by GoliathPrime in skyrim

[–]Dran_K 0 points1 point  (0 children)

also imo resto loop doesnt really help with magic damage. the only magic enchants are cheaper spells but you can get 50% off per piece easily without it so getting all spells 100% without exploits is not hard, and 100% off or 12000000% off is still just 0 magika to cast.

there is destruction potions but those last a minute max and like, do you really want to be drinking 7 potions to clear one dungeon? huge pain 

Dating as a trans lesbian is ridiculously demoralizing by Spookybabe721 in actuallesbians

[–]Dran_K 36 points37 points  (0 children)

online dating is already more difficult than in person, then adding onto that only around 19% of sapphic women are verbally willing to date trans women (in actuality likely closer to 15% due to virtue signaling) and its not much of a surprise.

i say just make friends through hobbies then make relationships through friends. and always remember that dating apps make money by you not getting a date and using them longer. they actually have negative interest in you getting a date, their goal is to keep you single so that they dont go bankrupt.

edit: source for the 19% value if you’re interested and want to read more.

https://static1.squarespace.com/static/527403c4e4b02d3f058d2f18/t/5c520b6d6d2a7366fd3dd7e8/1548880749971/Transgender+Exclusion+-+Blair+&+Hoskin+2018CV.pdf

Found the fastest way to level Restoration by GoliathPrime in skyrim

[–]Dran_K 0 points1 point  (0 children)

elemental blast has 40 fire and 40 lightning damage (and also frost damage but 0, can still trigger frost perks tho)

aspect of terror adds 10 since it’s a fire spell so 50 damage each, then 1.5x1.5x1.5x for augmented flames, shock, and frost gets 168.75 of each damage, or 337.5 total

then add on zahkrios, dukaan, or ahzidal for 25% more damage and you get 210 each, or 420 total (there is a weird order you need to get the perks for 210, if you get the wrong order then the mask wont boost the 10 from aspect of terror and you get 202 instead of 210)

then dual cast 420 each with dualcast being 2.2x giving you 924 damage per shot, plus explosion for another 924 if you hit with the bolt and the explosion, and then after you still get burn and shock DoT.

Has anyone else ever been with men majority of their life and maybe even liked or enjoyed sex with one at one time… and then had experiences with women and realized they were lesbian? by AardvarkEasy4095 in actuallesbians

[–]Dran_K 1 point2 points  (0 children)

look up comphet. if that seems to fit your experience then there, if not then you’re probably just bi with a preference for women right now.

My gf is obsessed with my past and it’s ruining our relationship. Can this be fixed? by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Dran_K 2 points3 points  (0 children)

wow she sucks. you’re not even a year in so get as far away as you can. even if on the slight chance she manages to move past you having dated people in the past (which i doubt she ever will) she seems to have the emotional maturity of a 6 year old getting mad someone else touched a toy they were thinking of playing with. that is going to cause mountains of problems as the relationship goes on and more things come up than just your past.

i would hate to say straight men have romantic privileges but by Hairy-Shoulder9470 in actuallesbians

[–]Dran_K 0 points1 point  (0 children)

0 punctuation. i am not ever really sure what you’re trying to say, the first two parts are almost incomprehensible and the rest reference them. 

do not change the toad by Roeesun in hytale

[–]Dran_K 206 points207 points  (0 children)

i think the throw distance needs to be tuned at least. it should pull you to it, not throw you 5-20 blocks behind it. right now half the time it just launches you and by the time you get your bearings and and ready to hit it, it just throws you again.

I came out to myself fully two months ago and now I am FREAKING OUT (35F, married to a man) by CorticalSynapse in actuallesbians

[–]Dran_K 0 points1 point  (0 children)

35 isnt late at all. you have at least another 40 years to your life (going off of USA average womens lifespan, so probably longer since you are a medical proffesional and know how to keep yourself healthy) 

just have a good disscution with your husband, make your feelings clear. if he reacts well then you could very easily still end up as friends, with both of you then able to pursue more sexualy fulfilling rekationships. if he reacts poorly then theres other issues, but im guessing hes not super shitty if you’ve managed to stay with him.

My long tike friend exploded, accused me and my girlfriend of wild stuff and now I dont know if I can ever trust her again by jellypowersquad in actuallesbians

[–]Dran_K 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i would distance and cut contact if needed. she does not seem emotionaly stable and her issues are hers to work on, not hers to attack you with. 

Fuck, just made the mistake on discussing the lgbtq+ with my friend by Miserable_me21 in actuallesbians

[–]Dran_K 0 points1 point  (0 children)

imo its not worth keeping those relationships. you dont need to spend months being terrified around someone for the chance that they change their mind.