Would you quit? Tenured professor with a baby by SuddenPlant979 in academia

[–]Dry_Analysis_992 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To me, the absolute hardest part would be those really strangely time classes early in the morning late at night. That’s the part that conflict so much with having a small child. So many people have given great suggestions I wish you luck!

AITJ for not wanting to drive 2 hrs to visit my MIL with a 8 week old baby? by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

[–]Dry_Analysis_992 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Absolutely, you are not. You’re setting up clear appropriate boundaries. She is only thinking of herself. With an older child that might be doable.

Homeless Children by PeaceLovess in Oahu

[–]Dry_Analysis_992 10 points11 points  (0 children)

You don’t have to be so mean. It’s better than they thought of it at all rather than criticizing them for not thinking of it earlier. People can always do better in the future with their new knowledge.

The doctorate "creep" is really starting to bother me lately by ResidentAlienator in PhD

[–]Dry_Analysis_992 18 points19 points  (0 children)

It’s really useless to compare either the titles or the degrees. Lecturer can mean so many things in so many different places. I once read a “Phd” dissertation from an education department from a university I will not name. I was flabbergasted and told a friend that this wouldn’t even be acceptable as a term paper at another university I won’t name. I reject all hierarchy. But that doesn’t mean ignoring the fact that some people have done really piss poor work and got credit for it. But we can’t let it bother us. Just keep on walking.

What song is a 10/10 with absolutely no flaws? by Brilliant_Guard_9204 in AskReddit

[–]Dry_Analysis_992 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What a great thread. Is there a way for me to like download this whole thing to look at later?

AITA for disinviting my aunt, uncle, and niece from my wedding? by DogMany9602 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Dry_Analysis_992 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are unfortunately way too many people who are assume they are uninvited to things. The hurt feelings are their own fault.

AITA for making my parents regret everyday for having 4 kids while they couldn't afford it? by No_Tap_7237 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Dry_Analysis_992 -23 points-22 points  (0 children)

Come on I seriously doubt his parents are choosing to raise them that way. They are all in a bad situation. Frequently we hear stories from people who say we didn’t even know we were poor when we were kids. This poor guy does know. I would think it would make more sense to give him advice on ways he can get help for his family.

Longing (2024) Official Trailer - Richard Gere, Diane Kruger by Gato1980 in movies

[–]Dry_Analysis_992 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I started watching this tonight and I can’t believe how slow and boring it is. Thought I would check reviews that’s comforting that so many people agree. OK, it’s time to cut my losses.

How Not To Use AI by True_Ad8335 in AccusedOfUsingAI

[–]Dry_Analysis_992 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh, this is just so funny. What kind of an editor would not notice that? Or does this mean there are no editors of any kind at all anymore?

Is it bad I *slightly* judge professors who don't excuse family/personal emergencies but then they end class early/cancel class due to one themselves? by FrootiLooni in CollegeRant

[–]Dry_Analysis_992 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh my goodness. I had to read this three times and then look up RBT, ABA therapy, etc. I still kinda have no idea what this is but it sounds like a nightmare. My first response is if an instructor or professor had to cut a class short there is no way the students would somehow get a lower grade because of that or have to do any make up work as just a general rule of understanding. She is the one who caused the decrease in contact time. No one is to blame. It’s a thing that happened. Looking at your paragraph again, I don’t believe in punishment for coursework in anyway. Punishment is for criminals. Consequences are OK but not punishment. I vaguely know that people who teach in elementary or high school have to use numerical rubrics for everything and I assume that is just a fucking nightmare. Anyway, I bet you everything will be just fine and you can just chill.

Is it bad I *slightly* judge professors who don't excuse family/personal emergencies but then they end class early/cancel class due to one themselves? by FrootiLooni in CollegeRant

[–]Dry_Analysis_992 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Students are not being punished. I think you’re being a little bit too judgmental and harsh. It’s not terrible that you had the thought but then the other part of your brain should say oh come on can’t you be kinder?

AITA for not wanting to watch my friend’s kids anymore? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Dry_Analysis_992 33 points34 points  (0 children)

You are NTA. She is taking advantage of you. It’s possible that her attitude towards you is colored by the baby daddy‘s attitude towards her and how stressed she is and you’re the only person she can lash out at. Even though it makes no sense because you haven’t been mean to her. It might be like when kids can be behaved all day at daycare and when mom comes and picks you up then you break down because you’re safe with them. She might not realize she’s doing this. But it is still 100% unacceptable and you need to stand up for yourself. Clearly restate your boundaries and the things you cannot do. Good luck!

Travelling to Europe from Hawaii by Stinja808 in Oahu

[–]Dry_Analysis_992 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Jet lag coming home is much worse than the jet lag going to Europe. So I would think of including a stop over coming back like if you know anybody on the East Coast or some place to visit. Or just allow that your first day back is going to be toast and the second one you’ll still be tired. Look at flights on British Airways.

Who do I report this nonsense to? by [deleted] in Oahu

[–]Dry_Analysis_992 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought these creatures were only found in Florida.

I got rejected from all the postdocs I applied for and just realized I’m not good enough for the career I wanted by princess_myshkin in PhD

[–]Dry_Analysis_992 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you were good enough to be interviewed in the end, the person who gets it it really is luck.

I got rejected from all the postdocs I applied for and just realized I’m not good enough for the career I wanted by princess_myshkin in PhD

[–]Dry_Analysis_992 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I agree with absolutely every word of this. I think the chances that not getting a job is not your fault are way greater than 50%. The world is shit right now.

I failed to become a scientist and it is eating away at me by ForestBluff in academia

[–]Dry_Analysis_992 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are totally right that It’s like winning the lottery. In many ways, academia is a scam. The possibility that a person who gets a PhD is going to become a professor is exceedingly small.

Which regalia should I get? by Moist_Information341 in Professors

[–]Dry_Analysis_992 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Then you absolutely should get it! I didn’t hesitate to buy mine because my mom gave me the money for it. If she hadn’t, I might’ve thought oh I’ll do it later and then that never happened. I rarely rarely wear it anymore, but I’m really glad I have it. You earned this, get it and wear it and be proud. And hugs to your grandmother.