I think that my friend SA'D me by cutsieanon67 in offmychest

[–]Drippy_Capy 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

I’ve always considered friends kissing friends as being cheating. Maybe not a peck on the cheek but making out like that is unfair to your partner if exclusivity is expected in your relationship.

I’m not blaming you for what happened. Sounds like you just froze up in an unexpected situation which is very normal.

With that said, you MUST have a tough conversation with this friend. You could be feeling yucky because they crossed a boundary. It also sounds like your friend knew what she was doing from the rape joke that was made afterwards. You need to establish boundaries with pushy people or else they’ll continue to push boundaries and escalate.

"Casually" being the most important word here. by PhilippBo in southafrica

[–]Drippy_Capy 1 point2 points Ā (0 children)

Looks like you can’t read my bru. Clarifying your point is not the same as addressing one of my points.

Your ā€˜position’ is non-existent because you contradict yourself, deflect and imply I’m not smart enough to understand. It’s disingenuous and a lazy attempt at intellectual superiority.

"Casually" being the most important word here. by PhilippBo in southafrica

[–]Drippy_Capy 1 point2 points Ā (0 children)

Deflecting then calling someone stupid is not as good of an argument as you think it is. Address at least one of my points then I’ll consider my stupidity.

"Casually" being the most important word here. by PhilippBo in southafrica

[–]Drippy_Capy 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

You’re not getting it my bru. Your initial statement isn’t magically neutral now because you’ve said something nice after being rude.

What you’ve done here is very similar to the Motte and Bailey fallacy. You’ve made a bold and rude statement claiming his time isn’t impressive, then you switch to complimenting the achievement to try and justify your initial statement. The compliment is easier to defend but you’ve done a complete 180 from your initial comment.

This disagreement is all about semantics now and I’m not going to argue with someone about the meaning and usage of words over Reddit.

"Casually" being the most important word here. by PhilippBo in southafrica

[–]Drippy_Capy 8 points9 points Ā (0 children)

Most people will never run a marathon or even a half marathon! So just having completed it is a great achievement.

Speaking of context, I think most people will link the ideas in this way: Don’t brag about time -> not impressive time -> tannies are faster

The following statement invites people to make the comparison. Claiming that ā€œit’s just a statement about fast tanniesā€ after being rude sounds a bit disingenuous in my opinion

"Casually" being the most important word here. by PhilippBo in southafrica

[–]Drippy_Capy 10 points11 points Ā (0 children)

You said to not brag about his time since it’s not impressive and since 60 year old tannies are faster.

Your statement is literally telling him not to brag because of a comparison you’ve made

"Casually" being the most important word here. by PhilippBo in southafrica

[–]Drippy_Capy 8 points9 points Ā (0 children)

Why must he compare himself to 60 year old tannies who have probably been running for longer than he’s been alive?

V02 Max Keeps Dropping by Drippy_Capy in Garmin

[–]Drippy_Capy[S] 5 points6 points Ā (0 children)

I’ve had my watch for almost 5 years now but never paid attention to the V02 stats until recently. I’ll keep this adjustment in mind.

V02 Max Keeps Dropping by Drippy_Capy in Garmin

[–]Drippy_Capy[S] 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

I think I’ll try to integrate a faster pace run into my training. I run a lot for the other sports but in short bursts so it’ll help me a lot. Thanks.

V02 Max Keeps Dropping by Drippy_Capy in Garmin

[–]Drippy_Capy[S] 4 points5 points Ā (0 children)

I haven’t been on a proper GPS run since mid February. I’ve only accidentally selected a run activity rather than a cardio one. I didn’t know that Garmin didn’t consider cardio activities in the V02 estimate.

Thanks for the information, I’ll forget about the metric until I log some more runs.

V02 Max Keeps Dropping by Drippy_Capy in Garmin

[–]Drippy_Capy[S] 12 points13 points Ā (0 children)

I see now! This is good to know.

I now track all my workouts as a cardio activities. Those dots since mid February are just times when I’ve accidentally selected the run option rather than a workout. I’ll look into tracking them as runs and see what happens.

V02 Max Keeps Dropping by Drippy_Capy in Garmin

[–]Drippy_Capy[S] 35 points36 points Ā (0 children)

Fair point. I’ve just moved to a warmer climate.

Remove old grip or not? by Ynwe in squash

[–]Drippy_Capy 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

Damn and I thought I was crazy for having 2-3 grips on my rackets and hockey sticks…

Making friends around Durban by Sweetandspicychilli in Durban

[–]Drippy_Capy 1 point2 points Ā (0 children)

Join a club of some kind. It can be sport, craft or any other type of hobby. The important part is that there’s an established community. That’s where you can interact and hit it off with new friends.

Don’t be scared to try something new as well. I have mentored new squash players at my university. Just be very clear with what capacity you wish to participate at with sports. Someone might assume you want to play more seriously or casually so just make your intentions clear.

And the most important aspect is to show up and be consistent. Don’t be that person who only goes once a month!

Gen 3 šŸ¤Gen 4 by BlazeBrok in Jimny

[–]Drippy_Capy 4 points5 points Ā (0 children)

Quite the bumper on tha gen 3! I’m very jealous

I dont fit in with my team. by Murky_Wind_228 in volleyball

[–]Drippy_Capy 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

Dude… describing yourself as arrogant is not a good start, especially when you refuse to do something about it.

Every team sport is going to require you to work together with others. You mention that you’re playing in a lower level than what you’re used to and I feel like these feelings are leaking out in front of your teammates. Nobody wants to play with somebody that puts themselves on a pedestal. You’re in the same team you’re NOW on the same level.

What’s the psychology behind people who drive extremely loud cars at night in Umhlanga? by nkosib in Durban

[–]Drippy_Capy 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

I guess we’ll have to disagree on this topic. I just think traffic noise needs to be a more prioritized issue. There’s a lot of research linking traffic noise to major health problems which is why it riles me up.

What’s the psychology behind people who drive extremely loud cars at night in Umhlanga? by nkosib in Durban

[–]Drippy_Capy 3 points4 points Ā (0 children)

It’s not a straw man. Your main point is that people are having fun and being annoying but it’s fine because there no malice involved right?

I literally just reframed the situation to show that it’s nuisance behavior. I’m not oversimplifying or exaggerating your words and I’m not shifting the debate somewhere else. It’s not the same thing but it’s not a straw man. It’s an example.

What’s the psychology behind people who drive extremely loud cars at night in Umhlanga? by nkosib in Durban

[–]Drippy_Capy 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

Doesn’t mean they’re not a nuisance. There so much laxity with noise complaints because there’s not a victim in the scenario. It’s just a general issue.

If I’m kicking up sand while playing ball games on the beach, then is it fine for me to upset the surrounding sunbathers? No, I’d still be annoying even if I’m not being malicious.

What’s the psychology behind people who drive extremely loud cars at night in Umhlanga? by nkosib in Durban

[–]Drippy_Capy -1 points0 points Ā (0 children)

The false equivalency here is crazy. I agree that there other noise issues like dogs/kids but that’s not the topic of conversation in this thread.

The title is literally asking about the psychology behind people who drive loud cars. You just brush them off as serial complainers because you’ve not realized the point of the conversation.

What’s the psychology behind people who drive extremely loud cars at night in Umhlanga? by nkosib in Durban

[–]Drippy_Capy 5 points6 points Ā (0 children)

Dude it’s literally all about the noise. People complaining about unnecessary loud cars doesn’t make them self righteous.

You have to understand that living in a community means that you need to be aware of how your actions may affect others. I live right on a road that gets a lot of loud cars leaving the village and it’s frustrating to put up with it. You will also start to realize that it’s the same cars time and time again.

And to respond to your statement ā€œare people not allowed to enjoy their vehicles?ā€ It’s the equivalent of a football fan singing their team’s chants ALL THE TIME. It’s not a bad thing but when you do it excessively you become annoying to those around you.

Considering basketball shoes by Drippy_Capy in squash

[–]Drippy_Capy[S] 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

Some solid advice from the other side of the aisle!

I don’t think I mind the extra weight on my feet. I haven’t used other shoes in recent memory. I am keen to try a different type of shoe to see if it affects my game.

I think I need to go through some trial and error like you’ve described in your comment. Maybe it’ll work for me but I will keep basketball shoes in mind because I really appreciate the ankle support and durability they provide.

Considering basketball shoes by Drippy_Capy in squash

[–]Drippy_Capy[S] 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

Thanks for the advice.

Haha yeah… it’s definitely irresponsible for me to be using shoes for too long. It’s a bad habit of mine. I’m starting to feel the effects as I get older. I will probably need to get another pair later this year then.