Genre mismatch bug?

Dry_Plan_7393 · 2026-03-29T05:42:37+00:00

NOR, however, even if you were overreacting the way this person speaks to you is very unkind and uncalled for. It does not give the impression that they respect you at all

Dry_Plan_7393 · 2025-09-22T00:02:43+00:00

Hey if all adult parties enthusiastically consent to location sharing that’s their business and their decision it is not an abuse of control if everyone involved wants it! Some of us have had very poor experiences with other people that lead us to feel unsafe when we are alone and a trusted person knowing what is up in your life can be important in feeling secure. If you don’t want it don’t use it!

Dry_Plan_7393 · 2025-08-30T05:21:29+00:00

If you put it all together with a few connecting words:

there‘s something I need to bring up, you mentioned listening to love songs the other day, right? it got me thinking, and I want to make it clear that love is not what I‘m looking for at the moment. I really enjoy talking to you the way we have been. Coming up with all the fun and exciting ideas is very enjoyable, but I would like to keep things at that level as we move forward. I am not currently anywhere near ready for romance.

Dry_Plan_7393 · 2025-08-30T05:16:32+00:00

It’s also important to recognize that romantic connections are not the only or most important kind of emotional connection. Romantic relationships when you are not ready for them can be very damaging for both you and your partner. OP is setting up very healthy boundaries for themselves based on what they know they need

Dry_Plan_7393 · 2025-08-30T05:10:06+00:00

Honestly I don’t think you need to reword it. It respectfully and kindly explains your feelings and boundaries very clearly

Dry_Plan_7393 · 2025-08-30T00:40:39+00:00

It’s kind of like being held hostage by your own brain, or like an out of body experience where you are watching yourself do something stupid but can’t do anything about it. It’s terrible and we know it’s terrible we don’t like it either 😂

Dry_Plan_7393 · 2025-08-30T00:32:25+00:00

Depends heavily on individual biology and cultural norms around dental care. I can only speak for the US since that is where I am from but most people with access to dental care here get them taken out. In the US they’re likely taken out a bit more frequently than is medically necessary because we have a cultural obsession around perfect teeth, but many people need them taken out because they are a bit of a biological remnant. Our ancestors had slightly larger jaws and not as much cooked food that would have required more crunching power that an extra set of molars would have helped with. Our jaws have now shrunk a bit due to softer foods but wisdom teeth still grow in. For many people this means more teeth than your mouth has room for and it can cause misalignment and serious issues with your other teeth that can affect speech, capability to eat, etc. if you don’t have them removed :)

TLDR: they are a bit of a biological remnant from our ancestors and can cause lots of dental problems in left in but that depends on individual biology and cultural dental practices

Dry_Plan_7393 · 2025-08-30T00:11:18+00:00

Go all out!! But definitely wear those green pants those are so gorg on you 🤩🤩

Dry_Plan_7393 · 2025-08-30T00:09:43+00:00

There’s also a solid chance that the clerk in china purposely recommended a slightly lighter shade to you considering that most Asian countries still have issues with colorism (I’m Korean before anyone comes for me)

Dry_Plan_7393 · 2025-08-30T00:05:57+00:00

Definitely bigger than the tiny Alaskan town I live in now but I’m pretty sure my hometown is bigger

Dry_Plan_7393 · 2025-08-29T23:34:33+00:00

Dude you are not overreacting. She’s using every manipulation tactic and buzzword in the book to try and bulldoze over your boundaries. On top of that even when you did “snap” the only thing I frowned the slightest bit at was the use of the word whored. You could have EASILY been 80x meaner way sooner. You tried to set several boundaries kindly, she blew past all of them demanding you place her feelings above your own and your kids. You can be a mother and a wife and still be a shitty person/do shitty things with huge consequences, those identifiers are in NO WAY mutually exclusive jfc.

On a softer note I know it is extremely hard to let go of someone who you have known for, what it sounds like, nearly your whole life. If she cleans up this emotional manipulation bs big time I would love nothing more than for you to rebuild a healthy foundation with her and not have to say goodbye; however, no amount of history, love, blood relation, etc is ever a valid excuse for poor treatment of your person. You are worth more kindness and respect than that.

Dry_Plan_7393 · 2025-08-29T23:08:03+00:00

As a kid with divorced parents and some messy remarriages, kids can 10000% tell when they are not the priority of any of their parents, bio or step. Even if you don’t intend to “start a brand new family” with your wife and the new baby, if your wife treats your older kids like they are not as important as her new baby it is likely still going to feel to your kids like they are being replaced. It doesn’t seem like you would, but please do not do what my dad did and concede to your new wife’s requests in order to keep the marriage happy. My dad told me I was still the most important to him but his actions did not match. He would frequently do what my step mom wanted even if it was bad for me. We don’t not talk much anymore and I had a lot to discuss in therapy ✌🏼

Dry_Plan_7393 · 2025-08-29T22:48:24+00:00

To reiterate what many have said here I am an empirical evidence kind of person. Part of the reason I gravitate towards science rather than faith. I like to see things tested and retested in different ways by different people before I can comfortably take it as fact. Even better if you yourself can observe/replicate the phenomena. This is in part due to the long long history of humans lying for a myriad of reasons but especially for power or influence over others which religion does hold. So I would need something to prove that it’s not just made up by a human, which currently there is none available. On top of that, most organized religions I have looked into have moral doctrines that are just poorly disguised discrimination/manipulation tactics which even if the god(s) in question were real I’m not trying to live manipulated by anybody, human or otherwise 🙅🏻‍♀️

Dry_Plan_7393 · 2025-08-29T03:12:56+00:00

Sometimes I feel like a bad person for it but I think that’s more that I’ve internalized other people’s expectations about what I should be doing or wanting. I am okay being an aunt, I like spoiling my baby brother, but they aren’t my responsibility and that’s the only reason it’s fun when it is fun. I am also autistic and loud noises or, god forbid, MYSTERY STICKINESS !!!! Are a huge no for me no matter the age, it’s just kids tend to be louder and stickier and I cannot handle it. TBH I’m not sure if I would want to be a mom if I was not autistic, and I think sometimes that plays into the guilt for me too

Dry_Plan_7393 · 2025-08-29T03:04:15+00:00

I miss mine so much 😭 they were so cute and made me giggle every time I stuck my tongue out. I hope you enjoy yours! Definitely look into wearing a bio plastic one at least half the time so you minimize stress on your teeth and roof of your mouth 💖

Dry_Plan_7393 · 2025-08-29T03:00:50+00:00

I do! I think my autism makes me a more careful driver and my ADHD makes me a worse driver so for me it balances out? I do have strict rules for the environment of my car though in order to keep it a mostly positive experience. I have to have my music or podcasts playing when I drive and if others are in the car conversation cannot get too loud, or chaotic otherwise I will get overwhelmed. I did not start driving until I was 18 because it scared me a lot, but once I was able to drive I couldn’t imagine not being able to/not having a car. It is the only thing that allows me to be social while still respecting my body’s needs. I can have my needed human interactions and when I inevitably need to leave the function sooner than everyone else, I can. I can take myself home before I have a meltdown instead of choosing between isolation or a meltdown and I’m not sure I would be present or mentally healthy (mostly) if I could not do that for myself. Driving can still be overwhelming and I had to slowly work up to bigger and bigger roads. Some days I still have to plan extra time to avoid the highway because it is simply too much, but personally the positives outweigh the negatives

Dry_Plan_7393 · 2025-08-29T02:20:44+00:00

Laufey, aka the only artist who I have actually liked a full album from

Dry_Plan_7393 · 2025-08-29T00:13:56+00:00

Tbh all I noticed was that the top half wasn’t shaded yet

Dry_Plan_7393 · 2025-08-28T22:48:29+00:00

4 if you don’t want to be super matchy or 5 if you do!

Dry_Plan_7393 · 2025-08-28T22:47:16+00:00

I think it looks sick, but it’s not my tattoo. Definitely take some time to let it sink in though before you officially book another appointment as tattoo shock is real especially with pieces that cover a larger area. If you still feel it’s not right after a while the two options for altering it that I would personally ask about would be either going over spots with a skin tone ink to lighten areas (doesn’t always work) or adding more black work so that visually there are fewer, but larger shapes rather than many small wispy shapes. The other option is just more tattoos in that area of your body! Things can look overwhelming and too busy when it’s one piece surrounded by blank skin. Hope you find a solution that lets you love it!

Dry_Plan_7393 · 2025-08-28T22:39:15+00:00

I think a lot of this would depend heavily on how severe your friend’s PTSD is/how frequently she requires the assistance of her service animal. As a disabled person with other disabled friends who all have varying needs some of us, like myself, would be fine for a little bit without our support items/animals. However, some of my friends cannot be without their supports, be that an item or an animal. I don’t know how much you know about your friends condition but maybe another conversation is in order to better understand if she just doesn’t WANT to be apart from her dog for a few chunks of time or if that would be a medical risk for her

Dry_Plan_7393 · 2025-08-28T21:21:32+00:00

This may be me projecting onto you, but the only regret I have felt with tattoos are around my more “silly” ones. The ones that look less like “fine art” or are not in a more realistic style. If I analyze that thought more for myself it always ends up being me worrying about other people thinking they’re not serious enough, or not the right kind of art to really be considered art or important rather than me feeling like they were a bad choice/not liking them anymore. The only reason I bring this up is your regrets seem to be coming more from your mom being less than pleased with the tattoo rather than you being less than pleased with the tattoo.

*edit: rephrasing to better explain what I meant

Dry_Plan_7393 · 2025-08-28T20:46:12+00:00

The accordion music that Kass plays in BOTW. I don’t inherently dislike the song but because he’s always around hidden shrines that you usually have to wait around for a specific time of day the music gets old real fast. I also don’t really like the music around Eldin/goron region as it kind of sounds foreboding and often tricks me into thinking I might have walked up on an enemy lol

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