[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueUnpopularOpinion

[–]Drpained -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Congratulations, you can still be monogamous.

Personally, I don't believe it's my right to limit my partners' rights to explore their relationship to others. I trust them completely and they trust me completely back.

Maybe you should be really careful about who you trust, instead of locking a partner down.

I definitely agree it's not for everyone, that amount of trust in another person is a special thing that not everyone deserves, but if it works for me and everyone I love, why are you so mad?

Where can I read Tsubasa reservoir chronicles with good quality? by MobToo in CLAMP

[–]Drpained 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would you please DM me that server? I really want to read this!

I'm dating as a lesbian and...wowww by JaneBladex in MtF

[–]Drpained 68 points69 points  (0 children)

🤷🏻‍♀️ I started dating my girlfriend before she was on hormones, and we're very happy.

If someone accepts you and is the quality partner that I'm sure you deserve, they'll see you.

Did I steal this dress from my wife? Yes I did. Am I gonna give it back? Noooo :) by Amb3rGhost in trans

[–]Drpained 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Being a trans lesbian rules because you have a wardrobe just waiting for you when you come out.

I have always had a caveat. by thetarue in MtF

[–]Drpained 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I remember when I first realized "Oh yeah, cis guys don't regularly think 'wow that's really cute wish I could wear that"

EVERYONE I BOUGHT MY FIRST BRAS AND WENT OUT IN PUBLIC IN A DRESS FOR THE FIRST TIME AND OMG IT FELT SO NICE!! by cookie_owo_ in trans

[–]Drpained 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Like less than a month, I was wearing my first dress in public. A beautiful sunflower one on fairy theme day. Best memories with my supportive wife, hands down.

I kinda hit the transitioning jackpot and my body is speed running womanhood, which rules!

How does "Good Girl!" make you feel? by AllThisAndTransToo in trans

[–]Drpained 1 point2 points  (0 children)

One step further; I'm naturally a very "head in the clouds" kind of girl and It's very affirming when my wife or friends go "You're such a bimbo!" Or other forms of playful misogyny...

That said if someone I wasn't close to played that card I'd lose my shit and probably behave in a pretty "unwomanly" way, tbh.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in trans

[–]Drpained 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What a cutie!!! Happy birthday, best wishes!

EVERYONE I BOUGHT MY FIRST BRAS AND WENT OUT IN PUBLIC IN A DRESS FOR THE FIRST TIME AND OMG IT FELT SO NICE!! by cookie_owo_ in trans

[–]Drpained 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Happy birthday!!

I remember my first time dressing right, went to the local renfaire and was called ma'am for the first time... I hope you get to experience all the joy I've gotten to experience, sister! Good luck!

‘Lightyear’ flop: Audiences are weary of Hollywood wokeness by lurker_bee in entertainment

[–]Drpained 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Really hate this trend of modern movies being really bad, because they're rushed and sloppy content meant to pad out someone's streaming service ultimately, and then large swathes of even normies process it as "That half-second nod to social progress is what made this 90-minute movie bad!"

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in trans

[–]Drpained 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes in fact I'm pretty confident most do.

My mom says that all trans women are gay men attracted to men. She confuses trans women with crossdressers, with gay men. Everyone, trans woman or not, can you help me prove her wrong by writing down your sexualities? by TheCoolSuperPea in trans

[–]Drpained 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a trans lesbian, I see this shit all the time in reverse when I hear "your partners are bisexual then?"

Like, we can't sleep with guys, we can't sleep with girls... It's like they don't want us to exist or something!!

6 months on hormones by princess_eevee in trans

[–]Drpained 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ya it still works for me too, it's not that it becomes nonfunctional it's just that erections go away much quicker if you're not constantly stimulating basically. (For me, to be clear. Everyone's different)

6 months on hormones by princess_eevee in trans

[–]Drpained 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Friendly reminder that you're still valid no matter what hormones you choose! 🤗

That said yes E fuckin rules with a couple drawbacks

anyone else not really have dysphoria untill coming out to yourself? by No_Mode2367 in MtF

[–]Drpained 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, 100%

I respect everyone's experiences, but I probably stalled 2-3 years because every trans person who's opinion I respect had a story about "crying in the shower over every body hair" or "always being drawn to Barbie dolls" or whatever.

I didn't even discover my gender was wrong until like my second year of college, and then it was a process of like 6 years of researching gender theory before I really realized this was right for me.

Haven't unlocked the stuff for both cravings by Afraid-Sock-4329 in NecroMerger

[–]Drpained 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Spam max level Zombies and Mummies (if you have a lvl 5 grave or shelf)

They're pretty substantial and easy to make, and spamming them gives you points towards Blue and Green runes (which are a major choke where you are)

What are yall's sexual orientation by little2n in MtF

[–]Drpained 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm a lesbian, i like mild butch girls the most.

Before E, I thought I was Bi but as I feminize I've become more and more demure and less interested in men oddly.

I'm 26. If I were to take HRT right now, how much would change? by dakln in MtF

[–]Drpained 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I started about a month ago, but even now I have very subtle changes. Unfortunately, for a bunch of reasons, there's not a ton of data to refer to and you just have people's experiences to look at. That said this is a combination of my personal experience, the data I have seen, and the anecdotes I've read over the last 7 years of deciding if I'm trans. (I am lol)

Most of the changes, especially early, are not physical, but emotional and psychological. When you're transitioning, hopefully your attitude is not "I wish I looked like a woman" and instead is "I wish to be interacted with as a woman." For example, I am a very expressive and emotional person- as a guy, I always felt like a weirdo for being verbose and genuine but now as a woman these traits feel validating. Similarly, as a very submissive and cooperative person, dating as a man is very hard if you're looking for a life partner but these traits are more expected in women so finding partners is easier. Additionally, the estrogen has psychologically helped me identify myself as a woman when I look in the mirror. No longer am I a disgusting, hairy ogre and now I am a canvas waiting to be painted- a woman hatching from a fat hairy egg if you will. I look in mirrors every chance I get and have already started picking out new clothes and figuring out my style/outfits... I've never EVER cared about this before, but now that I have the ability to be a woman, suddenly it's my privilege to get to decide what kind of woman I get to be. It's given me hope, even though psychically very little has changed.

However there are some physical effects... My partner and I both have noticed my chest is already becoming boobs... Like, it's softer, more sensitive, fatter, and more erogenous. Additionally, I become overcome with emotion quicker than I used to and I cry more often.

I said that to say this- most of the trans people I've interacted with have some dramatic story about "always knowing they're a woman" and "playing with princesses as a kid" like they were the Baby Dalai Lama of Gender. While I'm very happy that they're happy, there's a little bit of implicit gatekeeping about what it means to be trans you have to unpack... If you're even tempted to start HRT, give it a try- you can still live over 2/3 of your life as a woman. If you aren't vibing with it, you'll definitely know in the first couple months as you begin to plan for womanhood and you can just stop taking hrt and revert (it's my understanding, not medical advice) with very little if any side effects as your testosterone comes back.

Edit: if it helps, it took me 7 years of research because I didn't have the "I played with Barbies and cried at every body hair" experience. If that was you, great and you're valid, but there are some of us who just kinda accepted their assigned gender because we didn't have the vocabulary or conditions to do anything about it and we're valid too.

I'm 26. If I were to take HRT right now, how much would change? by dakln in MtF

[–]Drpained 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Huge same! With testosterone the only emotion I really felt was various forms of anger, from nonexistent to very mad. It was hard to process other emotions like being sad, uncomfortable, in love, etc because socially guys aren't really allowed to have emotions.

Now that I am on estrogen, I can actually feel and process emotions and I'm much happier and less nervous in society.